(5012,3,'2022-08-26 03:31:54','2022-08-26 03:31:54','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                MamaM!a            \n        </h1>\n            Interviews        \n            <h2>\n                Mamam!a            \n        </h2>\n            Click on the buttons below to read the articles        \n            &quot;It’s just too much pressure&quot;: 4 relationship &#039;expectations&#039; you need to ditch immediately        \n            16 July 2022        \n            &quot;It’s just too much pressure&quot;: 4 relationship &#039;expectations&#039; you need to ditch immediately        \n            16 July 2022        \n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/plugins/elementor/assets/images/placeholder.png\" title=\"\" alt=\"\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            From numbness to avoidance: 5 signs you&#039;re &#039;emotionally coasting&#039; right now        \n            30 June 2022        \n															<img 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https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_479612449-768x513-1-600x401.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            what is a &#039;highly sensitive&#039; person?        \n            16 December 2021        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_706770283-1024x683-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_706770283-1024x683-1.jpg 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_706770283-1024x683-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_706770283-1024x683-1-768x512.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_706770283-1024x683-1-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 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/>															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            15 Things your partner will never do if you are in a healthy relationship        \n            24 November 2021        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-768x512.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-2048x1365.jpg 2048w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/15-things-partner-never-do-if-healthy-relationship/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            8 Signs you&#039;re in the right relationship        \n            22 November 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_305085290.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_305085290.jpg 1000w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_305085290-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_305085290-768x512.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_305085290-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/8-signs-in-right-relationship/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>','Mamamia','Mamamia (stylised as MamaM!a) is an Australian news, opinion and lifestyle website targeted at women.','inherit','closed','closed','','4757-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 03:31:54','2022-08-26 03:31:54','',4757,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5012',0,'revision','',0),(5013,3,'2022-08-26 03:31:54','2022-08-26 03:31:54','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column 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2022        \n            &quot;It’s just too much pressure&quot;: 4 relationship &#039;expectations&#039; you need to ditch immediately        \n            16 July 2022        \n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/plugins/elementor/assets/images/placeholder.png\" title=\"\" alt=\"\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            From numbness to avoidance: 5 signs you&#039;re &#039;emotionally coasting&#039; right now        \n            30 June 2022        \n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/plugins/elementor/assets/images/placeholder.png\" title=\"\" alt=\"\" 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Read More\n        </a>\n            7 signs you&#039;re an empath and what it means        \n            22 March 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            A Psychotherapist Told Us There Are 4 Different Types Of Shame - Here’s What They Mean        \n            3 March 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1523322002.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1523322002.jpg 1000w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1523322002-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1523322002-768x512.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1523322002-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            There are 5 Types of Narcissists - Here&#039;s how to spot them        \n            28 February 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745084162.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745084162.jpg 1000w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745084162-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745084162-768x512.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745084162-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            4 things to do when you and your partner have very difference love languages        \n            4 February 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"426\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1385860784-768x511-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1385860784-768x511-1.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1385860784-768x511-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1385860784-768x511-1-600x399.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            12 Rules that will help deepen your relationship        \n            19 December 2021        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"428\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_479612449-768x513-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_479612449-768x513-1.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_479612449-768x513-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_479612449-768x513-1-600x401.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 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https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_369886034-768x512-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_369886034-768x512-1-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            there are only 2 types of friends everyone needs in their life        \n            5 May 2022        \n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/shutterstock_2139813481-scaled-pttbv2b6id8k3b4qc1w519ndfy1vzdvsz3dzgz5ssg.jpg\" title=\"Young,Women,Of,Different,Ethnicity,Has,Their,Arms,Around,Each\" alt=\"Young,Women,Of,Different,Ethnicity,Has,Their,Arms,Around,Each\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            7 signs you&#039;re an empath and what it means        \n            22 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.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                MamaM!a            \n        </h1>\n            Article - source: Mamamia        \n            <h2>\n                \"No, we can\'t be friends\": 12 Things Your Therapist Wants You To Know            \n        </h2>\n            3 June 2022        \n		<p>Ever wondered what your therapist is really thinking? Oh, phew! So it\'s not just us.</p><p>It\'s a funny old thing, therapy. Not funny, funny - but you know we mean. Because more often than not, you don\'t really know what to expect if you\'ve never been before, right?</p><p>Will it be like the movies? Will they show you those pictures of dark splotches and ask you what you see? Will they go home have a big gossip with their partner about all your secrets?? Omg, WILL THEY?</p><p>The good news: Chances are, your therapist is nothing like what you\'ll see in movies and TV shows. Really!</p><p>In fact, they\'re probably more like you than you might think.</p><p>Watch: These signs will help you know if you should see a psychologist.</p><p>And here\'s the thing - while it\'s always good to be able to seek out help from those around you, like your family and friends, sometimes you just need to chat with someone from outside of your circle. Someone who is like a blank sheet of paper.</p><p>Below, we asked psychotherapist Lissy Abrahams to tell us everything she wants you to know about therapy..</p><p>Take a seat.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>1. We understand that you may feel daunted or frightened about starting therapy</h3>		\n		<p>Sharing really intimate details about your life, your relationships and some of your deepest secrets to a complete stranger can feel super scary and daunting. Therapists get it.</p><p>\"Most people come to therapy because they need it. This doesn’t mean that they want to go. And I can tell you, no one starts therapy for fun – even though in my consulting room we have some fun,\" said Abrahams.</p><p>\"Good therapists understand that it can take time for some clients to feel safe in the space and that’s absolutely fine. You will feel safe when you feel safe and feel free to talk about this with your therapist.\" </p>		\n			<h3>2. There\'s no experience needed</h3>		\n		<p>Going to your first therapy session and nervous that you won\'t know what you need to... do or say? Don\'t worry - Abrahams said this is a really common feeling.</p><p>\"Some people worry that they don’t know what to do in therapy and they may not be “getting it right” as a client. Let me tell you now - there is no \'getting it right\'.\"</p><p>\"All you need to do is bring yourself in - just as you are, no experience needed.\"</p>		\n			<h3>3. We’ve seen it all</h3>		\n		<p>Spoiler! While you might think you just have too much stuff, chances are your therapist has seen it all before. Your past behaviours, relationship struggles, life concerns - the whole shebang. Ten times over. </p><p>\"So many people come to therapy worried that their therapist won’t be able to handle them – that they’ll be too much,\" said Abrahams.</p><p>\"Even though every client is unique and brings a different flavour to the therapy, an experienced therapist generally won’t be fazed by what you’re presenting with to have treated.\"</p><p>\"This doesn’t mean we don’t care or that we’re going through the motions – we’re not. It’s that you’re unlikely to be shocking to us in any way.\"</p><p>So, know that you\'re not \'too difficult\' to work with. The right therapist is out there for you.</p>		\n			<h3>4. We understand fight-or-flight reactions</h3>		\n		<p>Heard of a fight-or-flight response? It\'s basically a knee-jerk reaction to a past experience or event that you might perceive as stressful or frightening. Your pulse might start racing. Your breathing gets quicker. You feel tense. Uncomfortable. </p><p>It\'s kind of like a psychological defence mechanism.</p><p>\"We understand that you can have reactions to people and situations that trigger your fight-or-flight responses. Sometimes you may react as if you are being chased by a hungry bear,\" explains Abrahams. </p><p>\"Your body has a cascading reaction where your adrenaline and cortisol levels surge, and your heart rate and blood pressure increase.\"</p><p>While it can be scary, it\'s important to know that this is totally normal, and an experienced therapist will help you navigate the situation.</p><p>\"Good therapists understand that in this mode, you may say or do things that may seem extreme. We help you understand these.\"</p>		\n			<h3>5. Your history matters</h3>		\n		<p>One of the most important things therapists want patients to understand is just how crucial it is to explore past and present experiences - even if you might not feel like it\'s relevant to why you\'re seeking help.</p><p>\"Any good therapist understands that your history shapes everything about you. This includes the stories you tell yourself, your beliefs, values, expectations, how you relate to yourself and others, what makes you upset, fearful, or angry, and so much more.\" </p><p>\"Therapists understand that you’ve been consciously and unconsciously programmed from forces outside of your control – we all have. They’ll work with you to understand how your programming is alive and kicking inside of you today and how your ego operates accordingly.\"</p><p>Sometimes this can be incredibly tough and uncomfortable for people, especially when you\'ve experienced hurt in the past. So, be patient with yourself.</p><p>\"Many of our clients have experienced childhood trauma and we help them understand how this impacts the way they function in their day-to-day lives.\"</p>		\n			<h3>6. Most parents do their best</h3>		\n		<p>Fact: Blaming your parents for everything is not the goal here. Abrahams said it\'s about helping clients realise the reality that their parents may have done the best they can, and at the same time may have hurt you in ways you now struggle with.</p><p>\"Most therapists understand that parents do their best. This doesn’t mean they always supported, cared or kept you safe. But most parents do their best, even though they have limitations and shortcomings. Therapy is not about blaming parents.\"</p><p>\"Most parents are just operating from the program they received from their conscious and unconscious experiences. It’s important to understand how the limitations affected you and shaped you, yet to also understand most parents don’t try to hurt their children. They’re often preoccupied, stressed, and exhausted.\"</p><p>The goal is to try to navigate the life you\'ve been given - because at the end of the day, you\'re the only one who can change it.</p>		\n			<h3>7. We\'re non-judgemental</h3>		\n		<p>Abrahams said any good therapist will never judge their client - even when you feel like they\'re doing more listening than talking. </p><p>If you ever do feel judged by your therapist, she said this is something you should bring up with them - it might seem really uncomfortable at first, but it\'s extremely important you voice your feelings.</p><p>\"Good therapists are non-judgemental therapists. How is a judgemental therapist helpful? Actually, they’re harmful. If your therapist is, call them out on it or find someone else who isn’t judgemental,\" she said.</p><p>\"Our position is to help you understand how you operate and we do this alongside you – not towering above you on a pedestal.\"</p>		\n			<h3>8. Your therapist is a mere mortal, too</h3>		\n		<p>Yep, therapists are real people. And they\'re not perfect, either. </p><p>\"Clients often feel they need to see their therapist as angelic – those who are only good and perfect. Whenever I sense my clients are placing me in the ‘perfect’ bracket, I quickly let them know that there are no halos in my consulting room – not on their heads and certainly not on mine.\" </p><p>\"I’m not perfect and nor is any therapist. We struggle like you do in life. We feel pain, sadness, anger and more. We have our battle scars and life experiences. We’re all mere mortals, and sometimes we handle life’s tribulations well, and sometimes we can stuff up royally.\"</p>		\n			<h3>9. Distress tolerance is everything</h3>		\n		<p>According to Abrahams, many clients come to see therapists because they have distress intolerance. This means they haven’t learnt how to tolerate upsetting emotions and sit with them.</p><p>\"They didn’t learn this as a child through their parent-child relationship. This means that they suffer because they don’t understand that this unpleasant feeling inside them will pass.\" </p><p>\"It feels catastrophic, and that’s where they look to the external world to make themselves feel better. This includes shopping, eating, restricting food, gambling, promiscuous sex, turning to drugs/alcohol, talking excessively with friends or creating drama.\" </p><p>Abrahams goes on to explain that these actions in the outside world never resolve what’s going on inside - they\'re mere distractions that numb, but don’t address, what the unpleasant experience was.</p><p>\"A good therapist will help you understand this and teach you other ways to tolerate the sensations inside you, such as breathing techniques and mindfulness.\"</p>		\n			<h3>10. You leave a mark on our lives, too</h3>		\n		<p>Any good therapist will truly want the best for you - and their investment in you often goes outside of the time you spend together. So, don\'t think that you\'re just another number.</p><p>\"Even though you’re the one who is going through a transformative experience with the therapist, you leave a mark on them, too,\" said Abrahams. \"Our relationships are meaningful and real, and we care deeply about our clients’ wellbeing.\"</p><p>\"I genuinely love my clients and my heart can bleed for them when they suffer and my heart can expand with joy at their development and other wonderful moments.\"</p>		\n			<h3>11. No, we can’t be friends</h3>		\n		<p>While it\'s common to develop a close relationship with your therapist, Abrahams said it\'s important to understand that you can\'t be friends with your therapist. </p><p>Awks, we know. But it\'s for the best.</p><p>\"There are many clients who would like to be friends with their therapist. This shows that a great connection has been made. However, it’s important though to keep the relationship in the therapy-client space so that clients can always return for top-up sessions.\"</p><p>Being friends with your therapist can create what\'s known as a \'conflicting dual relationship\', which is when people are in two very different relationships at the same time - and this presents a number of different challenges. </p><p>So, yeah - it\'s both good and bad news. Don\'t ask your therapist around for dinner, friend.</p><p>\"Your therapist holds your history in a particular way that no-one else does – besides you. It’s a special thing you share. You can make more friends of many different varieties, but having someone hold all of that knowledge of you and your work together is valuable and worthy of protection.\" </p><p>\"I had a client return for sessions yesterday after not seeing him for seven years. Whilst I don’t remember every detail of our time together, I certainly remember him and his essence. We were both able to pick back up and get back into the work together.\"</p>		\n			<h3>12. We have a privileged role</h3>		\n		<p>Abrahams said, \"Being a therapist is such privileged work, and most therapists take their role and responsibilities seriously.\"</p><p>\"We know how transformative the experience of therapy can be and how profoundly it alters lives.\"</p><p><em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\">what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</a></strong>.</em></p><p><em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health expert panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy studied psychology in Sydney and then completed her Masters in couples psychotherapy at the internationally renowned Tavistock Relationships. Here, she worked therapeutically with couples, as well as lectured and tutored trainee counsellors.</em></p><p><em>Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully.</em></p><p><em>Lissy believes we all have the capacity to improve our lives and relationships with the right knowledge and practical strategies. Her mission is to help as many people as possible transform their lives by creating happier and more loving relationships.</em></p><p><em>Feature image: Getty</em></p>','\"No, we can\'t be friends\": 12 Things Your Therapist Wants You To Know',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','publish','closed','closed','','12-things-your-therapist-wants-you-to-know','','','2022-10-17 02:16:49','2022-10-17 02:16:49','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?post_type=case-study&#038;p=5035',0,'case-study','',0),(5036,3,'2022-08-26 07:04:46','2022-08-26 07:04:46','<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.7 - 03-07-2022 */<br />.e-container.e-container--row .elementor-spacer-inner{width:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container.e-container--column .elementor-spacer-inner,.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}</style>\r\n<h1>15 Things Your Partner Will Never Do If You Are in a Healthy Relationship</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Mamamia\r\n<h2>15 Things Your Partner Will Never Do If You Are in a Healthy Relationship</h2>\r\n9 November 2021\r\n\r\nRelationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red flags that things are not<em> great</em>, experts say there are also some smaller things that can give you an idea of just how healthy your relationship is.\r\n\r\nAnd while these little things are really important for a healthy relationship, it\'s also critical you don\'t ignore small signs of disrespect.\r\n\r\nTo find out what some of these signs are, we hit up psychotherapist and couples counsellor <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/about-me/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Lissy Abrahams</a>, and asked her to tell us 15 things your partner won\'t do if you\'re in a healthy relationship.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.7 - 03-07-2022 */<br />.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>1. They never impose their struggles on to you</h3>\r\nIf someone really loves you, they’ll always be there for you - through thick and thin. However, Abrahams reminds us that it\'s important your partner doesn\'t rely on you to fill a gap missing in themselves.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never impose their mental health struggles onto you, as they recognise that by looking after themselves and receiving professional help, they are also looking after you and the relationship,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner knows it’s not your responsibility to \'fix\' them.\"\r\n<h3>2. They never block the potential to improve your relationship</h3>\r\nNo matter how good your relationship is, there\'s always going to be arguments - but what matters is how you deal with them. Your partner should always put the needs of the relationship first, and want to talk through issues rather than leaving things to fester in the dark.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner never says \'no\' to you when you want to go to couples therapy. I have seen the damage that this causes when partners say no and block their potential to develop. This causes more conflict between partners and prevents happiness being created in their relationship,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h3>3. They\'re never controlling</h3>\r\nIf you\'re in a healthy relationship, you should have room for spending time with family and friends. A partner who loves and respects you won\'t monopolise your time or keep you to themselves. You should never feel restricted for seeing people outside of your relationship.\r\n\r\n\"Your partner should understand that you are a separate individual with your own mind and desires and these need to be respected. Some examples: If you want to see friends, they encourage you to go and don’t try to make you cancel to stay home with them.\r\n\r\n\"They don’t try to make you eat food you don’t want in your body. They don’t try to guilt or manipulate you to get their way, or force their life view on to you.\"\r\n<h3>4. They never pick apart your appearance</h3>\r\nYour partner should also never take jabs at your appearance, lower your self-confidence or make you feel bad about yourself. It\'s a d**k move and a sign of a bad relationship.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never suggest you need anti-wrinkle injections, fillers, or plastic surgery,\" said Abrahams. \"They know that your body is great the way it is, and it is yours. They respect that it’s not their body to meddle with for their own sake or pleasure.\"\r\n<h3>5. They never disrespect you</h3>\r\nIt may sound simple, but this is one that\'s often overlooked.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never use you to make other people jealous or score points with others. If they ask you to wear particularly revealing clothing or ask you to perform in a particular way to bolster their own standing in the eyes of others, then this is a misuse of you. It’s narcissistic.\"\r\n<h3>6. They never minimise or dismiss your feelings</h3>\r\nYour partner should understand how important it is to listen to how you\'re feeling. You should never feel that they avoid important conversations - rather, seek them out and approach them with respect.\r\n\r\n\"They also understand that listening and wanting to know how you feel is important for creating psychological safety in a relationship,\" she adds.\r\n<h3>7. They never discourage you</h3>\r\nOne of the best signs of a person\'s confidence is their ability to help support the ambitions of others.\r\n\r\nAbrahams said a good partner will never discourage your psychological, educational, or physical development, nor stand in the way of you accessing it.\r\n\r\n\"They will see that your wellbeing and development is a good thing for you and will offer support to help you facilitate your experience, such as offering financial support or taking the children that day.\"\r\n<h3>8. They respect your feelings</h3>\r\nWhenever you feel like you need to prove your worth in a relationship, this isn\'t a good sign. \"A good partner will never forget that you are an asset in their lives and worthy of protecting you and the relationship,\" reminds Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"They understand that being with you is a privilege and not a right – even if you have tricky bits,\" she adds.\r\n\r\n\"This means they don’t forget you and the relationship and step over your agreed upon couple boundaries when they are out for a night drinking with their mates.\"\r\n<h3>9. They pull their weight at home</h3>\r\nIf your partner really loves you, you\'ll work as a team.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never make you do all the housework. They understand they produce mess and dirt and that they are part of the tidying and cleaning solution with you.\r\n\r\n\"They\'ll also never assume it is your role to solely look after the kids, and understand that they need to participate and share the load, even if you do take on more of this than them.\"\r\n<h3>10. They don\'t try to control your finances</h3>\r\nWe\'re just going to be straight up with this one: Your partner should never control your finances - unless you have a gambling problem or an addiction to spending.\r\n\r\n\"They will understand that we all have a different relationship with money, and we need to discuss and set boundaries together that we both adhere to – for the greater good,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h3>11. They never criticise your body</h3>\r\nWhile there’s nothing wrong with being with someone who encourages you to be the healthiest version of yourself, there\'s a line between wanting the best for someone and criticising their lifestyle choices.\r\n\r\nBecause if this kind of criticism is constant, it\'ll end up making you feel sh*tty about yourself.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never ask you to lose weight for them. They understand that bodies change throughout life and that neither of us are likely to be the size or shape we were when we met,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h3>12. They understand physical boundaries</h3>\r\nAnother important one? Boundaries. Especially physical boundaries.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never touch your body in a way you don’t want once you have told them. They will remember that your body boundary is important and that to push their sexual agenda onto you is disrespectful and will breed a lack of trust in them.\"\r\n<h3>13. They never dismiss your career</h3>\r\nA partner who loves and respects you will be your number one supporter. They\'ll push you to challenge yourself and aim for big goals - not dismiss them as silly or unrealistic.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never disregard your career as unimportant after having children. They will want to participate in discussions and support you to get you back to work when you are ready – even if this does not align with their opinion on this,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h3>14. The would never mentally or physically harm you</h3>\r\nThis is one is crucial. A good partner will always be able to recognise their self worth without attempting to place anyone (you) below them, or break someone else\'s self-confidence.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never raise their hand or harm you or verbally abuse you,\" said Abrahams. \"They know that they\'re upset or angry feelings should not be taken out on you.\"\r\n<h3>15. They don\'t compare you to other people</h3>\r\nA good partner will never compare you to other people or make you alter your behaviour \"when their past experiences have left a mark on them\".\r\n\r\nFor example, if they have been cheated on in a past relationship and they struggle with trust, a good partner will not make you responsible for this and understand they need to work on this inside of themselves.\r\n\r\n\"This means they would not ask you to repeatedly text them when you’re out without them and they don’t put limits on who you can and cannot speak to when you’re at a party.\"\r\n\r\n<em>If you\'re looking for help in improving your relationship with your partner, Abrahams has a free e-book available <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/5-mistakes-couples-make/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">here</a>. </em>\r\n\r\n<em>If you or a loved one is experiencing family violence, support is available. Call 1800 RESPECT on 1800 737 732 or visit the website to chat online.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>If you are concerned about your behaviour within a relationship, call Relationships Australia on 1300 364 277 to find a service near you.</em>','\"No, we can\'t be friends\": 12 Things Your Therapist Wants You To Know',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5035-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:04:46','2022-08-26 07:04:46','',5035,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5036',0,'revision','',0),(5037,3,'2022-08-26 07:16:49','2022-08-26 07:16:49','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Mamam!a            \n        </h1>\n            Article - source: Mamamia        \n            <h2>\n                \"No, we can\'t be friends\": 12 Things Your Therapist Wants You To Know            \n        </h2>\n            3 June 2022        \n		<p>Ever wondered what your therapist is really thinking? Oh, phew! So it\'s not just us.</p><p>It\'s a funny old thing, therapy. Not funny, funny - but you know we mean. Because more often than not, you don\'t really know what to expect if you\'ve never been before, right?</p><p>Will it be like the movies? Will they show you those pictures of dark splotches and ask you what you see? Will they go home have a big gossip with their partner about all your secrets?? Omg, WILL THEY?</p><p>The good news: Chances are, your therapist is nothing like what you\'ll see in movies and TV shows. Really!</p><p>In fact, they\'re probably more like you than you might think.</p><p>Watch: These signs will help you know if you should see a psychologist.</p><p>And here\'s the thing - while it\'s always good to be able to seek out help from those around you, like your family and friends, sometimes you just need to chat with someone from outside of your circle. Someone who is like a blank sheet of paper.</p><p>Below, we asked psychotherapist Lissy Abrahams to tell us everything she wants you to know about therapy..</p><p>Take a seat.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>1. We understand that you may feel daunted or frightened about starting therapy</h3>		\n		<p>Sharing really intimate details about your life, your relationships and some of your deepest secrets to a complete stranger can feel super scary and daunting. Therapists get it.</p><p>\"Most people come to therapy because they need it. This doesn’t mean that they want to go. And I can tell you, no one starts therapy for fun – even though in my consulting room we have some fun,\" said Abrahams.</p><p>\"Good therapists understand that it can take time for some clients to feel safe in the space and that’s absolutely fine. You will feel safe when you feel safe and feel free to talk about this with your therapist.\" </p>		\n			<h3>2. There\'s no experience needed</h3>		\n		<p>Going to your first therapy session and nervous that you won\'t know what you need to... do or say? Don\'t worry - Abrahams said this is a really common feeling.</p><p>\"Some people worry that they don’t know what to do in therapy and they may not be “getting it right” as a client. Let me tell you now - there is no \'getting it right\'.\"</p><p>\"All you need to do is bring yourself in - just as you are, no experience needed.\"</p>		\n			<h3>3. We’ve seen it all</h3>		\n		<p>Spoiler! While you might think you just have too much stuff, chances are your therapist has seen it all before. Your past behaviours, relationship struggles, life concerns - the whole shebang. Ten times over. </p><p>\"So many people come to therapy worried that their therapist won’t be able to handle them – that they’ll be too much,\" said Abrahams.</p><p>\"Even though every client is unique and brings a different flavour to the therapy, an experienced therapist generally won’t be fazed by what you’re presenting with to have treated.\"</p><p>\"This doesn’t mean we don’t care or that we’re going through the motions – we’re not. It’s that you’re unlikely to be shocking to us in any way.\"</p><p>So, know that you\'re not \'too difficult\' to work with. The right therapist is out there for you.</p>		\n			<h3>4. We understand fight-or-flight reactions</h3>		\n		<p>Heard of a fight-or-flight response? It\'s basically a knee-jerk reaction to a past experience or event that you might perceive as stressful or frightening. Your pulse might start racing. Your breathing gets quicker. You feel tense. Uncomfortable. </p><p>It\'s kind of like a psychological defence mechanism.</p><p>\"We understand that you can have reactions to people and situations that trigger your fight-or-flight responses. Sometimes you may react as if you are being chased by a hungry bear,\" explains Abrahams. </p><p>\"Your body has a cascading reaction where your adrenaline and cortisol levels surge, and your heart rate and blood pressure increase.\"</p><p>While it can be scary, it\'s important to know that this is totally normal, and an experienced therapist will help you navigate the situation.</p><p>\"Good therapists understand that in this mode, you may say or do things that may seem extreme. We help you understand these.\"</p>		\n			<h3>5. Your history matters</h3>		\n		<p>One of the most important things therapists want patients to understand is just how crucial it is to explore past and present experiences - even if you might not feel like it\'s relevant to why you\'re seeking help.</p><p>\"Any good therapist understands that your history shapes everything about you. This includes the stories you tell yourself, your beliefs, values, expectations, how you relate to yourself and others, what makes you upset, fearful, or angry, and so much more.\" </p><p>\"Therapists understand that you’ve been consciously and unconsciously programmed from forces outside of your control – we all have. They’ll work with you to understand how your programming is alive and kicking inside of you today and how your ego operates accordingly.\"</p><p>Sometimes this can be incredibly tough and uncomfortable for people, especially when you\'ve experienced hurt in the past. So, be patient with yourself.</p><p>\"Many of our clients have experienced childhood trauma and we help them understand how this impacts the way they function in their day-to-day lives.\"</p>		\n			<h3>6. Most parents do their best</h3>		\n		<p>Fact: Blaming your parents for everything is not the goal here. Abrahams said it\'s about helping clients realise the reality that their parents may have done the best they can, and at the same time may have hurt you in ways you now struggle with.</p><p>\"Most therapists understand that parents do their best. This doesn’t mean they always supported, cared or kept you safe. But most parents do their best, even though they have limitations and shortcomings. Therapy is not about blaming parents.\"</p><p>\"Most parents are just operating from the program they received from their conscious and unconscious experiences. It’s important to understand how the limitations affected you and shaped you, yet to also understand most parents don’t try to hurt their children. They’re often preoccupied, stressed, and exhausted.\"</p><p>The goal is to try to navigate the life you\'ve been given - because at the end of the day, you\'re the only one who can change it.</p>		\n			<h3>7. We\'re non-judgemental</h3>		\n		<p>Abrahams said any good therapist will never judge their client - even when you feel like they\'re doing more listening than talking. </p><p>If you ever do feel judged by your therapist, she said this is something you should bring up with them - it might seem really uncomfortable at first, but it\'s extremely important you voice your feelings.</p><p>\"Good therapists are non-judgemental therapists. How is a judgemental therapist helpful? Actually, they’re harmful. If your therapist is, call them out on it or find someone else who isn’t judgemental,\" she said.</p><p>\"Our position is to help you understand how you operate and we do this alongside you – not towering above you on a pedestal.\"</p>		\n			<h3>8. Your therapist is a mere mortal, too</h3>		\n		<p>Yep, therapists are real people. And they\'re not perfect, either. </p><p>\"Clients often feel they need to see their therapist as angelic – those who are only good and perfect. Whenever I sense my clients are placing me in the ‘perfect’ bracket, I quickly let them know that there are no halos in my consulting room – not on their heads and certainly not on mine.\" </p><p>\"I’m not perfect and nor is any therapist. We struggle like you do in life. We feel pain, sadness, anger and more. We have our battle scars and life experiences. We’re all mere mortals, and sometimes we handle life’s tribulations well, and sometimes we can stuff up royally.\"</p>		\n			<h3>9. Distress tolerance is everything</h3>		\n		<p>According to Abrahams, many clients come to see therapists because they have distress intolerance. This means they haven’t learnt how to tolerate upsetting emotions and sit with them.</p><p>\"They didn’t learn this as a child through their parent-child relationship. This means that they suffer because they don’t understand that this unpleasant feeling inside them will pass.\" </p><p>\"It feels catastrophic, and that’s where they look to the external world to make themselves feel better. This includes shopping, eating, restricting food, gambling, promiscuous sex, turning to drugs/alcohol, talking excessively with friends or creating drama.\" </p><p>Abrahams goes on to explain that these actions in the outside world never resolve what’s going on inside - they\'re mere distractions that numb, but don’t address, what the unpleasant experience was.</p><p>\"A good therapist will help you understand this and teach you other ways to tolerate the sensations inside you, such as breathing techniques and mindfulness.\"</p>		\n			<h3>10. You leave a mark on our lives, too</h3>		\n		<p>Any good therapist will truly want the best for you - and their investment in you often goes outside of the time you spend together. So, don\'t think that you\'re just another number.</p><p>\"Even though you’re the one who is going through a transformative experience with the therapist, you leave a mark on them, too,\" said Abrahams. \"Our relationships are meaningful and real, and we care deeply about our clients’ wellbeing.\"</p><p>\"I genuinely love my clients and my heart can bleed for them when they suffer and my heart can expand with joy at their development and other wonderful moments.\"</p>		\n			<h3>11. No, we can’t be friends</h3>		\n		<p>While it\'s common to develop a close relationship with your therapist, Abrahams said it\'s important to understand that you can\'t be friends with your therapist. </p><p>Awks, we know. But it\'s for the best.</p><p>\"There are many clients who would like to be friends with their therapist. This shows that a great connection has been made. However, it’s important though to keep the relationship in the therapy-client space so that clients can always return for top-up sessions.\"</p><p>Being friends with your therapist can create what\'s known as a \'conflicting dual relationship\', which is when people are in two very different relationships at the same time - and this presents a number of different challenges. </p><p>So, yeah - it\'s both good and bad news. Don\'t ask your therapist around for dinner, friend.</p><p>\"Your therapist holds your history in a particular way that no-one else does – besides you. It’s a special thing you share. You can make more friends of many different varieties, but having someone hold all of that knowledge of you and your work together is valuable and worthy of protection.\" </p><p>\"I had a client return for sessions yesterday after not seeing him for seven years. Whilst I don’t remember every detail of our time together, I certainly remember him and his essence. We were both able to pick back up and get back into the work together.\"</p>		\n			<h3>12. We have a privileged role</h3>		\n		<p>Abrahams said, \"Being a therapist is such privileged work, and most therapists take their role and responsibilities seriously.\"</p><p>\"We know how transformative the experience of therapy can be and how profoundly it alters lives.\"</p><p><em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on what makes a couple\'s relationship happy.</em></p><p><em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health expert panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy studied psychology in Sydney and then completed her Masters in couples psychotherapy at the internationally renowned Tavistock Relationships. Here, she worked therapeutically with couples, as well as lectured and tutored trainee counsellors.</em></p><p><em>Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully.</em></p><p><em>Lissy believes we all have the capacity to improve our lives and relationships with the right knowledge and practical strategies. Her mission is to help as many people as possible transform their lives by creating happier and more loving relationships.</em></p><p><em>Feature image: Getty</em></p>		\n			<h3>13. They never dismiss your career</h3>		\n		<p>A partner who loves and respects you will be your number one supporter. They\'ll push you to challenge yourself and aim for big goals - not dismiss them as silly or unrealistic.</p><p>\"A good partner will never disregard your career as unimportant after having children. They will want to participate in discussions and support you to get you back to work when you are ready – even if this does not align with their opinion on this,\" said Abrahams.</p>		\n			<h3>14. The would never mentally  or physically harm you</h3>		\n		<p>This is one is crucial. A good partner will always be able to recognise their self worth without attempting to place anyone (you) below them, or break someone else\'s self-confidence.</p><p>\"A good partner will never raise their hand or harm you or verbally abuse you,\" said Abrahams. \"They know that they\'re upset or angry feelings should not be taken out on you.\"</p>		\n			<h3>15. They don\'t compare you to other people</h3>		\n		<p>A good partner will never compare you to other people or make you alter your behaviour \"when their past experiences have left a mark on them\". </p><p>For example, if they have been cheated on in a past relationship and they struggle with trust, a good partner will not make you responsible for this and understand they need to work on this inside of themselves.</p><p>\"This means they would not ask you to repeatedly text them when you’re out without them and they don’t put limits on who you can and cannot speak to when you’re at a party.\"</p><p><em>If you\'re looking for help in improving your relationship with your partner, Abrahams has a free e-book available <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/5-mistakes-couples-make/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">here</a>. </em></p><p><em>If you or a loved one is experiencing family violence, support is available. Call 1800 RESPECT on 1800 737 732 or visit the website to chat online.</em></p><p><em>If you are concerned about your behaviour within a relationship, call Relationships Australia on 1300 364 277 to find a service near you.</em></p>','\"No, we can\'t be friends\": 12 Things Your Therapist Wants You To Know',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5035-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:16:49','2022-08-26 07:16:49','',5035,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5037',0,'revision','',0),(5038,3,'2022-08-26 07:16:49','2022-08-26 07:16:49','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Mamam!a            \n        </h1>\n            Article - source: Mamamia        \n            <h2>\n                \"No, we can\'t be friends\": 12 Things Your Therapist Wants You To Know            \n        </h2>\n            3 June 2022        \n		<p>Ever wondered what your therapist is really thinking? Oh, phew! So it\'s not just us.</p><p>It\'s a funny old thing, therapy. Not funny, funny - but you know we mean. Because more often than not, you don\'t really know what to expect if you\'ve never been before, right?</p><p>Will it be like the movies? Will they show you those pictures of dark splotches and ask you what you see? Will they go home have a big gossip with their partner about all your secrets?? Omg, WILL THEY?</p><p>The good news: Chances are, your therapist is nothing like what you\'ll see in movies and TV shows. Really!</p><p>In fact, they\'re probably more like you than you might think.</p><p>Watch: These signs will help you know if you should see a psychologist.</p><p>And here\'s the thing - while it\'s always good to be able to seek out help from those around you, like your family and friends, sometimes you just need to chat with someone from outside of your circle. Someone who is like a blank sheet of paper.</p><p>Below, we asked psychotherapist Lissy Abrahams to tell us everything she wants you to know about therapy..</p><p>Take a seat.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>1. We understand that you may feel daunted or frightened about starting therapy</h3>		\n		<p>Sharing really intimate details about your life, your relationships and some of your deepest secrets to a complete stranger can feel super scary and daunting. Therapists get it.</p><p>\"Most people come to therapy because they need it. This doesn’t mean that they want to go. And I can tell you, no one starts therapy for fun – even though in my consulting room we have some fun,\" said Abrahams.</p><p>\"Good therapists understand that it can take time for some clients to feel safe in the space and that’s absolutely fine. You will feel safe when you feel safe and feel free to talk about this with your therapist.\" </p>		\n			<h3>2. There\'s no experience needed</h3>		\n		<p>Going to your first therapy session and nervous that you won\'t know what you need to... do or say? Don\'t worry - Abrahams said this is a really common feeling.</p><p>\"Some people worry that they don’t know what to do in therapy and they may not be “getting it right” as a client. Let me tell you now - there is no \'getting it right\'.\"</p><p>\"All you need to do is bring yourself in - just as you are, no experience needed.\"</p>		\n			<h3>3. We’ve seen it all</h3>		\n		<p>Spoiler! While you might think you just have too much stuff, chances are your therapist has seen it all before. Your past behaviours, relationship struggles, life concerns - the whole shebang. Ten times over. </p><p>\"So many people come to therapy worried that their therapist won’t be able to handle them – that they’ll be too much,\" said Abrahams.</p><p>\"Even though every client is unique and brings a different flavour to the therapy, an experienced therapist generally won’t be fazed by what you’re presenting with to have treated.\"</p><p>\"This doesn’t mean we don’t care or that we’re going through the motions – we’re not. It’s that you’re unlikely to be shocking to us in any way.\"</p><p>So, know that you\'re not \'too difficult\' to work with. The right therapist is out there for you.</p>		\n			<h3>4. We understand fight-or-flight reactions</h3>		\n		<p>Heard of a fight-or-flight response? It\'s basically a knee-jerk reaction to a past experience or event that you might perceive as stressful or frightening. Your pulse might start racing. Your breathing gets quicker. You feel tense. Uncomfortable. </p><p>It\'s kind of like a psychological defence mechanism.</p><p>\"We understand that you can have reactions to people and situations that trigger your fight-or-flight responses. Sometimes you may react as if you are being chased by a hungry bear,\" explains Abrahams. </p><p>\"Your body has a cascading reaction where your adrenaline and cortisol levels surge, and your heart rate and blood pressure increase.\"</p><p>While it can be scary, it\'s important to know that this is totally normal, and an experienced therapist will help you navigate the situation.</p><p>\"Good therapists understand that in this mode, you may say or do things that may seem extreme. We help you understand these.\"</p>		\n			<h3>5. Your history matters</h3>		\n		<p>One of the most important things therapists want patients to understand is just how crucial it is to explore past and present experiences - even if you might not feel like it\'s relevant to why you\'re seeking help.</p><p>\"Any good therapist understands that your history shapes everything about you. This includes the stories you tell yourself, your beliefs, values, expectations, how you relate to yourself and others, what makes you upset, fearful, or angry, and so much more.\" </p><p>\"Therapists understand that you’ve been consciously and unconsciously programmed from forces outside of your control – we all have. They’ll work with you to understand how your programming is alive and kicking inside of you today and how your ego operates accordingly.\"</p><p>Sometimes this can be incredibly tough and uncomfortable for people, especially when you\'ve experienced hurt in the past. So, be patient with yourself.</p><p>\"Many of our clients have experienced childhood trauma and we help them understand how this impacts the way they function in their day-to-day lives.\"</p>		\n			<h3>6. Most parents do their best</h3>		\n		<p>Fact: Blaming your parents for everything is not the goal here. Abrahams said it\'s about helping clients realise the reality that their parents may have done the best they can, and at the same time may have hurt you in ways you now struggle with.</p><p>\"Most therapists understand that parents do their best. This doesn’t mean they always supported, cared or kept you safe. But most parents do their best, even though they have limitations and shortcomings. Therapy is not about blaming parents.\"</p><p>\"Most parents are just operating from the program they received from their conscious and unconscious experiences. It’s important to understand how the limitations affected you and shaped you, yet to also understand most parents don’t try to hurt their children. They’re often preoccupied, stressed, and exhausted.\"</p><p>The goal is to try to navigate the life you\'ve been given - because at the end of the day, you\'re the only one who can change it.</p>		\n			<h3>7. We\'re non-judgemental</h3>		\n		<p>Abrahams said any good therapist will never judge their client - even when you feel like they\'re doing more listening than talking. </p><p>If you ever do feel judged by your therapist, she said this is something you should bring up with them - it might seem really uncomfortable at first, but it\'s extremely important you voice your feelings.</p><p>\"Good therapists are non-judgemental therapists. How is a judgemental therapist helpful? Actually, they’re harmful. If your therapist is, call them out on it or find someone else who isn’t judgemental,\" she said.</p><p>\"Our position is to help you understand how you operate and we do this alongside you – not towering above you on a pedestal.\"</p>		\n			<h3>8. Your therapist is a mere mortal, too</h3>		\n		<p>Yep, therapists are real people. And they\'re not perfect, either. </p><p>\"Clients often feel they need to see their therapist as angelic – those who are only good and perfect. Whenever I sense my clients are placing me in the ‘perfect’ bracket, I quickly let them know that there are no halos in my consulting room – not on their heads and certainly not on mine.\" </p><p>\"I’m not perfect and nor is any therapist. We struggle like you do in life. We feel pain, sadness, anger and more. We have our battle scars and life experiences. We’re all mere mortals, and sometimes we handle life’s tribulations well, and sometimes we can stuff up royally.\"</p>		\n			<h3>9. Distress tolerance is everything</h3>		\n		<p>According to Abrahams, many clients come to see therapists because they have distress intolerance. This means they haven’t learnt how to tolerate upsetting emotions and sit with them.</p><p>\"They didn’t learn this as a child through their parent-child relationship. This means that they suffer because they don’t understand that this unpleasant feeling inside them will pass.\" </p><p>\"It feels catastrophic, and that’s where they look to the external world to make themselves feel better. This includes shopping, eating, restricting food, gambling, promiscuous sex, turning to drugs/alcohol, talking excessively with friends or creating drama.\" </p><p>Abrahams goes on to explain that these actions in the outside world never resolve what’s going on inside - they\'re mere distractions that numb, but don’t address, what the unpleasant experience was.</p><p>\"A good therapist will help you understand this and teach you other ways to tolerate the sensations inside you, such as breathing techniques and mindfulness.\"</p>		\n			<h3>10. You leave a mark on our lives, too</h3>		\n		<p>Any good therapist will truly want the best for you - and their investment in you often goes outside of the time you spend together. So, don\'t think that you\'re just another number.</p><p>\"Even though you’re the one who is going through a transformative experience with the therapist, you leave a mark on them, too,\" said Abrahams. \"Our relationships are meaningful and real, and we care deeply about our clients’ wellbeing.\"</p><p>\"I genuinely love my clients and my heart can bleed for them when they suffer and my heart can expand with joy at their development and other wonderful moments.\"</p>		\n			<h3>11. No, we can’t be friends</h3>		\n		<p>While it\'s common to develop a close relationship with your therapist, Abrahams said it\'s important to understand that you can\'t be friends with your therapist. </p><p>Awks, we know. But it\'s for the best.</p><p>\"There are many clients who would like to be friends with their therapist. This shows that a great connection has been made. However, it’s important though to keep the relationship in the therapy-client space so that clients can always return for top-up sessions.\"</p><p>Being friends with your therapist can create what\'s known as a \'conflicting dual relationship\', which is when people are in two very different relationships at the same time - and this presents a number of different challenges. </p><p>So, yeah - it\'s both good and bad news. Don\'t ask your therapist around for dinner, friend.</p><p>\"Your therapist holds your history in a particular way that no-one else does – besides you. It’s a special thing you share. You can make more friends of many different varieties, but having someone hold all of that knowledge of you and your work together is valuable and worthy of protection.\" </p><p>\"I had a client return for sessions yesterday after not seeing him for seven years. Whilst I don’t remember every detail of our time together, I certainly remember him and his essence. We were both able to pick back up and get back into the work together.\"</p>		\n			<h3>12. We have a privileged role</h3>		\n		<p>Abrahams said, \"Being a therapist is such privileged work, and most therapists take their role and responsibilities seriously.\"</p><p>\"We know how transformative the experience of therapy can be and how profoundly it alters lives.\"</p><p><em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on what makes a couple\'s relationship happy.</em></p><p><em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health expert panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy studied psychology in Sydney and then completed her Masters in couples psychotherapy at the internationally renowned Tavistock Relationships. Here, she worked therapeutically with couples, as well as lectured and tutored trainee counsellors.</em></p><p><em>Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully.</em></p><p><em>Lissy believes we all have the capacity to improve our lives and relationships with the right knowledge and practical strategies. Her mission is to help as many people as possible transform their lives by creating happier and more loving relationships.</em></p><p><em>Feature image: Getty</em></p>		\n			<h3>13. They never dismiss your career</h3>		\n		<p>A partner who loves and respects you will be your number one supporter. They\'ll push you to challenge yourself and aim for big goals - not dismiss them as silly or unrealistic.</p><p>\"A good partner will never disregard your career as unimportant after having children. They will want to participate in discussions and support you to get you back to work when you are ready – even if this does not align with their opinion on this,\" said Abrahams.</p>		\n			<h3>14. The would never mentally  or physically harm you</h3>		\n		<p>This is one is crucial. A good partner will always be able to recognise their self worth without attempting to place anyone (you) below them, or break someone else\'s self-confidence.</p><p>\"A good partner will never raise their hand or harm you or verbally abuse you,\" said Abrahams. \"They know that they\'re upset or angry feelings should not be taken out on you.\"</p>		\n			<h3>15. They don\'t compare you to other people</h3>		\n		<p>A good partner will never compare you to other people or make you alter your behaviour \"when their past experiences have left a mark on them\". </p><p>For example, if they have been cheated on in a past relationship and they struggle with trust, a good partner will not make you responsible for this and understand they need to work on this inside of themselves.</p><p>\"This means they would not ask you to repeatedly text them when you’re out without them and they don’t put limits on who you can and cannot speak to when you’re at a party.\"</p><p><em>If you\'re looking for help in improving your relationship with your partner, Abrahams has a free e-book available <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/5-mistakes-couples-make/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">here</a>. </em></p><p><em>If you or a loved one is experiencing family violence, support is available. Call 1800 RESPECT on 1800 737 732 or visit the website to chat online.</em></p><p><em>If you are concerned about your behaviour within a relationship, call Relationships Australia on 1300 364 277 to find a service near you.</em></p>','\"No, we can\'t be friends\": 12 Things Your Therapist Wants You To Know',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5035-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:16:49','2022-08-26 07:16:49','',5035,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5038',0,'revision','',0),(5039,3,'2022-08-26 07:16:49','2022-08-26 07:16:49','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Mamam!a            \n        </h1>\n            Article - source: Mamamia        \n            <h2>\n                \"No, we can\'t be friends\": 12 Things Your Therapist Wants You To Know            \n        </h2>\n            3 June 2022        \n		<p>Ever wondered what your therapist is really thinking? Oh, phew! So it\'s not just us.</p><p>It\'s a funny old thing, therapy. Not funny, funny - but you know we mean. Because more often than not, you don\'t really know what to expect if you\'ve never been before, right?</p><p>Will it be like the movies? Will they show you those pictures of dark splotches and ask you what you see? Will they go home have a big gossip with their partner about all your secrets?? Omg, WILL THEY?</p><p>The good news: Chances are, your therapist is nothing like what you\'ll see in movies and TV shows. Really!</p><p>In fact, they\'re probably more like you than you might think.</p><p>Watch: These signs will help you know if you should see a psychologist.</p><p>And here\'s the thing - while it\'s always good to be able to seek out help from those around you, like your family and friends, sometimes you just need to chat with someone from outside of your circle. Someone who is like a blank sheet of paper.</p><p>Below, we asked psychotherapist Lissy Abrahams to tell us everything she wants you to know about therapy..</p><p>Take a seat.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>1. We understand that you may feel daunted or frightened about starting therapy</h3>		\n		<p>Sharing really intimate details about your life, your relationships and some of your deepest secrets to a complete stranger can feel super scary and daunting. Therapists get it.</p><p>\"Most people come to therapy because they need it. This doesn’t mean that they want to go. And I can tell you, no one starts therapy for fun – even though in my consulting room we have some fun,\" said Abrahams.</p><p>\"Good therapists understand that it can take time for some clients to feel safe in the space and that’s absolutely fine. You will feel safe when you feel safe and feel free to talk about this with your therapist.\" </p>		\n			<h3>2. There\'s no experience needed</h3>		\n		<p>Going to your first therapy session and nervous that you won\'t know what you need to... do or say? Don\'t worry - Abrahams said this is a really common feeling.</p><p>\"Some people worry that they don’t know what to do in therapy and they may not be “getting it right” as a client. Let me tell you now - there is no \'getting it right\'.\"</p><p>\"All you need to do is bring yourself in - just as you are, no experience needed.\"</p>		\n			<h3>3. We’ve seen it all</h3>		\n		<p>Spoiler! While you might think you just have too much stuff, chances are your therapist has seen it all before. Your past behaviours, relationship struggles, life concerns - the whole shebang. Ten times over. </p><p>\"So many people come to therapy worried that their therapist won’t be able to handle them – that they’ll be too much,\" said Abrahams.</p><p>\"Even though every client is unique and brings a different flavour to the therapy, an experienced therapist generally won’t be fazed by what you’re presenting with to have treated.\"</p><p>\"This doesn’t mean we don’t care or that we’re going through the motions – we’re not. It’s that you’re unlikely to be shocking to us in any way.\"</p><p>So, know that you\'re not \'too difficult\' to work with. The right therapist is out there for you.</p>		\n			<h3>4. We understand fight-or-flight reactions</h3>		\n		<p>Heard of a fight-or-flight response? It\'s basically a knee-jerk reaction to a past experience or event that you might perceive as stressful or frightening. Your pulse might start racing. Your breathing gets quicker. You feel tense. Uncomfortable. </p><p>It\'s kind of like a psychological defence mechanism.</p><p>\"We understand that you can have reactions to people and situations that trigger your fight-or-flight responses. Sometimes you may react as if you are being chased by a hungry bear,\" explains Abrahams. </p><p>\"Your body has a cascading reaction where your adrenaline and cortisol levels surge, and your heart rate and blood pressure increase.\"</p><p>While it can be scary, it\'s important to know that this is totally normal, and an experienced therapist will help you navigate the situation.</p><p>\"Good therapists understand that in this mode, you may say or do things that may seem extreme. We help you understand these.\"</p>		\n			<h3>5. Your history matters</h3>		\n		<p>One of the most important things therapists want patients to understand is just how crucial it is to explore past and present experiences - even if you might not feel like it\'s relevant to why you\'re seeking help.</p><p>\"Any good therapist understands that your history shapes everything about you. This includes the stories you tell yourself, your beliefs, values, expectations, how you relate to yourself and others, what makes you upset, fearful, or angry, and so much more.\" </p><p>\"Therapists understand that you’ve been consciously and unconsciously programmed from forces outside of your control – we all have. They’ll work with you to understand how your programming is alive and kicking inside of you today and how your ego operates accordingly.\"</p><p>Sometimes this can be incredibly tough and uncomfortable for people, especially when you\'ve experienced hurt in the past. So, be patient with yourself.</p><p>\"Many of our clients have experienced childhood trauma and we help them understand how this impacts the way they function in their day-to-day lives.\"</p>		\n			<h3>6. Most parents do their best</h3>		\n		<p>Fact: Blaming your parents for everything is not the goal here. Abrahams said it\'s about helping clients realise the reality that their parents may have done the best they can, and at the same time may have hurt you in ways you now struggle with.</p><p>\"Most therapists understand that parents do their best. This doesn’t mean they always supported, cared or kept you safe. But most parents do their best, even though they have limitations and shortcomings. Therapy is not about blaming parents.\"</p><p>\"Most parents are just operating from the program they received from their conscious and unconscious experiences. It’s important to understand how the limitations affected you and shaped you, yet to also understand most parents don’t try to hurt their children. They’re often preoccupied, stressed, and exhausted.\"</p><p>The goal is to try to navigate the life you\'ve been given - because at the end of the day, you\'re the only one who can change it.</p>		\n			<h3>7. We\'re non-judgemental</h3>		\n		<p>Abrahams said any good therapist will never judge their client - even when you feel like they\'re doing more listening than talking. </p><p>If you ever do feel judged by your therapist, she said this is something you should bring up with them - it might seem really uncomfortable at first, but it\'s extremely important you voice your feelings.</p><p>\"Good therapists are non-judgemental therapists. How is a judgemental therapist helpful? Actually, they’re harmful. If your therapist is, call them out on it or find someone else who isn’t judgemental,\" she said.</p><p>\"Our position is to help you understand how you operate and we do this alongside you – not towering above you on a pedestal.\"</p>		\n			<h3>8. Your therapist is a mere mortal, too</h3>		\n		<p>Yep, therapists are real people. And they\'re not perfect, either. </p><p>\"Clients often feel they need to see their therapist as angelic – those who are only good and perfect. Whenever I sense my clients are placing me in the ‘perfect’ bracket, I quickly let them know that there are no halos in my consulting room – not on their heads and certainly not on mine.\" </p><p>\"I’m not perfect and nor is any therapist. We struggle like you do in life. We feel pain, sadness, anger and more. We have our battle scars and life experiences. We’re all mere mortals, and sometimes we handle life’s tribulations well, and sometimes we can stuff up royally.\"</p>		\n			<h3>9. Distress tolerance is everything</h3>		\n		<p>According to Abrahams, many clients come to see therapists because they have distress intolerance. This means they haven’t learnt how to tolerate upsetting emotions and sit with them.</p><p>\"They didn’t learn this as a child through their parent-child relationship. This means that they suffer because they don’t understand that this unpleasant feeling inside them will pass.\" </p><p>\"It feels catastrophic, and that’s where they look to the external world to make themselves feel better. This includes shopping, eating, restricting food, gambling, promiscuous sex, turning to drugs/alcohol, talking excessively with friends or creating drama.\" </p><p>Abrahams goes on to explain that these actions in the outside world never resolve what’s going on inside - they\'re mere distractions that numb, but don’t address, what the unpleasant experience was.</p><p>\"A good therapist will help you understand this and teach you other ways to tolerate the sensations inside you, such as breathing techniques and mindfulness.\"</p>		\n			<h3>10. You leave a mark on our lives, too</h3>		\n		<p>Any good therapist will truly want the best for you - and their investment in you often goes outside of the time you spend together. So, don\'t think that you\'re just another number.</p><p>\"Even though you’re the one who is going through a transformative experience with the therapist, you leave a mark on them, too,\" said Abrahams. \"Our relationships are meaningful and real, and we care deeply about our clients’ wellbeing.\"</p><p>\"I genuinely love my clients and my heart can bleed for them when they suffer and my heart can expand with joy at their development and other wonderful moments.\"</p>		\n			<h3>11. No, we can’t be friends</h3>		\n		<p>While it\'s common to develop a close relationship with your therapist, Abrahams said it\'s important to understand that you can\'t be friends with your therapist. </p><p>Awks, we know. But it\'s for the best.</p><p>\"There are many clients who would like to be friends with their therapist. This shows that a great connection has been made. However, it’s important though to keep the relationship in the therapy-client space so that clients can always return for top-up sessions.\"</p><p>Being friends with your therapist can create what\'s known as a \'conflicting dual relationship\', which is when people are in two very different relationships at the same time - and this presents a number of different challenges. </p><p>So, yeah - it\'s both good and bad news. Don\'t ask your therapist around for dinner, friend.</p><p>\"Your therapist holds your history in a particular way that no-one else does – besides you. It’s a special thing you share. You can make more friends of many different varieties, but having someone hold all of that knowledge of you and your work together is valuable and worthy of protection.\" </p><p>\"I had a client return for sessions yesterday after not seeing him for seven years. Whilst I don’t remember every detail of our time together, I certainly remember him and his essence. We were both able to pick back up and get back into the work together.\"</p>		\n			<h3>12. We have a privileged role</h3>		\n		<p>Abrahams said, \"Being a therapist is such privileged work, and most therapists take their role and responsibilities seriously.\"</p><p>\"We know how transformative the experience of therapy can be and how profoundly it alters lives.\"</p><p><em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\">what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</a></strong>.</em></p><p><em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health expert panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy studied psychology in Sydney and then completed her Masters in couples psychotherapy at the internationally renowned Tavistock Relationships. Here, she worked therapeutically with couples, as well as lectured and tutored trainee counsellors.</em></p><p><em>Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully.</em></p><p><em>Lissy believes we all have the capacity to improve our lives and relationships with the right knowledge and practical strategies. Her mission is to help as many people as possible transform their lives by creating happier and more loving relationships.</em></p><p><em>Feature image: Getty</em></p>','\"No, we can\'t be friends\": 12 Things Your Therapist Wants You To Know',' Relationships can be TOUGH. 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INSERT INTO `wpjr_posts` VALUES (5041,3,'2022-08-26 07:17:50','2022-08-26 07:17:50','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                MamaM!a            \n        </h1>\n            Interviews        \n            <h2>\n                Mamam!a            \n        </h2>\n            Click on the <b>\'READ MORE\'</b> buttons below to read the 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alt=\"Young,Women,Of,Different,Ethnicity,Has,Their,Arms,Around,Each\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            7 signs you&#039;re an empath and what it means        \n            22 March 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            A Psychotherapist Told Us There Are 4 Different Types Of 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100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            Why your relationship feels like a struggle right now        \n            15 December 2021        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745850722-768x512-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745850722-768x512-1.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745850722-768x512-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745850722-768x512-1-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            The one after the one        \n            26 November 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1108778102.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1108778102.jpg 1000w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1108778102-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1108778102-768x512.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1108778102-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            10 signs you and your partner are &#039;fake happy&#039; in your relationship        \n            25 November 2021        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"328\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/couple-on-a-beach-scaled-e1661425844544-1170x600.jpg\" alt=\"\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            15 Things your partner will never do if you are in a healthy relationship        \n            24 November 2021        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-768x512.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-2048x1365.jpg 2048w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/15-things-partner-never-do-if-healthy-relationship/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            8 Signs you&#039;re in the right relationship        \n            22 November 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_305085290.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_305085290.jpg 1000w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_305085290-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_305085290-768x512.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_305085290-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/8-signs-in-right-relationship/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>','Mamamia','Mamamia (stylised as MamaM!a) is an Australian news, opinion and lifestyle website targeted at women.','inherit','closed','closed','','4757-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:17:50','2022-08-26 07:17:50','',4757,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5041',0,'revision','',0),(5042,3,'2022-08-26 07:17:51','2022-08-26 07:17:51','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                MamaM!a            \n        </h1>\n            Interviews        \n            <h2>\n                Mamam!a            \n        </h2>\n            Click on the <b>\'READ MORE\'</b> buttons below to read the articles.        \n            &quot;It’s just too much pressure&quot;: 4 relationship &#039;expectations&#039; you need to ditch immediately        \n            16 July 2022        \n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"640\" height=\"426\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Ruleslist-1024x681.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Ruleslist-1024x681.jpg 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Ruleslist-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Ruleslist-768x511.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Ruleslist-1536x1022.jpg 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Ruleslist-2048x1363.jpg 2048w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Ruleslist-600x399.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            From numbness to avoidance: 5 signs you&#039;re &#039;emotionally coasting&#039; right now        \n            30 June 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"428\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Avoidance.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Avoidance.png 656w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Avoidance-300x201.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Avoidance-600x402.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            &quot;No, we can&#039;t be friends&quot;: 12 things your therapist wants you to know        \n            3 June 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"424\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Cant-Be-Friends.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Cant-Be-Friends.png 655w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Cant-Be-Friends-300x199.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Cant-Be-Friends-600x398.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            5 questions everyone should be able to answer about their partner        \n            30 May 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_369886034-768x512-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_369886034-768x512-1.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_369886034-768x512-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_369886034-768x512-1-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            there are only 2 types of friends everyone needs in their life        \n            5 May 2022        \n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/shutterstock_2139813481-scaled-pttbv2b6id8k3b4qc1w519ndfy1vzdvsz3dzgz5ssg.jpg\" title=\"Young,Women,Of,Different,Ethnicity,Has,Their,Arms,Around,Each\" alt=\"Young,Women,Of,Different,Ethnicity,Has,Their,Arms,Around,Each\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            7 signs you&#039;re an empath and what it means        \n            22 March 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            A Psychotherapist Told Us There Are 4 Different Types Of Shame - Here’s What They Mean        \n            3 March 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1523322002.jpg\" alt=\"\" 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rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>','Mamamia','Mamamia (stylised as MamaM!a) is an Australian news, opinion and lifestyle website targeted at women.','inherit','closed','closed','','4757-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:17:51','2022-08-26 07:17:51','',4757,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5042',0,'revision','',0),(5043,3,'2022-07-16 07:18:38','2022-07-16 07:18:38','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>Mamam!a</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Mamamia\r\n<h2>\"It’s just too much pressure\": 4 relationship \'expectations\' you need to ditch immediately</h2>\r\n17 July 2022\r\n\r\nWhen it comes to thinking about what kind of partner you want in your life, it\'s common to have a few non-negotiables on the list.\r\n\r\nWhether it\'s thinking there should always be a romantic \'spark\', avoiding conflict or expecting a certain amount of sex - everyone has a different set of deal breakers when they\'re dating.\r\n\r\nWatch: Here are some of the biggest relationship red flags you need to look out for.\r\n\r\nBut while everyone\'s expectations of a healthy relationship might be a little different, and it\'s normal for yours to be different from your partner\'s, how do we know if we’re asking too much from the person we\'re dating?\r\n\r\nIn fact, how do we develop all of these expectations in the first place?\r\n\r\nWell, apparently it\'s ingrained in us throughout our childhood.\r\n\r\nCouples counsellor Lissy Abrahams said that when we\'re children, we form our own unique \"relational template\", and later this can alter across adulthood due to other couple relationships.\r\n\r\n\"These were shaped by our parents, extended family, our culture, religion, film and television, teachers, friends and not friends, governments, celebrities, and more. We didn’t form expectations from nowhere,\" she said.\r\n\r\n\"They’ve been shaped inside us, and we often take them to be a fact – that is, how partners should and shouldn’t behave and feel in a couple relationship. So many of the expectations are formed around safety. Divorce has meant that we now fear losing our partner more than at any other time in history.\"\r\n\r\nAnd while some of these expectations might be helpful to the health of your relationship, forever focusing on the \'dos\' and \'don\'ts\' and where your relationship \'should\' be going and where it \'shouldn\'t\', might be a hindrance.\r\n\r\nAnd when you\'re happy in love, it can be pretty hard to miss these signs.\r\n\r\nSo, that\'s why we\'ve brought in our expert.\r\n\r\nHere, Abrahams tells us some of the biggest unrealistic relationship expectations we need to ditch, immediately.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>1. That your partner needs to be your everything</h3>\r\nAccording to our expert, this one is a fairly new belief. And it\'s actually more damaging than you might think.\r\n\r\n\"It’s only in the more recent decades that we have this notion,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"We expect a soulmate, a lover, a confidante, a therapist, [someone with whom to] raise children and be a great parent to our children,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"That they are amazingly attentive to us, work hard, manage a household, buy us lovely presents on special occasions, navigate the gap in our love languages, make us happy, financially have our back, help us buy a home, are great with our family and friends and so much more.\"\r\n\r\nAnyone else exhausted just reading that?!\r\n\r\nBut apparently, according to Abrahams, these are the sort of things we have ended up expecting from our partner over the decades, and we can often feel a sense of betrayal or distress when they fall short.\r\n\r\nThese days, our expectations of what makes a relationship \'healthy\' and how things should be is quite different to what they were years ago. And they can actually sabotage our connection with someone before they make them better.\r\n\r\n\"Partnerships of the past were often defined by a marriage, yet the expectations were nothing like they are today. They were both a property and a reproduction arrangement. Love was not part of the pact,\" explains Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"Friendship wasn\'t even necessary. If they experienced love or friendship, it was a bonus, yet never a prerequisite. Partners had their respective gender roles and love was often sought out elsewhere and didn’t typically destabilise the unit.\"\r\n\r\nObviously times have changed, but with it we\'ve developed high and often unreasonable expectations in order to form what we think is a well-rounded partnership.\r\n\r\n\"Expectations grew over time as people moved to cities, away from family. We were no longer having a village meet our needs and now turned to our spouse to meet these. Then women became more educated, joined the workforce and became more independent.\"\r\n\r\n\"Women were also able to control their bodies and pregnancies through pharmaceuticals. Sex could be enjoyed more without the fear of falling pregnant. There was then a freedom to choose one\'s partner, and this is where fantasies of \'the one\' became unrealistic.\"\r\n\r\nAnd just to be clear, it\'s the same for men - their expectations have increased, too.\r\n\r\nAbrahams said, \"We took \'the one\' too literally, as if it meant \'only one\', and we over-relied on this one mere mortal to be our one and only – our \'everything\'.\"\r\n<h3>2. That your partner can be your everything</h3>\r\nQuestion for you: How much do you depend on your partner?\r\n\r\n\"For many partners, the fairytale beginning often turns into a nightmare due to the weight of the expectations that are based on fantasy, not reality. It’s simply not possible for one person to be our everything.\"\r\n\r\n\"It\'s just too much pressure on one person. I have seen relationships go through horrendous times because the fantasy partner created at the beginning of a relationship isn’t sustainable.\"\r\n\r\nThink back to the beginning of your relationship, and how different things were. There was that \'specialness fantasy\', where everything felt really new and exciting.\r\n\r\nThe butterflies-in-the-stomach, the crazy sex, the flirty comments, the interesting discussions that would last for ages...\r\n\r\n\"At the beginning of a relationship, both partners often create a fantasy partner to show we are better than any other potential mates out there. It’s all a bit of a performance. It’s a lovely performance, but it’s a performance, nonetheless. We find our mate for life, move in together and at this point the partners reveal their more ordinary aspects.\"\r\n\r\n\"It can feel brutal when our beloved takes their eyes off us more as it made us feel so secure and special. It can feel disastrous when the frequent sex diminishes, and we are left wanting.\"\r\n\r\n\"Many partners are devastated that their partner doesn’t parent the children the way they expect – saying, \'I thought he would be such a great dad.\' I often ask – why? As none of us know how to really be a parent until we have a child.\"\r\n\r\n\"Some partners cannot comprehend how their partner didn’t become more serious about their career and has a lower earning capacity than they expected. Some can’t deal with their partner not being \'the rock\' they need in difficult times.\"\r\n<h3>3. That we own our partner</h3>\r\nYeah, this one is a bit yucky. But it\'s actually super common and you probably don\'t even realise you\'re doing it.\r\n\r\n\"The word \'my\' implies ownership. We use the word \'my\' to refer to my husband, wife, or partner. We may allow ourselves to treat them in ways we deem acceptable because they are \'ours\',\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"We overlay our relationship rules and expectations and expect them to comply so that we feel safe in the relationship. We can also control and manipulate them to do this.\"\r\n\r\nAccording to Abrahams, being committed should not equate to ownership. Remember, they\'re their own person.\r\n\r\n\"We are both separate and unique beings whose worlds collided some time ago, and we decided to remain together. The more we recognise each other’s separateness, the healthier our relationship will be.\"\r\n<h3>4. That we can change our partner</h3>\r\nMaybe it\'s the fact your partner still can\'t get along with your friends and family. Perhaps it\'s their forgetfulness of important details and dates. Or the fact they\'re not as career driven as you once thought.\r\n\r\nBut if you\'re forever trying to change your partner, their personalities traits and the qualities that make them who they are - you\'re going to have a bad time. Because needing to control your partner\'s actions and thoughts is... not healthy.\r\n\r\nOften, this can be linked to our ego, which can cause us to project inadequacy onto our partner, and see their faults and limitations.\r\n\r\n\"If you think you can change your partner – save your breath and change yourself. Ask yourself – why do they need to change? How can I get some of my needs met in a different way? Are they really needs or are they expectations based on how I was shaped by external forces across life?\"\r\n\r\n\"We should anticipate that both of us will change over time and that we’ll be confronted with disappointment and even feelings of betrayal. This is because we have over-invested in our partner being our everything.\"\r\n\r\nThe answer? I know we\'re starting to sound like a broken record, but it\'s all about keeping your boundaries and sense of individuality.\r\n\r\nLearn to lean on others in the different communities you belong to for different reasons - whether it be your friends, family or your work colleagues. Because your partner isn\'t the answer to all of life\'s problems - you have other people in your life for a good reason!\r\n\r\n\"I recommend we take some pressure off relationships so they can be less fantasy-filled and more reality-based. Your friends can be your confidante, your work colleagues can be fun and enlivening, your sex life will alter across time - and it’s not always doom and gloom if it does.\"\r\n\r\nAbrahams said relationships prosper when both people maintain a level of independence within their own lives.\r\n\r\n\"Both of you will change over time as life changes all of us. Expectations need adjusting to life\'s changes and the reality of who our partner is, not who we want them to be.\"\r\n\r\nNow, read that last line again.\r\n\r\n<em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\">what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</a></strong>.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully. Her latest book is \'Relationship Reset\', due for release on 26th July.\r\n<strong><a href=\"https://www.panmacmillan.com.au/9781760989781/relationship-reset/\">UPDATE: OUT NOW</a></strong></em>','\"It’s just too much pressure\": 4 relationship \'expectations\' you need to ditch immediately',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','publish','closed','closed','','4-relationship-expectations-you-need-to-ditch-immediately','','','2022-10-17 02:16:39','2022-10-17 02:16:39','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?post_type=case-study&#038;p=5043',0,'case-study','',0),(5044,3,'2022-08-26 07:19:51','2022-08-26 07:19:51','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>Mamam!a</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Mamamia\r\n<h2>\"No, we can\'t be friends\": 12 Things Your Therapist Wants You To Know</h2>\r\n3 June 2022\r\n\r\nEver wondered what your therapist is really thinking? Oh, phew! So it\'s not just us.\r\n\r\nIt\'s a funny old thing, therapy. Not funny, funny - but you know we mean. Because more often than not, you don\'t really know what to expect if you\'ve never been before, right?\r\n\r\nWill it be like the movies? Will they show you those pictures of dark splotches and ask you what you see? Will they go home have a big gossip with their partner about all your secrets?? Omg, WILL THEY?\r\n\r\nThe good news: Chances are, your therapist is nothing like what you\'ll see in movies and TV shows. Really!\r\n\r\nIn fact, they\'re probably more like you than you might think.\r\n\r\nWatch: These signs will help you know if you should see a psychologist.\r\n\r\nAnd here\'s the thing - while it\'s always good to be able to seek out help from those around you, like your family and friends, sometimes you just need to chat with someone from outside of your circle. Someone who is like a blank sheet of paper.\r\n\r\nBelow, we asked psychotherapist Lissy Abrahams to tell us everything she wants you to know about therapy..\r\n\r\nTake a seat.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>1. We understand that you may feel daunted or frightened about starting therapy</h3>\r\nSharing really intimate details about your life, your relationships and some of your deepest secrets to a complete stranger can feel super scary and daunting. Therapists get it.\r\n\r\n\"Most people come to therapy because they need it. This doesn’t mean that they want to go. And I can tell you, no one starts therapy for fun – even though in my consulting room we have some fun,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"Good therapists understand that it can take time for some clients to feel safe in the space and that’s absolutely fine. You will feel safe when you feel safe and feel free to talk about this with your therapist.\"\r\n<h3>2. There\'s no experience needed</h3>\r\nGoing to your first therapy session and nervous that you won\'t know what you need to... do or say? Don\'t worry - Abrahams said this is a really common feeling.\r\n\r\n\"Some people worry that they don’t know what to do in therapy and they may not be “getting it right” as a client. Let me tell you now - there is no \'getting it right\'.\"\r\n\r\n\"All you need to do is bring yourself in - just as you are, no experience needed.\"\r\n<h3>3. We’ve seen it all</h3>\r\nSpoiler! While you might think you just have too much stuff, chances are your therapist has seen it all before. Your past behaviours, relationship struggles, life concerns - the whole shebang. Ten times over.\r\n\r\n\"So many people come to therapy worried that their therapist won’t be able to handle them – that they’ll be too much,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"Even though every client is unique and brings a different flavour to the therapy, an experienced therapist generally won’t be fazed by what you’re presenting with to have treated.\"\r\n\r\n\"This doesn’t mean we don’t care or that we’re going through the motions – we’re not. It’s that you’re unlikely to be shocking to us in any way.\"\r\n\r\nSo, know that you\'re not \'too difficult\' to work with. The right therapist is out there for you.\r\n<h3>4. We understand fight-or-flight reactions</h3>\r\nHeard of a fight-or-flight response? It\'s basically a knee-jerk reaction to a past experience or event that you might perceive as stressful or frightening. Your pulse might start racing. Your breathing gets quicker. You feel tense. Uncomfortable.\r\n\r\nIt\'s kind of like a psychological defence mechanism.\r\n\r\n\"We understand that you can have reactions to people and situations that trigger your fight-or-flight responses. Sometimes you may react as if you are being chased by a hungry bear,\" explains Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"Your body has a cascading reaction where your adrenaline and cortisol levels surge, and your heart rate and blood pressure increase.\"\r\n\r\nWhile it can be scary, it\'s important to know that this is totally normal, and an experienced therapist will help you navigate the situation.\r\n\r\n\"Good therapists understand that in this mode, you may say or do things that may seem extreme. We help you understand these.\"\r\n<h3>5. Your history matters</h3>\r\nOne of the most important things therapists want patients to understand is just how crucial it is to explore past and present experiences - even if you might not feel like it\'s relevant to why you\'re seeking help.\r\n\r\n\"Any good therapist understands that your history shapes everything about you. This includes the stories you tell yourself, your beliefs, values, expectations, how you relate to yourself and others, what makes you upset, fearful, or angry, and so much more.\"\r\n\r\n\"Therapists understand that you’ve been consciously and unconsciously programmed from forces outside of your control – we all have. They’ll work with you to understand how your programming is alive and kicking inside of you today and how your ego operates accordingly.\"\r\n\r\nSometimes this can be incredibly tough and uncomfortable for people, especially when you\'ve experienced hurt in the past. So, be patient with yourself.\r\n\r\n\"Many of our clients have experienced childhood trauma and we help them understand how this impacts the way they function in their day-to-day lives.\"\r\n<h3>6. Most parents do their best</h3>\r\nFact: Blaming your parents for everything is not the goal here. Abrahams said it\'s about helping clients realise the reality that their parents may have done the best they can, and at the same time may have hurt you in ways you now struggle with.\r\n\r\n\"Most therapists understand that parents do their best. This doesn’t mean they always supported, cared or kept you safe. But most parents do their best, even though they have limitations and shortcomings. Therapy is not about blaming parents.\"\r\n\r\n\"Most parents are just operating from the program they received from their conscious and unconscious experiences. It’s important to understand how the limitations affected you and shaped you, yet to also understand most parents don’t try to hurt their children. They’re often preoccupied, stressed, and exhausted.\"\r\n\r\nThe goal is to try to navigate the life you\'ve been given - because at the end of the day, you\'re the only one who can change it.\r\n<h3>7. We\'re non-judgemental</h3>\r\nAbrahams said any good therapist will never judge their client - even when you feel like they\'re doing more listening than talking.\r\n\r\nIf you ever do feel judged by your therapist, she said this is something you should bring up with them - it might seem really uncomfortable at first, but it\'s extremely important you voice your feelings.\r\n\r\n\"Good therapists are non-judgemental therapists. How is a judgemental therapist helpful? Actually, they’re harmful. If your therapist is, call them out on it or find someone else who isn’t judgemental,\" she said.\r\n\r\n\"Our position is to help you understand how you operate and we do this alongside you – not towering above you on a pedestal.\"\r\n<h3>8. Your therapist is a mere mortal, too</h3>\r\nYep, therapists are real people. And they\'re not perfect, either.\r\n\r\n\"Clients often feel they need to see their therapist as angelic – those who are only good and perfect. Whenever I sense my clients are placing me in the ‘perfect’ bracket, I quickly let them know that there are no halos in my consulting room – not on their heads and certainly not on mine.\"\r\n\r\n\"I’m not perfect and nor is any therapist. We struggle like you do in life. We feel pain, sadness, anger and more. We have our battle scars and life experiences. We’re all mere mortals, and sometimes we handle life’s tribulations well, and sometimes we can stuff up royally.\"\r\n<h3>9. Distress tolerance is everything</h3>\r\nAccording to Abrahams, many clients come to see therapists because they have distress intolerance. This means they haven’t learnt how to tolerate upsetting emotions and sit with them.\r\n\r\n\"They didn’t learn this as a child through their parent-child relationship. This means that they suffer because they don’t understand that this unpleasant feeling inside them will pass.\"\r\n\r\n\"It feels catastrophic, and that’s where they look to the external world to make themselves feel better. This includes shopping, eating, restricting food, gambling, promiscuous sex, turning to drugs/alcohol, talking excessively with friends or creating drama.\"\r\n\r\nAbrahams goes on to explain that these actions in the outside world never resolve what’s going on inside - they\'re mere distractions that numb, but don’t address, what the unpleasant experience was.\r\n\r\n\"A good therapist will help you understand this and teach you other ways to tolerate the sensations inside you, such as breathing techniques and mindfulness.\"\r\n<h3>10. You leave a mark on our lives, too</h3>\r\nAny good therapist will truly want the best for you - and their investment in you often goes outside of the time you spend together. So, don\'t think that you\'re just another number.\r\n\r\n\"Even though you’re the one who is going through a transformative experience with the therapist, you leave a mark on them, too,\" said Abrahams. \"Our relationships are meaningful and real, and we care deeply about our clients’ wellbeing.\"\r\n\r\n\"I genuinely love my clients and my heart can bleed for them when they suffer and my heart can expand with joy at their development and other wonderful moments.\"\r\n<h3>11. No, we can’t be friends</h3>\r\nWhile it\'s common to develop a close relationship with your therapist, Abrahams said it\'s important to understand that you can\'t be friends with your therapist.\r\n\r\nAwks, we know. But it\'s for the best.\r\n\r\n\"There are many clients who would like to be friends with their therapist. This shows that a great connection has been made. However, it’s important though to keep the relationship in the therapy-client space so that clients can always return for top-up sessions.\"\r\n\r\nBeing friends with your therapist can create what\'s known as a \'conflicting dual relationship\', which is when people are in two very different relationships at the same time - and this presents a number of different challenges.\r\n\r\nSo, yeah - it\'s both good and bad news. Don\'t ask your therapist around for dinner, friend.\r\n\r\n\"Your therapist holds your history in a particular way that no-one else does – besides you. It’s a special thing you share. You can make more friends of many different varieties, but having someone hold all of that knowledge of you and your work together is valuable and worthy of protection.\"\r\n\r\n\"I had a client return for sessions yesterday after not seeing him for seven years. Whilst I don’t remember every detail of our time together, I certainly remember him and his essence. We were both able to pick back up and get back into the work together.\"\r\n<h3>12. We have a privileged role</h3>\r\nAbrahams said, \"Being a therapist is such privileged work, and most therapists take their role and responsibilities seriously.\"\r\n\r\n\"We know how transformative the experience of therapy can be and how profoundly it alters lives.\"\r\n\r\n<em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\">what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</a></strong>.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health expert panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy studied psychology in Sydney and then completed her Masters in couples psychotherapy at the internationally renowned Tavistock Relationships. Here, she worked therapeutically with couples, as well as lectured and tutored trainee counsellors.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy believes we all have the capacity to improve our lives and relationships with the right knowledge and practical strategies. Her mission is to help as many people as possible transform their lives by creating happier and more loving relationships.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Feature image: Getty</em>','\"It’s just too much pressure\": 4 relationship \'expectations\' you need to ditch immediately',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5043-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:19:51','2022-08-26 07:19:51','',5043,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5044',0,'revision','',0),(5045,3,'2022-08-26 07:26:08','2022-08-26 07:26:08','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>Mamam!a</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Mamamia\r\n<h2>\"No, we can\'t be friends\": 12 Things Your Therapist Wants You To Know</h2>\r\n3 June 2022\r\n\r\nEver wondered what your therapist is really thinking? Oh, phew! So it\'s not just us.\r\n\r\nIt\'s a funny old thing, therapy. Not funny, funny - but you know we mean. Because more often than not, you don\'t really know what to expect if you\'ve never been before, right?\r\n\r\nWill it be like the movies? Will they show you those pictures of dark splotches and ask you what you see? Will they go home have a big gossip with their partner about all your secrets?? Omg, WILL THEY?\r\n\r\nThe good news: Chances are, your therapist is nothing like what you\'ll see in movies and TV shows. Really!\r\n\r\nIn fact, they\'re probably more like you than you might think.\r\n\r\nWatch: These signs will help you know if you should see a psychologist.\r\n\r\nAnd here\'s the thing - while it\'s always good to be able to seek out help from those around you, like your family and friends, sometimes you just need to chat with someone from outside of your circle. Someone who is like a blank sheet of paper.\r\n\r\nBelow, we asked psychotherapist Lissy Abrahams to tell us everything she wants you to know about therapy..\r\n\r\nTake a seat.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>1. We understand that you may feel daunted or frightened about starting therapy</h3>\r\nSharing really intimate details about your life, your relationships and some of your deepest secrets to a complete stranger can feel super scary and daunting. Therapists get it.\r\n\r\n\"Most people come to therapy because they need it. This doesn’t mean that they want to go. And I can tell you, no one starts therapy for fun – even though in my consulting room we have some fun,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"Good therapists understand that it can take time for some clients to feel safe in the space and that’s absolutely fine. You will feel safe when you feel safe and feel free to talk about this with your therapist.\"\r\n<h3>2. There\'s no experience needed</h3>\r\nGoing to your first therapy session and nervous that you won\'t know what you need to... do or say? Don\'t worry - Abrahams said this is a really common feeling.\r\n\r\n\"Some people worry that they don’t know what to do in therapy and they may not be “getting it right” as a client. Let me tell you now - there is no \'getting it right\'.\"\r\n\r\n\"All you need to do is bring yourself in - just as you are, no experience needed.\"\r\n<h3>3. We’ve seen it all</h3>\r\nSpoiler! While you might think you just have too much stuff, chances are your therapist has seen it all before. Your past behaviours, relationship struggles, life concerns - the whole shebang. Ten times over.\r\n\r\n\"So many people come to therapy worried that their therapist won’t be able to handle them – that they’ll be too much,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"Even though every client is unique and brings a different flavour to the therapy, an experienced therapist generally won’t be fazed by what you’re presenting with to have treated.\"\r\n\r\n\"This doesn’t mean we don’t care or that we’re going through the motions – we’re not. It’s that you’re unlikely to be shocking to us in any way.\"\r\n\r\nSo, know that you\'re not \'too difficult\' to work with. The right therapist is out there for you.\r\n<h3>4. We understand fight-or-flight reactions</h3>\r\nHeard of a fight-or-flight response? It\'s basically a knee-jerk reaction to a past experience or event that you might perceive as stressful or frightening. Your pulse might start racing. Your breathing gets quicker. You feel tense. Uncomfortable.\r\n\r\nIt\'s kind of like a psychological defence mechanism.\r\n\r\n\"We understand that you can have reactions to people and situations that trigger your fight-or-flight responses. Sometimes you may react as if you are being chased by a hungry bear,\" explains Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"Your body has a cascading reaction where your adrenaline and cortisol levels surge, and your heart rate and blood pressure increase.\"\r\n\r\nWhile it can be scary, it\'s important to know that this is totally normal, and an experienced therapist will help you navigate the situation.\r\n\r\n\"Good therapists understand that in this mode, you may say or do things that may seem extreme. We help you understand these.\"\r\n<h3>5. Your history matters</h3>\r\nOne of the most important things therapists want patients to understand is just how crucial it is to explore past and present experiences - even if you might not feel like it\'s relevant to why you\'re seeking help.\r\n\r\n\"Any good therapist understands that your history shapes everything about you. This includes the stories you tell yourself, your beliefs, values, expectations, how you relate to yourself and others, what makes you upset, fearful, or angry, and so much more.\"\r\n\r\n\"Therapists understand that you’ve been consciously and unconsciously programmed from forces outside of your control – we all have. They’ll work with you to understand how your programming is alive and kicking inside of you today and how your ego operates accordingly.\"\r\n\r\nSometimes this can be incredibly tough and uncomfortable for people, especially when you\'ve experienced hurt in the past. So, be patient with yourself.\r\n\r\n\"Many of our clients have experienced childhood trauma and we help them understand how this impacts the way they function in their day-to-day lives.\"\r\n<h3>6. Most parents do their best</h3>\r\nFact: Blaming your parents for everything is not the goal here. Abrahams said it\'s about helping clients realise the reality that their parents may have done the best they can, and at the same time may have hurt you in ways you now struggle with.\r\n\r\n\"Most therapists understand that parents do their best. This doesn’t mean they always supported, cared or kept you safe. But most parents do their best, even though they have limitations and shortcomings. Therapy is not about blaming parents.\"\r\n\r\n\"Most parents are just operating from the program they received from their conscious and unconscious experiences. It’s important to understand how the limitations affected you and shaped you, yet to also understand most parents don’t try to hurt their children. They’re often preoccupied, stressed, and exhausted.\"\r\n\r\nThe goal is to try to navigate the life you\'ve been given - because at the end of the day, you\'re the only one who can change it.\r\n<h3>7. We\'re non-judgemental</h3>\r\nAbrahams said any good therapist will never judge their client - even when you feel like they\'re doing more listening than talking.\r\n\r\nIf you ever do feel judged by your therapist, she said this is something you should bring up with them - it might seem really uncomfortable at first, but it\'s extremely important you voice your feelings.\r\n\r\n\"Good therapists are non-judgemental therapists. How is a judgemental therapist helpful? Actually, they’re harmful. If your therapist is, call them out on it or find someone else who isn’t judgemental,\" she said.\r\n\r\n\"Our position is to help you understand how you operate and we do this alongside you – not towering above you on a pedestal.\"\r\n<h3>8. Your therapist is a mere mortal, too</h3>\r\nYep, therapists are real people. And they\'re not perfect, either.\r\n\r\n\"Clients often feel they need to see their therapist as angelic – those who are only good and perfect. Whenever I sense my clients are placing me in the ‘perfect’ bracket, I quickly let them know that there are no halos in my consulting room – not on their heads and certainly not on mine.\"\r\n\r\n\"I’m not perfect and nor is any therapist. We struggle like you do in life. We feel pain, sadness, anger and more. We have our battle scars and life experiences. We’re all mere mortals, and sometimes we handle life’s tribulations well, and sometimes we can stuff up royally.\"\r\n<h3>9. Distress tolerance is everything</h3>\r\nAccording to Abrahams, many clients come to see therapists because they have distress intolerance. This means they haven’t learnt how to tolerate upsetting emotions and sit with them.\r\n\r\n\"They didn’t learn this as a child through their parent-child relationship. This means that they suffer because they don’t understand that this unpleasant feeling inside them will pass.\"\r\n\r\n\"It feels catastrophic, and that’s where they look to the external world to make themselves feel better. This includes shopping, eating, restricting food, gambling, promiscuous sex, turning to drugs/alcohol, talking excessively with friends or creating drama.\"\r\n\r\nAbrahams goes on to explain that these actions in the outside world never resolve what’s going on inside - they\'re mere distractions that numb, but don’t address, what the unpleasant experience was.\r\n\r\n\"A good therapist will help you understand this and teach you other ways to tolerate the sensations inside you, such as breathing techniques and mindfulness.\"\r\n<h3>10. You leave a mark on our lives, too</h3>\r\nAny good therapist will truly want the best for you - and their investment in you often goes outside of the time you spend together. So, don\'t think that you\'re just another number.\r\n\r\n\"Even though you’re the one who is going through a transformative experience with the therapist, you leave a mark on them, too,\" said Abrahams. \"Our relationships are meaningful and real, and we care deeply about our clients’ wellbeing.\"\r\n\r\n\"I genuinely love my clients and my heart can bleed for them when they suffer and my heart can expand with joy at their development and other wonderful moments.\"\r\n<h3>11. No, we can’t be friends</h3>\r\nWhile it\'s common to develop a close relationship with your therapist, Abrahams said it\'s important to understand that you can\'t be friends with your therapist.\r\n\r\nAwks, we know. But it\'s for the best.\r\n\r\n\"There are many clients who would like to be friends with their therapist. This shows that a great connection has been made. However, it’s important though to keep the relationship in the therapy-client space so that clients can always return for top-up sessions.\"\r\n\r\nBeing friends with your therapist can create what\'s known as a \'conflicting dual relationship\', which is when people are in two very different relationships at the same time - and this presents a number of different challenges.\r\n\r\nSo, yeah - it\'s both good and bad news. Don\'t ask your therapist around for dinner, friend.\r\n\r\n\"Your therapist holds your history in a particular way that no-one else does – besides you. It’s a special thing you share. You can make more friends of many different varieties, but having someone hold all of that knowledge of you and your work together is valuable and worthy of protection.\"\r\n\r\n\"I had a client return for sessions yesterday after not seeing him for seven years. Whilst I don’t remember every detail of our time together, I certainly remember him and his essence. We were both able to pick back up and get back into the work together.\"\r\n<h3>12. We have a privileged role</h3>\r\nAbrahams said, \"Being a therapist is such privileged work, and most therapists take their role and responsibilities seriously.\"\r\n\r\n\"We know how transformative the experience of therapy can be and how profoundly it alters lives.\"\r\n\r\n<em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\">what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</a></strong>.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health expert panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy studied psychology in Sydney and then completed her Masters in couples psychotherapy at the internationally renowned Tavistock Relationships. Here, she worked therapeutically with couples, as well as lectured and tutored trainee counsellors.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy believes we all have the capacity to improve our lives and relationships with the right knowledge and practical strategies. Her mission is to help as many people as possible transform their lives by creating happier and more loving relationships.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Feature image: Getty</em>','\"It’s just too much pressure\": 4 relationship \'expectations\' you need to ditch immediately',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5043-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:26:08','2022-08-26 07:26:08','',5043,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5045',0,'revision','',0),(5046,3,'2022-08-26 07:26:08','2022-08-26 07:26:08','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>Mamam!a</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Mamamia\r\n<h2>\"No, we can\'t be friends\": 12 Things Your Therapist Wants You To Know</h2>\r\n3 June 2022\r\n\r\nEver wondered what your therapist is really thinking? Oh, phew! So it\'s not just us.\r\n\r\nIt\'s a funny old thing, therapy. Not funny, funny - but you know we mean. Because more often than not, you don\'t really know what to expect if you\'ve never been before, right?\r\n\r\nWill it be like the movies? Will they show you those pictures of dark splotches and ask you what you see? Will they go home have a big gossip with their partner about all your secrets?? Omg, WILL THEY?\r\n\r\nThe good news: Chances are, your therapist is nothing like what you\'ll see in movies and TV shows. Really!\r\n\r\nIn fact, they\'re probably more like you than you might think.\r\n\r\nWatch: These signs will help you know if you should see a psychologist.\r\n\r\nAnd here\'s the thing - while it\'s always good to be able to seek out help from those around you, like your family and friends, sometimes you just need to chat with someone from outside of your circle. Someone who is like a blank sheet of paper.\r\n\r\nBelow, we asked psychotherapist Lissy Abrahams to tell us everything she wants you to know about therapy..\r\n\r\nTake a seat.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>1. We understand that you may feel daunted or frightened about starting therapy</h3>\r\nSharing really intimate details about your life, your relationships and some of your deepest secrets to a complete stranger can feel super scary and daunting. Therapists get it.\r\n\r\n\"Most people come to therapy because they need it. This doesn’t mean that they want to go. And I can tell you, no one starts therapy for fun – even though in my consulting room we have some fun,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"Good therapists understand that it can take time for some clients to feel safe in the space and that’s absolutely fine. You will feel safe when you feel safe and feel free to talk about this with your therapist.\"\r\n<h3>2. There\'s no experience needed</h3>\r\nGoing to your first therapy session and nervous that you won\'t know what you need to... do or say? Don\'t worry - Abrahams said this is a really common feeling.\r\n\r\n\"Some people worry that they don’t know what to do in therapy and they may not be “getting it right” as a client. Let me tell you now - there is no \'getting it right\'.\"\r\n\r\n\"All you need to do is bring yourself in - just as you are, no experience needed.\"\r\n<h3>3. We’ve seen it all</h3>\r\nSpoiler! While you might think you just have too much stuff, chances are your therapist has seen it all before. Your past behaviours, relationship struggles, life concerns - the whole shebang. Ten times over.\r\n\r\n\"So many people come to therapy worried that their therapist won’t be able to handle them – that they’ll be too much,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"Even though every client is unique and brings a different flavour to the therapy, an experienced therapist generally won’t be fazed by what you’re presenting with to have treated.\"\r\n\r\n\"This doesn’t mean we don’t care or that we’re going through the motions – we’re not. It’s that you’re unlikely to be shocking to us in any way.\"\r\n\r\nSo, know that you\'re not \'too difficult\' to work with. The right therapist is out there for you.\r\n<h3>4. We understand fight-or-flight reactions</h3>\r\nHeard of a fight-or-flight response? It\'s basically a knee-jerk reaction to a past experience or event that you might perceive as stressful or frightening. Your pulse might start racing. Your breathing gets quicker. You feel tense. Uncomfortable.\r\n\r\nIt\'s kind of like a psychological defence mechanism.\r\n\r\n\"We understand that you can have reactions to people and situations that trigger your fight-or-flight responses. Sometimes you may react as if you are being chased by a hungry bear,\" explains Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"Your body has a cascading reaction where your adrenaline and cortisol levels surge, and your heart rate and blood pressure increase.\"\r\n\r\nWhile it can be scary, it\'s important to know that this is totally normal, and an experienced therapist will help you navigate the situation.\r\n\r\n\"Good therapists understand that in this mode, you may say or do things that may seem extreme. We help you understand these.\"\r\n<h3>5. Your history matters</h3>\r\nOne of the most important things therapists want patients to understand is just how crucial it is to explore past and present experiences - even if you might not feel like it\'s relevant to why you\'re seeking help.\r\n\r\n\"Any good therapist understands that your history shapes everything about you. This includes the stories you tell yourself, your beliefs, values, expectations, how you relate to yourself and others, what makes you upset, fearful, or angry, and so much more.\"\r\n\r\n\"Therapists understand that you’ve been consciously and unconsciously programmed from forces outside of your control – we all have. They’ll work with you to understand how your programming is alive and kicking inside of you today and how your ego operates accordingly.\"\r\n\r\nSometimes this can be incredibly tough and uncomfortable for people, especially when you\'ve experienced hurt in the past. So, be patient with yourself.\r\n\r\n\"Many of our clients have experienced childhood trauma and we help them understand how this impacts the way they function in their day-to-day lives.\"\r\n<h3>6. Most parents do their best</h3>\r\nFact: Blaming your parents for everything is not the goal here. Abrahams said it\'s about helping clients realise the reality that their parents may have done the best they can, and at the same time may have hurt you in ways you now struggle with.\r\n\r\n\"Most therapists understand that parents do their best. This doesn’t mean they always supported, cared or kept you safe. But most parents do their best, even though they have limitations and shortcomings. Therapy is not about blaming parents.\"\r\n\r\n\"Most parents are just operating from the program they received from their conscious and unconscious experiences. It’s important to understand how the limitations affected you and shaped you, yet to also understand most parents don’t try to hurt their children. They’re often preoccupied, stressed, and exhausted.\"\r\n\r\nThe goal is to try to navigate the life you\'ve been given - because at the end of the day, you\'re the only one who can change it.\r\n<h3>7. We\'re non-judgemental</h3>\r\nAbrahams said any good therapist will never judge their client - even when you feel like they\'re doing more listening than talking.\r\n\r\nIf you ever do feel judged by your therapist, she said this is something you should bring up with them - it might seem really uncomfortable at first, but it\'s extremely important you voice your feelings.\r\n\r\n\"Good therapists are non-judgemental therapists. How is a judgemental therapist helpful? Actually, they’re harmful. If your therapist is, call them out on it or find someone else who isn’t judgemental,\" she said.\r\n\r\n\"Our position is to help you understand how you operate and we do this alongside you – not towering above you on a pedestal.\"\r\n<h3>8. Your therapist is a mere mortal, too</h3>\r\nYep, therapists are real people. And they\'re not perfect, either.\r\n\r\n\"Clients often feel they need to see their therapist as angelic – those who are only good and perfect. Whenever I sense my clients are placing me in the ‘perfect’ bracket, I quickly let them know that there are no halos in my consulting room – not on their heads and certainly not on mine.\"\r\n\r\n\"I’m not perfect and nor is any therapist. We struggle like you do in life. We feel pain, sadness, anger and more. We have our battle scars and life experiences. We’re all mere mortals, and sometimes we handle life’s tribulations well, and sometimes we can stuff up royally.\"\r\n<h3>9. Distress tolerance is everything</h3>\r\nAccording to Abrahams, many clients come to see therapists because they have distress intolerance. This means they haven’t learnt how to tolerate upsetting emotions and sit with them.\r\n\r\n\"They didn’t learn this as a child through their parent-child relationship. This means that they suffer because they don’t understand that this unpleasant feeling inside them will pass.\"\r\n\r\n\"It feels catastrophic, and that’s where they look to the external world to make themselves feel better. This includes shopping, eating, restricting food, gambling, promiscuous sex, turning to drugs/alcohol, talking excessively with friends or creating drama.\"\r\n\r\nAbrahams goes on to explain that these actions in the outside world never resolve what’s going on inside - they\'re mere distractions that numb, but don’t address, what the unpleasant experience was.\r\n\r\n\"A good therapist will help you understand this and teach you other ways to tolerate the sensations inside you, such as breathing techniques and mindfulness.\"\r\n<h3>10. You leave a mark on our lives, too</h3>\r\nAny good therapist will truly want the best for you - and their investment in you often goes outside of the time you spend together. So, don\'t think that you\'re just another number.\r\n\r\n\"Even though you’re the one who is going through a transformative experience with the therapist, you leave a mark on them, too,\" said Abrahams. \"Our relationships are meaningful and real, and we care deeply about our clients’ wellbeing.\"\r\n\r\n\"I genuinely love my clients and my heart can bleed for them when they suffer and my heart can expand with joy at their development and other wonderful moments.\"\r\n<h3>11. No, we can’t be friends</h3>\r\nWhile it\'s common to develop a close relationship with your therapist, Abrahams said it\'s important to understand that you can\'t be friends with your therapist.\r\n\r\nAwks, we know. But it\'s for the best.\r\n\r\n\"There are many clients who would like to be friends with their therapist. This shows that a great connection has been made. However, it’s important though to keep the relationship in the therapy-client space so that clients can always return for top-up sessions.\"\r\n\r\nBeing friends with your therapist can create what\'s known as a \'conflicting dual relationship\', which is when people are in two very different relationships at the same time - and this presents a number of different challenges.\r\n\r\nSo, yeah - it\'s both good and bad news. Don\'t ask your therapist around for dinner, friend.\r\n\r\n\"Your therapist holds your history in a particular way that no-one else does – besides you. It’s a special thing you share. You can make more friends of many different varieties, but having someone hold all of that knowledge of you and your work together is valuable and worthy of protection.\"\r\n\r\n\"I had a client return for sessions yesterday after not seeing him for seven years. Whilst I don’t remember every detail of our time together, I certainly remember him and his essence. We were both able to pick back up and get back into the work together.\"\r\n<h3>12. We have a privileged role</h3>\r\nAbrahams said, \"Being a therapist is such privileged work, and most therapists take their role and responsibilities seriously.\"\r\n\r\n\"We know how transformative the experience of therapy can be and how profoundly it alters lives.\"\r\n\r\n<em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\">what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</a></strong>.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health expert panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy studied psychology in Sydney and then completed her Masters in couples psychotherapy at the internationally renowned Tavistock Relationships. Here, she worked therapeutically with couples, as well as lectured and tutored trainee counsellors.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy believes we all have the capacity to improve our lives and relationships with the right knowledge and practical strategies. Her mission is to help as many people as possible transform their lives by creating happier and more loving relationships.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Feature image: Getty</em>','\"It’s just too much pressure\": 4 relationship \'expectations\' you need to ditch immediately',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5043-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:26:08','2022-08-26 07:26:08','',5043,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5046',0,'revision','',0),(5047,3,'2022-08-26 07:26:09','2022-08-26 07:26:09','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Mamam!a            \n        </h1>\n            Article - source: Mamamia        \n            <h2>\n                \"It’s just too much pressure\": 4 relationship \'expectations\' you need to ditch immediately            \n        </h2>\n            17 July 2022        \n		<p>When it comes to thinking about what kind of partner you want in your life, it\'s common to have a few non-negotiables on the list.</p><p>Whether it\'s thinking there should always be a romantic \'spark\', avoiding conflict or expecting a certain amount of sex - everyone has a different set of deal breakers when they\'re dating.</p><p>Watch: Here are some of the biggest relationship red flags you need to look out for.</p><p>But while everyone\'s expectations of a healthy relationship might be a little different, and it\'s normal for yours to be different from your partner\'s, how do we know if we’re asking too much from the person we\'re dating? </p><p>In fact, how do we develop all of these expectations in the first place?</p><p>Well, apparently it\'s ingrained in us throughout our childhood.</p><p>Couples counsellor Lissy Abrahams said that when we\'re children, we form our own unique \"relational template\", and later this can alter across adulthood due to other couple relationships. </p><p>\"These were shaped by our parents, extended family, our culture, religion, film and television, teachers, friends and not friends, governments, celebrities, and more. We didn’t form expectations from nowhere,\" she said.</p><p>\"They’ve been shaped inside us, and we often take them to be a fact – that is, how partners should and shouldn’t behave and feel in a couple relationship. So many of the expectations are formed around safety. Divorce has meant that we now fear losing our partner more than at any other time in history.\"</p><p>And while some of these expectations might be helpful to the health of your relationship, forever focusing on the \'dos\' and \'don\'ts\' and where your relationship \'should\' be going and where it \'shouldn\'t\', might be a hindrance. </p><p>And when you\'re happy in love, it can be pretty hard to miss these signs.</p><p>So, that\'s why we\'ve brought in our expert.</p><p>Here, Abrahams tells us some of the biggest unrealistic relationship expectations we need to ditch, immediately. </p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>1. That your partner needs to be your everything</h3>		\n		<p>According to our expert, this one is a fairly new belief. And it\'s actually more damaging than you might think. </p><p>\"It’s only in the more recent decades that we have this notion,\" said Abrahams.</p><p>\"We expect a soulmate, a lover, a confidante, a therapist, [someone with whom to] raise children and be a great parent to our children,\" said Abrahams. </p><p>\"That they are amazingly attentive to us, work hard, manage a household, buy us lovely presents on special occasions, navigate the gap in our love languages, make us happy, financially have our back, help us buy a home, are great with our family and friends and so much more.\"</p><p>Anyone else exhausted just reading that?!</p><p>But apparently, according to Abrahams, these are the sort of things we have ended up expecting from our partner over the decades, and we can often feel a sense of betrayal or distress when they fall short.</p><p>These days, our expectations of what makes a relationship \'healthy\' and how things should be is quite different to what they were years ago. And they can actually sabotage our connection with someone before they make them better.</p><p>\"Partnerships of the past were often defined by a marriage, yet the expectations were nothing like they are today. They were both a property and a reproduction arrangement. Love was not part of the pact,\" explains Abrahams. </p><p>\"Friendship wasn\'t even necessary. If they experienced love or friendship, it was a bonus, yet never a prerequisite. Partners had their respective gender roles and love was often sought out elsewhere and didn’t typically destabilise the unit.\"</p><p>Obviously times have changed, but with it we\'ve developed high and often unreasonable expectations in order to form what we think is a well-rounded partnership. </p><p>\"Expectations grew over time as people moved to cities, away from family. We were no longer having a village meet our needs and now turned to our spouse to meet these. Then women became more educated, joined the workforce and became more independent.\"</p><p>\"Women were also able to control their bodies and pregnancies through pharmaceuticals. Sex could be enjoyed more without the fear of falling pregnant. There was then a freedom to choose one\'s partner, and this is where fantasies of \'the one\' became unrealistic.\"</p><p>And just to be clear, it\'s the same for men - their expectations have increased, too. </p><p>Abrahams said, \"We took \'the one\' too literally, as if it meant \'only one\', and we over-relied on this one mere mortal to be our one and only – our \'everything\'.\"</p>		\n			<h3>2. That your partner can be your everything</h3>		\n		<p>Question for you: How much do you depend on your partner?</p><p>\"For many partners, the fairytale beginning often turns into a nightmare due to the weight of the expectations that are based on fantasy, not reality. It’s simply not possible for one person to be our everything.\"</p><p>\"It\'s just too much pressure on one person. I have seen relationships go through horrendous times because the fantasy partner created at the beginning of a relationship isn’t sustainable.\"</p><p>Think back to the beginning of your relationship, and how different things were. There was that \'specialness fantasy\', where everything felt really new and exciting. </p><p>The butterflies-in-the-stomach, the crazy sex, the flirty comments, the interesting discussions that would last for ages...</p><p>\"At the beginning of a relationship, both partners often create a fantasy partner to show we are better than any other potential mates out there. It’s all a bit of a performance. It’s a lovely performance, but it’s a performance, nonetheless. We find our mate for life, move in together and at this point the partners reveal their more ordinary aspects.\"</p><p>\"It can feel brutal when our beloved takes their eyes off us more as it made us feel so secure and special. It can feel disastrous when the frequent sex diminishes, and we are left wanting.\"</p><p>\"Many partners are devastated that their partner doesn’t parent the children the way they expect – saying, \'I thought he would be such a great dad.\' I often ask – why? As none of us know how to really be a parent until we have a child.\"</p><p>\"Some partners cannot comprehend how their partner didn’t become more serious about their career and has a lower earning capacity than they expected. Some can’t deal with their partner not being \'the rock\' they need in difficult times.\"</p>		\n			<h3>3. That we own our partner</h3>		\n		<p>Yeah, this one is a bit yucky. But it\'s actually super common and you probably don\'t even realise you\'re doing it. </p><p>\"The word \'my\' implies ownership. We use the word \'my\' to refer to my husband, wife, or partner. We may allow ourselves to treat them in ways we deem acceptable because they are \'ours\',\" said Abrahams.</p><p>\"We overlay our relationship rules and expectations and expect them to comply so that we feel safe in the relationship. We can also control and manipulate them to do this.\"</p><p>According to Abrahams, being committed should not equate to ownership. Remember, they\'re their own person.</p><p>\"We are both separate and unique beings whose worlds collided some time ago, and we decided to remain together. The more we recognise each other’s separateness, the healthier our relationship will be.\"</p>		\n			<h3>4. That we can change our partner</h3>		\n		<p>Maybe it\'s the fact your partner still can\'t get along with your friends and family. Perhaps it\'s their forgetfulness of important details and dates. Or the fact they\'re not as career driven as you once thought.</p><p>But if you\'re forever trying to change your partner, their personalities traits and the qualities that make them who they are - you\'re going to have a bad time. Because needing to control your partner\'s actions and thoughts is... not healthy. </p><p>Often, this can be linked to our ego, which can cause us to project inadequacy onto our partner, and see their faults and limitations.</p><p>\"If you think you can change your partner – save your breath and change yourself. Ask yourself – why do they need to change? How can I get some of my needs met in a different way? Are they really needs or are they expectations based on how I was shaped by external forces across life?\"</p><p>\"We should anticipate that both of us will change over time and that we’ll be confronted with disappointment and even feelings of betrayal. This is because we have over-invested in our partner being our everything.\"</p><p>The answer? I know we\'re starting to sound like a broken record, but it\'s all about keeping your boundaries and sense of individuality. </p><p>Learn to lean on others in the different communities you belong to for different reasons - whether it be your friends, family or your work colleagues. Because your partner isn\'t the answer to all of life\'s problems - you have other people in your life for a good reason!</p><p>\"I recommend we take some pressure off relationships so they can be less fantasy-filled and more reality-based. Your friends can be your confidante, your work colleagues can be fun and enlivening, your sex life will alter across time - and it’s not always doom and gloom if it does.\" </p><p>Abrahams said relationships prosper when both people maintain a level of independence within their own lives.</p><p>\"Both of you will change over time as life changes all of us. Expectations need adjusting to life\'s changes and the reality of who our partner is, not who we want them to be.\"</p><p>Now, read that last line again.</p><p><em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\">what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</a></strong>.</em></p><p><em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully. Her latest book is \'Relationship Reset\', due for release on 26th July. <br /><strong><a href=\"https://www.panmacmillan.com.au/9781760989781/relationship-reset/\">UPDATE: OUT NOW</a></strong></em></p>','\"It’s just too much pressure\": 4 relationship \'expectations\' you need to ditch immediately',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5043-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:26:09','2022-08-26 07:26:09','',5043,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5047',0,'revision','',0),(5048,3,'2022-07-01 07:27:18','2022-07-01 07:27:18','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                MamaM!a            \n        </h1>\n            Article - source: Mamamia        \n            <h2>\n                From numbness to avoidance: 5 signs you\'re \'emotionally coasting\' right now            \n        </h2>\n            1 July 2022        \n		<p>In a Better Homes and Gardens interview, Harry Styles said he had the tendency to “emotionally coast” through life - where he described feeling detached, numb and overwhelmed by his feelings and life experiences. </p><p>And, honestly, it might just be the best way to describe the collective emotion of 2022.</p><p>Because while everything is \'back\' (travel! Holidays! Festivals! Weddings!), there\'s also the very real and very obvious feeling of mental exhaustion when it comes to the relentless bad news cycle (see: war, protests, shootings) raging right before our eyes. </p><p>If you\'re anything like us, you might be feeling like it\'s becoming harder and harder to know where to place your energy and care. To actually feel things.</p><p>Enter: \'Emotional coasting\'.</p><p>Watch: Signs that mean you should seek help for your mental health. </p><p>Styles told BHG that therapy allowed him to open up, better connect with his emotions and experiences, and live more authentically.</p><p>He said, \"I think that accepting living, being happy, hurting in the extremes, that is the most alive you can be. Losing it crying, losing it laughing - there\'s no way, I don\'t think, to feel more alive than that.\"</p><p>So, what exactly is emotional coasting and why do we do it? And more importantly, how do we stop?</p><p>Here, we ask an expert in psychology to tell us everything we need to know.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>What is \'emotional coasting\'?</h3>		\n		<p>\"Emotional coasting is a term that encompasses what I call the “bland band”, where consciously and/or unconsciously we strip our lives of the wider emotional spectrum,\" explains psychotherapist Lissy Abrahams.</p><p>\"This means experiences might be felt as \'nice\' or \'a bit tough\' but never really \'incredible\' or \'heartbreaking\'.\"</p><p>The reason behind this? According to Abrahams, it\'s almost like a defence mechanism when we know we\'re not going to be able to process difficult feelings or experiences.</p><p>\"We do this because we haven’t developed a sufficient distress tolerance to sit with feelings outside of the \'bland band\',\" she said.</p><p>\"So, emotional coasting is used to rein in emotional experiences, so we feel safer. If we haven’t learnt how to tolerate more extreme emotions, like joy and excitement or distress and fear, then we typically look for ways to dampen them.\"</p><p>In effect, this helps protect us from being overwhelmed or dealing with certain emotions we\'re not prepared to take on.</p><p>\"The problem is that the way we dampen them is by either clipping our internal state (living in the emotional bland band) or by using something in the external world as a crutch (like drugs or alcohol, spending money, over-eating, or restricting food, or by using ego defence mechanisms like denial or compartmentalisation).\"</p>		\n			<h3>What are some common signs you might be \'emotionally coasting\'?</h3>		\n		<p>Does all this sound a little... familiar? Don\'t worry. You\'re not alone. </p><p>As Abrahams tells us, it\'s something we\'ll all go through at some point in our lives - especially after the past few years.</p><p>\"It’s impossible to feel every feeling to the full extent. Imagine needing to focus on your work following a fight with your partner and not having any tools up your sleeve to do so. We’d end up plagued by every single feeling and achieve nothing for months on end!\"</p><p>If you\'re unable to maintain your usual drive and care for life and all its experiences, Abrahams said there are four important questions you need to ask yourself.</p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- Do I really let myself become excited? What language do I use around this?</p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- Do I move away from people when they are ecstatic or joyous?</p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- When I’m sad, do I minimise or compartmentalise my feelings to move away from the sadness?</p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- When I’m sad, do I look outside of myself for the answer? Is this to numb the pain? Is it to distract from the pain?</p><p>Okay. How many of these did you say \'yes\' to?</p><p>\"As a therapist, I know we can’t just keep stuffing feelings down and, at some point, symptoms will erupt either mentally or physically,\" said Abrahams.</p><p>Meaning? You need to be aware of the key signs and symptoms, so you\'re able to stop it from affecting your life negatively.</p><p>Some common signs of emotional coasting include - </p>		\n			<h4>1. Being busy</h4>		\n		<p>Are you using work as a distraction? \"Whilst being busy can help at times, we need to be careful we are not over-using busyness to bypass feelings,\" said Abrahams. </p>		\n			<h4>2. Sublimation</h4>		\n		<p>See: Avoiding any form of emotional processing by doing absolutely anything else. </p><p>\"This is where we avoid the full emotional experience by attending to pursuits that are deemed worthwhile, such as mowing the lawn, working later, or using the gym,\" said Abrahams.</p>		\n			<h4>3. Compartmentalising</h4>		\n		<p>According to Abrahams, it\'s common for many people to unconsciously avoid the emotional impact by putting it deep down in our emotional vault and pretty much just throwing away the key. \"This helps us feel we are no longer in contact with it - despite the fact it still resides in us,\" she adds.</p>		\n			<h4>4. Minimising</h4>		\n		<p>\"We can downplay our emotions. For example, when we have been unexpectedly broken up with, we may minimise by stating, \'He didn’t mean that much to me anyway\' or \'I’m overthinking this - it’s simple - it’s over\'.\"</p>		\n			<h4>5. Blocking or numbing</h4>		\n		<p>Instead of using coping strategies, many people will turn to other things to replace this feeling, using it as a crutch to avoid acknowledging or processing their feelings.</p><p>This involves \"using any action outside of ourselves to block or numb the pain,\" said Abrahams. \"This could be through drugs or alcohol, self-harm, gambling...\" </p>		\n			<h3>How can you stop yourself from \'emotionally coasting\'?</h3>		\n		<p>Abrahams said, \"It’s critical for all of us who emotionally coast to increase our window of tolerance for emotions outside of the \'bland band\'. Life will throw us curve balls, and always when we least expect it.\"</p><p>Being aware of this behavior and identifying the reasons behind it (that is, what you\'re trying to protect yourself from by numbing your emotions) and how it impacts your life, can help you move forward and better process your emotions and life experiences going forward.</p><p>But just remember - learning to stop \'emotional coasting\' is not a quick fix, and it can take some time in order to avoid getting overwhelmed with emotions.</p><p>According to Abrahams, to prevent emotional coasting, it\'s important to develop three things:</p>		\n			<h4>1. Language awareness</h4>		\n		<p>It seems like a small change, but Abrahams said that becoming aware of whether your language minimises your emotional experiences is more important than you might think. </p><p>\"Do you say the meal is \'satisfying\' when you may mean \'delicious\'? Allow yourself freedom to turn the volume up. Do you say \'a bit disappointing\' when your pet has died or are you allowed to be \'grief-filled\'?\"</p>		\n			<h4>2. Body awareness</h4>		\n		<p>\"Our body often provides the truth about how we are feeling - without the story in our mind,\" said Abrahams.</p><p>Read: Listen to your body.</p><p>\"Focus on your heart - is it beating more rapidly suddenly? Why? Information and sensations arise constantly from our body, and this can reveal that we’re not actually emotionally coasting.\" </p><p>\"For example, our body will reveal if we are fearful, excited, or disappointed - it won’t coast. We can’t trick our body out of its experience, so tune in to enhance the colour of your emotional life.\"</p>		\n			<h4>3. Develop distress tolerance. </h4>		\n		<p>\"It’s critical for our mental and physical health to be able to sit with the highs and lows of life without needing to do something with them. Many of us need to increase our ability to tolerate distress.\"</p><p>Going to therapy and seeking help from a professional is a great way to \"increase your emotional range and truly understanding why you became someone who emotionally coasts in the first place.\"</p><p>\"This, alongside mindfulness techniques, can help you develop a greater ability to tolerate a greater range of emotions that will erupt through life’s curveballs.\"</p><p><em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\"><strong>what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</strong></a>.</em></p><p><em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health expert panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy studied psychology in Sydney and then completed her Masters in couples psychotherapy at the internationally renowned Tavistock Relationships. Here, she worked therapeutically with couples, as well as lectured and tutored trainee counsellors.</em></p><p><em>Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully.</em></p><p><em>Lissy believes we all have the capacity to improve our lives and relationships with the right knowledge and practical strategies. Her mission is to help as many people as possible transform their lives by creating happier and more loving relationships.</em></p><p><em>Feature image: Getty </em></p>','From Numbness to Avoidance: 5 Signs You\'re \'Emotionally Coasting\' Right Now',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','publish','closed','closed','','5-signs-youre-emotionally-coasting-right-now','','','2022-10-17 02:16:45','2022-10-17 02:16:45','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?post_type=case-study&#038;p=5048',0,'case-study','',0),(5049,3,'2022-08-26 07:28:14','2022-08-26 07:28:14','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>Mamam!a</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Mamamia\r\n<h2>\"It’s just too much pressure\": 4 relationship \'expectations\' you need to ditch immediately</h2>\r\n17 July 2022\r\n\r\nWhen it comes to thinking about what kind of partner you want in your life, it\'s common to have a few non-negotiables on the list.\r\n\r\nWhether it\'s thinking there should always be a romantic \'spark\', avoiding conflict or expecting a certain amount of sex - everyone has a different set of deal breakers when they\'re dating.\r\n\r\nWatch: Here are some of the biggest relationship red flags you need to look out for.\r\n\r\nBut while everyone\'s expectations of a healthy relationship might be a little different, and it\'s normal for yours to be different from your partner\'s, how do we know if we’re asking too much from the person we\'re dating?\r\n\r\nIn fact, how do we develop all of these expectations in the first place?\r\n\r\nWell, apparently it\'s ingrained in us throughout our childhood.\r\n\r\nCouples counsellor Lissy Abrahams said that when we\'re children, we form our own unique \"relational template\", and later this can alter across adulthood due to other couple relationships.\r\n\r\n\"These were shaped by our parents, extended family, our culture, religion, film and television, teachers, friends and not friends, governments, celebrities, and more. We didn’t form expectations from nowhere,\" she said.\r\n\r\n\"They’ve been shaped inside us, and we often take them to be a fact – that is, how partners should and shouldn’t behave and feel in a couple relationship. So many of the expectations are formed around safety. Divorce has meant that we now fear losing our partner more than at any other time in history.\"\r\n\r\nAnd while some of these expectations might be helpful to the health of your relationship, forever focusing on the \'dos\' and \'don\'ts\' and where your relationship \'should\' be going and where it \'shouldn\'t\', might be a hindrance.\r\n\r\nAnd when you\'re happy in love, it can be pretty hard to miss these signs.\r\n\r\nSo, that\'s why we\'ve brought in our expert.\r\n\r\nHere, Abrahams tells us some of the biggest unrealistic relationship expectations we need to ditch, immediately.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>1. That your partner needs to be your everything</h3>\r\nAccording to our expert, this one is a fairly new belief. And it\'s actually more damaging than you might think.\r\n\r\n\"It’s only in the more recent decades that we have this notion,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"We expect a soulmate, a lover, a confidante, a therapist, [someone with whom to] raise children and be a great parent to our children,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"That they are amazingly attentive to us, work hard, manage a household, buy us lovely presents on special occasions, navigate the gap in our love languages, make us happy, financially have our back, help us buy a home, are great with our family and friends and so much more.\"\r\n\r\nAnyone else exhausted just reading that?!\r\n\r\nBut apparently, according to Abrahams, these are the sort of things we have ended up expecting from our partner over the decades, and we can often feel a sense of betrayal or distress when they fall short.\r\n\r\nThese days, our expectations of what makes a relationship \'healthy\' and how things should be is quite different to what they were years ago. And they can actually sabotage our connection with someone before they make them better.\r\n\r\n\"Partnerships of the past were often defined by a marriage, yet the expectations were nothing like they are today. They were both a property and a reproduction arrangement. Love was not part of the pact,\" explains Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"Friendship wasn\'t even necessary. If they experienced love or friendship, it was a bonus, yet never a prerequisite. Partners had their respective gender roles and love was often sought out elsewhere and didn’t typically destabilise the unit.\"\r\n\r\nObviously times have changed, but with it we\'ve developed high and often unreasonable expectations in order to form what we think is a well-rounded partnership.\r\n\r\n\"Expectations grew over time as people moved to cities, away from family. We were no longer having a village meet our needs and now turned to our spouse to meet these. Then women became more educated, joined the workforce and became more independent.\"\r\n\r\n\"Women were also able to control their bodies and pregnancies through pharmaceuticals. Sex could be enjoyed more without the fear of falling pregnant. There was then a freedom to choose one\'s partner, and this is where fantasies of \'the one\' became unrealistic.\"\r\n\r\nAnd just to be clear, it\'s the same for men - their expectations have increased, too.\r\n\r\nAbrahams said, \"We took \'the one\' too literally, as if it meant \'only one\', and we over-relied on this one mere mortal to be our one and only – our \'everything\'.\"\r\n<h3>2. That your partner can be your everything</h3>\r\nQuestion for you: How much do you depend on your partner?\r\n\r\n\"For many partners, the fairytale beginning often turns into a nightmare due to the weight of the expectations that are based on fantasy, not reality. It’s simply not possible for one person to be our everything.\"\r\n\r\n\"It\'s just too much pressure on one person. I have seen relationships go through horrendous times because the fantasy partner created at the beginning of a relationship isn’t sustainable.\"\r\n\r\nThink back to the beginning of your relationship, and how different things were. There was that \'specialness fantasy\', where everything felt really new and exciting.\r\n\r\nThe butterflies-in-the-stomach, the crazy sex, the flirty comments, the interesting discussions that would last for ages...\r\n\r\n\"At the beginning of a relationship, both partners often create a fantasy partner to show we are better than any other potential mates out there. It’s all a bit of a performance. It’s a lovely performance, but it’s a performance, nonetheless. We find our mate for life, move in together and at this point the partners reveal their more ordinary aspects.\"\r\n\r\n\"It can feel brutal when our beloved takes their eyes off us more as it made us feel so secure and special. It can feel disastrous when the frequent sex diminishes, and we are left wanting.\"\r\n\r\n\"Many partners are devastated that their partner doesn’t parent the children the way they expect – saying, \'I thought he would be such a great dad.\' I often ask – why? As none of us know how to really be a parent until we have a child.\"\r\n\r\n\"Some partners cannot comprehend how their partner didn’t become more serious about their career and has a lower earning capacity than they expected. Some can’t deal with their partner not being \'the rock\' they need in difficult times.\"\r\n<h3>3. That we own our partner</h3>\r\nYeah, this one is a bit yucky. But it\'s actually super common and you probably don\'t even realise you\'re doing it.\r\n\r\n\"The word \'my\' implies ownership. We use the word \'my\' to refer to my husband, wife, or partner. We may allow ourselves to treat them in ways we deem acceptable because they are \'ours\',\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"We overlay our relationship rules and expectations and expect them to comply so that we feel safe in the relationship. We can also control and manipulate them to do this.\"\r\n\r\nAccording to Abrahams, being committed should not equate to ownership. Remember, they\'re their own person.\r\n\r\n\"We are both separate and unique beings whose worlds collided some time ago, and we decided to remain together. The more we recognise each other’s separateness, the healthier our relationship will be.\"\r\n<h3>4. That we can change our partner</h3>\r\nMaybe it\'s the fact your partner still can\'t get along with your friends and family. Perhaps it\'s their forgetfulness of important details and dates. Or the fact they\'re not as career driven as you once thought.\r\n\r\nBut if you\'re forever trying to change your partner, their personalities traits and the qualities that make them who they are - you\'re going to have a bad time. Because needing to control your partner\'s actions and thoughts is... not healthy.\r\n\r\nOften, this can be linked to our ego, which can cause us to project inadequacy onto our partner, and see their faults and limitations.\r\n\r\n\"If you think you can change your partner – save your breath and change yourself. Ask yourself – why do they need to change? How can I get some of my needs met in a different way? Are they really needs or are they expectations based on how I was shaped by external forces across life?\"\r\n\r\n\"We should anticipate that both of us will change over time and that we’ll be confronted with disappointment and even feelings of betrayal. This is because we have over-invested in our partner being our everything.\"\r\n\r\nThe answer? I know we\'re starting to sound like a broken record, but it\'s all about keeping your boundaries and sense of individuality.\r\n\r\nLearn to lean on others in the different communities you belong to for different reasons - whether it be your friends, family or your work colleagues. Because your partner isn\'t the answer to all of life\'s problems - you have other people in your life for a good reason!\r\n\r\n\"I recommend we take some pressure off relationships so they can be less fantasy-filled and more reality-based. Your friends can be your confidante, your work colleagues can be fun and enlivening, your sex life will alter across time - and it’s not always doom and gloom if it does.\"\r\n\r\nAbrahams said relationships prosper when both people maintain a level of independence within their own lives.\r\n\r\n\"Both of you will change over time as life changes all of us. Expectations need adjusting to life\'s changes and the reality of who our partner is, not who we want them to be.\"\r\n\r\nNow, read that last line again.\r\n\r\n<em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\">what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</a></strong>.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully. Her latest book is \'Relationship Reset\', due for release on 26th July.\r\n<strong><a href=\"https://www.panmacmillan.com.au/9781760989781/relationship-reset/\">UPDATE: OUT NOW</a></strong></em>','From numbness to avoidance: 5 signs you\'re \'emotionally coasting\' right now',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5048-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:28:14','2022-08-26 07:28:14','',5048,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5049',0,'revision','',0),(5050,3,'2022-08-26 07:45:44','2022-08-26 07:45:44','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>Mamam!a</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Mamamia\r\n<h2>\"It’s just too much pressure\": 4 relationship \'expectations\' you need to ditch immediately</h2>\r\n17 July 2022\r\n\r\nWhen it comes to thinking about what kind of partner you want in your life, it\'s common to have a few non-negotiables on the list.\r\n\r\nWhether it\'s thinking there should always be a romantic \'spark\', avoiding conflict or expecting a certain amount of sex - everyone has a different set of deal breakers when they\'re dating.\r\n\r\nWatch: Here are some of the biggest relationship red flags you need to look out for.\r\n\r\nBut while everyone\'s expectations of a healthy relationship might be a little different, and it\'s normal for yours to be different from your partner\'s, how do we know if we’re asking too much from the person we\'re dating?\r\n\r\nIn fact, how do we develop all of these expectations in the first place?\r\n\r\nWell, apparently it\'s ingrained in us throughout our childhood.\r\n\r\nCouples counsellor Lissy Abrahams said that when we\'re children, we form our own unique \"relational template\", and later this can alter across adulthood due to other couple relationships.\r\n\r\n\"These were shaped by our parents, extended family, our culture, religion, film and television, teachers, friends and not friends, governments, celebrities, and more. We didn’t form expectations from nowhere,\" she said.\r\n\r\n\"They’ve been shaped inside us, and we often take them to be a fact – that is, how partners should and shouldn’t behave and feel in a couple relationship. So many of the expectations are formed around safety. Divorce has meant that we now fear losing our partner more than at any other time in history.\"\r\n\r\nAnd while some of these expectations might be helpful to the health of your relationship, forever focusing on the \'dos\' and \'don\'ts\' and where your relationship \'should\' be going and where it \'shouldn\'t\', might be a hindrance.\r\n\r\nAnd when you\'re happy in love, it can be pretty hard to miss these signs.\r\n\r\nSo, that\'s why we\'ve brought in our expert.\r\n\r\nHere, Abrahams tells us some of the biggest unrealistic relationship expectations we need to ditch, immediately.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>1. That your partner needs to be your everything</h3>\r\nAccording to our expert, this one is a fairly new belief. And it\'s actually more damaging than you might think.\r\n\r\n\"It’s only in the more recent decades that we have this notion,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"We expect a soulmate, a lover, a confidante, a therapist, [someone with whom to] raise children and be a great parent to our children,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"That they are amazingly attentive to us, work hard, manage a household, buy us lovely presents on special occasions, navigate the gap in our love languages, make us happy, financially have our back, help us buy a home, are great with our family and friends and so much more.\"\r\n\r\nAnyone else exhausted just reading that?!\r\n\r\nBut apparently, according to Abrahams, these are the sort of things we have ended up expecting from our partner over the decades, and we can often feel a sense of betrayal or distress when they fall short.\r\n\r\nThese days, our expectations of what makes a relationship \'healthy\' and how things should be is quite different to what they were years ago. And they can actually sabotage our connection with someone before they make them better.\r\n\r\n\"Partnerships of the past were often defined by a marriage, yet the expectations were nothing like they are today. They were both a property and a reproduction arrangement. Love was not part of the pact,\" explains Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"Friendship wasn\'t even necessary. If they experienced love or friendship, it was a bonus, yet never a prerequisite. Partners had their respective gender roles and love was often sought out elsewhere and didn’t typically destabilise the unit.\"\r\n\r\nObviously times have changed, but with it we\'ve developed high and often unreasonable expectations in order to form what we think is a well-rounded partnership.\r\n\r\n\"Expectations grew over time as people moved to cities, away from family. We were no longer having a village meet our needs and now turned to our spouse to meet these. Then women became more educated, joined the workforce and became more independent.\"\r\n\r\n\"Women were also able to control their bodies and pregnancies through pharmaceuticals. Sex could be enjoyed more without the fear of falling pregnant. There was then a freedom to choose one\'s partner, and this is where fantasies of \'the one\' became unrealistic.\"\r\n\r\nAnd just to be clear, it\'s the same for men - their expectations have increased, too.\r\n\r\nAbrahams said, \"We took \'the one\' too literally, as if it meant \'only one\', and we over-relied on this one mere mortal to be our one and only – our \'everything\'.\"\r\n<h3>2. That your partner can be your everything</h3>\r\nQuestion for you: How much do you depend on your partner?\r\n\r\n\"For many partners, the fairytale beginning often turns into a nightmare due to the weight of the expectations that are based on fantasy, not reality. It’s simply not possible for one person to be our everything.\"\r\n\r\n\"It\'s just too much pressure on one person. I have seen relationships go through horrendous times because the fantasy partner created at the beginning of a relationship isn’t sustainable.\"\r\n\r\nThink back to the beginning of your relationship, and how different things were. There was that \'specialness fantasy\', where everything felt really new and exciting.\r\n\r\nThe butterflies-in-the-stomach, the crazy sex, the flirty comments, the interesting discussions that would last for ages...\r\n\r\n\"At the beginning of a relationship, both partners often create a fantasy partner to show we are better than any other potential mates out there. It’s all a bit of a performance. It’s a lovely performance, but it’s a performance, nonetheless. We find our mate for life, move in together and at this point the partners reveal their more ordinary aspects.\"\r\n\r\n\"It can feel brutal when our beloved takes their eyes off us more as it made us feel so secure and special. It can feel disastrous when the frequent sex diminishes, and we are left wanting.\"\r\n\r\n\"Many partners are devastated that their partner doesn’t parent the children the way they expect – saying, \'I thought he would be such a great dad.\' I often ask – why? As none of us know how to really be a parent until we have a child.\"\r\n\r\n\"Some partners cannot comprehend how their partner didn’t become more serious about their career and has a lower earning capacity than they expected. Some can’t deal with their partner not being \'the rock\' they need in difficult times.\"\r\n<h3>3. That we own our partner</h3>\r\nYeah, this one is a bit yucky. But it\'s actually super common and you probably don\'t even realise you\'re doing it.\r\n\r\n\"The word \'my\' implies ownership. We use the word \'my\' to refer to my husband, wife, or partner. We may allow ourselves to treat them in ways we deem acceptable because they are \'ours\',\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"We overlay our relationship rules and expectations and expect them to comply so that we feel safe in the relationship. We can also control and manipulate them to do this.\"\r\n\r\nAccording to Abrahams, being committed should not equate to ownership. Remember, they\'re their own person.\r\n\r\n\"We are both separate and unique beings whose worlds collided some time ago, and we decided to remain together. The more we recognise each other’s separateness, the healthier our relationship will be.\"\r\n<h3>4. That we can change our partner</h3>\r\nMaybe it\'s the fact your partner still can\'t get along with your friends and family. Perhaps it\'s their forgetfulness of important details and dates. Or the fact they\'re not as career driven as you once thought.\r\n\r\nBut if you\'re forever trying to change your partner, their personalities traits and the qualities that make them who they are - you\'re going to have a bad time. Because needing to control your partner\'s actions and thoughts is... not healthy.\r\n\r\nOften, this can be linked to our ego, which can cause us to project inadequacy onto our partner, and see their faults and limitations.\r\n\r\n\"If you think you can change your partner – save your breath and change yourself. Ask yourself – why do they need to change? How can I get some of my needs met in a different way? Are they really needs or are they expectations based on how I was shaped by external forces across life?\"\r\n\r\n\"We should anticipate that both of us will change over time and that we’ll be confronted with disappointment and even feelings of betrayal. This is because we have over-invested in our partner being our everything.\"\r\n\r\nThe answer? I know we\'re starting to sound like a broken record, but it\'s all about keeping your boundaries and sense of individuality.\r\n\r\nLearn to lean on others in the different communities you belong to for different reasons - whether it be your friends, family or your work colleagues. Because your partner isn\'t the answer to all of life\'s problems - you have other people in your life for a good reason!\r\n\r\n\"I recommend we take some pressure off relationships so they can be less fantasy-filled and more reality-based. Your friends can be your confidante, your work colleagues can be fun and enlivening, your sex life will alter across time - and it’s not always doom and gloom if it does.\"\r\n\r\nAbrahams said relationships prosper when both people maintain a level of independence within their own lives.\r\n\r\n\"Both of you will change over time as life changes all of us. Expectations need adjusting to life\'s changes and the reality of who our partner is, not who we want them to be.\"\r\n\r\nNow, read that last line again.\r\n\r\n<em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\">what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</a></strong>.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully. Her latest book is \'Relationship Reset\', due for release on 26th July.\r\n<strong><a href=\"https://www.panmacmillan.com.au/9781760989781/relationship-reset/\">UPDATE: OUT NOW</a></strong></em>','From numbness to avoidance: 5 signs you\'re \'emotionally coasting\' right now',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5048-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:45:44','2022-08-26 07:45:44','',5048,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5050',0,'revision','',0),(5051,3,'2022-08-26 07:45:44','2022-08-26 07:45:44','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>Mamam!a</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Mamamia\r\n<h2>\"It’s just too much pressure\": 4 relationship \'expectations\' you need to ditch immediately</h2>\r\n17 July 2022\r\n\r\nWhen it comes to thinking about what kind of partner you want in your life, it\'s common to have a few non-negotiables on the list.\r\n\r\nWhether it\'s thinking there should always be a romantic \'spark\', avoiding conflict or expecting a certain amount of sex - everyone has a different set of deal breakers when they\'re dating.\r\n\r\nWatch: Here are some of the biggest relationship red flags you need to look out for.\r\n\r\nBut while everyone\'s expectations of a healthy relationship might be a little different, and it\'s normal for yours to be different from your partner\'s, how do we know if we’re asking too much from the person we\'re dating?\r\n\r\nIn fact, how do we develop all of these expectations in the first place?\r\n\r\nWell, apparently it\'s ingrained in us throughout our childhood.\r\n\r\nCouples counsellor Lissy Abrahams said that when we\'re children, we form our own unique \"relational template\", and later this can alter across adulthood due to other couple relationships.\r\n\r\n\"These were shaped by our parents, extended family, our culture, religion, film and television, teachers, friends and not friends, governments, celebrities, and more. We didn’t form expectations from nowhere,\" she said.\r\n\r\n\"They’ve been shaped inside us, and we often take them to be a fact – that is, how partners should and shouldn’t behave and feel in a couple relationship. So many of the expectations are formed around safety. Divorce has meant that we now fear losing our partner more than at any other time in history.\"\r\n\r\nAnd while some of these expectations might be helpful to the health of your relationship, forever focusing on the \'dos\' and \'don\'ts\' and where your relationship \'should\' be going and where it \'shouldn\'t\', might be a hindrance.\r\n\r\nAnd when you\'re happy in love, it can be pretty hard to miss these signs.\r\n\r\nSo, that\'s why we\'ve brought in our expert.\r\n\r\nHere, Abrahams tells us some of the biggest unrealistic relationship expectations we need to ditch, immediately.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>1. That your partner needs to be your everything</h3>\r\nAccording to our expert, this one is a fairly new belief. And it\'s actually more damaging than you might think.\r\n\r\n\"It’s only in the more recent decades that we have this notion,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"We expect a soulmate, a lover, a confidante, a therapist, [someone with whom to] raise children and be a great parent to our children,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"That they are amazingly attentive to us, work hard, manage a household, buy us lovely presents on special occasions, navigate the gap in our love languages, make us happy, financially have our back, help us buy a home, are great with our family and friends and so much more.\"\r\n\r\nAnyone else exhausted just reading that?!\r\n\r\nBut apparently, according to Abrahams, these are the sort of things we have ended up expecting from our partner over the decades, and we can often feel a sense of betrayal or distress when they fall short.\r\n\r\nThese days, our expectations of what makes a relationship \'healthy\' and how things should be is quite different to what they were years ago. And they can actually sabotage our connection with someone before they make them better.\r\n\r\n\"Partnerships of the past were often defined by a marriage, yet the expectations were nothing like they are today. They were both a property and a reproduction arrangement. Love was not part of the pact,\" explains Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"Friendship wasn\'t even necessary. If they experienced love or friendship, it was a bonus, yet never a prerequisite. Partners had their respective gender roles and love was often sought out elsewhere and didn’t typically destabilise the unit.\"\r\n\r\nObviously times have changed, but with it we\'ve developed high and often unreasonable expectations in order to form what we think is a well-rounded partnership.\r\n\r\n\"Expectations grew over time as people moved to cities, away from family. We were no longer having a village meet our needs and now turned to our spouse to meet these. Then women became more educated, joined the workforce and became more independent.\"\r\n\r\n\"Women were also able to control their bodies and pregnancies through pharmaceuticals. Sex could be enjoyed more without the fear of falling pregnant. There was then a freedom to choose one\'s partner, and this is where fantasies of \'the one\' became unrealistic.\"\r\n\r\nAnd just to be clear, it\'s the same for men - their expectations have increased, too.\r\n\r\nAbrahams said, \"We took \'the one\' too literally, as if it meant \'only one\', and we over-relied on this one mere mortal to be our one and only – our \'everything\'.\"\r\n<h3>2. That your partner can be your everything</h3>\r\nQuestion for you: How much do you depend on your partner?\r\n\r\n\"For many partners, the fairytale beginning often turns into a nightmare due to the weight of the expectations that are based on fantasy, not reality. It’s simply not possible for one person to be our everything.\"\r\n\r\n\"It\'s just too much pressure on one person. I have seen relationships go through horrendous times because the fantasy partner created at the beginning of a relationship isn’t sustainable.\"\r\n\r\nThink back to the beginning of your relationship, and how different things were. There was that \'specialness fantasy\', where everything felt really new and exciting.\r\n\r\nThe butterflies-in-the-stomach, the crazy sex, the flirty comments, the interesting discussions that would last for ages...\r\n\r\n\"At the beginning of a relationship, both partners often create a fantasy partner to show we are better than any other potential mates out there. It’s all a bit of a performance. It’s a lovely performance, but it’s a performance, nonetheless. We find our mate for life, move in together and at this point the partners reveal their more ordinary aspects.\"\r\n\r\n\"It can feel brutal when our beloved takes their eyes off us more as it made us feel so secure and special. It can feel disastrous when the frequent sex diminishes, and we are left wanting.\"\r\n\r\n\"Many partners are devastated that their partner doesn’t parent the children the way they expect – saying, \'I thought he would be such a great dad.\' I often ask – why? As none of us know how to really be a parent until we have a child.\"\r\n\r\n\"Some partners cannot comprehend how their partner didn’t become more serious about their career and has a lower earning capacity than they expected. Some can’t deal with their partner not being \'the rock\' they need in difficult times.\"\r\n<h3>3. That we own our partner</h3>\r\nYeah, this one is a bit yucky. But it\'s actually super common and you probably don\'t even realise you\'re doing it.\r\n\r\n\"The word \'my\' implies ownership. We use the word \'my\' to refer to my husband, wife, or partner. We may allow ourselves to treat them in ways we deem acceptable because they are \'ours\',\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"We overlay our relationship rules and expectations and expect them to comply so that we feel safe in the relationship. We can also control and manipulate them to do this.\"\r\n\r\nAccording to Abrahams, being committed should not equate to ownership. Remember, they\'re their own person.\r\n\r\n\"We are both separate and unique beings whose worlds collided some time ago, and we decided to remain together. The more we recognise each other’s separateness, the healthier our relationship will be.\"\r\n<h3>4. That we can change our partner</h3>\r\nMaybe it\'s the fact your partner still can\'t get along with your friends and family. Perhaps it\'s their forgetfulness of important details and dates. Or the fact they\'re not as career driven as you once thought.\r\n\r\nBut if you\'re forever trying to change your partner, their personalities traits and the qualities that make them who they are - you\'re going to have a bad time. Because needing to control your partner\'s actions and thoughts is... not healthy.\r\n\r\nOften, this can be linked to our ego, which can cause us to project inadequacy onto our partner, and see their faults and limitations.\r\n\r\n\"If you think you can change your partner – save your breath and change yourself. Ask yourself – why do they need to change? How can I get some of my needs met in a different way? Are they really needs or are they expectations based on how I was shaped by external forces across life?\"\r\n\r\n\"We should anticipate that both of us will change over time and that we’ll be confronted with disappointment and even feelings of betrayal. This is because we have over-invested in our partner being our everything.\"\r\n\r\nThe answer? I know we\'re starting to sound like a broken record, but it\'s all about keeping your boundaries and sense of individuality.\r\n\r\nLearn to lean on others in the different communities you belong to for different reasons - whether it be your friends, family or your work colleagues. Because your partner isn\'t the answer to all of life\'s problems - you have other people in your life for a good reason!\r\n\r\n\"I recommend we take some pressure off relationships so they can be less fantasy-filled and more reality-based. Your friends can be your confidante, your work colleagues can be fun and enlivening, your sex life will alter across time - and it’s not always doom and gloom if it does.\"\r\n\r\nAbrahams said relationships prosper when both people maintain a level of independence within their own lives.\r\n\r\n\"Both of you will change over time as life changes all of us. Expectations need adjusting to life\'s changes and the reality of who our partner is, not who we want them to be.\"\r\n\r\nNow, read that last line again.\r\n\r\n<em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\">what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</a></strong>.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully. Her latest book is \'Relationship Reset\', due for release on 26th July.\r\n<strong><a href=\"https://www.panmacmillan.com.au/9781760989781/relationship-reset/\">UPDATE: OUT NOW</a></strong></em>','From numbness to avoidance: 5 signs you\'re \'emotionally coasting\' right now',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5048-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:45:44','2022-08-26 07:45:44','',5048,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5051',0,'revision','',0),(5052,3,'2022-08-26 07:45:45','2022-08-26 07:45:45','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Mamam!a            \n        </h1>\n            Article - source: Mamamia        \n            <h2>\n                From numbness to avoidance: 5 signs you\'re \'emotionally coasting\' right now            \n        </h2>\n            1 July 2022        \n		<p>In a Better Homes and Gardens interview, Harry Styles said he had the tendency to “emotionally coast” through life - where he described feeling detached, numb and overwhelmed by his feelings and life experiences. </p><p>And, honestly, it might just be the best way to describe the collective emotion of 2022.</p><p>Because while everything is \'back\' (travel! Holidays! Festivals! Weddings!), there\'s also the very real and very obvious feeling of mental exhaustion when it comes to the relentless bad news cycle (see: war, protests, shootings) raging right before our eyes. </p><p>If you\'re anything like us, you might be feeling like it\'s becoming harder and harder to know where to place your energy and care. To actually feel things.</p><p>Enter: \'Emotional coasting\'.</p><p>Watch: Signs that mean you should seek help for your mental health. </p><p>Styles told BHG that therapy allowed him to open up, better connect with his emotions and experiences, and live more authentically.</p><p>He said, \"I think that accepting living, being happy, hurting in the extremes, that is the most alive you can be. Losing it crying, losing it laughing - there\'s no way, I don\'t think, to feel more alive than that.\"</p><p>So, what exactly is emotional coasting and why do we do it? And more importantly, how do we stop?</p><p>Here, we ask an expert in psychology to tell us everything we need to know.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>What is \'emotional coasting\'?</h3>		\n		<p>\"Emotional coasting is a term that encompasses what I call the “bland band”, where consciously and/or unconsciously we strip our lives of the wider emotional spectrum,\" explains psychotherapist Lissy Abrahams.</p><p>\"This means experiences might be felt as \'nice\' or \'a bit tough\' but never really \'incredible\' or \'heartbreaking\'.\"</p><p>The reason behind this? According to Abrahams, it\'s almost like a defence mechanism when we know we\'re not going to be able to process difficult feelings or experiences.</p><p>\"We do this because we haven’t developed a sufficient distress tolerance to sit with feelings outside of the \'bland band\',\" she said.</p><p>\"So, emotional coasting is used to rein in emotional experiences, so we feel safer. If we haven’t learnt how to tolerate more extreme emotions, like joy and excitement or distress and fear, then we typically look for ways to dampen them.\"</p><p>In effect, this helps protect us from being overwhelmed or dealing with certain emotions we\'re not prepared to take on.</p><p>\"The problem is that the way we dampen them is by either clipping our internal state (living in the emotional bland band) or by using something in the external world as a crutch (like drugs or alcohol, spending money, over-eating, or restricting food, or by using ego defence mechanisms like denial or compartmentalisation).\"</p>		\n			<h3>What are some common signs you might be \'emotionally coasting\'?</h3>		\n		<p>Does all this sound a little... familiar? Don\'t worry. You\'re not alone. </p><p>As Abrahams tells us, it\'s something we\'ll all go through at some point in our lives - especially after the past few years.</p><p>\"It’s impossible to feel every feeling to the full extent. Imagine needing to focus on your work following a fight with your partner and not having any tools up your sleeve to do so. We’d end up plagued by every single feeling and achieve nothing for months on end!\"</p><p>If you\'re unable to maintain your usual drive and care for life and all its experiences, Abrahams said there are four important questions you need to ask yourself.</p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- Do I really let myself become excited? What language do I use around this?</p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- Do I move away from people when they are ecstatic or joyous?</p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- When I’m sad, do I minimise or compartmentalise my feelings to move away from the sadness?</p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- When I’m sad, do I look outside of myself for the answer? Is this to numb the pain? Is it to distract from the pain?</p><p>Okay. How many of these did you say \'yes\' to?</p><p>\"As a therapist, I know we can’t just keep stuffing feelings down and, at some point, symptoms will erupt either mentally or physically,\" said Abrahams.</p><p>Meaning? You need to be aware of the key signs and symptoms, so you\'re able to stop it from affecting your life negatively.</p><p>Some common signs of emotional coasting include - </p>		\n			<h4>1. Being busy</h4>		\n		<p>Are you using work as a distraction? \"Whilst being busy can help at times, we need to be careful we are not over-using busyness to bypass feelings,\" said Abrahams. </p>		\n			<h4>2. Sublimation</h4>		\n		<p>See: Avoiding any form of emotional processing by doing absolutely anything else. </p><p>\"This is where we avoid the full emotional experience by attending to pursuits that are deemed worthwhile, such as mowing the lawn, working later, or using the gym,\" said Abrahams.</p>		\n			<h4>3. Compartmentalising</h4>		\n		<p>According to Abrahams, it\'s common for many people to unconsciously avoid the emotional impact by putting it deep down in our emotional vault and pretty much just throwing away the key. \"This helps us feel we are no longer in contact with it - despite the fact it still resides in us,\" she adds.</p>		\n			<h4>4. Minimising</h4>		\n		<p>\"We can downplay our emotions. For example, when we have been unexpectedly broken up with, we may minimise by stating, \'He didn’t mean that much to me anyway\' or \'I’m overthinking this - it’s simple - it’s over\'.\"</p>		\n			<h4>5. Blocking or numbing</h4>		\n		<p>Instead of using coping strategies, many people will turn to other things to replace this feeling, using it as a crutch to avoid acknowledging or processing their feelings.</p><p>This involves \"using any action outside of ourselves to block or numb the pain,\" said Abrahams. \"This could be through drugs or alcohol, self-harm, gambling...\" </p>		\n			<h3>How can you stop yourself from \'emotionally coasting\'?</h3>		\n		<p>Abrahams said, \"It’s critical for all of us who emotionally coast to increase our window of tolerance for emotions outside of the \'bland band\'. Life will throw us curve balls, and always when we least expect it.\"</p><p>Being aware of this behavior and identifying the reasons behind it (that is, what you\'re trying to protect yourself from by numbing your emotions) and how it impacts your life, can help you move forward and better process your emotions and life experiences going forward.</p><p>But just remember - learning to stop \'emotional coasting\' is not a quick fix, and it can take some time in order to avoid getting overwhelmed with emotions.</p><p>According to Abrahams, to prevent emotional coasting, it\'s important to develop three things:</p>		\n			<h4>1. Language awareness</h4>		\n		<p>It seems like a small change, but Abrahams said that becoming aware of whether your language minimises your emotional experiences is more important than you might think. </p><p>\"Do you say the meal is \'satisfying\' when you may mean \'delicious\'? Allow yourself freedom to turn the volume up. Do you say \'a bit disappointing\' when your pet has died or are you allowed to be \'grief-filled\'?\"</p>		\n			<h4>2. Body awareness</h4>		\n		<p>\"Our body often provides the truth about how we are feeling - without the story in our mind,\" said Abrahams.</p><p>Read: Listen to your body.</p><p>\"Focus on your heart - is it beating more rapidly suddenly? Why? Information and sensations arise constantly from our body, and this can reveal that we’re not actually emotionally coasting.\" </p><p>\"For example, our body will reveal if we are fearful, excited, or disappointed - it won’t coast. We can’t trick our body out of its experience, so tune in to enhance the colour of your emotional life.\"</p>		\n			<h4>3. Develop distress tolerance. </h4>		\n		<p>\"It’s critical for our mental and physical health to be able to sit with the highs and lows of life without needing to do something with them. Many of us need to increase our ability to tolerate distress.\"</p><p>Going to therapy and seeking help from a professional is a great way to \"increase your emotional range and truly understanding why you became someone who emotionally coasts in the first place.\"</p><p>\"This, alongside mindfulness techniques, can help you develop a greater ability to tolerate a greater range of emotions that will erupt through life’s curveballs.\"</p><p><em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\"><strong>what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</strong></a>.</em></p><p><em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health expert panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy studied psychology in Sydney and then completed her Masters in couples psychotherapy at the internationally renowned Tavistock Relationships. Here, she worked therapeutically with couples, as well as lectured and tutored trainee counsellors.</em></p><p><em>Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully.</em></p><p><em>Lissy believes we all have the capacity to improve our lives and relationships with the right knowledge and practical strategies. Her mission is to help as many people as possible transform their lives by creating happier and more loving relationships.</em></p><p><em>Feature image: Getty </em></p>','From numbness to avoidance: 5 signs you\'re \'emotionally coasting\' right now',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5048-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:45:45','2022-08-26 07:45:45','',5048,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5052',0,'revision','',0),(5053,3,'2022-05-30 07:47:13','2022-05-30 07:47:13','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                MamaM!a            \n        </h1>\n            Article - source: Mamamia        \n            <h2>\n                5 Questions Everyone Should Be Able to Answer About Their Partner, According to An Expert            \n        </h2>\n            30 May 2022        \n		<p>When it comes to relationships, what are your deal-breakers?</p><p>It might be feeling certain where you want to live, hobbies you want to pursue, career goals you need to support meeting, or the kind of family you want to have.</p><p>Now, what about your partner? What are their non-negotiables?</p><p> </p><p>While it’s totally normal to disagree on certain things (read: sailing around the world with seven children), having an open and honest conversation with your partner about each other’s needs and wants in life is crucial in order to make a relationship work.</p><p>And sometimes having an unconformable conversation now – everything from what gets your partner in the mood to how many kids they want – can save you a whole lotta heartache in the end.</p><p>So, we sat down with relationship therapist Lissy Abrahams and asked her to share some of the most important things you should know about your partner.</p><p>In no particular order – and the order will be determined by the age and stage of the couple – Abrahams said there are five key things you should be able to answer about your romantic partner.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>1. How do they deal with stress, sadness, fear, or pain?</h3>		\n		<p>One of the most crucial things you should know about your partner is how they deal with painful and upsetting life experiences.</p><p>Establishing how your partner copes with difficult emotions – because everyone is different – will help you better understand how you’re able to help each other when stressful things arise.</p><p>“We all have differing capacities for how we tolerate upsetting experiences or physical pain. In general, our ability to tolerate these states stems from whether our parents soothed us in childhood,” said Abrahams.</p><p>“This soothing, across many aspects in childhood, becomes internalised and forms the basis of learning to tolerate distress as adults. We take this ability to cope into [our] relationship with our partner.”</p><p>Abrahams goes on to say that people who can tolerate these feelings are often able to manage unsettling experiences better and understand that difficulties come and go.</p><p>While they can still become upset, distressed, or feel pain, she said they tend to be able to work things out themselves, or talk to their partner, or seek wise counsel from someone in their community or a therapist.</p><p>“The important thing is that they are not fearful of thinking about these emotional states. They want to understand them so they can recover,” she said.</p><p>The other side of it? Those who struggle with difficult emotions.</p><p>“The big difference for those who can’t deal with these feelings or pain is that they need to do something in the external world to make the feelings go away.”</p><p>“These solutions are a way of trying to cope with the pain, but they never actually resolve it. Often, they just make things worse.”</p><p>So, you’re going to want to know if your partner can sit with difficult feelings or not. If not, what do they do?</p><p>“Do they instantly blame you? Block or push back your ideas? Do they become sulky or whiny? Do they isolate themselves from you or become punishing?,” said Abrahams.</p><p>“Do they turn to drugs or alcohol to ease emotional or physical pain? Do they use porn, gamble, or shop excessively to avoid feelings? What about emotional eating or highly rigid restrictions on food?”</p><p>This is a really important one to be able to answer, as it can harm a relationship when we can’t manage difficult states inside of ourselves.</p>		\n			<h3>2. How do they like and not like to be touched physically or sexually?</h3>		\n		<p>Partners can have very different views on intimacy – like how often sex should happen, and their expectations and fantasies around sexual activity, including touch.</p><p>“Each partner in a relationship likes to be touched differently. At the beginning of our relationship, we often care a great deal about whether our partner enjoys our touch,” said Abrahams.</p><p>Think back to the beginning of your relationship when things were new and exciting. Over time, we might not care quite as much about what our partner likes and doesn’t like – which is a bit sh**ty.</p><p>“We need to keep caring because this journey is an ever-changing field,” said Abrahams. “Our partner will change across the relationship. We need to understand how they like to be touched physically and sexually at different ages and stages.”</p>		\n			<h3>3. Do they want children or not?</h3>		\n		<p>This one? This is important. While you might be fooled into thinking most couples will suss this out early on in a relationship, sometimes it doesn’t happen.</p><p>“Each partner has their own thoughts about whether they want to be a parent of not. Don’t make any assumptions that your partner’s viewpoint. Make sure you ask the question: Do you want children? Yes/No,” said Abrahams.</p><p>“If they say no, don’t think you will change their mind later. They might, yet more often they won’t. I’ve seen many relationships destroyed by this assumption.”</p><p>“If you both want children, how many do you both want? There will be problems if your partner wants many more children than you, or vice versa.”</p><p>Not only is it important to know whether or not you both want children, but you also should also have a broader idea of what happens if it isn’t possible.</p><p>Struggling to have children can take its toll on any relationship, so you don’t also want to realise that your partner isn’t on board with other avenues you’d be open to, like IVF or adoption. While opinions may change over time, it’s still important to discuss it early so you know where each of you stand.</p><p>Both want to have children? Cool! The next thing you should know is how your partner would want to raise them – because this is just as important.</p><p>“You also need to see where your partner sits in their assumptions about how raising children works,” said Abrahams.</p><p>“Who will potentially pause their career to be the primary carer? You will need to see how well you can navigate these conversations together. The stakes are much higher having these conversations when the child has already entered the world.”</p>		\n			<h3>4. How does your partner relate to money?</h3>		\n		<p>Your partner and money. What does that look like?</p><p>“We all have a relationship to money,” said Abrahams. “This relationship plays itself out based on the stories in our head about money. Is money the root of all evil or does it make the world go round? Our stories can be contradictory, incoherent, and both conscious and unconscious.”</p><p>You’ve heard it a million times before, but one thing most experts will agree on is that the greatest thing couples fight over is money. For this reason, Abrahams said it’s really important to understand your partner so that you can protect your relationship from being spoiled by money issues.</p><p>And there are a lot of different questions you should ask yourself about this.</p><p>“Does your partner fear not having enough money? Or fear losing money? Or continue to feel shame around being a child who didn’t have enough money? Do they comment on your spending too much? Do they throw money around and squander it? Or do they restrict your freedom due to a lack of money? Or do they use money to try to control you?”</p><p>“Money issues can be fraught in relationships. Try to understand how your partner relates to money and the stories they use to describe their relationship with it,” said Abrahams.</p><p>Importantly, she also suggests speaking to your partner about their feelings around debt, mortgages, savings, spending, and separate or shared bank accounts.</p><p>“Ensure you work with them to understand their relationship to money.”</p>		\n			<h3>5. Do they have any unfulfilled dreams that they haven’t shared with you?</h3>		\n		<p>Everyone has dreams and desires – and they can look totally different for each of us.</p><p>“Some partners have a secret desire for the road they haven’t taken. It’s normal to some degree as we always say no to one path when we go down another,” said Abrahams.</p><p>“Find out whether there are paths that can be made room for so your partner can have as rich and fulfilling a life as possible. For example, one partner may be desperate to have a stint living overseas.”</p><p>“If this is possible to work into your lives, then see if it can get off the ground. Some of these may be less possible – like one partner joining the air force – but you can attend air force shows together or watch documentaries or movies together with such themes.”</p><p>Knowing what these are will give you a good idea of your future together and what works for both of you.</p><p>“It’s important to ask your partner how important these dreams are to them, and also whether you, as their partner, could help the dreams become a reality.”</p><p>And there you have it! Some of the most important questions you should be able to answer about your partner.</p><p>How did you go? Did you nail it? Knew you would. You and Jaryd are great together.</p><p><em>For more from Lissy Abrahams, read her e-book on <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\"><strong>what makes a couple a happy one</strong></a>.</em></p><p><em>Lissy Abrahams is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy studied psychology in Sydney and then completed her Masters at the internationally renowned Tavistock Relationships, a unit of the Tavistock Institute of Medical Psychology in London. Here, she worked therapeutically with couples, as well as lectured and tutored trainee counsellors.</em></p><p><em>Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully.</em></p><p><em>Lissy believes we all have the capacity to improve our lives and relationships with the right knowledge and practical strategies. Her mission is to help as many people as possible transform their lives by creating happier and more loving relationships.</em></p><p><em>Image source: Shutterstock (369886034)</em></p>','5 Questions Everyone Should Be Able to Answer About Their Partner, According to An Expert',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','publish','closed','closed','','5-questions-everyone-should-be-able-to-answer-about-their-partner','','','2022-10-17 02:16:54','2022-10-17 02:16:54','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?post_type=case-study&#038;p=5053',0,'case-study','',0),(5054,3,'2022-08-26 07:48:27','2022-08-26 07:48:27','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>Mamam!a</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Mamamia\r\n<h2>From numbness to avoidance: 5 signs you\'re \'emotionally coasting\' right now</h2>\r\n1 July 2022\r\n\r\nIn a Better Homes and Gardens interview, Harry Styles said he had the tendency to “emotionally coast” through life - where he described feeling detached, numb and overwhelmed by his feelings and life experiences.\r\n\r\nAnd, honestly, it might just be the best way to describe the collective emotion of 2022.\r\n\r\nBecause while everything is \'back\' (travel! Holidays! Festivals! Weddings!), there\'s also the very real and very obvious feeling of mental exhaustion when it comes to the relentless bad news cycle (see: war, protests, shootings) raging right before our eyes.\r\n\r\nIf you\'re anything like us, you might be feeling like it\'s becoming harder and harder to know where to place your energy and care. To actually feel things.\r\n\r\nEnter: \'Emotional coasting\'.\r\n\r\nWatch: Signs that mean you should seek help for your mental health.\r\n\r\nStyles told BHG that therapy allowed him to open up, better connect with his emotions and experiences, and live more authentically.\r\n\r\nHe said, \"I think that accepting living, being happy, hurting in the extremes, that is the most alive you can be. Losing it crying, losing it laughing - there\'s no way, I don\'t think, to feel more alive than that.\"\r\n\r\nSo, what exactly is emotional coasting and why do we do it? And more importantly, how do we stop?\r\n\r\nHere, we ask an expert in psychology to tell us everything we need to know.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>What is \'emotional coasting\'?</h3>\r\n\"Emotional coasting is a term that encompasses what I call the “bland band”, where consciously and/or unconsciously we strip our lives of the wider emotional spectrum,\" explains psychotherapist Lissy Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"This means experiences might be felt as \'nice\' or \'a bit tough\' but never really \'incredible\' or \'heartbreaking\'.\"\r\n\r\nThe reason behind this? According to Abrahams, it\'s almost like a defence mechanism when we know we\'re not going to be able to process difficult feelings or experiences.\r\n\r\n\"We do this because we haven’t developed a sufficient distress tolerance to sit with feelings outside of the \'bland band\',\" she said.\r\n\r\n\"So, emotional coasting is used to rein in emotional experiences, so we feel safer. If we haven’t learnt how to tolerate more extreme emotions, like joy and excitement or distress and fear, then we typically look for ways to dampen them.\"\r\n\r\nIn effect, this helps protect us from being overwhelmed or dealing with certain emotions we\'re not prepared to take on.\r\n\r\n\"The problem is that the way we dampen them is by either clipping our internal state (living in the emotional bland band) or by using something in the external world as a crutch (like drugs or alcohol, spending money, over-eating, or restricting food, or by using ego defence mechanisms like denial or compartmentalisation).\"\r\n<h3>What are some common signs you might be \'emotionally coasting\'?</h3>\r\nDoes all this sound a little... familiar? Don\'t worry. You\'re not alone.\r\n\r\nAs Abrahams tells us, it\'s something we\'ll all go through at some point in our lives - especially after the past few years.\r\n\r\n\"It’s impossible to feel every feeling to the full extent. Imagine needing to focus on your work following a fight with your partner and not having any tools up your sleeve to do so. We’d end up plagued by every single feeling and achieve nothing for months on end!\"\r\n\r\nIf you\'re unable to maintain your usual drive and care for life and all its experiences, Abrahams said there are four important questions you need to ask yourself.\r\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- Do I really let myself become excited? What language do I use around this?</p>\r\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- Do I move away from people when they are ecstatic or joyous?</p>\r\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- When I’m sad, do I minimise or compartmentalise my feelings to move away from the sadness?</p>\r\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- When I’m sad, do I look outside of myself for the answer? Is this to numb the pain? Is it to distract from the pain?</p>\r\nOkay. How many of these did you say \'yes\' to?\r\n\r\n\"As a therapist, I know we can’t just keep stuffing feelings down and, at some point, symptoms will erupt either mentally or physically,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\nMeaning? You need to be aware of the key signs and symptoms, so you\'re able to stop it from affecting your life negatively.\r\n\r\nSome common signs of emotional coasting include -\r\n<h4>1. Being busy</h4>\r\nAre you using work as a distraction? \"Whilst being busy can help at times, we need to be careful we are not over-using busyness to bypass feelings,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h4>2. Sublimation</h4>\r\nSee: Avoiding any form of emotional processing by doing absolutely anything else.\r\n\r\n\"This is where we avoid the full emotional experience by attending to pursuits that are deemed worthwhile, such as mowing the lawn, working later, or using the gym,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h4>3. Compartmentalising</h4>\r\nAccording to Abrahams, it\'s common for many people to unconsciously avoid the emotional impact by putting it deep down in our emotional vault and pretty much just throwing away the key. \"This helps us feel we are no longer in contact with it - despite the fact it still resides in us,\" she adds.\r\n<h4>4. Minimising</h4>\r\n\"We can downplay our emotions. For example, when we have been unexpectedly broken up with, we may minimise by stating, \'He didn’t mean that much to me anyway\' or \'I’m overthinking this - it’s simple - it’s over\'.\"\r\n<h4>5. Blocking or numbing</h4>\r\nInstead of using coping strategies, many people will turn to other things to replace this feeling, using it as a crutch to avoid acknowledging or processing their feelings.\r\n\r\nThis involves \"using any action outside of ourselves to block or numb the pain,\" said Abrahams. \"This could be through drugs or alcohol, self-harm, gambling...\"\r\n<h3>How can you stop yourself from \'emotionally coasting\'?</h3>\r\nAbrahams said, \"It’s critical for all of us who emotionally coast to increase our window of tolerance for emotions outside of the \'bland band\'. Life will throw us curve balls, and always when we least expect it.\"\r\n\r\nBeing aware of this behavior and identifying the reasons behind it (that is, what you\'re trying to protect yourself from by numbing your emotions) and how it impacts your life, can help you move forward and better process your emotions and life experiences going forward.\r\n\r\nBut just remember - learning to stop \'emotional coasting\' is not a quick fix, and it can take some time in order to avoid getting overwhelmed with emotions.\r\n\r\nAccording to Abrahams, to prevent emotional coasting, it\'s important to develop three things:\r\n<h4>1. Language awareness</h4>\r\nIt seems like a small change, but Abrahams said that becoming aware of whether your language minimises your emotional experiences is more important than you might think.\r\n\r\n\"Do you say the meal is \'satisfying\' when you may mean \'delicious\'? Allow yourself freedom to turn the volume up. Do you say \'a bit disappointing\' when your pet has died or are you allowed to be \'grief-filled\'?\"\r\n<h4>2. Body awareness</h4>\r\n\"Our body often provides the truth about how we are feeling - without the story in our mind,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\nRead: Listen to your body.\r\n\r\n\"Focus on your heart - is it beating more rapidly suddenly? Why? Information and sensations arise constantly from our body, and this can reveal that we’re not actually emotionally coasting.\"\r\n\r\n\"For example, our body will reveal if we are fearful, excited, or disappointed - it won’t coast. We can’t trick our body out of its experience, so tune in to enhance the colour of your emotional life.\"\r\n<h4>3. Develop distress tolerance.</h4>\r\n\"It’s critical for our mental and physical health to be able to sit with the highs and lows of life without needing to do something with them. Many of us need to increase our ability to tolerate distress.\"\r\n\r\nGoing to therapy and seeking help from a professional is a great way to \"increase your emotional range and truly understanding why you became someone who emotionally coasts in the first place.\"\r\n\r\n\"This, alongside mindfulness techniques, can help you develop a greater ability to tolerate a greater range of emotions that will erupt through life’s curveballs.\"\r\n\r\n<em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\"><strong>what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</strong></a>.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health expert panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy studied psychology in Sydney and then completed her Masters in couples psychotherapy at the internationally renowned Tavistock Relationships. Here, she worked therapeutically with couples, as well as lectured and tutored trainee counsellors.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy believes we all have the capacity to improve our lives and relationships with the right knowledge and practical strategies. Her mission is to help as many people as possible transform their lives by creating happier and more loving relationships.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Feature image: Getty </em>','5 Questions Everyone Should Be Able to Answer About Their Partner, According to An Expert',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5053-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:48:27','2022-08-26 07:48:27','',5053,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5054',0,'revision','',0),(5055,3,'2022-08-26 07:53:08','2022-08-26 07:53:08','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>Mamam!a</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Mamamia\r\n<h2>From numbness to avoidance: 5 signs you\'re \'emotionally coasting\' right now</h2>\r\n1 July 2022\r\n\r\nIn a Better Homes and Gardens interview, Harry Styles said he had the tendency to “emotionally coast” through life - where he described feeling detached, numb and overwhelmed by his feelings and life experiences.\r\n\r\nAnd, honestly, it might just be the best way to describe the collective emotion of 2022.\r\n\r\nBecause while everything is \'back\' (travel! Holidays! Festivals! Weddings!), there\'s also the very real and very obvious feeling of mental exhaustion when it comes to the relentless bad news cycle (see: war, protests, shootings) raging right before our eyes.\r\n\r\nIf you\'re anything like us, you might be feeling like it\'s becoming harder and harder to know where to place your energy and care. To actually feel things.\r\n\r\nEnter: \'Emotional coasting\'.\r\n\r\nWatch: Signs that mean you should seek help for your mental health.\r\n\r\nStyles told BHG that therapy allowed him to open up, better connect with his emotions and experiences, and live more authentically.\r\n\r\nHe said, \"I think that accepting living, being happy, hurting in the extremes, that is the most alive you can be. Losing it crying, losing it laughing - there\'s no way, I don\'t think, to feel more alive than that.\"\r\n\r\nSo, what exactly is emotional coasting and why do we do it? And more importantly, how do we stop?\r\n\r\nHere, we ask an expert in psychology to tell us everything we need to know.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>What is \'emotional coasting\'?</h3>\r\n\"Emotional coasting is a term that encompasses what I call the “bland band”, where consciously and/or unconsciously we strip our lives of the wider emotional spectrum,\" explains psychotherapist Lissy Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"This means experiences might be felt as \'nice\' or \'a bit tough\' but never really \'incredible\' or \'heartbreaking\'.\"\r\n\r\nThe reason behind this? According to Abrahams, it\'s almost like a defence mechanism when we know we\'re not going to be able to process difficult feelings or experiences.\r\n\r\n\"We do this because we haven’t developed a sufficient distress tolerance to sit with feelings outside of the \'bland band\',\" she said.\r\n\r\n\"So, emotional coasting is used to rein in emotional experiences, so we feel safer. If we haven’t learnt how to tolerate more extreme emotions, like joy and excitement or distress and fear, then we typically look for ways to dampen them.\"\r\n\r\nIn effect, this helps protect us from being overwhelmed or dealing with certain emotions we\'re not prepared to take on.\r\n\r\n\"The problem is that the way we dampen them is by either clipping our internal state (living in the emotional bland band) or by using something in the external world as a crutch (like drugs or alcohol, spending money, over-eating, or restricting food, or by using ego defence mechanisms like denial or compartmentalisation).\"\r\n<h3>What are some common signs you might be \'emotionally coasting\'?</h3>\r\nDoes all this sound a little... familiar? Don\'t worry. You\'re not alone.\r\n\r\nAs Abrahams tells us, it\'s something we\'ll all go through at some point in our lives - especially after the past few years.\r\n\r\n\"It’s impossible to feel every feeling to the full extent. Imagine needing to focus on your work following a fight with your partner and not having any tools up your sleeve to do so. We’d end up plagued by every single feeling and achieve nothing for months on end!\"\r\n\r\nIf you\'re unable to maintain your usual drive and care for life and all its experiences, Abrahams said there are four important questions you need to ask yourself.\r\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- Do I really let myself become excited? What language do I use around this?</p>\r\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- Do I move away from people when they are ecstatic or joyous?</p>\r\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- When I’m sad, do I minimise or compartmentalise my feelings to move away from the sadness?</p>\r\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- When I’m sad, do I look outside of myself for the answer? Is this to numb the pain? Is it to distract from the pain?</p>\r\nOkay. How many of these did you say \'yes\' to?\r\n\r\n\"As a therapist, I know we can’t just keep stuffing feelings down and, at some point, symptoms will erupt either mentally or physically,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\nMeaning? You need to be aware of the key signs and symptoms, so you\'re able to stop it from affecting your life negatively.\r\n\r\nSome common signs of emotional coasting include -\r\n<h4>1. Being busy</h4>\r\nAre you using work as a distraction? \"Whilst being busy can help at times, we need to be careful we are not over-using busyness to bypass feelings,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h4>2. Sublimation</h4>\r\nSee: Avoiding any form of emotional processing by doing absolutely anything else.\r\n\r\n\"This is where we avoid the full emotional experience by attending to pursuits that are deemed worthwhile, such as mowing the lawn, working later, or using the gym,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h4>3. Compartmentalising</h4>\r\nAccording to Abrahams, it\'s common for many people to unconsciously avoid the emotional impact by putting it deep down in our emotional vault and pretty much just throwing away the key. \"This helps us feel we are no longer in contact with it - despite the fact it still resides in us,\" she adds.\r\n<h4>4. Minimising</h4>\r\n\"We can downplay our emotions. For example, when we have been unexpectedly broken up with, we may minimise by stating, \'He didn’t mean that much to me anyway\' or \'I’m overthinking this - it’s simple - it’s over\'.\"\r\n<h4>5. Blocking or numbing</h4>\r\nInstead of using coping strategies, many people will turn to other things to replace this feeling, using it as a crutch to avoid acknowledging or processing their feelings.\r\n\r\nThis involves \"using any action outside of ourselves to block or numb the pain,\" said Abrahams. \"This could be through drugs or alcohol, self-harm, gambling...\"\r\n<h3>How can you stop yourself from \'emotionally coasting\'?</h3>\r\nAbrahams said, \"It’s critical for all of us who emotionally coast to increase our window of tolerance for emotions outside of the \'bland band\'. Life will throw us curve balls, and always when we least expect it.\"\r\n\r\nBeing aware of this behavior and identifying the reasons behind it (that is, what you\'re trying to protect yourself from by numbing your emotions) and how it impacts your life, can help you move forward and better process your emotions and life experiences going forward.\r\n\r\nBut just remember - learning to stop \'emotional coasting\' is not a quick fix, and it can take some time in order to avoid getting overwhelmed with emotions.\r\n\r\nAccording to Abrahams, to prevent emotional coasting, it\'s important to develop three things:\r\n<h4>1. Language awareness</h4>\r\nIt seems like a small change, but Abrahams said that becoming aware of whether your language minimises your emotional experiences is more important than you might think.\r\n\r\n\"Do you say the meal is \'satisfying\' when you may mean \'delicious\'? Allow yourself freedom to turn the volume up. Do you say \'a bit disappointing\' when your pet has died or are you allowed to be \'grief-filled\'?\"\r\n<h4>2. Body awareness</h4>\r\n\"Our body often provides the truth about how we are feeling - without the story in our mind,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\nRead: Listen to your body.\r\n\r\n\"Focus on your heart - is it beating more rapidly suddenly? Why? Information and sensations arise constantly from our body, and this can reveal that we’re not actually emotionally coasting.\"\r\n\r\n\"For example, our body will reveal if we are fearful, excited, or disappointed - it won’t coast. We can’t trick our body out of its experience, so tune in to enhance the colour of your emotional life.\"\r\n<h4>3. Develop distress tolerance.</h4>\r\n\"It’s critical for our mental and physical health to be able to sit with the highs and lows of life without needing to do something with them. Many of us need to increase our ability to tolerate distress.\"\r\n\r\nGoing to therapy and seeking help from a professional is a great way to \"increase your emotional range and truly understanding why you became someone who emotionally coasts in the first place.\"\r\n\r\n\"This, alongside mindfulness techniques, can help you develop a greater ability to tolerate a greater range of emotions that will erupt through life’s curveballs.\"\r\n\r\n<em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\"><strong>what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</strong></a>.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health expert panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy studied psychology in Sydney and then completed her Masters in couples psychotherapy at the internationally renowned Tavistock Relationships. Here, she worked therapeutically with couples, as well as lectured and tutored trainee counsellors.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy believes we all have the capacity to improve our lives and relationships with the right knowledge and practical strategies. Her mission is to help as many people as possible transform their lives by creating happier and more loving relationships.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Feature image: Getty </em>','5 Questions Everyone Should Be Able to Answer About Their Partner, According to An Expert',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5053-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:53:08','2022-08-26 07:53:08','',5053,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5055',0,'revision','',0),(5056,3,'2022-08-26 07:53:08','2022-08-26 07:53:08','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>Mamam!a</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Mamamia\r\n<h2>From numbness to avoidance: 5 signs you\'re \'emotionally coasting\' right now</h2>\r\n1 July 2022\r\n\r\nIn a Better Homes and Gardens interview, Harry Styles said he had the tendency to “emotionally coast” through life - where he described feeling detached, numb and overwhelmed by his feelings and life experiences.\r\n\r\nAnd, honestly, it might just be the best way to describe the collective emotion of 2022.\r\n\r\nBecause while everything is \'back\' (travel! Holidays! Festivals! Weddings!), there\'s also the very real and very obvious feeling of mental exhaustion when it comes to the relentless bad news cycle (see: war, protests, shootings) raging right before our eyes.\r\n\r\nIf you\'re anything like us, you might be feeling like it\'s becoming harder and harder to know where to place your energy and care. To actually feel things.\r\n\r\nEnter: \'Emotional coasting\'.\r\n\r\nWatch: Signs that mean you should seek help for your mental health.\r\n\r\nStyles told BHG that therapy allowed him to open up, better connect with his emotions and experiences, and live more authentically.\r\n\r\nHe said, \"I think that accepting living, being happy, hurting in the extremes, that is the most alive you can be. Losing it crying, losing it laughing - there\'s no way, I don\'t think, to feel more alive than that.\"\r\n\r\nSo, what exactly is emotional coasting and why do we do it? And more importantly, how do we stop?\r\n\r\nHere, we ask an expert in psychology to tell us everything we need to know.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>What is \'emotional coasting\'?</h3>\r\n\"Emotional coasting is a term that encompasses what I call the “bland band”, where consciously and/or unconsciously we strip our lives of the wider emotional spectrum,\" explains psychotherapist Lissy Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"This means experiences might be felt as \'nice\' or \'a bit tough\' but never really \'incredible\' or \'heartbreaking\'.\"\r\n\r\nThe reason behind this? According to Abrahams, it\'s almost like a defence mechanism when we know we\'re not going to be able to process difficult feelings or experiences.\r\n\r\n\"We do this because we haven’t developed a sufficient distress tolerance to sit with feelings outside of the \'bland band\',\" she said.\r\n\r\n\"So, emotional coasting is used to rein in emotional experiences, so we feel safer. If we haven’t learnt how to tolerate more extreme emotions, like joy and excitement or distress and fear, then we typically look for ways to dampen them.\"\r\n\r\nIn effect, this helps protect us from being overwhelmed or dealing with certain emotions we\'re not prepared to take on.\r\n\r\n\"The problem is that the way we dampen them is by either clipping our internal state (living in the emotional bland band) or by using something in the external world as a crutch (like drugs or alcohol, spending money, over-eating, or restricting food, or by using ego defence mechanisms like denial or compartmentalisation).\"\r\n<h3>What are some common signs you might be \'emotionally coasting\'?</h3>\r\nDoes all this sound a little... familiar? Don\'t worry. You\'re not alone.\r\n\r\nAs Abrahams tells us, it\'s something we\'ll all go through at some point in our lives - especially after the past few years.\r\n\r\n\"It’s impossible to feel every feeling to the full extent. Imagine needing to focus on your work following a fight with your partner and not having any tools up your sleeve to do so. We’d end up plagued by every single feeling and achieve nothing for months on end!\"\r\n\r\nIf you\'re unable to maintain your usual drive and care for life and all its experiences, Abrahams said there are four important questions you need to ask yourself.\r\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- Do I really let myself become excited? What language do I use around this?</p>\r\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- Do I move away from people when they are ecstatic or joyous?</p>\r\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- When I’m sad, do I minimise or compartmentalise my feelings to move away from the sadness?</p>\r\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">- When I’m sad, do I look outside of myself for the answer? Is this to numb the pain? Is it to distract from the pain?</p>\r\nOkay. How many of these did you say \'yes\' to?\r\n\r\n\"As a therapist, I know we can’t just keep stuffing feelings down and, at some point, symptoms will erupt either mentally or physically,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\nMeaning? You need to be aware of the key signs and symptoms, so you\'re able to stop it from affecting your life negatively.\r\n\r\nSome common signs of emotional coasting include -\r\n<h4>1. Being busy</h4>\r\nAre you using work as a distraction? \"Whilst being busy can help at times, we need to be careful we are not over-using busyness to bypass feelings,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h4>2. Sublimation</h4>\r\nSee: Avoiding any form of emotional processing by doing absolutely anything else.\r\n\r\n\"This is where we avoid the full emotional experience by attending to pursuits that are deemed worthwhile, such as mowing the lawn, working later, or using the gym,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h4>3. Compartmentalising</h4>\r\nAccording to Abrahams, it\'s common for many people to unconsciously avoid the emotional impact by putting it deep down in our emotional vault and pretty much just throwing away the key. \"This helps us feel we are no longer in contact with it - despite the fact it still resides in us,\" she adds.\r\n<h4>4. Minimising</h4>\r\n\"We can downplay our emotions. For example, when we have been unexpectedly broken up with, we may minimise by stating, \'He didn’t mean that much to me anyway\' or \'I’m overthinking this - it’s simple - it’s over\'.\"\r\n<h4>5. Blocking or numbing</h4>\r\nInstead of using coping strategies, many people will turn to other things to replace this feeling, using it as a crutch to avoid acknowledging or processing their feelings.\r\n\r\nThis involves \"using any action outside of ourselves to block or numb the pain,\" said Abrahams. \"This could be through drugs or alcohol, self-harm, gambling...\"\r\n<h3>How can you stop yourself from \'emotionally coasting\'?</h3>\r\nAbrahams said, \"It’s critical for all of us who emotionally coast to increase our window of tolerance for emotions outside of the \'bland band\'. Life will throw us curve balls, and always when we least expect it.\"\r\n\r\nBeing aware of this behavior and identifying the reasons behind it (that is, what you\'re trying to protect yourself from by numbing your emotions) and how it impacts your life, can help you move forward and better process your emotions and life experiences going forward.\r\n\r\nBut just remember - learning to stop \'emotional coasting\' is not a quick fix, and it can take some time in order to avoid getting overwhelmed with emotions.\r\n\r\nAccording to Abrahams, to prevent emotional coasting, it\'s important to develop three things:\r\n<h4>1. Language awareness</h4>\r\nIt seems like a small change, but Abrahams said that becoming aware of whether your language minimises your emotional experiences is more important than you might think.\r\n\r\n\"Do you say the meal is \'satisfying\' when you may mean \'delicious\'? Allow yourself freedom to turn the volume up. Do you say \'a bit disappointing\' when your pet has died or are you allowed to be \'grief-filled\'?\"\r\n<h4>2. Body awareness</h4>\r\n\"Our body often provides the truth about how we are feeling - without the story in our mind,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\nRead: Listen to your body.\r\n\r\n\"Focus on your heart - is it beating more rapidly suddenly? Why? Information and sensations arise constantly from our body, and this can reveal that we’re not actually emotionally coasting.\"\r\n\r\n\"For example, our body will reveal if we are fearful, excited, or disappointed - it won’t coast. We can’t trick our body out of its experience, so tune in to enhance the colour of your emotional life.\"\r\n<h4>3. Develop distress tolerance.</h4>\r\n\"It’s critical for our mental and physical health to be able to sit with the highs and lows of life without needing to do something with them. Many of us need to increase our ability to tolerate distress.\"\r\n\r\nGoing to therapy and seeking help from a professional is a great way to \"increase your emotional range and truly understanding why you became someone who emotionally coasts in the first place.\"\r\n\r\n\"This, alongside mindfulness techniques, can help you develop a greater ability to tolerate a greater range of emotions that will erupt through life’s curveballs.\"\r\n\r\n<em>If you would like to learn more from Lissy Abrahams, check out her e-book on <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\"><strong>what makes a couple\'s relationship happy</strong></a>.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy Abrahams is part of Mamamia\'s health expert panel. She is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy studied psychology in Sydney and then completed her Masters in couples psychotherapy at the internationally renowned Tavistock Relationships. Here, she worked therapeutically with couples, as well as lectured and tutored trainee counsellors.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Lissy believes we all have the capacity to improve our lives and relationships with the right knowledge and practical strategies. Her mission is to help as many people as possible transform their lives by creating happier and more loving relationships.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>Feature image: Getty </em>','5 Questions Everyone Should Be Able to Answer About Their Partner, According to An Expert',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5053-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:53:08','2022-08-26 07:53:08','',5053,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5056',0,'revision','',0),(5057,3,'2022-08-26 07:53:08','2022-08-26 07:53:08','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Mamam!a            \n        </h1>\n            Article - source: Mamamia        \n            <h2>\n                5 Questions Everyone Should Be Able to Answer About Their Partner, According to An Expert            \n        </h2>\n            30 May 2022        \n		<p>When it comes to relationships, what are your deal-breakers?</p><p>It might be feeling certain where you want to live, hobbies you want to pursue, career goals you need to support meeting, or the kind of family you want to have.</p><p>Now, what about your partner? What are their non-negotiables?</p><p> </p><p>While it’s totally normal to disagree on certain things (read: sailing around the world with seven children), having an open and honest conversation with your partner about each other’s needs and wants in life is crucial in order to make a relationship work.</p><p>And sometimes having an unconformable conversation now – everything from what gets your partner in the mood to how many kids they want – can save you a whole lotta heartache in the end.</p><p>So, we sat down with relationship therapist Lissy Abrahams and asked her to share some of the most important things you should know about your partner.</p><p>In no particular order – and the order will be determined by the age and stage of the couple – Abrahams said there are five key things you should be able to answer about your romantic partner.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>1. How do they deal with stress, sadness, fear, or pain?</h3>		\n		<p>One of the most crucial things you should know about your partner is how they deal with painful and upsetting life experiences.</p><p>Establishing how your partner copes with difficult emotions – because everyone is different – will help you better understand how you’re able to help each other when stressful things arise.</p><p>“We all have differing capacities for how we tolerate upsetting experiences or physical pain. In general, our ability to tolerate these states stems from whether our parents soothed us in childhood,” said Abrahams.</p><p>“This soothing, across many aspects in childhood, becomes internalised and forms the basis of learning to tolerate distress as adults. We take this ability to cope into [our] relationship with our partner.”</p><p>Abrahams goes on to say that people who can tolerate these feelings are often able to manage unsettling experiences better and understand that difficulties come and go.</p><p>While they can still become upset, distressed, or feel pain, she said they tend to be able to work things out themselves, or talk to their partner, or seek wise counsel from someone in their community or a therapist.</p><p>“The important thing is that they are not fearful of thinking about these emotional states. They want to understand them so they can recover,” she said.</p><p>The other side of it? Those who struggle with difficult emotions.</p><p>“The big difference for those who can’t deal with these feelings or pain is that they need to do something in the external world to make the feelings go away.”</p><p>“These solutions are a way of trying to cope with the pain, but they never actually resolve it. Often, they just make things worse.”</p><p>So, you’re going to want to know if your partner can sit with difficult feelings or not. If not, what do they do?</p><p>“Do they instantly blame you? Block or push back your ideas? Do they become sulky or whiny? Do they isolate themselves from you or become punishing?,” said Abrahams.</p><p>“Do they turn to drugs or alcohol to ease emotional or physical pain? Do they use porn, gamble, or shop excessively to avoid feelings? What about emotional eating or highly rigid restrictions on food?”</p><p>This is a really important one to be able to answer, as it can harm a relationship when we can’t manage difficult states inside of ourselves.</p>		\n			<h3>2. How do they like and not like to be touched physically or sexually?</h3>		\n		<p>Partners can have very different views on intimacy – like how often sex should happen, and their expectations and fantasies around sexual activity, including touch.</p><p>“Each partner in a relationship likes to be touched differently. At the beginning of our relationship, we often care a great deal about whether our partner enjoys our touch,” said Abrahams.</p><p>Think back to the beginning of your relationship when things were new and exciting. Over time, we might not care quite as much about what our partner likes and doesn’t like – which is a bit sh**ty.</p><p>“We need to keep caring because this journey is an ever-changing field,” said Abrahams. “Our partner will change across the relationship. We need to understand how they like to be touched physically and sexually at different ages and stages.”</p>		\n			<h3>3. Do they want children or not?</h3>		\n		<p>This one? This is important. While you might be fooled into thinking most couples will suss this out early on in a relationship, sometimes it doesn’t happen.</p><p>“Each partner has their own thoughts about whether they want to be a parent of not. Don’t make any assumptions that your partner’s viewpoint. Make sure you ask the question: Do you want children? Yes/No,” said Abrahams.</p><p>“If they say no, don’t think you will change their mind later. They might, yet more often they won’t. I’ve seen many relationships destroyed by this assumption.”</p><p>“If you both want children, how many do you both want? There will be problems if your partner wants many more children than you, or vice versa.”</p><p>Not only is it important to know whether or not you both want children, but you also should also have a broader idea of what happens if it isn’t possible.</p><p>Struggling to have children can take its toll on any relationship, so you don’t also want to realise that your partner isn’t on board with other avenues you’d be open to, like IVF or adoption. While opinions may change over time, it’s still important to discuss it early so you know where each of you stand.</p><p>Both want to have children? Cool! The next thing you should know is how your partner would want to raise them – because this is just as important.</p><p>“You also need to see where your partner sits in their assumptions about how raising children works,” said Abrahams.</p><p>“Who will potentially pause their career to be the primary carer? You will need to see how well you can navigate these conversations together. The stakes are much higher having these conversations when the child has already entered the world.”</p>		\n			<h3>4. How does your partner relate to money?</h3>		\n		<p>Your partner and money. What does that look like?</p><p>“We all have a relationship to money,” said Abrahams. “This relationship plays itself out based on the stories in our head about money. Is money the root of all evil or does it make the world go round? Our stories can be contradictory, incoherent, and both conscious and unconscious.”</p><p>You’ve heard it a million times before, but one thing most experts will agree on is that the greatest thing couples fight over is money. For this reason, Abrahams said it’s really important to understand your partner so that you can protect your relationship from being spoiled by money issues.</p><p>And there are a lot of different questions you should ask yourself about this.</p><p>“Does your partner fear not having enough money? Or fear losing money? Or continue to feel shame around being a child who didn’t have enough money? Do they comment on your spending too much? Do they throw money around and squander it? Or do they restrict your freedom due to a lack of money? Or do they use money to try to control you?”</p><p>“Money issues can be fraught in relationships. Try to understand how your partner relates to money and the stories they use to describe their relationship with it,” said Abrahams.</p><p>Importantly, she also suggests speaking to your partner about their feelings around debt, mortgages, savings, spending, and separate or shared bank accounts.</p><p>“Ensure you work with them to understand their relationship to money.”</p>		\n			<h3>5. Do they have any unfulfilled dreams that they haven’t shared with you?</h3>		\n		<p>Everyone has dreams and desires – and they can look totally different for each of us.</p><p>“Some partners have a secret desire for the road they haven’t taken. It’s normal to some degree as we always say no to one path when we go down another,” said Abrahams.</p><p>“Find out whether there are paths that can be made room for so your partner can have as rich and fulfilling a life as possible. For example, one partner may be desperate to have a stint living overseas.”</p><p>“If this is possible to work into your lives, then see if it can get off the ground. Some of these may be less possible – like one partner joining the air force – but you can attend air force shows together or watch documentaries or movies together with such themes.”</p><p>Knowing what these are will give you a good idea of your future together and what works for both of you.</p><p>“It’s important to ask your partner how important these dreams are to them, and also whether you, as their partner, could help the dreams become a reality.”</p><p>And there you have it! Some of the most important questions you should be able to answer about your partner.</p><p>How did you go? Did you nail it? Knew you would. You and Jaryd are great together.</p><p><em>For more from Lissy Abrahams, read her e-book on <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\"><strong>what makes a couple a happy one</strong></a>.</em></p><p><em>Lissy Abrahams is a leading individual and couple psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping hundreds of clients navigate life’s obstacles and challenges. Lissy studied psychology in Sydney and then completed her Masters at the internationally renowned Tavistock Relationships, a unit of the Tavistock Institute of Medical Psychology in London. Here, she worked therapeutically with couples, as well as lectured and tutored trainee counsellors.</em></p><p><em>Lissy founded and manages the Sydney-based therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and works therapeutically with clients around the world. She has published academic work and launched a successful online course to help partners stop fighting and communicate respectfully.</em></p><p><em>Lissy believes we all have the capacity to improve our lives and relationships with the right knowledge and practical strategies. Her mission is to help as many people as possible transform their lives by creating happier and more loving relationships.</em></p><p><em>Image source: Shutterstock (369886034)</em></p>','5 Questions Everyone Should Be Able to Answer About Their Partner, According to An Expert',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','5053-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 07:53:08','2022-08-26 07:53:08','',5053,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5057',0,'revision','',0),(5058,3,'2022-05-05 07:54:40','2022-05-05 07:54:40','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                MamaM!a            \n        </h1>\n            Article - source: Mamamia        \n            <h2>\n                There Are Only 2 Types of Friends Everyone Needs in Their Life, According to a Psychotherapist            \n        </h2>\n            5 May 2022        \n		<p>When it comes to relationships, more often than not you’ll find us talking about the rollercoaster ride that is romance and dating – the red flags! The green flags! Ghosting! The whole shebang.</p><p> </p><p>However, in my years of writing about relationships and interviewing psychologists, if there’s one thing I’ve learnt it’s this: our relationships with our friends are more important than we might think. And they can largely affect our happiness and our health. Yes, really!</p><p>Ask any expert and they’ll tell you that the need for a friendship and connection runs deep – it’s something that’s just built into us.</p><p>Psychotherapist Lissy Abrahams said, “Humans are social animals have always needed friendships and connections with others for their survival. Primitive man faced impending death when isolated from family and friends, as they were rather weak compared to other creatures in the wild. Forming friendships allowed us to be stronger than any one individual.”</p><p>“As social animals we originally formed trusting connections with others to help each other obtain food, shelter, and ward off predators. Even though we no longer live in the wild, we are still hard-wired for this form of interconnectedness.”</p><p>Interesting, no?</p><p>“We still connect with others because our drive to survive still exists and tells us to catch up with people, make new friends when we move to a new area or new workplace. We are still wired to seek belonging and connection, we’re just not aware why.”</p><p>Research even tells us that people with strong friendships are more likely to live longer. It can also benefit your mental health, as different friends can provide different emotional needs.</p><p>“With friends in our life we typically live longer, some studies even suggest friends can add years to our lives. They are good for us in so many ways,” adds Abrahams.</p><p>Looking back at the COVID-19 lockdowns and our mental health during the pandemic, it’s easy to see how what can happen to our state of mind when we didn’t share that face-to-face connection with friends.</p><p>“Whilst we try to make the most of it with online catch-ups, drinks and dress-ups, we still missed being in the same space as friends. The mental health of millions around the world plummeted. Our psychological distress was real. Our reliance on alcohol and drugs skyrocketed.”</p><p>So, yeah. Friendship is pretty integral to our health.</p><p>But making friends, learning how to be a friend, and how to keep good friends is something we’re constantly learning and re-learning – no matter how old we are.</p><p>According to Abrahams, there are two main types of friends you should surround yourself with.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>1. Geographical Friends</h3>		\n		<p>The first type of friends you should have are geographical friends. That is, the friends you make because you share a particular location with them.</p><p>“Remember, building communities is primitively wired into our DNA. It’s what we do. So, if you’re in a new environment, you’ll be on the lookout for connection with others, as this will increase your desire for safety,” said Abrahams.</p><p>Bless!</p><p>“If you join a new gym, school, workplace, or move to a new neighbourhood your mind will be checking out those in your vicinity for future friendship. We cannot underestimate the importance of these connections, as they enrich the new environment.”</p><p>“For example, a friendly neighbour keeps an eye on you and notices things that may be somewhat out of kilter for you at home or in the area. They may offer support when you go through hard times or enliven your home when you catch up.”</p><p>The same logic applies to workmates.</p><p>If you’ve worked in an environment where you didn’t feel you had a friend or someone you could vent to during a stressful day, you’ll know how much it sucks. It’s not that you need to hang out outside of the office – but having a support system at work is crucial.</p><p>“We spend more of our waking hours at work than we do at home. Good work friendships can make or break a job. Some jobs may be dull, even somewhat depressing, yet the friendships make it great. Friends help you look forward to going to work and enjoying your time together,” said Abrahams</p><p>The not-so-good part? These type of friendships don’t always last.</p><p>“If we move jobs or finish university, we may not remain in contact. If we go to a new gym, we may ease off contact with our previous gym buddy,” said Abrahams.</p><p>“This can be confusing for some people as they thought the relationship was important irrespective of the current environment.”</p><p>However, thanks to social media, these days it’s so much easier to keep in touch with geographical friends, “as not everyone wants to make lengthy phone calls or ‘how are you?’ emails,” said Abrahams.</p><p>“If we maintain geographical friendships out of a particular environment they become intentional friendships, no longer bound by the geographic proximity.”</p><p>Which brings us to…</p>		\n			<h3>2. Intentional Friends</h3>		\n		<p>“Intentional friends are those you maintain as you have shared values and provide meaning, offer support, interest, and joy to your life,” shares Abrahams.</p><p>These particular friends can be split up into six different sub-categories:</p><p><b>a) One or more full-spectrum best friends</b></p><p>Whether you’re having second thoughts about your relationship or stressing about your career, a full-spectrum best friend is there to help guide you in the right direction and pull you through the tough times.</p><p>“These friends are there both in the good and bad times and everything in between. They’re the go-to friends for happy news and celebrations. They can share your joy, and they can also unconditionally love and support you through some pretty hairy times.”</p><p>“Full-spectrum best friends may not always like your behaviour or opinions, but they don’t judge you or pull away. They’re loyal and would show their support of you to others even if you’re absent.”</p><p>“These best friends help you find light and laughter even in dark times. They sit with you and are not afraid of your grief or distress, whether it’s a breakup, loss of a job, or sickness. They show you through actions and words that you’re not alone.”</p><p><b>b) The completely honest friend</b></p><p>Ah. The brutally honest friend. These kinds of friends don’t tiptoe around anything and aren’t worried they’re going to hurt your feelings – they always remain genuine and open and aren’t afraid to tell you the truth.</p><p>“These friends don’t play along with social niceties and are honest with you all the time. They speak their mind, call your BS, and tell you how they feel about your life. They may sound judgemental, yet they’re often trying to support or even protect you,” said Abrahams.</p><p>The thing about completely honest friends is that they know your relationship is strong enough to sustain the truth. So, while it’s not always easy (it might even hurt a little), they’re not scared to tell you where you can improve.</p><p>And honestly, they’re so important to have in your life.</p><p>“They will tell you whether you are being unfair to your partner or too harsh with your kids. They will tell you if you’re being treated appallingly and need to get out of your relationship or a dead-end job. Their honesty is how they show they value you.”</p><p><b>c) A mentor friend</b></p><p>Yes, friendships and mentors can co-exist.</p><p>“We no longer live in tribes with wise elders to tap into. We have less contact with religious figures offering advice, and we no longer believe politicians can guide us honestly without their self-interest flaunted in our face. Having friends who are mentors is critical for guiding, advising, thinking through options and opening possibilities.”</p><p>Most mentor relationships play a consistent role in your life and will help you challenge your assumptions and give you the insights, advice and support you need to thrive.</p><p>“These friends are wise and can analyse situations and hold complexity in mind. They steer clear of black and white simplistic thinking. They’ve lived a bit, learnt lessons along the way, and are happy to share their experiences to support your journey.”</p><p><b>d) A ‘like a mum’ friend</b></p><p>This one – this one’s important. The ‘mum’ friend is that one friend in your circle that’s responsible, caring and always protective of you.</p><p>“This is the friend who shows up at your door when they hear a wobble in your voice. They see themselves as part of the solution to the wobble and able to offer comfort. You feel safe to be vulnerable in their presence and even be held by them when you cry,” said Abrahams.</p><p>“They’ll fix a meal, encourage you to eat and get you more tissues for your tears and snot. They’re reassuring about the future being better than this moment of distress or pain.”</p><p>We’re not crying, you’re crying!</p><p><b>e) The encouraging friend</b></p><p>“This is the friend who wants you to grow and supports your development. They encourage you to expand your life experiences whether through travel, study, or career change.”</p><p>Encouraging friends push us out of our comfort zones and where we need to go, making us aware that we can always do better. These kinds of friends believe in you, they know you’re capable, and they’re always ready to cheer you on from the side-line.</p><p>“They’re not fearful of a little risk for a greater reward and want you to have an experience-rich life too. For example, they may encourage you to travel for a year even if it means you’re not around for them. They see your growth as separate from their own lives.”</p><p><b>f) The friend ‘I do that with’</b></p><p>You know the one. This is the person who’s always down to hang out. You’re bored on a Sunday arvo with nothing to do? This is who you call.</p><p>“It’s great to have friends you have shared specific experiences with. This could be someone who loves exercising with you, walking dogs, going to the movies or comedy shows with. The friendship thrives as you both love and value the experience. It could be your shared thing is nightclubbing or festivals or playing cards or sharing your Wordle results with every day.”</p><p>“The friend ‘I do that with’ may also relate to the content and quality of the interaction. Some friendships thrive on having interesting philosophical/life discussions or talking complete s**t together. This type of friend could be the friend you have the greatest laughs with or have amazing ideas and feel creative with.”</p><p>Want to hear more? We’ve got you covered! Check out this e-book on <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/what-makes-a-couple-relationship-a-happy-one/\"><strong>what makes a couple relationship a happy one</strong></a>.</p>','There Are Only 2 Types of Friends Everyone Needs in Their Life, According to a Psychotherapist',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','publish','closed','closed','','there-are-only-2-types-of-friends-everyone-needs-in-their-life','','','2022-10-17 02:16:59','2022-10-17 02:16:59','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?post_type=case-study&#038;p=5058',0,'case-study','',0),