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They need to understand a few things. These include, that they cannot make this better for you. That this is always there for you, beneath the surface, and this can impact your mood from time to time. Finally, that the difference between your two situations is tricky to manage sometimes, for example, when a family comes over it can bring up your own situation of being trapped without a way to get home. 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Many were greatly impacted by the first 2-week stint, however, the recent extension of restrictions and the increasing infection cases has created greater anxiety and even depression. This is all made worse as there is no certainty to an end. Many couples suffer behind closed doors and relationships are becoming the often-unseen victims of the pandemic.<\\/p><p>Partners are describing living in \\u201ca pressure cooker\\u201d with increased work and home life demands, and for many, there is greater financial strain. Many are <a href=\\\"https:\\/\\/www.news.com.au\\/lifestyle\\/health\\/mental-health\\/new-study-reveals-worrying-mental-health-numbers-for-those-stuck-in-lockdown\\/news-story\\/f7d739148bae5294a1b956000340087c\\\" target=\\\"_blank\\\" rel=\\\"noopener\\\">distressed<\\/a> at how they will manage their own work responsibilities as well as overseeing their children\\u2019s homeschooling. On top of this, some couples have much younger children around who would normally be in daycare or with nannies. The domestic workload is huge, and partners describe feeling very overwhelmed and anxious.<\\/p><p>For many couples, if there were any cracks in the relationship before the pandemic, the pressure of <a href=\\\"https:\\/\\/www.lissyabrahams.com\\/2021\\/07\\/13\\/how-our-closed-border-policies-impact-our-mental-health-our-couple-relationships\\/\\\">lockdowns<\\/a> rips these cracks wide open. This is being seen across the world, as greater numbers of people are looking for advice online on how to help their couple relationship.<\\/p><p>My clinic in Sydney is receiving more and more requests for couples therapy. Partners are desperate to improve their communication, and many just want to stop the fights. Some contact my clinic concerned about their partner\\u2019s increasing alcohol intake, whilst others are withdrawing from their partner. Some are worried that they are losing interest in being intimate and don\\u2019t feel much of a couple anymore. A recent research study from the University of Indiana echoes what I am seeing. They found that since the pandemic, 34% of participants reported increased conflict in their relationship and decreased intimacy.<\\/p><p>For many people in relationships, lockdown and the pandemic, in general, has left them watching so much more Netflix, wearing their tracksuits all the time, not making an effort with each other, not going out and being a couple in the world, and having less hugs, kisses, or sex. As this lockdown continues, permanent damage can occur in relationships when partners feel less desire for their partner and less desirable to their partner. 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For people who have settled in Australia from overseas, they live permanently with a tear in their heart, as they miss their home country and loved ones, despite their love of living in Australia. Their inability to travel currently massively increases the size of their tear. Many of them are frustrated and distressed at not being able to visit their home country and feel completely trapped by this policy.<\\/p><p>The most devastating experience for them is when a family member or loved one overseas is dying and they are unable to be by their side to pay their respects. Then there is the funeral. With no friends or family from home to support them, just themselves and maybe their partner watching a service on a screen, often in the late hours of the night. It is just soul-destroying for them having to farewell a loved one via Facetime.<\\/p><p>I see a young couple in my consulting room, where the wife is Italian and the husband Australian. 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You may find that some live locally enough for you to meet up.<\\/p>\"},\"elements\":[],\"widgetType\":\"text-editor\"}],\"isInner\":false}],\"isInner\":false},{\"id\":\"3d314ed\",\"elType\":\"section\",\"settings\":{\"structure\":\"20\"},\"elements\":[{\"id\":\"c9c3c9f\",\"elType\":\"column\",\"settings\":{\"_column_size\":50,\"_inline_size\":10},\"elements\":[{\"id\":\"f9d41a1\",\"elType\":\"widget\",\"settings\":{\"image\":{\"url\":\"https:\\/\\/www.lissyabrahams.com\\/wp-content\\/uploads\\/2022\\/07\\/3.png\",\"id\":3749,\"alt\":\"\",\"source\":\"library\"}},\"elements\":[],\"widgetType\":\"image\"}],\"isInner\":false},{\"id\":\"c02047e\",\"elType\":\"column\",\"settings\":{\"_column_size\":50,\"_inline_size\":90},\"elements\":[{\"id\":\"cae4a16\",\"elType\":\"widget\",\"settings\":{\"editor\":\"<p><strong>Help your partner truly get it<\\/strong> \\u2013 If you are in a <a href=\\\"https:\\/\\/www.lissyabrahams.com\\/2021\\/04\\/26\\/what-is-couple-mindedness\\/\\\" rel=\\\"noopener\\\">couple relationship<\\/a>, help your partner understand the situation from your side. They need to understand a few things. These include, that they cannot make this better for you. That this is always there for you, beneath the surface, and this can impact your mood from time to time. Finally, that the difference between your two situations is tricky to manage sometimes, for example, when a family comes over it can bring up your own situation of being trapped without a way to get home. 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They need to understand a few things. These include, that they cannot make this better for you. That this is always there for you, beneath the surface, and this can impact your mood from time to time. Finally, that the difference between your two situations is tricky to manage sometimes, for example, when a family comes over it can bring up your own situation of being trapped without a way to get home. 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Many were greatly impacted by the first 2-week stint, however, the recent extension of restrictions and the increasing infection cases has created greater anxiety and even depression. This is all made worse as there is no certainty to an end. Many couples suffer behind closed doors and relationships are becoming the often-unseen victims of the pandemic.<\\/p><p>Partners are describing living in \\u201ca pressure cooker\\u201d with increased work and home life demands, and for many, there is greater financial strain. Many are <a href=\\\"https:\\/\\/www.news.com.au\\/lifestyle\\/health\\/mental-health\\/new-study-reveals-worrying-mental-health-numbers-for-those-stuck-in-lockdown\\/news-story\\/f7d739148bae5294a1b956000340087c\\\" target=\\\"_blank\\\" rel=\\\"noopener\\\">distressed<\\/a> at how they will manage their own work responsibilities as well as overseeing their children\\u2019s homeschooling. 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Some are worried that they are losing interest in being intimate and don\\u2019t feel much of a couple anymore. A recent research study from the University of Indiana echoes what I am seeing. They found that since the pandemic, 34% of participants reported increased conflict in their relationship and decreased intimacy.<\\/p><p>For many people in relationships, lockdown and the pandemic, in general, has left them watching so much more Netflix, wearing their tracksuits all the time, not making an effort with each other, not going out and being a couple in the world, and having less hugs, kisses, or sex. As this lockdown continues, permanent damage can occur in relationships when partners feel less desire for their partner and less desirable to their partner. All of this opens the door to less satisfaction in the relationship and can cause mental health to deteriorate.<\\/p><p>What I do know is that these conditions are dangerous for couples over time, as partners become increasingly lonely and unhappy. If this goes on much longer it can move couples closer to separation and divorce. Many family lawyers are reporting 33% more enquiries for separation advice in the last year, than previously.<\\/p><p>As you can see, the fallout from the pandemic, and even more so with lockdowns, is concerning and we need to take our couple relationships seriously and protect them. 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Make the effort to connect emotionally, physically and sexually. Create opportunities to be playful and connected. You will need to turn off Netflix and digital devices. 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Create fun opportunities together. You could cook a new meal together, create a date night at home, catch up with another couple online together. 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This firm border policy has earned us the nickname \\u201cFortress Australia\\u201d.<\\/p><p>The difficulty we face, is that 1.5 years into the pandemic, hundreds of thousands of people have been and are still impacted by this policy, causing great distress to those either stuck inside or those kept helplessly outside of the \\u201c<a href=\\\"https:\\/\\/www.bbc.com\\/news\\/world-australia-57224635\\\" target=\\\"_blank\\\" rel=\\\"noopener\\\">fortress<\\/a>\\u201d Australia.<\\/p><p>On the news channels, we have heard their voices and seen their frustration as these Australians stranded around the globe just cannot get home to be with loved ones. Many have lost patience with the policy and given up trying to return as the process has been too distressing.<\\/p><p>As a therapist working with both individuals and couples, I am seeing many of the impacts in my consulting room for those unable to travel to their native countries. 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Some are worried that they are losing interest in being intimate and don\\u2019t feel much of a couple anymore. A recent research study from the University of Indiana echoes what I am seeing. They found that since the pandemic, 34% of participants reported increased conflict in their relationship and decreased intimacy.<\\/p><p>For many people in relationships, lockdown and the pandemic, in general, has left them watching so much more Netflix, wearing their tracksuits all the time, not making an effort with each other, not going out and being a couple in the world, and having less hugs, kisses, or sex. As this lockdown continues, permanent damage can occur in relationships when partners feel less desire for their partner and less desirable to their partner. All of this opens the door to less satisfaction in the relationship and can cause mental health to deteriorate.<\\/p><p>What I do know is that these conditions are dangerous for couples over time, as partners become increasingly lonely and unhappy. If this goes on much longer it can move couples closer to separation and divorce. Many family lawyers are reporting 33% more enquiries for separation advice in the last year, than previously.<\\/p><p>As you can see, the fallout from the pandemic, and even more so with lockdowns, is concerning and we need to take our couple relationships seriously and protect them. Many couples wish they had prevented this damage from occurring much earlier in the pandemic.<\\/p><p>Here are 3 tips to make sure you keep your eyes on your relationship -\\u00a0<\\/p>\"},\"elements\":[],\"widgetType\":\"text-editor\"}],\"isInner\":false}],\"isInner\":false},{\"id\":\"b0671df\",\"elType\":\"section\",\"settings\":{\"structure\":\"20\"},\"elements\":[{\"id\":\"bce0b08\",\"elType\":\"column\",\"settings\":{\"_column_size\":50,\"_inline_size\":10},\"elements\":[{\"id\":\"84028bc\",\"elType\":\"widget\",\"settings\":{\"image\":{\"url\":\"https:\\/\\/www.lissyabrahams.com\\/wp-content\\/uploads\\/2022\\/07\\/1.png\",\"id\":3747,\"alt\":\"\",\"source\":\"library\"}},\"elements\":[],\"widgetType\":\"image\"}],\"isInner\":false},{\"id\":\"f8719be\",\"elType\":\"column\",\"settings\":{\"_column_size\":50,\"_inline_size\":90},\"elements\":[{\"id\":\"0d5d3d4\",\"elType\":\"widget\",\"settings\":{\"editor\":\"<p><strong>Put intimacy on the agenda<\\/strong> \\u2013 It is vital you keep being intimate with your partner. 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We, however, are living in extraordinary times as news agencies, the web, and social media platforms allow us to see the impact of the Covid-19 pandemic across the world. At the touch of a button, we have access to the latest Covid-19 statistics, the opinions and advice of health experts, and our politicians trying to manage the impacts.<\\/p><p>We all can tune in to Glady\\u2019s daily Covid briefing, listening for the latest hotspots and infection numbers, and how many of these have been living normally \\u201cin the community\\u201d. We may stare at them intently for any additional clues \\u2013 is Gladys fearful? Is the state losing control of this one? Why is Brad Hazzard so upset today? Kerry Chant sounds worried as she pleads for us to take lockdown seriously and to get vaccinated. Then in the evening news, Scott Morrison shares with us why we can now trust AstraZeneca.<\\/p><p>We are all listening. We are re-evaluating the potential repercussions for our own lives. We watch and speak about this day in and day out. Children across the country are playing Premier and Chief Health Officer. Even young toddlers are watching and listening. They know how masks are worn and stick out their hand for hand sanitiser. Last Christmas, I chose Kerry Chant as the person for my family to guess in the Name Game.<\\/p><p>We listen, we research, and we speak repeatedly with our family, friends, colleagues, and clients about the extraordinary times we are in. We share the horror stories about Covid and long Covid or speak about those who had such mild symptoms they barely knew they had it. We share our perspectives on many aspects of the pandemic, and we want others to agree with us. We feel less anxious when others agree with our perspective. It helps us feel as if we are on the right path.<\\/p><p>We may judge others rather harshly for not sharing our perspectives. We may even dismiss others from our lives for holding a viewpoint that\\u2019s different to ours. 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Here goes we are anxious and fearful about our finances, the survival of our businesses, job security, our career development being on hold, saying no to our employers for fear of being sacked, our children\\u2019s social isolation, our parents who we can\\u2019t see, not seeing our grandchildren, parents who are getting older and\\/or sicker, living in lockdown with domestic violence and not being able to get out, being home with children all day, our growing dependence on alcohol, our loss of contact with friends, our secret gambling habit, being home so much with our partner, the news cycle, not being with our family overseas, not getting a mammogram or going to the dentist for fear of catching Covid, losing our freedom and rights with a future determine by a vaccine passport, which vaccine to have, whether to vaccinate at all, the long-term health implications of new vaccinations with no data yet, the side effects of vaccinations, balancing the fear of Covid and long Covid and vaccinations, this pandemic never ending, what to do with a strained and worsening couple relationship, loneliness, worsening mental health, who to lay off at work, not enough space at home, concern for the future, uptight, increased reactivity, body pains and tension, being isolated, losing friends, overwhelmed, guilt over not making contact with friends and family, no alone time, feeling a burden on others, not sleeping properly, mounting deferred tax debt, and so many more.<\\/p><p>This list is maddening. We all have some or many of these anxieties and fears. We need to stop the madness and the enormous stress on our minds and bodies from these anxieties. We need to do it differently now. It\\u2019s been too much for too long. It is now time to listen. But who to? For our mental health and wellbeing, we need to sit quietly and listen to ourselves. We all need to change the way we manage this and take responsibility for what we put onto others. 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