(5574,3,'2022-12-06 06:24:42','2022-12-06 06:24:42','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Podcasts            \n        </h1>\n			<style>/*! 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elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"100\" height=\"100\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/BodySoul-Healthish-e1658306050495.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            BODY+SOUL HEALTHY-ISH        \n            <h2>\n                The No 1. Thing to Improve Couple Communication<br />\n        </h2>\n            2 September 2021        \n		<p><iframe title=\"A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/healthy-ish/a-psychotherapist-on-the-no-1-thing-to-improve-cou/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe></p>		\n            <h2>\n                When Christmas Stress Hits            \n        </h2>\n            16 December 2021        \n		<p><iframe title=\"When Christmas stress hits...\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/healthy-ish/when-christmas-stress-hits/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe></p>		\n															<img width=\"120\" height=\"105\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/BodySoul-Healthy-ish-extra-e1658551477615.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            body+soul Healthy-ish extra        \n            <h2>\n                What Couples Who Communicate Well Do Differently            \n        </h2>\n            2 September 2021        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/extra-healthy-ish/what-couples-who-communicate-well-do-differently/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"What couples who communicate well do differently\"></iframe>		\n            <h2>\n                How to  Deal with Family Crap at Christmas            \n        </h2>\n            16 December 2021        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/extra-healthy-ish/how-to-deal-with-family-crap-at-christmas/embed?in_playlist=extra-healthy-ish&style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"How to deal with family crap at Christmas\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"160\" height=\"80\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/ido-podcast-small-1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            i do podcast        \n            <h2>\n                How to Have a Peaceful Divorce or Separation            \n        </h2>\n		<iframe allow=\"autoplay *; encrypted-media *; fullscreen *; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"175\" style=\"width:100%;max-width:660px;overflow:hidden;background:transparent;\" sandbox=\"allow-forms allow-popups allow-same-origin allow-scripts allow-storage-access-by-user-activation allow-top-navigation-by-user-activation\" src=\"https://embed.podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/how-to-have-a-peaceful-divorce-or-separation/id840534227?i=1000535247963\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"93\" height=\"43\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/291768450_602847517894882_6401580038014845901_n.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            faster than normal by peter shankman        \n            <h2>\n                Creating Connected Relationships            \n        </h2>\n																<a href=\"https://www.fasterthannormal.com/creating-connected-relationships-w-psychotherapist-lissy-abrahams/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n							<img width=\"562\" height=\"102\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1.png 562w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1-300x54.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 562px) 100vw, 562px\" />								</a>\n															<img width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-300x300.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-e1658306061762.jpg 100w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" />															\n            feed play love with Shevonne hunt        \n            <h2>\n                Want to Stop Fighting with Your Partner? <br>- Here\'s How            \n        </h2>\n            26 July 2022        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/feed-play-love1/want-to-stop-fighting-with-your-partner/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"Want to stop fighting with your partner? Here\'s how\"></iframe>		\n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/SCS_podcast_3-e1659852287780-pswfn2ezqkd7wn96h07p7j0vic52zc7h8qjgsb3d34.png\" title=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" alt=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" />															\n            segal conflict solutions        \n            <h2>\n                Why employers should be wooing employees back to the office after COVID            \n        </h2>\n            3 August 2022        \n		<iframe style=\"border-radius: 12px;\" src=\"https://open.spotify.com/embed/episode/5z4i6sWqlra07N86EzhQHs?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"114\" height=\"68\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Radio-National.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            ABC Radio national        \n            <h2>\n                Could your childhood baggage be ruining your relationship?            \n        </h2>\n            4 August 2022 - <b>Interview starts at 32:13</b>        \n		<iframe allow=\"autoplay *; encrypted-media *; fullscreen *; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"175\" style=\"width:100%;max-width:660px;overflow:hidden;background:transparent;\" sandbox=\"allow-forms allow-popups allow-same-origin allow-scripts allow-storage-access-by-user-activation allow-top-navigation-by-user-activation\" src=\"https://embed.podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/retiring-when-inflation-is-high-and-resetting-your/id73330343?i=1000574948325\"></iframe> 		\n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/nova-entertainment-logo-e1661236396796.png\" title=\"nova-entertainment-logo\" alt=\"nova-entertainment-logo\" />															\n            Nova         \n            <h2>\n                It\'s not them...it\'s you<br>            \n        </h2>\n            22 August 2022        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/separate-bathrooms-and-other-handy-marriage-tips/lissy-abrahams/embed\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"It\'s Not Them... It\'s You\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"9360\" height=\"2043\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Luke-and-Susie-Logo-Gracify-Media-Smile.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Luke-and-Susie-Logo-Gracify-Media-Smile.png 9360w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Luke-and-Susie-Logo-Gracify-Media-Smile-300x65.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Luke-and-Susie-Logo-Gracify-Media-Smile-1024x224.png 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Luke-and-Susie-Logo-Gracify-Media-Smile-768x168.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Luke-and-Susie-Logo-Gracify-Media-Smile-1536x335.png 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Luke-and-Susie-Logo-Gracify-Media-Smile-2048x447.png 2048w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Luke-and-Susie-Logo-Gracify-Media-Smile-600x131.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 9360px) 100vw, 9360px\" />															\n            Luke and Susie - Gracify        \n            <h2>\n                Relationship Reset            \n        </h2>\n            12 October 2022         \n		<iframe title=\"Lissy Abrahams - Relationship Reset\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/luke-and-susie-podcast/lissy-abrahams-relationship-reset/embed\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"164\" height=\"142\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Spaitgirl.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            spa it girl        \n            <h2>\n                Relationship Reset            \n        </h2>\n            19 September 2022         \n		<iframe title=\"Relationship Reset with Lissy Abrahams\" src=\"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/spaitgirl/EP188audio.m4a?dest-id=585639\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe>','Podcasts',' Lissy is often invited as a guest expert on podcasts.','inherit','closed','closed','','4319-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:24:42','2022-12-06 06:24:42','',4319,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5574',0,'revision','',0),(5575,3,'2022-12-06 06:24:42','2022-12-06 06:24:42','<style>/*! 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My partner and I hate to talk about money\r\n14 November 2022\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-768x432.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1536x864.png 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-600x338.png 600w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money.png 2048w\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" />\r\n<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/help-my-partner-and-i-hate-to-talk-about-money/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\r\nRead More\r\n</a>','Body + Soul','','inherit','closed','closed','','5576-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:31:28','2022-12-06 06:31:28','',5576,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5577',0,'revision','',0),(5578,3,'2022-12-06 06:31:39','2022-12-06 06:31:39','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>The OZ</h1>\r\nInterviews\r\n<h2>The OZ</h2>\r\nClick on the <b>\'READ MORE\'</b> buttons below to read the articles.\r\nWho loses when we don\'t talk about money openly\r\n14 November 2022\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-768x432.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1536x864.png 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-600x338.png 600w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money.png 2048w\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" />\r\n<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/who-loses-when-we-dont-talk-money/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\r\nRead More\r\n</a>\r\nHelp! My partner and I hate to talk about money\r\n14 November 2022\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-768x432.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1536x864.png 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-600x338.png 600w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money.png 2048w\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" />\r\n<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/help-my-partner-and-i-hate-to-talk-about-money/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\r\nRead More\r\n</a>','Body+Soul','','inherit','closed','closed','','5576-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:31:39','2022-12-06 06:31:39','',5576,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5578',0,'revision','',0),(5580,3,'2022-12-06 06:36:09','2022-12-06 06:36:09','<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.7 - 03-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.e-container.e-container--row .elementor-spacer-inner{width:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container.e-container--column .elementor-spacer-inner,.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}</style>\r\n<h1>Body+Soul</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Body+Soul\r\n<h2>The number one thing to improve couple communication</h2>\r\n3 September 2021\r\n\r\nBody+Soul investigates how to quell a fight in the early stages and deal with it in a way that will be better for you and your partner.\r\n\r\nHave you ever had your partner say, do (or not do) something and just loose the plot?\r\n\r\nMaybe they’ve been rubbing you the wrong way and then there was that moment the switch flicked and it was game time on the screaming match, with both sides likely to lose out?\r\n\r\nWell, you’re not alone, but psychotherapist and couples counsellor Lissy Abrahams, <a href=\"https://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/sex-relationships/relationships/the-common-arguments-all-couples-have-over-christmas/news-story/3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev=\"event119\" data-tgev-metric=\"ev\" data-tgev-order=\"3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev-label=\"sex-relationships\" data-tgev-container=\"bodylink\">says it doesn’t have to be that way.</a>\r\n\r\nSpeaking on Body+Soul’s daily podcast <em>Healthy-ish</em>, she says that the single most important step to stop fighting is to literally stop. To take a breather.\r\n\r\n“There\'s absolutely nothing we can say to each other that we\'re really going to take in. Our defences are up, we\'re often in fight or flight mode, and we’re trying to survive the moment,” she tells host Felicity Harley on the <em>Healthy-ish </em>episode <em>A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication.</em>\r\n\r\n“The first thing we can do is just take a pause, take 10 minutes and see if that\'s enough time to calm down.”\r\n\r\nIf you’re having trouble calming down, Abrahams suggests trying breath work and taking the time to move your mind away from the discussion. Essentially, relax and regroup.\r\n\r\nIt may also be beneficial to reflect on the part of yourself that was triggered in the situation, the ‘ego’. And no – we don\'t mean ego in the sense of self-importance – it\'s a term often used to describe part of your personality in psychology and, in fact, everyone has one.\r\n\r\n“One of the ways that we can really look after our relationship and not damage it is by understanding our ego and also understand it\'s linked to feeling fear or shame,” she explains.\r\n\r\n“Where we perceive our partner as a threat…or feel like they’re shaming us in any way, we’re going to get into fight or flight mode and we’re going to have something to tell them that we’re not very happy about.”\r\n\r\nThis response can be one of two things:\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li><strong>Superiority:</strong> That we feel like they don’t know the situation like we do, and that we know how to navigate the relationship better.</li>\r\n 	<li><strong>Inferiority:</strong> This is victim mode, where one partner may start crying or show weakness to get their partner back alongside.</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n“We can do a lot of damage through the ego by not understanding it. The best thing we can do is to learn about what it is that makes us feel frightened with a partner or ashamed and then take responsibility for that and go and learn about it,” says Abrahams.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.7 - 03-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>How to keep your ego in check</h3>\r\nThe first step is to understand our ego and how it operates. What is your response? It could be attacking, blaming, judgement, complaining, screaming, shouting, standing up and making your body big.\r\n\r\nIf we know what it looks like when we’ve been triggered, we can notice it and say to ourselves, ‘that’s my ego’. It might be time for a cool down minute.\r\n\r\n“We don\'t always know that we\'ve got a choice in those moments. We feel fully justified to be sulky or be attacking in that moment. So the best thing we can do is to identify themes around it and work out what upsets you.”\r\n\r\nThat’s the second part – knowing what it was that triggered you.\r\n\r\nEven if you didn’t start the fight, there’s always a point where you became invested in it. Which button did your partner push that made you respond?\r\n\r\nAbrahams says this might be a tone of voice, when your partner doesn’t listen to you, or perhaps even a particular behavior or body language movement that irks you.\r\n\r\nThink about why it sets your teeth on edge.\r\n\r\nDo you hate not being listened to? Perhaps you were always listened to as a child and you’ve come to expect that, or maybe you weren’t listened to and you regress back to the way you acted when you were younger to get attention. Unravel those feelings and it will help you respond better next time.\r\n\r\nIf you have trouble doing this on your own, a professional therapist may be the perfect person to help you work through it.\r\n<h3>Can we get over it?</h3>\r\nAbrahams says we can.\r\n\r\n“It\'s a life journey for all of us. And with different people, they\'ll be different,” she says.\r\n\r\n“The ones who are doing it well are people who have the ability to really listen to each other and allow their partner to be different from them.”\r\n\r\nShe explains that often when we meet our partner we accept their differences, but as time goes on we can see them as a threat because they’re not alongside us in the way we want them to be.\r\n\r\n“So, one thing we can really do is to learn to listen to our partner and to allow them to have their own mind and not be threatened by them in that way.”\r\n\r\n<em>You can download Lissy’s free ebook, Top Tips for Improving Couple Communication, <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/resources/download-top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication-e-book/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGneYNMZHuyS2WEYz4FuTIpfV2EXA\">here</a>, or for more info, see her website <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGij7lKvn-1BaiNEZkBIRedU7tETg\">here.</a></em>','The number one thing to improve couple communication','','inherit','closed','closed','','4789-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:36:09','2022-12-06 06:36:09','',4789,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5580',0,'revision','',0),(5581,3,'2022-12-06 06:36:40','2022-12-06 06:36:40','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>The OZ</h1>\r\nInterviews\r\n<h2>The OZ</h2>\r\nClick on the <b>\'READ MORE\'</b> buttons below to read the articles.\r\nWho loses when we don\'t talk about money openly\r\n14 November 2022\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-768x432.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1536x864.png 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-600x338.png 600w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money.png 2048w\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" />\r\n<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/who-loses-when-we-dont-talk-money/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\r\nRead More\r\n</a>\r\nHelp! My partner and I hate to talk about money\r\n14 November 2022\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-768x432.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1536x864.png 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-600x338.png 600w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money.png 2048w\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" />\r\n<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/help-my-partner-and-i-hate-to-talk-about-money/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\r\nRead More\r\n</a>','Body+Soul','Love your life more with advice on how to lead a healthy lifestyle, lose weight, stay fit, stress less, be happy and so much more from Australia\'s home of health and happiness, body+soul.','inherit','closed','closed','','5576-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:36:40','2022-12-06 06:36:40','',5576,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5581',0,'revision','',0),(5582,3,'2022-12-06 06:37:30','2022-12-06 06:37:30','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>The OZ</h1>\r\nInterviews\r\n<h2>The OZ</h2>\r\nClick on the <b>\'READ MORE\'</b> buttons below to read the articles.\r\nWho loses when we don\'t talk about money openly\r\n14 November 2022\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-768x432.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1536x864.png 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-600x338.png 600w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money.png 2048w\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" />\r\n<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/who-loses-when-we-dont-talk-money/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\r\nRead More\r\n</a>\r\nHelp! My partner and I hate to talk about money\r\n14 November 2022\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-768x432.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1536x864.png 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-600x338.png 600w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money.png 2048w\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" />\r\n<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/help-my-partner-and-i-hate-to-talk-about-money/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\r\nRead More\r\n</a>','Body+Soul','Love your life more with advice on how to lead a healthy lifestyle, lose weight, stay fit, stress less, be happy and so much more from Australia\'s home of health and happiness, body+soul.','inherit','closed','closed','','5576-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:37:30','2022-12-06 06:37:30','',5576,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5582',0,'revision','',0),(5583,3,'2022-12-06 06:37:30','2022-12-06 06:37:30','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>The OZ</h1>\r\nInterviews\r\n<h2>The OZ</h2>\r\nClick on the <b>\'READ MORE\'</b> buttons below to read the articles.\r\nWho loses when we don\'t talk about money openly\r\n14 November 2022\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-768x432.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1536x864.png 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-600x338.png 600w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money.png 2048w\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" />\r\n<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/who-loses-when-we-dont-talk-money/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\r\nRead More\r\n</a>\r\nHelp! My partner and I hate to talk about money\r\n14 November 2022\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-768x432.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1536x864.png 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-600x338.png 600w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money.png 2048w\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" />\r\n<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/help-my-partner-and-i-hate-to-talk-about-money/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\r\nRead More\r\n</a>','Body+Soul','Love your life more with advice on how to lead a healthy lifestyle, lose weight, stay fit, stress less, be happy and so much more from Australia\'s home of health and happiness, body+soul.','inherit','closed','closed','','5576-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:37:30','2022-12-06 06:37:30','',5576,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5583',0,'revision','',0),(5584,3,'2022-12-06 06:37:30','2022-12-06 06:37:30','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Body+Soul            \n        </h1>\n            Interviews        \n            <h2>\n                The OZ            \n        </h2>\n            Click on the <b>\'READ MORE\'</b> buttons below to read the articles.        \n            Who loses when we don&#039;t talk about money openly        \n            14 November 2022        \n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-768x432.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1536x864.png 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-600x338.png 600w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money.png 2048w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/who-loses-when-we-dont-talk-money/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            Help! My partner and I hate to talk about money        \n            14 November 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-768x432.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1536x864.png 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-600x338.png 600w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money.png 2048w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/help-my-partner-and-i-hate-to-talk-about-money/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>','Body+Soul','Love your life more with advice on how to lead a healthy lifestyle, lose weight, stay fit, stress less, be happy and so much more from Australia\'s home of health and happiness, body+soul.','inherit','closed','closed','','5576-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:37:30','2022-12-06 06:37:30','',5576,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5584',0,'revision','',0),(5585,3,'2022-12-06 06:39:09','2022-12-06 06:39:09','','Senior, couple and laugh after comic joke together in restaurant for bonding time. 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My partner and I hate to talk about money        \n            14 November 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-768x432.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-1536x864.png 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money-600x338.png 600w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Help-My-Partner-I-Hate-To-Talk-About-Money.png 2048w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/help-my-partner-and-i-hate-to-talk-about-money/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>','Body+Soul','Love your life more with advice on how to lead a healthy lifestyle, lose weight, stay fit, stress less, be happy and so much more from Australia\'s home of health and happiness, body+soul.','inherit','closed','closed','','5576-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:45:08','2022-12-06 06:45:08','',5576,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5589',0,'revision','',0),(5590,3,'2022-12-06 06:45:08','2022-12-06 06:45:08','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Body+Soul            \n        </h1>\n            Interviews        \n            <h2>\n                The OZ            \n        </h2>\n            Click on the <b>\'READ MORE\'</b> buttons below to read the articles.        \n            Who loses when we don&#039;t talk about money openly        \n            14 November 2022        \n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1024x576.png 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-768x432.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-1536x864.png 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money-600x338.png 600w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Who-Loses-When-We-Dont-Talk-About-Money.png 2048w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/who-loses-when-we-dont-talk-money/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            Help! 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elementor - v3.6.7 - 03-07-2022 */<br />.e-container.e-container--row .elementor-spacer-inner{width:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container.e-container--column .elementor-spacer-inner,.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}</style>\r\n<h1>Body+Soul</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Body+Soul\r\n<h2>The number one thing to improve couple communication</h2>\r\n3 September 2021\r\n\r\nBody+Soul investigates how to quell a fight in the early stages and deal with it in a way that will be better for you and your partner.\r\n\r\nHave you ever had your partner say, do (or not do) something and just loose the plot?\r\n\r\nMaybe they’ve been rubbing you the wrong way and then there was that moment the switch flicked and it was game time on the screaming match, with both sides likely to lose out?\r\n\r\nWell, you’re not alone, but psychotherapist and couples counsellor Lissy Abrahams, <a href=\"https://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/sex-relationships/relationships/the-common-arguments-all-couples-have-over-christmas/news-story/3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev=\"event119\" data-tgev-metric=\"ev\" data-tgev-order=\"3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev-label=\"sex-relationships\" data-tgev-container=\"bodylink\">says it doesn’t have to be that way.</a>\r\n\r\nSpeaking on Body+Soul’s daily podcast <em>Healthy-ish</em>, she says that the single most important step to stop fighting is to literally stop. To take a breather.\r\n\r\n“There\'s absolutely nothing we can say to each other that we\'re really going to take in. Our defences are up, we\'re often in fight or flight mode, and we’re trying to survive the moment,” she tells host Felicity Harley on the <em>Healthy-ish </em>episode <em>A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication.</em>\r\n\r\n“The first thing we can do is just take a pause, take 10 minutes and see if that\'s enough time to calm down.”\r\n\r\nIf you’re having trouble calming down, Abrahams suggests trying breath work and taking the time to move your mind away from the discussion. Essentially, relax and regroup.\r\n\r\nIt may also be beneficial to reflect on the part of yourself that was triggered in the situation, the ‘ego’. And no – we don\'t mean ego in the sense of self-importance – it\'s a term often used to describe part of your personality in psychology and, in fact, everyone has one.\r\n\r\n“One of the ways that we can really look after our relationship and not damage it is by understanding our ego and also understand it\'s linked to feeling fear or shame,” she explains.\r\n\r\n“Where we perceive our partner as a threat…or feel like they’re shaming us in any way, we’re going to get into fight or flight mode and we’re going to have something to tell them that we’re not very happy about.”\r\n\r\nThis response can be one of two things:\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li><strong>Superiority:</strong> That we feel like they don’t know the situation like we do, and that we know how to navigate the relationship better.</li>\r\n 	<li><strong>Inferiority:</strong> This is victim mode, where one partner may start crying or show weakness to get their partner back alongside.</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n“We can do a lot of damage through the ego by not understanding it. The best thing we can do is to learn about what it is that makes us feel frightened with a partner or ashamed and then take responsibility for that and go and learn about it,” says Abrahams.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.7 - 03-07-2022 */<br />.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>How to keep your ego in check</h3>\r\nThe first step is to understand our ego and how it operates. What is your response? It could be attacking, blaming, judgement, complaining, screaming, shouting, standing up and making your body big.\r\n\r\nIf we know what it looks like when we’ve been triggered, we can notice it and say to ourselves, ‘that’s my ego’. It might be time for a cool down minute.\r\n\r\n“We don\'t always know that we\'ve got a choice in those moments. We feel fully justified to be sulky or be attacking in that moment. So the best thing we can do is to identify themes around it and work out what upsets you.”\r\n\r\nThat’s the second part – knowing what it was that triggered you.\r\n\r\nEven if you didn’t start the fight, there’s always a point where you became invested in it. Which button did your partner push that made you respond?\r\n\r\nAbrahams says this might be a tone of voice, when your partner doesn’t listen to you, or perhaps even a particular behavior or body language movement that irks you.\r\n\r\nThink about why it sets your teeth on edge.\r\n\r\nDo you hate not being listened to? Perhaps you were always listened to as a child and you’ve come to expect that, or maybe you weren’t listened to and you regress back to the way you acted when you were younger to get attention. Unravel those feelings and it will help you respond better next time.\r\n\r\nIf you have trouble doing this on your own, a professional therapist may be the perfect person to help you work through it.\r\n<h3>Can we get over it?</h3>\r\nAbrahams says we can.\r\n\r\n“It\'s a life journey for all of us. And with different people, they\'ll be different,” she says.\r\n\r\n“The ones who are doing it well are people who have the ability to really listen to each other and allow their partner to be different from them.”\r\n\r\nShe explains that often when we meet our partner we accept their differences, but as time goes on we can see them as a threat because they’re not alongside us in the way we want them to be.\r\n\r\n“So, one thing we can really do is to learn to listen to our partner and to allow them to have their own mind and not be threatened by them in that way.”\r\n\r\n<em>You can download Lissy’s free ebook, Top Tips for Improving Couple Communication, <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/resources/download-top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication-e-book/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGneYNMZHuyS2WEYz4FuTIpfV2EXA\">here</a>, or for more info, see her website <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGij7lKvn-1BaiNEZkBIRedU7tETg\">here.</a></em>','The number one thing to improve couple communication','','inherit','closed','closed','','4789-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:47:40','2022-12-06 06:47:40','',4789,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5596',0,'revision','',0),(5597,3,'2022-12-06 06:48:33','2022-12-06 06:48:33','<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.7 - 03-07-2022 */<br />.e-container.e-container--row .elementor-spacer-inner{width:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container.e-container--column .elementor-spacer-inner,.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}</style>\r\n<h1>Body+Soul</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Body+Soul\r\n<h2>The number one thing to improve couple communication</h2>\r\n3 September 2021\r\n\r\nBody+Soul investigates how to quell a fight in the early stages and deal with it in a way that will be better for you and your partner.\r\n\r\nHave you ever had your partner say, do (or not do) something and just loose the plot?\r\n\r\nMaybe they’ve been rubbing you the wrong way and then there was that moment the switch flicked and it was game time on the screaming match, with both sides likely to lose out?\r\n\r\nWell, you’re not alone, but psychotherapist and couples counsellor Lissy Abrahams, <a href=\"https://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/sex-relationships/relationships/the-common-arguments-all-couples-have-over-christmas/news-story/3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev=\"event119\" data-tgev-metric=\"ev\" data-tgev-order=\"3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev-label=\"sex-relationships\" data-tgev-container=\"bodylink\">says it doesn’t have to be that way.</a>\r\n\r\nSpeaking on Body+Soul’s daily podcast <em>Healthy-ish</em>, she says that the single most important step to stop fighting is to literally stop. To take a breather.\r\n\r\n“There\'s absolutely nothing we can say to each other that we\'re really going to take in. Our defences are up, we\'re often in fight or flight mode, and we’re trying to survive the moment,” she tells host Felicity Harley on the <em>Healthy-ish </em>episode <em>A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication.</em>\r\n\r\n“The first thing we can do is just take a pause, take 10 minutes and see if that\'s enough time to calm down.”\r\n\r\nIf you’re having trouble calming down, Abrahams suggests trying breath work and taking the time to move your mind away from the discussion. Essentially, relax and regroup.\r\n\r\nIt may also be beneficial to reflect on the part of yourself that was triggered in the situation, the ‘ego’. And no – we don\'t mean ego in the sense of self-importance – it\'s a term often used to describe part of your personality in psychology and, in fact, everyone has one.\r\n\r\n“One of the ways that we can really look after our relationship and not damage it is by understanding our ego and also understand it\'s linked to feeling fear or shame,” she explains.\r\n\r\n“Where we perceive our partner as a threat…or feel like they’re shaming us in any way, we’re going to get into fight or flight mode and we’re going to have something to tell them that we’re not very happy about.”\r\n\r\nThis response can be one of two things:\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li><strong>Superiority:</strong> That we feel like they don’t know the situation like we do, and that we know how to navigate the relationship better.</li>\r\n 	<li><strong>Inferiority:</strong> This is victim mode, where one partner may start crying or show weakness to get their partner back alongside.</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n“We can do a lot of damage through the ego by not understanding it. The best thing we can do is to learn about what it is that makes us feel frightened with a partner or ashamed and then take responsibility for that and go and learn about it,” says Abrahams.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.7 - 03-07-2022 */<br />.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>How to keep your ego in check</h3>\r\nThe first step is to understand our ego and how it operates. What is your response? It could be attacking, blaming, judgement, complaining, screaming, shouting, standing up and making your body big.\r\n\r\nIf we know what it looks like when we’ve been triggered, we can notice it and say to ourselves, ‘that’s my ego’. It might be time for a cool down minute.\r\n\r\n“We don\'t always know that we\'ve got a choice in those moments. We feel fully justified to be sulky or be attacking in that moment. So the best thing we can do is to identify themes around it and work out what upsets you.”\r\n\r\nThat’s the second part – knowing what it was that triggered you.\r\n\r\nEven if you didn’t start the fight, there’s always a point where you became invested in it. Which button did your partner push that made you respond?\r\n\r\nAbrahams says this might be a tone of voice, when your partner doesn’t listen to you, or perhaps even a particular behavior or body language movement that irks you.\r\n\r\nThink about why it sets your teeth on edge.\r\n\r\nDo you hate not being listened to? Perhaps you were always listened to as a child and you’ve come to expect that, or maybe you weren’t listened to and you regress back to the way you acted when you were younger to get attention. Unravel those feelings and it will help you respond better next time.\r\n\r\nIf you have trouble doing this on your own, a professional therapist may be the perfect person to help you work through it.\r\n<h3>Can we get over it?</h3>\r\nAbrahams says we can.\r\n\r\n“It\'s a life journey for all of us. And with different people, they\'ll be different,” she says.\r\n\r\n“The ones who are doing it well are people who have the ability to really listen to each other and allow their partner to be different from them.”\r\n\r\nShe explains that often when we meet our partner we accept their differences, but as time goes on we can see them as a threat because they’re not alongside us in the way we want them to be.\r\n\r\n“So, one thing we can really do is to learn to listen to our partner and to allow them to have their own mind and not be threatened by them in that way.”\r\n\r\n<em>You can download Lissy’s free ebook, Top Tips for Improving Couple Communication, <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/resources/download-top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication-e-book/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGneYNMZHuyS2WEYz4FuTIpfV2EXA\">here</a>, or for more info, see her website <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGij7lKvn-1BaiNEZkBIRedU7tETg\">here.</a></em>','The number one thing to improve couple communication','','inherit','closed','closed','','4789-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:48:33','2022-12-06 06:48:33','',4789,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5597',0,'revision','',0),(5598,3,'2022-12-06 06:48:33','2022-12-06 06:48:33','<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.7 - 03-07-2022 */<br />.e-container.e-container--row .elementor-spacer-inner{width:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container.e-container--column .elementor-spacer-inner,.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}</style>\r\n<h1>Body+Soul</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Body+Soul\r\n<h2>The number one thing to improve couple communication</h2>\r\n3 September 2021\r\n\r\nBody+Soul investigates how to quell a fight in the early stages and deal with it in a way that will be better for you and your partner.\r\n\r\nHave you ever had your partner say, do (or not do) something and just loose the plot?\r\n\r\nMaybe they’ve been rubbing you the wrong way and then there was that moment the switch flicked and it was game time on the screaming match, with both sides likely to lose out?\r\n\r\nWell, you’re not alone, but psychotherapist and couples counsellor Lissy Abrahams, <a href=\"https://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/sex-relationships/relationships/the-common-arguments-all-couples-have-over-christmas/news-story/3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev=\"event119\" data-tgev-metric=\"ev\" data-tgev-order=\"3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev-label=\"sex-relationships\" data-tgev-container=\"bodylink\">says it doesn’t have to be that way.</a>\r\n\r\nSpeaking on Body+Soul’s daily podcast <em>Healthy-ish</em>, she says that the single most important step to stop fighting is to literally stop. To take a breather.\r\n\r\n“There\'s absolutely nothing we can say to each other that we\'re really going to take in. Our defences are up, we\'re often in fight or flight mode, and we’re trying to survive the moment,” she tells host Felicity Harley on the <em>Healthy-ish </em>episode <em>A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication.</em>\r\n\r\n“The first thing we can do is just take a pause, take 10 minutes and see if that\'s enough time to calm down.”\r\n\r\nIf you’re having trouble calming down, Abrahams suggests trying breath work and taking the time to move your mind away from the discussion. Essentially, relax and regroup.\r\n\r\nIt may also be beneficial to reflect on the part of yourself that was triggered in the situation, the ‘ego’. And no – we don\'t mean ego in the sense of self-importance – it\'s a term often used to describe part of your personality in psychology and, in fact, everyone has one.\r\n\r\n“One of the ways that we can really look after our relationship and not damage it is by understanding our ego and also understand it\'s linked to feeling fear or shame,” she explains.\r\n\r\n“Where we perceive our partner as a threat…or feel like they’re shaming us in any way, we’re going to get into fight or flight mode and we’re going to have something to tell them that we’re not very happy about.”\r\n\r\nThis response can be one of two things:\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li><strong>Superiority:</strong> That we feel like they don’t know the situation like we do, and that we know how to navigate the relationship better.</li>\r\n 	<li><strong>Inferiority:</strong> This is victim mode, where one partner may start crying or show weakness to get their partner back alongside.</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n“We can do a lot of damage through the ego by not understanding it. The best thing we can do is to learn about what it is that makes us feel frightened with a partner or ashamed and then take responsibility for that and go and learn about it,” says Abrahams.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.7 - 03-07-2022 */<br />.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>How to keep your ego in check</h3>\r\nThe first step is to understand our ego and how it operates. What is your response? It could be attacking, blaming, judgement, complaining, screaming, shouting, standing up and making your body big.\r\n\r\nIf we know what it looks like when we’ve been triggered, we can notice it and say to ourselves, ‘that’s my ego’. It might be time for a cool down minute.\r\n\r\n“We don\'t always know that we\'ve got a choice in those moments. We feel fully justified to be sulky or be attacking in that moment. So the best thing we can do is to identify themes around it and work out what upsets you.”\r\n\r\nThat’s the second part – knowing what it was that triggered you.\r\n\r\nEven if you didn’t start the fight, there’s always a point where you became invested in it. Which button did your partner push that made you respond?\r\n\r\nAbrahams says this might be a tone of voice, when your partner doesn’t listen to you, or perhaps even a particular behavior or body language movement that irks you.\r\n\r\nThink about why it sets your teeth on edge.\r\n\r\nDo you hate not being listened to? Perhaps you were always listened to as a child and you’ve come to expect that, or maybe you weren’t listened to and you regress back to the way you acted when you were younger to get attention. Unravel those feelings and it will help you respond better next time.\r\n\r\nIf you have trouble doing this on your own, a professional therapist may be the perfect person to help you work through it.\r\n<h3>Can we get over it?</h3>\r\nAbrahams says we can.\r\n\r\n“It\'s a life journey for all of us. And with different people, they\'ll be different,” she says.\r\n\r\n“The ones who are doing it well are people who have the ability to really listen to each other and allow their partner to be different from them.”\r\n\r\nShe explains that often when we meet our partner we accept their differences, but as time goes on we can see them as a threat because they’re not alongside us in the way we want them to be.\r\n\r\n“So, one thing we can really do is to learn to listen to our partner and to allow them to have their own mind and not be threatened by them in that way.”\r\n\r\n<em>You can download Lissy’s free ebook, Top Tips for Improving Couple Communication, <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/resources/download-top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication-e-book/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGneYNMZHuyS2WEYz4FuTIpfV2EXA\">here</a>, or for more info, see her website <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGij7lKvn-1BaiNEZkBIRedU7tETg\">here.</a></em>','The number one thing to improve couple communication','','inherit','closed','closed','','4789-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:48:33','2022-12-06 06:48:33','',4789,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5598',0,'revision','',0),(5599,3,'2022-12-06 06:48:33','2022-12-06 06:48:33','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                The number one thing to improve couple communication​            \n        </h1>\n            Article - source: Body+Soul        \n            <h2>\n                The number one thing to improve couple communication            \n        </h2>\n            3 September 2021        \n		<p>Body+Soul investigates how to quell a fight in the early stages and deal with it in a way that will be better for you and your partner.</p><p>Have you ever had your partner say, do (or not do) something and just loose the plot?</p><p>Maybe they’ve been rubbing you the wrong way and then there was that moment the switch flicked and it was game time on the screaming match, with both sides likely to lose out?</p><p>Well, you’re not alone, but psychotherapist and couples counsellor Lissy Abrahams, <a href=\"https://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/sex-relationships/relationships/the-common-arguments-all-couples-have-over-christmas/news-story/3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev=\"event119\" data-tgev-metric=\"ev\" data-tgev-order=\"3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev-label=\"sex-relationships\" data-tgev-container=\"bodylink\">says it doesn’t have to be that way.</a></p><p>Speaking on Body+Soul’s daily podcast <em>Healthy-ish</em>, she says that the single most important step to stop fighting is to literally stop. To take a breather.</p><p>“There\'s absolutely nothing we can say to each other that we\'re really going to take in. Our defences are up, we\'re often in fight or flight mode, and we’re trying to survive the moment,” she tells host Felicity Harley on the <em>Healthy-ish </em>episode <em>A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication.</em></p><p>“The first thing we can do is just take a pause, take 10 minutes and see if that\'s enough time to calm down.”</p><p>If you’re having trouble calming down, Abrahams suggests trying breath work and taking the time to move your mind away from the discussion. Essentially, relax and regroup.</p><p>It may also be beneficial to reflect on the part of yourself that was triggered in the situation, the ‘ego’. And no – we don\'t mean ego in the sense of self-importance – it\'s a term often used to describe part of your personality in psychology and, in fact, everyone has one.</p><p>“One of the ways that we can really look after our relationship and not damage it is by understanding our ego and also understand it\'s linked to feeling fear or shame,” she explains.</p><p>“Where we perceive our partner as a threat…or feel like they’re shaming us in any way, we’re going to get into fight or flight mode and we’re going to have something to tell them that we’re not very happy about.”</p><p>This response can be one of two things:</p><ol><li><strong>Superiority:</strong> That we feel like they don’t know the situation like we do, and that we know how to navigate the relationship better.</li><li><strong>Inferiority:</strong> This is victim mode, where one partner may start crying or show weakness to get their partner back alongside.</li></ol><p>“We can do a lot of damage through the ego by not understanding it. The best thing we can do is to learn about what it is that makes us feel frightened with a partner or ashamed and then take responsibility for that and go and learn about it,” says Abrahams.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>How to keep your ego in check</h3>		\n		<p>The first step is to understand our ego and how it operates. What is your response? It could be attacking, blaming, judgement, complaining, screaming, shouting, standing up and making your body big.</p><p>If we know what it looks like when we’ve been triggered, we can notice it and say to ourselves, ‘that’s my ego’. It might be time for a cool down minute.</p><p>“We don\'t always know that we\'ve got a choice in those moments. We feel fully justified to be sulky or be attacking in that moment. So the best thing we can do is to identify themes around it and work out what upsets you.”</p><p>That’s the second part – knowing what it was that triggered you.</p><p>Even if you didn’t start the fight, there’s always a point where you became invested in it. Which button did your partner push that made you respond?</p><p>Abrahams says this might be a tone of voice, when your partner doesn’t listen to you, or perhaps even a particular behavior or body language movement that irks you.</p><p>Think about why it sets your teeth on edge.</p><p>Do you hate not being listened to? Perhaps you were always listened to as a child and you’ve come to expect that, or maybe you weren’t listened to and you regress back to the way you acted when you were younger to get attention. Unravel those feelings and it will help you respond better next time.</p><p>If you have trouble doing this on your own, a professional therapist may be the perfect person to help you work through it.</p>		\n			<h3>Can we get over it?</h3>		\n		<p>Abrahams says we can.</p><p>“It\'s a life journey for all of us. And with different people, they\'ll be different,” she says.</p><p>“The ones who are doing it well are people who have the ability to really listen to each other and allow their partner to be different from them.”</p><p>She explains that often when we meet our partner we accept their differences, but as time goes on we can see them as a threat because they’re not alongside us in the way we want them to be.</p><p>“So, one thing we can really do is to learn to listen to our partner and to allow them to have their own mind and not be threatened by them in that way.”</p><p><em>You can download Lissy’s free ebook, Top Tips for Improving Couple Communication, <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/resources/download-top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication-e-book/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGneYNMZHuyS2WEYz4FuTIpfV2EXA\">here</a>, or for more info, see her website <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGij7lKvn-1BaiNEZkBIRedU7tETg\">here.</a></em></p>','The number one thing to improve couple communication','','inherit','closed','closed','','4789-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:48:33','2022-12-06 06:48:33','',4789,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5599',0,'revision','',0),(5600,3,'2022-12-06 06:50:27','2022-12-06 06:50:27','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Could your childhood be determining how you fare in adult relationships?            \n        </h1>\n            Article - source: Body+Soul        \n            <h2>\n                Could your childhood be determining how you fare in adult relationships?            \n        </h2>\n            20 September 2022        \n            There&#039;s a reason you can&#039;t see those red flags.        \n		<p>Relationship therapist Lissy Abrahams explains how the events that shape your childhood influence the relationships you form as an adult.<br />Are you constantly making the same relationship mistakes over and over again? Always seeking out partners that are certified walking red flags? Or maybe – like one sir Anthony Bridgerton – you can\'t help but push those you love away.</p><p>The good news is you\'re not alone, and according to relationship therapist Lissy Abrahams, author of Relationship Reset, there\'s no need to blame yourself. You just need to look back through your childhood.</p><p>In order to understand why you have the triggers or behaviours you have, or why certain things are deal breakers within a relationship, Abrahams says that reflecting on how you were brought up – and what you were exposed to – can help make sense of them. Here, she explains how your childhood impacts your future relationships – and what you can do to make a change.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>How your childhood impacts your adult relationships</h3>		\n		<p>I have a client, Jasmine, who quickly breaks up with her latest boyfriend the minute he starts to imagine a future with her. Another client, Amos, rarely shares his emotions with his wife and often feels lonely. Stefano’s partner, Zac, feels smothered by him, like he’s always being scrutinised for mood changes.</p><p>So, why do my clients relate to their partners like this? Well, like all of us, they were exposed to thousands and thousands of both positive and negative experiences in childhood that formed their relational templates, often in micro-moments with their parents or caregivers. We all carry these templates throughout life and map them onto our couple relationships.</p><p>Despite often sharing some values, our partner will always have a different relational template to us, as the forces that shaped theirs were not identical to ours. These forces might include different messages and experiences from parents and extended family, safe or unsafe experiences, migration, family trauma, religious or cultural influences, parental separation/divorce, school systems and teachers, friends, governments, TV and media, and more.</p>		\n			<h3>How does a relational template work?</h3>		\n		<p>Our relational template is like a program of our expectations, beliefs, opinions, and rules for how we should, or shouldn’t, behave in a relationship. Much of this is unconscious, so we don’t always consciously have access to what’s encoded. However, our behaviour gives us a clue, just like it does for Jasmine, Amos, and Stefano. To them their behaviour makes sense, which means relationship difficulties are deemed their partner’s fault. They don’t understand the extent of their own involvement as they are behaving according to their own, unique relational template.</p><p>Jasmine thought she’d have a partner and children by now. She doesn’t understand that her template encoded thousands of micro-moments of her parents’ brutal emotional conflict where she and her younger sister were terrified. Even though she remembers some of the conflict, she is not in contact with the extent of the fear and terror unconsciously inside her. She dismisses any boyfriend who imagines a future together, preventing any child from being created who could go through what she did.</p><p>Amos wants a close and connected relationship with his wife yet often hides how he really feels. Encoded in his template are all the micro-moments where he couldn’t get enough of his parents’ attention and presence as a young child. They were often stressed about being cash-strapped and didn’t have sufficient support. Amos learnt to turn off his emotions as a means of dealing with them. He was lonely, and he’s often still lonely today.</p><p>Stefano wants a relationship with desire and engagement, not the constant anxiety he has today. As a child he was both anxious and clingy with his parents. Encoded in his template were thousands of micro-moments of not feeling special enough as he had four other siblings to compete with. Clinging became a strategy of staying close to his parents. The problem is, he applies this same clingy strategy in his relationship with Zac, who then feels suffocated. This causes Stefano to retreat, which triggers even more anxiety.</p>		\n			<h3>How to change your relational template</h3>		\n		<p>Let’s not forget that just like all of us, my clients’ partners also react and behave according to their own relational templates. This is why couple relationships are so complex, and why so many are conflict-filled, lonely and distressing - and why many even end. In Australia, one in three marriages ends in divorce. In the UK and USA, it’s one in two. Vast numbers of us across the world experience broken dreams and broken homes, and we often have no real understanding why.</p><p>Understanding our relational template is vital if we want to create a healthier relationship with our partner and understand why we treat our partner the way we do. For some of us it’s through therapy, a wise friend or elder, books and blogs, online courses, and podcasts. Whatever the method, we need to make conscious what has been unconsciously encoded inside us. This liberates us, our partner, and our relationship from our past, and allows us the opportunity to truly create a respectful and loving relationship in the present.</p>','Could your childhood be determining how you fare in adult relationships?','','publish','closed','closed','','could-your-childhood-be-determining-your-adult-relationship','','','2022-12-06 06:55:48','2022-12-06 06:55:48','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?post_type=case-study&#038;p=5600',0,'case-study','',0),(5601,3,'2022-12-06 06:50:27','2022-12-06 06:50:27','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>The number one thing to improve couple communication​</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Body+Soul\r\n<h2>The number one thing to improve couple communication</h2>\r\n3 September 2021\r\n\r\nBody+Soul investigates how to quell a fight in the early stages and deal with it in a way that will be better for you and your partner.\r\n\r\nHave you ever had your partner say, do (or not do) something and just loose the plot?\r\n\r\nMaybe they’ve been rubbing you the wrong way and then there was that moment the switch flicked and it was game time on the screaming match, with both sides likely to lose out?\r\n\r\nWell, you’re not alone, but psychotherapist and couples counsellor Lissy Abrahams, <a href=\"https://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/sex-relationships/relationships/the-common-arguments-all-couples-have-over-christmas/news-story/3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev=\"event119\" data-tgev-metric=\"ev\" data-tgev-order=\"3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev-label=\"sex-relationships\" data-tgev-container=\"bodylink\">says it doesn’t have to be that way.</a>\r\n\r\nSpeaking on Body+Soul’s daily podcast <em>Healthy-ish</em>, she says that the single most important step to stop fighting is to literally stop. To take a breather.\r\n\r\n“There\'s absolutely nothing we can say to each other that we\'re really going to take in. Our defences are up, we\'re often in fight or flight mode, and we’re trying to survive the moment,” she tells host Felicity Harley on the <em>Healthy-ish </em>episode <em>A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication.</em>\r\n\r\n“The first thing we can do is just take a pause, take 10 minutes and see if that\'s enough time to calm down.”\r\n\r\nIf you’re having trouble calming down, Abrahams suggests trying breath work and taking the time to move your mind away from the discussion. Essentially, relax and regroup.\r\n\r\nIt may also be beneficial to reflect on the part of yourself that was triggered in the situation, the ‘ego’. And no – we don\'t mean ego in the sense of self-importance – it\'s a term often used to describe part of your personality in psychology and, in fact, everyone has one.\r\n\r\n“One of the ways that we can really look after our relationship and not damage it is by understanding our ego and also understand it\'s linked to feeling fear or shame,” she explains.\r\n\r\n“Where we perceive our partner as a threat…or feel like they’re shaming us in any way, we’re going to get into fight or flight mode and we’re going to have something to tell them that we’re not very happy about.”\r\n\r\nThis response can be one of two things:\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li><strong>Superiority:</strong> That we feel like they don’t know the situation like we do, and that we know how to navigate the relationship better.</li>\r\n 	<li><strong>Inferiority:</strong> This is victim mode, where one partner may start crying or show weakness to get their partner back alongside.</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n“We can do a lot of damage through the ego by not understanding it. The best thing we can do is to learn about what it is that makes us feel frightened with a partner or ashamed and then take responsibility for that and go and learn about it,” says Abrahams.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>How to keep your ego in check</h3>\r\nThe first step is to understand our ego and how it operates. What is your response? It could be attacking, blaming, judgement, complaining, screaming, shouting, standing up and making your body big.\r\n\r\nIf we know what it looks like when we’ve been triggered, we can notice it and say to ourselves, ‘that’s my ego’. It might be time for a cool down minute.\r\n\r\n“We don\'t always know that we\'ve got a choice in those moments. We feel fully justified to be sulky or be attacking in that moment. So the best thing we can do is to identify themes around it and work out what upsets you.”\r\n\r\nThat’s the second part – knowing what it was that triggered you.\r\n\r\nEven if you didn’t start the fight, there’s always a point where you became invested in it. Which button did your partner push that made you respond?\r\n\r\nAbrahams says this might be a tone of voice, when your partner doesn’t listen to you, or perhaps even a particular behavior or body language movement that irks you.\r\n\r\nThink about why it sets your teeth on edge.\r\n\r\nDo you hate not being listened to? Perhaps you were always listened to as a child and you’ve come to expect that, or maybe you weren’t listened to and you regress back to the way you acted when you were younger to get attention. Unravel those feelings and it will help you respond better next time.\r\n\r\nIf you have trouble doing this on your own, a professional therapist may be the perfect person to help you work through it.\r\n<h3>Can we get over it?</h3>\r\nAbrahams says we can.\r\n\r\n“It\'s a life journey for all of us. And with different people, they\'ll be different,” she says.\r\n\r\n“The ones who are doing it well are people who have the ability to really listen to each other and allow their partner to be different from them.”\r\n\r\nShe explains that often when we meet our partner we accept their differences, but as time goes on we can see them as a threat because they’re not alongside us in the way we want them to be.\r\n\r\n“So, one thing we can really do is to learn to listen to our partner and to allow them to have their own mind and not be threatened by them in that way.”\r\n\r\n<em>You can download Lissy’s free ebook, Top Tips for Improving Couple Communication, <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/resources/download-top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication-e-book/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGneYNMZHuyS2WEYz4FuTIpfV2EXA\">here</a>, or for more info, see her website <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGij7lKvn-1BaiNEZkBIRedU7tETg\">here.</a></em>','Could your childhood be determining how you fare in adult relationships?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5600-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:50:27','2022-12-06 06:50:27','',5600,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5601',0,'revision','',0),(5602,3,'2022-12-06 06:50:57','2022-12-06 06:50:57','<style>/*! 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elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>The number one thing to improve couple communication​</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Body+Soul\r\n<h2>The number one thing to improve couple communication</h2>\r\n3 September 2021\r\n\r\nBody+Soul investigates how to quell a fight in the early stages and deal with it in a way that will be better for you and your partner.\r\n\r\nHave you ever had your partner say, do (or not do) something and just loose the plot?\r\n\r\nMaybe they’ve been rubbing you the wrong way and then there was that moment the switch flicked and it was game time on the screaming match, with both sides likely to lose out?\r\n\r\nWell, you’re not alone, but psychotherapist and couples counsellor Lissy Abrahams, <a href=\"https://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/sex-relationships/relationships/the-common-arguments-all-couples-have-over-christmas/news-story/3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev=\"event119\" data-tgev-metric=\"ev\" data-tgev-order=\"3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev-label=\"sex-relationships\" data-tgev-container=\"bodylink\">says it doesn’t have to be that way.</a>\r\n\r\nSpeaking on Body+Soul’s daily podcast <em>Healthy-ish</em>, she says that the single most important step to stop fighting is to literally stop. To take a breather.\r\n\r\n“There\'s absolutely nothing we can say to each other that we\'re really going to take in. Our defences are up, we\'re often in fight or flight mode, and we’re trying to survive the moment,” she tells host Felicity Harley on the <em>Healthy-ish </em>episode <em>A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication.</em>\r\n\r\n“The first thing we can do is just take a pause, take 10 minutes and see if that\'s enough time to calm down.”\r\n\r\nIf you’re having trouble calming down, Abrahams suggests trying breath work and taking the time to move your mind away from the discussion. Essentially, relax and regroup.\r\n\r\nIt may also be beneficial to reflect on the part of yourself that was triggered in the situation, the ‘ego’. And no – we don\'t mean ego in the sense of self-importance – it\'s a term often used to describe part of your personality in psychology and, in fact, everyone has one.\r\n\r\n“One of the ways that we can really look after our relationship and not damage it is by understanding our ego and also understand it\'s linked to feeling fear or shame,” she explains.\r\n\r\n“Where we perceive our partner as a threat…or feel like they’re shaming us in any way, we’re going to get into fight or flight mode and we’re going to have something to tell them that we’re not very happy about.”\r\n\r\nThis response can be one of two things:\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li><strong>Superiority:</strong> That we feel like they don’t know the situation like we do, and that we know how to navigate the relationship better.</li>\r\n 	<li><strong>Inferiority:</strong> This is victim mode, where one partner may start crying or show weakness to get their partner back alongside.</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n“We can do a lot of damage through the ego by not understanding it. The best thing we can do is to learn about what it is that makes us feel frightened with a partner or ashamed and then take responsibility for that and go and learn about it,” says Abrahams.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>How to keep your ego in check</h3>\r\nThe first step is to understand our ego and how it operates. What is your response? It could be attacking, blaming, judgement, complaining, screaming, shouting, standing up and making your body big.\r\n\r\nIf we know what it looks like when we’ve been triggered, we can notice it and say to ourselves, ‘that’s my ego’. It might be time for a cool down minute.\r\n\r\n“We don\'t always know that we\'ve got a choice in those moments. We feel fully justified to be sulky or be attacking in that moment. So the best thing we can do is to identify themes around it and work out what upsets you.”\r\n\r\nThat’s the second part – knowing what it was that triggered you.\r\n\r\nEven if you didn’t start the fight, there’s always a point where you became invested in it. Which button did your partner push that made you respond?\r\n\r\nAbrahams says this might be a tone of voice, when your partner doesn’t listen to you, or perhaps even a particular behavior or body language movement that irks you.\r\n\r\nThink about why it sets your teeth on edge.\r\n\r\nDo you hate not being listened to? Perhaps you were always listened to as a child and you’ve come to expect that, or maybe you weren’t listened to and you regress back to the way you acted when you were younger to get attention. Unravel those feelings and it will help you respond better next time.\r\n\r\nIf you have trouble doing this on your own, a professional therapist may be the perfect person to help you work through it.\r\n<h3>Can we get over it?</h3>\r\nAbrahams says we can.\r\n\r\n“It\'s a life journey for all of us. And with different people, they\'ll be different,” she says.\r\n\r\n“The ones who are doing it well are people who have the ability to really listen to each other and allow their partner to be different from them.”\r\n\r\nShe explains that often when we meet our partner we accept their differences, but as time goes on we can see them as a threat because they’re not alongside us in the way we want them to be.\r\n\r\n“So, one thing we can really do is to learn to listen to our partner and to allow them to have their own mind and not be threatened by them in that way.”\r\n\r\n<em>You can download Lissy’s free ebook, Top Tips for Improving Couple Communication, <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/resources/download-top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication-e-book/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGneYNMZHuyS2WEYz4FuTIpfV2EXA\">here</a>, or for more info, see her website <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGij7lKvn-1BaiNEZkBIRedU7tETg\">here.</a></em>','Could your childhood be determining how you fare in adult relationships?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5600-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:55:47','2022-12-06 06:55:47','',5600,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5605',0,'revision','',0),(5606,3,'2022-12-06 06:55:48','2022-12-06 06:55:48','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>The number one thing to improve couple communication​</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Body+Soul\r\n<h2>The number one thing to improve couple communication</h2>\r\n3 September 2021\r\n\r\nBody+Soul investigates how to quell a fight in the early stages and deal with it in a way that will be better for you and your partner.\r\n\r\nHave you ever had your partner say, do (or not do) something and just loose the plot?\r\n\r\nMaybe they’ve been rubbing you the wrong way and then there was that moment the switch flicked and it was game time on the screaming match, with both sides likely to lose out?\r\n\r\nWell, you’re not alone, but psychotherapist and couples counsellor Lissy Abrahams, <a href=\"https://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/sex-relationships/relationships/the-common-arguments-all-couples-have-over-christmas/news-story/3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev=\"event119\" data-tgev-metric=\"ev\" data-tgev-order=\"3c76f08bd0623577c1381887d749c51f\" data-tgev-label=\"sex-relationships\" data-tgev-container=\"bodylink\">says it doesn’t have to be that way.</a>\r\n\r\nSpeaking on Body+Soul’s daily podcast <em>Healthy-ish</em>, she says that the single most important step to stop fighting is to literally stop. To take a breather.\r\n\r\n“There\'s absolutely nothing we can say to each other that we\'re really going to take in. Our defences are up, we\'re often in fight or flight mode, and we’re trying to survive the moment,” she tells host Felicity Harley on the <em>Healthy-ish </em>episode <em>A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication.</em>\r\n\r\n“The first thing we can do is just take a pause, take 10 minutes and see if that\'s enough time to calm down.”\r\n\r\nIf you’re having trouble calming down, Abrahams suggests trying breath work and taking the time to move your mind away from the discussion. Essentially, relax and regroup.\r\n\r\nIt may also be beneficial to reflect on the part of yourself that was triggered in the situation, the ‘ego’. And no – we don\'t mean ego in the sense of self-importance – it\'s a term often used to describe part of your personality in psychology and, in fact, everyone has one.\r\n\r\n“One of the ways that we can really look after our relationship and not damage it is by understanding our ego and also understand it\'s linked to feeling fear or shame,” she explains.\r\n\r\n“Where we perceive our partner as a threat…or feel like they’re shaming us in any way, we’re going to get into fight or flight mode and we’re going to have something to tell them that we’re not very happy about.”\r\n\r\nThis response can be one of two things:\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li><strong>Superiority:</strong> That we feel like they don’t know the situation like we do, and that we know how to navigate the relationship better.</li>\r\n 	<li><strong>Inferiority:</strong> This is victim mode, where one partner may start crying or show weakness to get their partner back alongside.</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n“We can do a lot of damage through the ego by not understanding it. The best thing we can do is to learn about what it is that makes us feel frightened with a partner or ashamed and then take responsibility for that and go and learn about it,” says Abrahams.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>How to keep your ego in check</h3>\r\nThe first step is to understand our ego and how it operates. What is your response? It could be attacking, blaming, judgement, complaining, screaming, shouting, standing up and making your body big.\r\n\r\nIf we know what it looks like when we’ve been triggered, we can notice it and say to ourselves, ‘that’s my ego’. It might be time for a cool down minute.\r\n\r\n“We don\'t always know that we\'ve got a choice in those moments. We feel fully justified to be sulky or be attacking in that moment. So the best thing we can do is to identify themes around it and work out what upsets you.”\r\n\r\nThat’s the second part – knowing what it was that triggered you.\r\n\r\nEven if you didn’t start the fight, there’s always a point where you became invested in it. Which button did your partner push that made you respond?\r\n\r\nAbrahams says this might be a tone of voice, when your partner doesn’t listen to you, or perhaps even a particular behavior or body language movement that irks you.\r\n\r\nThink about why it sets your teeth on edge.\r\n\r\nDo you hate not being listened to? Perhaps you were always listened to as a child and you’ve come to expect that, or maybe you weren’t listened to and you regress back to the way you acted when you were younger to get attention. Unravel those feelings and it will help you respond better next time.\r\n\r\nIf you have trouble doing this on your own, a professional therapist may be the perfect person to help you work through it.\r\n<h3>Can we get over it?</h3>\r\nAbrahams says we can.\r\n\r\n“It\'s a life journey for all of us. And with different people, they\'ll be different,” she says.\r\n\r\n“The ones who are doing it well are people who have the ability to really listen to each other and allow their partner to be different from them.”\r\n\r\nShe explains that often when we meet our partner we accept their differences, but as time goes on we can see them as a threat because they’re not alongside us in the way we want them to be.\r\n\r\n“So, one thing we can really do is to learn to listen to our partner and to allow them to have their own mind and not be threatened by them in that way.”\r\n\r\n<em>You can download Lissy’s free ebook, Top Tips for Improving Couple Communication, <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/resources/download-top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication-e-book/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGneYNMZHuyS2WEYz4FuTIpfV2EXA\">here</a>, or for more info, see her website <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.lissyabrahams.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1630113750745000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGij7lKvn-1BaiNEZkBIRedU7tETg\">here.</a></em>','Could your childhood be determining how you fare in adult relationships?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5600-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:55:48','2022-12-06 06:55:48','',5600,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5606',0,'revision','',0),(5607,3,'2022-12-06 06:55:48','2022-12-06 06:55:48','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Could your childhood be determining how you fare in adult relationships?            \n        </h1>\n            Article - source: Body+Soul        \n            <h2>\n                Could your childhood be determining how you fare in adult relationships?            \n        </h2>\n            20 September 2022        \n            There&#039;s a reason you can&#039;t see those red flags.        \n		<p>Relationship therapist Lissy Abrahams explains how the events that shape your childhood influence the relationships you form as an adult.<br />Are you constantly making the same relationship mistakes over and over again? Always seeking out partners that are certified walking red flags? Or maybe – like one sir Anthony Bridgerton – you can\'t help but push those you love away.</p><p>The good news is you\'re not alone, and according to relationship therapist Lissy Abrahams, author of Relationship Reset, there\'s no need to blame yourself. You just need to look back through your childhood.</p><p>In order to understand why you have the triggers or behaviours you have, or why certain things are deal breakers within a relationship, Abrahams says that reflecting on how you were brought up – and what you were exposed to – can help make sense of them. Here, she explains how your childhood impacts your future relationships – and what you can do to make a change.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>How your childhood impacts your adult relationships</h3>		\n		<p>I have a client, Jasmine, who quickly breaks up with her latest boyfriend the minute he starts to imagine a future with her. Another client, Amos, rarely shares his emotions with his wife and often feels lonely. Stefano’s partner, Zac, feels smothered by him, like he’s always being scrutinised for mood changes.</p><p>So, why do my clients relate to their partners like this? Well, like all of us, they were exposed to thousands and thousands of both positive and negative experiences in childhood that formed their relational templates, often in micro-moments with their parents or caregivers. We all carry these templates throughout life and map them onto our couple relationships.</p><p>Despite often sharing some values, our partner will always have a different relational template to us, as the forces that shaped theirs were not identical to ours. These forces might include different messages and experiences from parents and extended family, safe or unsafe experiences, migration, family trauma, religious or cultural influences, parental separation/divorce, school systems and teachers, friends, governments, TV and media, and more.</p>		\n			<h3>How does a relational template work?</h3>		\n		<p>Our relational template is like a program of our expectations, beliefs, opinions, and rules for how we should, or shouldn’t, behave in a relationship. Much of this is unconscious, so we don’t always consciously have access to what’s encoded. However, our behaviour gives us a clue, just like it does for Jasmine, Amos, and Stefano. To them their behaviour makes sense, which means relationship difficulties are deemed their partner’s fault. They don’t understand the extent of their own involvement as they are behaving according to their own, unique relational template.</p><p>Jasmine thought she’d have a partner and children by now. She doesn’t understand that her template encoded thousands of micro-moments of her parents’ brutal emotional conflict where she and her younger sister were terrified. Even though she remembers some of the conflict, she is not in contact with the extent of the fear and terror unconsciously inside her. She dismisses any boyfriend who imagines a future together, preventing any child from being created who could go through what she did.</p><p>Amos wants a close and connected relationship with his wife yet often hides how he really feels. Encoded in his template are all the micro-moments where he couldn’t get enough of his parents’ attention and presence as a young child. They were often stressed about being cash-strapped and didn’t have sufficient support. Amos learnt to turn off his emotions as a means of dealing with them. He was lonely, and he’s often still lonely today.</p><p>Stefano wants a relationship with desire and engagement, not the constant anxiety he has today. As a child he was both anxious and clingy with his parents. Encoded in his template were thousands of micro-moments of not feeling special enough as he had four other siblings to compete with. Clinging became a strategy of staying close to his parents. The problem is, he applies this same clingy strategy in his relationship with Zac, who then feels suffocated. This causes Stefano to retreat, which triggers even more anxiety.</p>		\n			<h3>How to change your relational template</h3>		\n		<p>Let’s not forget that just like all of us, my clients’ partners also react and behave according to their own relational templates. This is why couple relationships are so complex, and why so many are conflict-filled, lonely and distressing - and why many even end. In Australia, one in three marriages ends in divorce. In the UK and USA, it’s one in two. Vast numbers of us across the world experience broken dreams and broken homes, and we often have no real understanding why.</p><p>Understanding our relational template is vital if we want to create a healthier relationship with our partner and understand why we treat our partner the way we do. For some of us it’s through therapy, a wise friend or elder, books and blogs, online courses, and podcasts. Whatever the method, we need to make conscious what has been unconsciously encoded inside us. This liberates us, our partner, and our relationship from our past, and allows us the opportunity to truly create a respectful and loving relationship in the present.</p>','Could your childhood be determining how you fare in adult relationships?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5600-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 06:55:48','2022-12-06 06:55:48','',5600,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5607',0,'revision','',0),(5608,3,'2022-12-06 07:04:00','2022-12-06 07:04:00','<p>Throughout the past 18 months I’ve been pushing myself into foreign territory. This is the foreign landscape outside of my consulting room and into the land of learning new skills. I’ve been continuously changing and directing myself to harder challenges both personally and professionally.</p><p>I’ve written and published a book on relationships as well as writing and filming an online relationship course. I’ve been interviewed for the newspapers, podcasts, online publications like Mamamia, some stints on TV. I joined a business group where I’ve shared my hardest stuff – the parts I wanted to keep hidden that lurked and festered in the background.</p><p>None of these were easy at first. Not one. But I grew some muscles and confidence along the way.</p><p>Do I have unshakeable confidence?</p><p>Absolutely not! It’s laughable to me. Unshakeable confidence as a concept is a load of nonsense to me.</p><p>In interviews I can hear my voice quiver even if no one else can. I can see the tension in my jaw or notice I’m nodding too often or telling the interviewer “What a great question you’ve asked!” These are my tells.</p><p>In this foreign landscape I force myself to face my fears – sometimes they’re pretty terrifying. I’ve faced tech challenges which can cause me to dissolve like the green wicked witch in the Wizard of Oz. I have a fertile mind that can imagine the multitude of ways I can fall on my face or reveal my inadequacies. I’ve created elaborate stories of my undoing, whether it be a coughing fit, the incorrect or stupid response, or even worse - freezing. Actually freezing is not the worst - The worst is the… (insert scary music) the cancel culture.</p><p>So why do I bother to do this at all?</p><p>I keep pushing and moving because I am on a mission and driven by my incredible purpose. It’s why I get up and do what I do every single day. Whenever I’m faced with a new skill or situation, I can have shakeable confidence. So I work with myself to face my fears and talk myself down. I remind myself that there are people suffering in their homes, in their workplaces, or with their friends. This has a knock on to their physical and mental health.</p><p>We have a mental health crisis in Australia and across the world, with so many therapists fully booked and with long waiting lists. Backing out means I won’t be able to do something about it. I want to be part of the solution. So, my purpose is so much bigger than me as an individual.</p><p>As humans, we each have our own unique relationship with ourselves, friends, family, and the world we live in. We will have some talents and some weaknesses. We will stumble and we will fly. We will piss people off and we will be honoured. We may evoke envy and we will stoke some pride.</p><p>We don’t need to pretend we’re awesome in all domains of life. I’m certainly not, and I can guarantee you’re not either.</p><p>So, you may have a story of imposter syndrome. Yeah – ok, so put on your rollerblades and get going with shakeable confidence. Let your voice wobble! See if you freeze, cough or even vomit. Whatever, wherever, however. Test your knowledge and skill, share your experiences, become a mentor, have awkward conversations with yourself and others, and share your wisdom that you’ve accumulated through life on this incredible planet.</p><p>Seek your purpose. Don’t live in the land of “I wish…” or “If only…” Make it big and hairy. Here’s mine – “To ease suffering so that all creatures can thrive”. If you like it, it’s yours. Do it your way or do it with me or join an organisation your aligned with.</p><p>Step into it in any way you want. But first we all need to stop the nonsense of pretending any of us have unshakeable confidence. We all shake and we all fear. We are biologically wired like this. Stop bowing at the altar of imposter syndrome and start to call it what it is – an imposter story. Close the book. Don’t let a story paralyse you.</p><p>Take a small step, and another and another… and see what happens.</p>','Unshakeable confidence – yeah right!','','publish','open','open','','unshakeable-confidence-yeah-right','','','2022-12-06 07:06:27','2022-12-06 07:06:27','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5608',0,'post','',0),(5609,3,'2022-12-06 07:01:56','2022-12-06 07:01:56','','Super girl looking away','Girl wearing red gumboots, cape and eye mask standing with her hands on hips in studio. 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This is the foreign landscape outside of my consulting room and into the land of learning new skills. I’ve been continuously changing and directing myself to harder challenges both personally and professionally.</p><p>I’ve written and published a book on relationships as well as writing and filming an online relationship course. I’ve been interviewed for the newspapers, podcasts, online publications like Mamamia, some stints on TV. I joined a business group where I’ve shared my hardest stuff – the parts I wanted to keep hidden that lurked and festered in the background.</p><p>None of these were easy at first. Not one. But I grew some muscles and confidence along the way.</p><p>Do I have unshakeable confidence?</p><p>Absolutely not! It’s laughable to me. Unshakeable confidence as a concept is a load of nonsense to me.</p><p>In interviews I can hear my voice quiver even if no one else can. I can see the tension in my jaw or notice I’m nodding too often or telling the interviewer “What a great question you’ve asked!” These are my tells.</p><p>In this foreign landscape I force myself to face my fears – sometimes they’re pretty terrifying. I’ve faced tech challenges which can cause me to dissolve like the green wicked witch in the Wizard of Oz. I have a fertile mind that can imagine the multitude of ways I can fall on my face or reveal my inadequacies. I’ve created elaborate stories of my undoing, whether it be a coughing fit, the incorrect or stupid response, or even worse - freezing. Actually freezing is not the worst - The worst is the… (insert scary music) the cancel culture.</p><p>So why do I bother to do this at all?</p><p>I keep pushing and moving because I am on a mission and driven by my incredible purpose. It’s why I get up and do what I do every single day. Whenever I’m faced with a new skill or situation, I can have shakeable confidence. So I work with myself to face my fears and talk myself down. I remind myself that there are people suffering in their homes, in their workplaces, or with their friends. This has a knock on to their physical and mental health.</p><p>We have a mental health crisis in Australia and across the world, with so many therapists fully booked and with long waiting lists. Backing out means I won’t be able to do something about it. I want to be part of the solution. So, my purpose is so much bigger than me as an individual.</p><p>As humans, we each have our own unique relationship with ourselves, friends, family, and the world we live in. We will have some talents and some weaknesses. We will stumble and we will fly. We will piss people off and we will be honoured. We may evoke envy and we will stoke some pride.</p><p>We don’t need to pretend we’re awesome in all domains of life. I’m certainly not, and I can guarantee you’re not either.</p><p>So, you may have a story of imposter syndrome. Yeah – ok, so put on your rollerblades and get going with shakeable confidence. Let your voice wobble! See if you freeze, cough or even vomit. Whatever, wherever, however. Test your knowledge and skill, share your experiences, become a mentor, have awkward conversations with yourself and others, and share your wisdom that you’ve accumulated through life on this incredible planet.</p><p>Seek your purpose. Don’t live in the land of “I wish…” or “If only…” Make it big and hairy. Here’s mine – “To ease suffering so that all creatures can thrive”. If you like it, it’s yours. Do it your way or do it with me or join an organisation your aligned with.</p><p>Step into it in any way you want. But first we all need to stop the nonsense of pretending any of us have unshakeable confidence. We all shake and we all fear. We are biologically wired like this. Stop bowing at the altar of imposter syndrome and start to call it what it is – an imposter story. Close the book. Don’t let a story paralyse you.</p><p>Take a small step, and another and another… and see what happens.</p>','Unshakeable confidence – yeah right!','','inherit','closed','closed','','5608-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 07:06:27','2022-12-06 07:06:27','',5608,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5614',0,'revision','',0),(5615,3,'2022-12-09 06:08:33','2022-12-09 06:08:33','<p>As a therapist I know how hard many people work to keep their relationship healthy and prevent it spiralling towards a separation. In a couple, one partner often detects relationship difficulties more quickly and is keen to address them with their partner.</p><p>This can be a tiring position for them as they voice their concerns. Sometimes they may be taken seriously, and changes happen. But for many they are not taken seriously, and their partner may complain or blame them for the problems, or the couple may end up in conflict.</p><p>Over time either partner may move to the position of quiet quitting. One partner may reach their limit in constantly trying to improve the relationship, as they wanted the relationship to help them feel safe or more secure. The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.</p><p>Quiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship’s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.</p><p>Despite giving up, they’re not ready to hand over the keys.</p><p>It’s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. These may include fear of losing extended family connections, social groups, the neighbourhood, community, financial security, companionship, the family cook, a Netflix buddy, or the dog walker.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h2>7 signs you or your partner may be \'quiet quitting\' in your relationship</h2>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/1-prxajyhczkhsht03tu0623eeuw48qi08fhbu0156r8.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n		<p>Distancing, disengaging, and avoiding partner (psychologically, physically and/or sexually)</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/2-prxajyhczkhsht03tu0623eeuw48qi08fhbu0156r8.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n		<p>Not valuing or seeking out partner’s advice, opinions, or viewpoints any more</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/3-prxajzf76ej2teyqocesml5vg9zly73yrlzbhb3sl0.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n		<p>Partner and relationship are no longer a priority unlike other people, the phone, work, or exercising</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/4.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/4.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/4-prxajzf76ej2teyqocesml5vg9zly73yrlzbhb3sl0.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n		<p>Being indifferent to partner – a lack of attention, time, curiosity, or care for them</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/5.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/5.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/5-prxak0d1d8kd50xdiutf72xc1nuz5w7p3qmsyl2ees.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n		<p>No longer trying to resolve issues in the relationship, and believe there is no point seeing a therapist</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/6.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/6.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/6-prxajvnuf2dxiz47aasacm412qi53ep1f3ddk79d9w.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n		<p>Resignation at the state of the relationship, no longer feeling despair</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/7.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/7.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/7-prxajvnuf2dxiz47aasacm412qi53ep1f3ddk79d9w.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n		<p>Unable and unwilling to engage in discussions about future plans together – have lost a sense of “us” or “we” both now and for the future</p>		\n			<h2>Is this different from separating?</h2>		\n		<p>Separating is often a gruelling and exhausting process where many interwoven aspects of life are unravelled. These can be financial, extended family, friendship groups, being co-parents, perhaps a joint business, a home, investments. To undo each of these it requires thought and they are often emotionally laden.</p><p>Quiet quitting allows time in between – it’s a position like sitting on the fence. It’s not fully in the relationship and it’s not fully out. There may be emotional withdrawal from one’s partner however this is not the same as total withdrawal, and the aspects mentioned like friendships, extended family, being a family unit, or having a home together still hold well enough. Some people can sit on the fence for a short time before their bottom gets sore – and for others forever potentially.</p><p>When a partner is quietly quitting, they are taking a position. It could edge the couple closer to separation or it could cause the other partner to rally, pull up their socks and allow themselves to be truly in it again.</p>		\n			<h2>Don’t judge the quiet quitters!</h2>		\n		<p>Quiet quitting is a valid position and shouldn’t be judged as childish or immature. It could be a reflective time to work on the next steps outside of the relationship. Some people get individual therapy at this point, others see a family lawyer.</p>','What’s ‘quiet quitting’ in relationships about?','','publish','open','open','','whats-quiet-quitting-in-relationships-about','','','2022-12-06 07:25:19','2022-12-06 07:25:19','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5615',0,'post','',0),(5616,3,'2022-12-06 07:11:17','2022-12-06 07:11:17','','Close up African American woman showing stop gesture with hand','Close up of African American woman showing stop gesture with hand blurred background, young female protesting against domestic violence and abuse, bullying, saying no to gender discrimination','inherit','open','closed','','close-up-african-american-woman-showing-stop-gesture-with-hand','','','2022-12-06 07:11:17','2022-12-06 07:11:17','',5615,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/AdobeStock_444526507.jpeg',0,'attachment','image/jpeg',0),(5617,3,'2022-12-06 07:11:35','2022-12-06 07:11:35','','What’s ‘quiet quitting’ in relationships about?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5615-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 07:11:35','2022-12-06 07:11:35','',5615,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5617',0,'revision','',0),(5618,3,'2022-12-06 07:25:19','2022-12-06 07:25:19','<p>As a therapist I know how hard many people work to keep their relationship healthy and prevent it spiralling towards a separation. In a couple, one partner often detects relationship difficulties more quickly and is keen to address them with their partner.</p><p>This can be a tiring position for them as they voice their concerns. Sometimes they may be taken seriously, and changes happen. But for many they are not taken seriously, and their partner may complain or blame them for the problems, or the couple may end up in conflict.</p><p>Over time either partner may move to the position of quiet quitting. One partner may reach their limit in constantly trying to improve the relationship, as they wanted the relationship to help them feel safe or more secure. The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.</p><p>Quiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship’s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.</p><p>Despite giving up, they’re not ready to hand over the keys.</p><p>It’s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. These may include fear of losing extended family connections, social groups, the neighbourhood, community, financial security, companionship, the family cook, a Netflix buddy, or the dog walker.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h2>7 signs you or your partner may be \'quiet quitting\' in your relationship</h2>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/1-prxajyhczkhsht03tu0623eeuw48qi08fhbu0156r8.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/2-prxajyhczkhsht03tu0623eeuw48qi08fhbu0156r8.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/3-prxajzf76ej2teyqocesml5vg9zly73yrlzbhb3sl0.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/4.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/4.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/4-prxajzf76ej2teyqocesml5vg9zly73yrlzbhb3sl0.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/5.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/5.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/5-prxak0d1d8kd50xdiutf72xc1nuz5w7p3qmsyl2ees.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/6.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/6.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/6-prxajvnuf2dxiz47aasacm412qi53ep1f3ddk79d9w.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/7.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/7.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/7-prxajvnuf2dxiz47aasacm412qi53ep1f3ddk79d9w.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />','What’s ‘quiet quitting’ in relationships about?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5615-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 07:25:19','2022-12-06 07:25:19','',5615,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5618',0,'revision','',0),(5619,3,'2022-12-06 07:25:19','2022-12-06 07:25:19','<p>As a therapist I know how hard many people work to keep their relationship healthy and prevent it spiralling towards a separation. In a couple, one partner often detects relationship difficulties more quickly and is keen to address them with their partner.</p><p>This can be a tiring position for them as they voice their concerns. Sometimes they may be taken seriously, and changes happen. But for many they are not taken seriously, and their partner may complain or blame them for the problems, or the couple may end up in conflict.</p><p>Over time either partner may move to the position of quiet quitting. One partner may reach their limit in constantly trying to improve the relationship, as they wanted the relationship to help them feel safe or more secure. The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.</p><p>Quiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship’s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.</p><p>Despite giving up, they’re not ready to hand over the keys.</p><p>It’s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. These may include fear of losing extended family connections, social groups, the neighbourhood, community, financial security, companionship, the family cook, a Netflix buddy, or the dog walker.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h2>7 signs you or your partner may be \'quiet quitting\' in your relationship</h2>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/1-prxajyhczkhsht03tu0623eeuw48qi08fhbu0156r8.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/2-prxajyhczkhsht03tu0623eeuw48qi08fhbu0156r8.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/3-prxajzf76ej2teyqocesml5vg9zly73yrlzbhb3sl0.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/4.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/4.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/4-prxajzf76ej2teyqocesml5vg9zly73yrlzbhb3sl0.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/5.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/5.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/5-prxak0d1d8kd50xdiutf72xc1nuz5w7p3qmsyl2ees.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/6.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/6.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/6-prxajvnuf2dxiz47aasacm412qi53ep1f3ddk79d9w.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/7.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/7.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/7-prxajvnuf2dxiz47aasacm412qi53ep1f3ddk79d9w.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />','What’s ‘quiet quitting’ in relationships about?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5615-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 07:25:19','2022-12-06 07:25:19','',5615,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5619',0,'revision','',0),(5620,3,'2022-12-06 07:25:19','2022-12-06 07:25:19','<p>As a therapist I know how hard many people work to keep their relationship healthy and prevent it spiralling towards a separation. In a couple, one partner often detects relationship difficulties more quickly and is keen to address them with their partner.</p><p>This can be a tiring position for them as they voice their concerns. Sometimes they may be taken seriously, and changes happen. But for many they are not taken seriously, and their partner may complain or blame them for the problems, or the couple may end up in conflict.</p><p>Over time either partner may move to the position of quiet quitting. One partner may reach their limit in constantly trying to improve the relationship, as they wanted the relationship to help them feel safe or more secure. The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.</p><p>Quiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship’s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.</p><p>Despite giving up, they’re not ready to hand over the keys.</p><p>It’s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. These may include fear of losing extended family connections, social groups, the neighbourhood, community, financial security, companionship, the family cook, a Netflix buddy, or the dog walker.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h2>7 signs you or your partner may be \'quiet quitting\' in your relationship</h2>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/1-prxajyhczkhsht03tu0623eeuw48qi08fhbu0156r8.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n		<p>Distancing, disengaging, and avoiding partner (psychologically, physically and/or sexually)</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/2-prxajyhczkhsht03tu0623eeuw48qi08fhbu0156r8.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n		<p>Not valuing or seeking out partner’s advice, opinions, or viewpoints any more</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/3-prxajzf76ej2teyqocesml5vg9zly73yrlzbhb3sl0.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n		<p>Partner and relationship are no longer a priority unlike other people, the phone, work, or exercising</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/4.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/4.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/4-prxajzf76ej2teyqocesml5vg9zly73yrlzbhb3sl0.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n		<p>Being indifferent to partner – a lack of attention, time, curiosity, or care for them</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/5.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/5.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/5-prxak0d1d8kd50xdiutf72xc1nuz5w7p3qmsyl2ees.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n		<p>No longer trying to resolve issues in the relationship, and believe there is no point seeing a therapist</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/6.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/6.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/6-prxajvnuf2dxiz47aasacm412qi53ep1f3ddk79d9w.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n		<p>Resignation at the state of the relationship, no longer feeling despair</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/7.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/7.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/7-prxajvnuf2dxiz47aasacm412qi53ep1f3ddk79d9w.png 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" />															\n		<p>Unable and unwilling to engage in discussions about future plans together – have lost a sense of “us” or “we” both now and for the future</p>		\n			<h2>Is this different from separating?</h2>		\n		<p>Separating is often a gruelling and exhausting process where many interwoven aspects of life are unravelled. These can be financial, extended family, friendship groups, being co-parents, perhaps a joint business, a home, investments. To undo each of these it requires thought and they are often emotionally laden.</p><p>Quiet quitting allows time in between – it’s a position like sitting on the fence. It’s not fully in the relationship and it’s not fully out. There may be emotional withdrawal from one’s partner however this is not the same as total withdrawal, and the aspects mentioned like friendships, extended family, being a family unit, or having a home together still hold well enough. Some people can sit on the fence for a short time before their bottom gets sore – and for others forever potentially.</p><p>When a partner is quietly quitting, they are taking a position. It could edge the couple closer to separation or it could cause the other partner to rally, pull up their socks and allow themselves to be truly in it again.</p>		\n			<h2>Don’t judge the quiet quitters!</h2>		\n		<p>Quiet quitting is a valid position and shouldn’t be judged as childish or immature. It could be a reflective time to work on the next steps outside of the relationship. Some people get individual therapy at this point, others see a family lawyer.</p>','What’s ‘quiet quitting’ in relationships about?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5615-revision-v1','','','2022-12-06 07:25:19','2022-12-06 07:25:19','',5615,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5620',0,'revision','',0),(5621,3,'2022-12-06 07:27:47','2022-12-06 07:27:47','As a therapist I know how hard many people work to keep their relationship healthy and prevent it spiralling towards a separation. In a couple, one partner often detects relationship difficulties more quickly and is keen to address them with their partner.\n\nThis can be a tiring position for them as they voice their concerns. Sometimes they may be taken seriously, and changes happen. But for many they are not taken seriously, and their partner may complain or blame them for the problems, or the couple may end up in conflict.\n\nOver time either partner may move to the position of quiet quitting. One partner may reach their limit in constantly trying to improve the relationship, as they wanted the relationship to help them feel safe or more secure. The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.\n\nQuiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship’s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.\n\nDespite giving up, they’re not ready to hand over the keys.\n\nIt’s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. These may include fear of losing extended family connections, social groups, the neighbourhood, community, financial security, companionship, the family cook, a Netflix buddy, or the dog walker.\n\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\n<h2>7 signs you or your partner may be \'quiet quitting\' in your relationship</h2>\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style> <style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\n\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/1-prxajyhczkhsht03tu0623eeuw48qi08fhbu0156r8.png 50w\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\n\nDistancing, disengaging, and avoiding partner (psychologically, physically and/or sexually)\n\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/2-prxajyhczkhsht03tu0623eeuw48qi08fhbu0156r8.png 50w\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\n\nNot valuing or seeking out partner’s advice, opinions, or viewpoints any more\n\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/3-prxajzf76ej2teyqocesml5vg9zly73yrlzbhb3sl0.png 50w\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\n\nPartner and relationship are no longer a priority unlike other people, the phone, work, or exercising\n\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/4.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/4.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/4-prxajzf76ej2teyqocesml5vg9zly73yrlzbhb3sl0.png 50w\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\n\nBeing indifferent to partner – a lack of attention, time, curiosity, or care for them\n\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/5.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/5.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/5-prxak0d1d8kd50xdiutf72xc1nuz5w7p3qmsyl2ees.png 50w\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\n\nNo longer trying to resolve issues in the relationship, and believe there is no point seeing a therapist\n\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/6.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/6.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/6-prxajvnuf2dxiz47aasacm412qi53ep1f3ddk79d9w.png 50w\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\n\nResignation at the state of the relationship, no longer feeling despair\n\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/7.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 59px) 100vw, 59px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/7.png 59w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/elementor/thumbs/7-prxajvnuf2dxiz47aasacm412qi53ep1f3ddk79d9w.png 50w\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\n\nUnable and unwilling to engage in discussions about future plans together – have lost a sense of “us” or “we” both now and for the future\n<h2>Is this different from separating?</h2>\nSeparating is often a gruelling and exhausting process where many interwoven aspects of life are unravelled. These can be financial, extended family, friendship groups, being co-parents, perhaps a joint business, a home, investments. To undo each of these it requires thought and they are often emotionally laden.\n\nQuiet quitting allows time in between – it’s a position like sitting on the fence. It’s not fully in the relationship and it’s not fully out. There may be emotional withdrawal from one’s partner however this is not the same as total withdrawal, and the aspects mentioned like friendships, extended family, being a family unit, or having a home together still hold well enough. Some people can sit on the fence for a short time before their bottom gets sore – and for others forever potentially.\n\nWhen a partner is quietly quitting, they are taking a position. It could edge the couple closer to separation or it could cause the other partner to rally, pull up their socks and allow themselves to be truly in it again.\n<h2>Don’t judge the quiet quitters!</h2>\nQuiet quitting is a valid position and shouldn’t be judged as childish or immature. It could be a reflective time to work on the next steps outside of the relationship. Some people get individual therapy at this point, others see a family lawyer.','What’s ‘quiet quitting’ in relationships about?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5615-autosave-v1','','','2022-12-06 07:27:47','2022-12-06 07:27:47','',5615,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5621',0,'revision','',0),(5625,3,'2022-12-17 05:34:58','2022-12-17 05:34:58','','PACFA-logo-long','','inherit','open','closed','','pacfa-logo-long','','','2022-12-17 05:34:58','2022-12-17 05:34:58','',4317,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/PACFA-logo-long.png',0,'attachment','image/png',0),(5626,3,'2022-12-17 05:35:23','2022-12-17 05:35:23','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Articles            \n        </h1>\n            interviews        \n            <h2>\n                Lissy\'s Guest Interview Segments             \n        </h2>\n            Click on the images below to review the articles        \n			<style>/*! 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elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>													<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/mamamia/\">\n							<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/mamamia-small-1-ps1a2cmifxjwafmq3z9xbdhvozhxq66jsxpmjnxce8.png\" title=\"mamamia-small\" alt=\"mamamia-small\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/bodysoul/\">\n							<img width=\"100\" height=\"100\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/logo5-100x100-1.png\" alt=\"\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/the-house-of-wellness/\">\n							<img width=\"300\" height=\"84\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/House-of-Wellness-300x84.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/House-of-Wellness-300x84.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/House-of-Wellness.png 363w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/the-daily-telegraph/\">\n							<img width=\"160\" height=\"80\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/daily-telegraph-small-1.png\" alt=\"\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/yahoo-lifestyle/\">\n							<img width=\"260\" height=\"35\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/yahoolifestyle.png\" alt=\"\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/yahoofinance/\">\n							<img width=\"220\" height=\"32\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/YahooFinance.png\" alt=\"\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/savings-com-au/\">\n							<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/savings-logo-green-pylbgjuolqth0ks8kmodwjqu7h06538wvrjt2xy4mg.png\" title=\"savings.com.au\" alt=\"savings.com.au\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/heraldsun/\">\n							<img width=\"360\" height=\"76\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/HeraldSun.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/HeraldSun.png 360w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/HeraldSun-300x63.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 360px) 100vw, 360px\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/the-oz/\">\n							<img width=\"271\" height=\"140\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/The-Oz.png\" alt=\"\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/smh/\">\n							<img width=\"405\" height=\"81\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/SMH.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/SMH.png 405w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/SMH-300x60.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 405px) 100vw, 405px\" />								</a>','Articles','A selection of articles where Lissy has been interviewed.','inherit','closed','closed','','4317-revision-v1','','','2022-12-17 05:35:23','2022-12-17 05:35:23','',4317,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5627',0,'revision','',0),(5628,3,'2022-12-17 05:35:24','2022-12-17 05:35:24','<style>/*! 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elementor - v3.9.1 - 14-12-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>													<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/mamamia/\">\n							<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/mamamia-small-1-ps1a2cmifxjwafmq3z9xbdhvozhxq66jsxpmjnxce8.png\" title=\"mamamia-small\" alt=\"mamamia-small\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/bodysoul/\">\n							<img width=\"100\" height=\"100\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/logo5-100x100-1.png\" alt=\"\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/the-house-of-wellness/\">\n							<img width=\"300\" height=\"84\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/House-of-Wellness-300x84.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/House-of-Wellness-300x84.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/House-of-Wellness.png 363w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/the-daily-telegraph/\">\n							<img width=\"160\" height=\"80\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/daily-telegraph-small-1.png\" alt=\"\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/yahoo-lifestyle/\">\n							<img width=\"260\" height=\"35\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/yahoolifestyle.png\" alt=\"\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/yahoofinance/\">\n							<img width=\"220\" height=\"32\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/YahooFinance.png\" alt=\"\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/savings-com-au/\">\n							<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/savings-logo-green-pylbgjuolqth0ks8kmodwjqu7h06538wvrjt2xy4mg.png\" title=\"savings.com.au\" alt=\"savings.com.au\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/heraldsun/\">\n							<img width=\"360\" height=\"76\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/HeraldSun.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/HeraldSun.png 360w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/HeraldSun-300x63.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 360px) 100vw, 360px\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/the-oz/\">\n							<img width=\"271\" height=\"140\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/The-Oz.png\" alt=\"\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/smh/\">\n							<img width=\"405\" height=\"81\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/SMH.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/SMH.png 405w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/SMH-300x60.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 405px) 100vw, 405px\" />								</a>\n            book reviews        \n            <h2>\n                Reviews of Lissy\'s Book - Relationship Reset             \n        </h2>\n            Click on the images below to review the reviews        \n																<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/pacfa/\">\n							<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/PACFA-logo-long-pza603fsrmaxzqd1o9zav23u2ploh7fjwsp1m2hwyo.png\" title=\"PACFA-logo-long\" alt=\"PACFA-logo-long\" />								</a>','Articles','A selection of articles where Lissy has been interviewed.','inherit','closed','closed','','4317-revision-v1','','','2022-12-17 05:35:24','2022-12-17 05:35:24','',4317,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5628',0,'revision','',0),(5629,3,'2022-12-17 05:40:04','2022-12-17 05:40:04','<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.1 - 14-12-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Psychotherapy & Counselling Federation of Australia            \n        </h1>\n            Review - source: Psychotherapy &amp; Counselling Federation of Australia        \n            <h2>\n                Psychotherapy & Counselling Federation of Australia            \n        </h2>\n            December 2022        \n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.1 - 14-12-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>Review by: Rochelle Armstrong</h3>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.1 - 14-12-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>													<a href=\"https://www.heraldsun.com.au/lifestyle/smart/money-conversations-can-be-tricky-heres-how-to-start/news-story/ecc8ac38b8bdced03c3bcc839ba6789f\">\n							<img width=\"791\" height=\"1122\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/RRR1.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/RRR1.png 791w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/RRR1-211x300.png 211w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/RRR1-722x1024.png 722w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/RRR1-768x1089.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/RRR1-600x851.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 791px) 100vw, 791px\" />								</a>\n																<a href=\"https://www.heraldsun.com.au/lifestyle/smart/money-conversations-can-be-tricky-heres-how-to-start/news-story/ecc8ac38b8bdced03c3bcc839ba6789f\">\n							<img width=\"791\" height=\"1122\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/RRR2.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/RRR2.png 791w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/RRR2-211x300.png 211w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/RRR2-722x1024.png 722w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/RRR2-768x1089.png 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/RRR2-600x851.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 791px) 100vw, 791px\" />								</a>','Psychotherapy & Counselling Federation of Australia','','publish','closed','closed','','pacfa','','','2022-12-17 05:47:50','2022-12-17 05:47:50','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?post_type=case-study&#038;p=5629',0,'case-study','',0),(5630,3,'2022-12-17 05:39:51','2022-12-17 05:39:51','','Psychotherapy concept illustration','Psychotherapy. Woman psychologist with tangled and untangled brain metaphor, society psychiatry concept vector illustration','inherit','open','closed','','psychotherapy-concept-illustration','','','2022-12-17 05:39:51','2022-12-17 05:39:51','',5629,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/AdobeStock_211880797.jpeg',0,'attachment','image/jpeg',0),(5631,3,'2022-12-17 05:40:04','2022-12-17 05:40:04','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>The Sydney Morning Herald</h1>\r\nArticle - source: The Sydney Morning Herald\r\n<h2>‘This is exactly what fixes marriages’: one-size fits all therapy</h2>\r\n30 November 2022\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>Jonah Hill and his therapist</h3>\r\nEveryone these days seems to have a podcast about how therapy has saved their life. Mental health has, thankfully, come out of the cupboard. Celebrities and royalty alike speak openly about the treatment that has helped them overcome unexamined grief, panic attacks or borderline personality disorder.\r\n\r\nStill, when actor Jonah Hill, the star of Superbad and The Wolf of Wall Street, put out a documentary about his fruitful relationship with his therapist two weeks ago, it came with a stark difference.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https://www.heraldsun.com.au/lifestyle/smart/money-conversations-can-be-tricky-heres-how-to-start/news-story/ecc8ac38b8bdced03c3bcc839ba6789f\">\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Jonah-Hill.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 644px) 100vw, 644px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Jonah-Hill.png 644w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Jonah-Hill-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Jonah-Hill-600x337.png 600w\" alt=\"\" width=\"644\" height=\"362\" /> </a>\r\n\r\n<i>“Meeting you and starting this process was out of desperation to get happier,” says actor Jonah Hill, about his therapist, in a new documentary about their relationship. “I just had no healthy self-esteem.” <cite>CREDIT: STUTZ / GETTY IMAGES</cite></i>\r\n\r\nIt wasn’t just Hill’s raw admission in Stutz that he “had no confidence as a human being”, when he began work with his current therapist five years ago. (He feels much better now.)\r\n\r\nRather it was Hill’s assertion that the “teachings” his therapist, Dr Phil Stutz, gave him – that helped him gain confidence, manage panic attacks, and recover from the death of his older brother – just might help other people “make their own lives better”, too. Regardless of what they’re going through. (Stutz, an LA-based psychiatrist whose lessons include teaching clients to accept that they can’t avoid pain, uncertainty, and constant work, agrees.)\r\n\r\nStutz, makes for great entertainment. (Adversity, says Stutz in a Brooklyn accent straight out of a Martin Scorsese movie, is an invisible force that wants to “block your evolution, block your potential, f--- up your s---“.)\r\n\r\nBut are Hill and his therapist right? Are there certain psychological tools or tips that can help all of us, regardless of our circumstance, age or particular challenge, to be happier?\r\n\r\nIn a word, yes.\r\n\r\n“The question is, ‘Why am I wired the way I am?’” says Lissy Abrahams, a Sydney-based psychotherapist. It is a foundational question each of us should ask ourselves, she says. Because how we were cared for when we were small – if our needs were tended to, or if they weren’t, for example – primes us to respond in a certain way to other people later on in life, says Abrahams, whose book Relationship Reset came out in July.\r\n\r\nThis means we might enter into relationships as adults primed, unbeknownst to others, to feel rejected, out of control, or unworthy.\r\n\r\n“So, if I [am wired to] feel unworthy, my partner displaying [sexual] desire for me might be part of what’s critical to me to feel OK,” says Abrahams, explaining the genesis of a typical overreaction that leads to conflict. “So what happens if they don’t want to [have sex] for a month? If they’re not inclined? Does it mean I’m not good enough?\r\n\r\n“We have this expectation that they [another person] are going to play a role that keeps us safe. And when they don’t, we can get very upset.”\r\n\r\nThe problem is other people don’t know this about us. They can’t read our minds. Just as we can’t read theirs. To simply understand this inherent gap between the way we are all primed to see the world is the key to having more harmonious relationships, says Abrahams.\r\n\r\n“This is exactly what fixes marriages,” she says, adding that it also improves our relations with everyone else in our life. It enables us to have greater compassion for each other, and therefore greater tolerance.\r\n\r\nThat, and realising it isn’t another person’s job to make us feel safe. Yes, we have the right to expect that our basic needs like respect, kindness and connection are met in a relationship. But it isn’t a partner’s job to fix something inside of us that’s broken, says Abrahams. “I believe for us to really be OK in life, we have to find a way to be OK in ourselves,” she says. (She offers two questions to ask yourself to determine if you’re OK: “Would I want to date me?“, and, “If I was dating now, would I pretend I’m not like this?”)\r\n\r\nPeople’s lives are also improved immeasurably when they learn to identify, and then express, exactly what they’re feeling when they are close to tearing their hair out, says clinical psychologist Dr Rowan Burckhardt, director of the Sydney Couples Counselling Centre.\r\n\r\nThis might sound ridiculous. Your partner keeps coming home late from work, even though you’ve repeatedly asked them not to. So you let rip, “You don’t give a crap about me!” Or your staff member continually fails to complete the to-do list you’ve given them. And so forth.\r\n\r\nYou’re angry, right? Well, yes and no, says Burckhardt, a clinical psychologist who treats couples and individuals of all ages.\r\n\r\nSure, you might be angry. But that’s only a “secondary” emotion. Underlying that emotion, he says, is a “primary” and more vulnerable emotion, like sadness, anxiety or fear. This is the first emotion you feel when something happens.\r\n\r\n“If you don’t know you’re feeling anxious when your partner is coming home late, how will you even know what to express to your partner?” says Burckhardt. “[But if you do, and you express it] the person can go, ‘Oh my god. I’m so sorry you felt left alone. Actually, I was just working really hard because I want to give you that holiday you keep talking about.’ The person hears that, and thinks, ‘Oh my God, how could I have thought they were uncaring?’” If it’s a work situation, identifying your primary emotion can help you ask for structures or boundaries be put in place to attend to them.\r\n\r\nAnother tool that helps everybody?\r\n\r\n“The biggest tip I give people is usually to write out everything you want to do,” says clinical psychologist Tamara Cavenett, adding that this helps everyone from high school students in their final year stressed about exams, to middle-aged mums and dads struggling to juggle parenting and work.\r\n\r\n“You want it out of your head and on paper,” says Cavenett. She gets them to make three separate lists: what needs to be done today; what needs to be done in 24 hours; what they hope to do someday.\r\n\r\nIt’s immediately calming. “You see you usually have the time to get the most important things done.”\r\n\r\nAnother tip that helps anyone who feels bad about themselves, for any reason?\r\n\r\nCavenett often asks clients if what they say to themselves in their head is how they’d speak to a friend.\r\n\r\n“We’re a lot more harsh on ourselves,” says Cavenett, noting that many of us have unconsciously internalised the criticisms we received from other people when we were younger.\r\n\r\n“The scary thing is that at times, these [inner] voices have become such an accustomed way of thinking that you stop questioning it,” says Cavenett. “You can live your entire life based on this self-belief, it can cause all sorts of issues. Often with a client, we get them to see things differently.”','Psychotherapy & Counselling Federation of Australia','','inherit','closed','closed','','5629-revision-v1','','','2022-12-17 05:40:04','2022-12-17 05:40:04','',5629,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5631',0,'revision','',0),(5633,3,'2022-12-17 05:46:57','2022-12-17 05:46:57','','RRR2','','inherit','open','closed','','rrr2','','','2022-12-17 05:46:57','2022-12-17 05:46:57','',5629,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/RRR2.png',0,'attachment','image/png',0),(5634,3,'2022-12-17 05:47:00','2022-12-17 05:47:00','','RRR1','','inherit','open','closed','','rrr1','','','2022-12-17 05:47:00','2022-12-17 05:47:00','',5629,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/RRR1.png',0,'attachment','image/png',0),(5635,3,'2022-12-17 05:47:50','2022-12-17 05:47:50','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>The Sydney Morning Herald</h1>\r\nArticle - source: The Sydney Morning Herald\r\n<h2>‘This is exactly what fixes marriages’: one-size fits all therapy</h2>\r\n30 November 2022\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>Jonah Hill and his therapist</h3>\r\nEveryone these days seems to have a podcast about how therapy has saved their life. Mental health has, thankfully, come out of the cupboard. Celebrities and royalty alike speak openly about the treatment that has helped them overcome unexamined grief, panic attacks or borderline personality disorder.\r\n\r\nStill, when actor Jonah Hill, the star of Superbad and The Wolf of Wall Street, put out a documentary about his fruitful relationship with his therapist two weeks ago, it came with a stark difference.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https://www.heraldsun.com.au/lifestyle/smart/money-conversations-can-be-tricky-heres-how-to-start/news-story/ecc8ac38b8bdced03c3bcc839ba6789f\">\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Jonah-Hill.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 644px) 100vw, 644px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Jonah-Hill.png 644w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Jonah-Hill-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Jonah-Hill-600x337.png 600w\" alt=\"\" width=\"644\" height=\"362\" /> </a>\r\n\r\n<i>“Meeting you and starting this process was out of desperation to get happier,” says actor Jonah Hill, about his therapist, in a new documentary about their relationship. “I just had no healthy self-esteem.” <cite>CREDIT: STUTZ / GETTY IMAGES</cite></i>\r\n\r\nIt wasn’t just Hill’s raw admission in Stutz that he “had no confidence as a human being”, when he began work with his current therapist five years ago. (He feels much better now.)\r\n\r\nRather it was Hill’s assertion that the “teachings” his therapist, Dr Phil Stutz, gave him – that helped him gain confidence, manage panic attacks, and recover from the death of his older brother – just might help other people “make their own lives better”, too. Regardless of what they’re going through. (Stutz, an LA-based psychiatrist whose lessons include teaching clients to accept that they can’t avoid pain, uncertainty, and constant work, agrees.)\r\n\r\nStutz, makes for great entertainment. (Adversity, says Stutz in a Brooklyn accent straight out of a Martin Scorsese movie, is an invisible force that wants to “block your evolution, block your potential, f--- up your s---“.)\r\n\r\nBut are Hill and his therapist right? Are there certain psychological tools or tips that can help all of us, regardless of our circumstance, age or particular challenge, to be happier?\r\n\r\nIn a word, yes.\r\n\r\n“The question is, ‘Why am I wired the way I am?’” says Lissy Abrahams, a Sydney-based psychotherapist. It is a foundational question each of us should ask ourselves, she says. Because how we were cared for when we were small – if our needs were tended to, or if they weren’t, for example – primes us to respond in a certain way to other people later on in life, says Abrahams, whose book Relationship Reset came out in July.\r\n\r\nThis means we might enter into relationships as adults primed, unbeknownst to others, to feel rejected, out of control, or unworthy.\r\n\r\n“So, if I [am wired to] feel unworthy, my partner displaying [sexual] desire for me might be part of what’s critical to me to feel OK,” says Abrahams, explaining the genesis of a typical overreaction that leads to conflict. “So what happens if they don’t want to [have sex] for a month? If they’re not inclined? Does it mean I’m not good enough?\r\n\r\n“We have this expectation that they [another person] are going to play a role that keeps us safe. And when they don’t, we can get very upset.”\r\n\r\nThe problem is other people don’t know this about us. They can’t read our minds. Just as we can’t read theirs. To simply understand this inherent gap between the way we are all primed to see the world is the key to having more harmonious relationships, says Abrahams.\r\n\r\n“This is exactly what fixes marriages,” she says, adding that it also improves our relations with everyone else in our life. It enables us to have greater compassion for each other, and therefore greater tolerance.\r\n\r\nThat, and realising it isn’t another person’s job to make us feel safe. Yes, we have the right to expect that our basic needs like respect, kindness and connection are met in a relationship. But it isn’t a partner’s job to fix something inside of us that’s broken, says Abrahams. “I believe for us to really be OK in life, we have to find a way to be OK in ourselves,” she says. (She offers two questions to ask yourself to determine if you’re OK: “Would I want to date me?“, and, “If I was dating now, would I pretend I’m not like this?”)\r\n\r\nPeople’s lives are also improved immeasurably when they learn to identify, and then express, exactly what they’re feeling when they are close to tearing their hair out, says clinical psychologist Dr Rowan Burckhardt, director of the Sydney Couples Counselling Centre.\r\n\r\nThis might sound ridiculous. Your partner keeps coming home late from work, even though you’ve repeatedly asked them not to. So you let rip, “You don’t give a crap about me!” Or your staff member continually fails to complete the to-do list you’ve given them. And so forth.\r\n\r\nYou’re angry, right? Well, yes and no, says Burckhardt, a clinical psychologist who treats couples and individuals of all ages.\r\n\r\nSure, you might be angry. But that’s only a “secondary” emotion. Underlying that emotion, he says, is a “primary” and more vulnerable emotion, like sadness, anxiety or fear. This is the first emotion you feel when something happens.\r\n\r\n“If you don’t know you’re feeling anxious when your partner is coming home late, how will you even know what to express to your partner?” says Burckhardt. “[But if you do, and you express it] the person can go, ‘Oh my god. I’m so sorry you felt left alone. Actually, I was just working really hard because I want to give you that holiday you keep talking about.’ The person hears that, and thinks, ‘Oh my God, how could I have thought they were uncaring?’” If it’s a work situation, identifying your primary emotion can help you ask for structures or boundaries be put in place to attend to them.\r\n\r\nAnother tool that helps everybody?\r\n\r\n“The biggest tip I give people is usually to write out everything you want to do,” says clinical psychologist Tamara Cavenett, adding that this helps everyone from high school students in their final year stressed about exams, to middle-aged mums and dads struggling to juggle parenting and work.\r\n\r\n“You want it out of your head and on paper,” says Cavenett. She gets them to make three separate lists: what needs to be done today; what needs to be done in 24 hours; what they hope to do someday.\r\n\r\nIt’s immediately calming. “You see you usually have the time to get the most important things done.”\r\n\r\nAnother tip that helps anyone who feels bad about themselves, for any reason?\r\n\r\nCavenett often asks clients if what they say to themselves in their head is how they’d speak to a friend.\r\n\r\n“We’re a lot more harsh on ourselves,” says Cavenett, noting that many of us have unconsciously internalised the criticisms we received from other people when we were younger.\r\n\r\n“The scary thing is that at times, these [inner] voices have become such an accustomed way of thinking that you stop questioning it,” says Cavenett. “You can live your entire life based on this self-belief, it can cause all sorts of issues. Often with a client, we get them to see things differently.”','Psychotherapy & Counselling Federation of Australia','','inherit','closed','closed','','5629-revision-v1','','','2022-12-17 05:47:50','2022-12-17 05:47:50','',5629,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5635',0,'revision','',0);
INSERT INTO `wpjr_posts` VALUES (5636,3,'2022-12-17 05:47:50','2022-12-17 05:47:50','<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>The Sydney Morning Herald</h1>\r\nArticle - source: The Sydney Morning Herald\r\n<h2>‘This is exactly what fixes marriages’: one-size fits all therapy</h2>\r\n30 November 2022\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>Jonah Hill and his therapist</h3>\r\nEveryone these days seems to have a podcast about how therapy has saved their life. Mental health has, thankfully, come out of the cupboard. Celebrities and royalty alike speak openly about the treatment that has helped them overcome unexamined grief, panic attacks or borderline personality disorder.\r\n\r\nStill, when actor Jonah Hill, the star of Superbad and The Wolf of Wall Street, put out a documentary about his fruitful relationship with his therapist two weeks ago, it came with a stark difference.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https://www.heraldsun.com.au/lifestyle/smart/money-conversations-can-be-tricky-heres-how-to-start/news-story/ecc8ac38b8bdced03c3bcc839ba6789f\">\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Jonah-Hill.png\" sizes=\"(max-width: 644px) 100vw, 644px\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Jonah-Hill.png 644w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Jonah-Hill-300x169.png 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Jonah-Hill-600x337.png 600w\" alt=\"\" width=\"644\" height=\"362\" /> </a>\r\n\r\n<i>“Meeting you and starting this process was out of desperation to get happier,” says actor Jonah Hill, about his therapist, in a new documentary about their relationship. “I just had no healthy self-esteem.” <cite>CREDIT: STUTZ / GETTY IMAGES</cite></i>\r\n\r\nIt wasn’t just Hill’s raw admission in Stutz that he “had no confidence as a human being”, when he began work with his current therapist five years ago. (He feels much better now.)\r\n\r\nRather it was Hill’s assertion that the “teachings” his therapist, Dr Phil Stutz, gave him – that helped him gain confidence, manage panic attacks, and recover from the death of his older brother – just might help other people “make their own lives better”, too. Regardless of what they’re going through. (Stutz, an LA-based psychiatrist whose lessons include teaching clients to accept that they can’t avoid pain, uncertainty, and constant work, agrees.)\r\n\r\nStutz, makes for great entertainment. (Adversity, says Stutz in a Brooklyn accent straight out of a Martin Scorsese movie, is an invisible force that wants to “block your evolution, block your potential, f--- up your s---“.)\r\n\r\nBut are Hill and his therapist right? Are there certain psychological tools or tips that can help all of us, regardless of our circumstance, age or particular challenge, to be happier?\r\n\r\nIn a word, yes.\r\n\r\n“The question is, ‘Why am I wired the way I am?’” says Lissy Abrahams, a Sydney-based psychotherapist. It is a foundational question each of us should ask ourselves, she says. Because how we were cared for when we were small – if our needs were tended to, or if they weren’t, for example – primes us to respond in a certain way to other people later on in life, says Abrahams, whose book Relationship Reset came out in July.\r\n\r\nThis means we might enter into relationships as adults primed, unbeknownst to others, to feel rejected, out of control, or unworthy.\r\n\r\n“So, if I [am wired to] feel unworthy, my partner displaying [sexual] desire for me might be part of what’s critical to me to feel OK,” says Abrahams, explaining the genesis of a typical overreaction that leads to conflict. “So what happens if they don’t want to [have sex] for a month? If they’re not inclined? Does it mean I’m not good enough?\r\n\r\n“We have this expectation that they [another person] are going to play a role that keeps us safe. And when they don’t, we can get very upset.”\r\n\r\nThe problem is other people don’t know this about us. They can’t read our minds. Just as we can’t read theirs. To simply understand this inherent gap between the way we are all primed to see the world is the key to having more harmonious relationships, says Abrahams.\r\n\r\n“This is exactly what fixes marriages,” she says, adding that it also improves our relations with everyone else in our life. It enables us to have greater compassion for each other, and therefore greater tolerance.\r\n\r\nThat, and realising it isn’t another person’s job to make us feel safe. Yes, we have the right to expect that our basic needs like respect, kindness and connection are met in a relationship. But it isn’t a partner’s job to fix something inside of us that’s broken, says Abrahams. “I believe for us to really be OK in life, we have to find a way to be OK in ourselves,” she says. (She offers two questions to ask yourself to determine if you’re OK: “Would I want to date me?“, and, “If I was dating now, would I pretend I’m not like this?”)\r\n\r\nPeople’s lives are also improved immeasurably when they learn to identify, and then express, exactly what they’re feeling when they are close to tearing their hair out, says clinical psychologist Dr Rowan Burckhardt, director of the Sydney Couples Counselling Centre.\r\n\r\nThis might sound ridiculous. Your partner keeps coming home late from work, even though you’ve repeatedly asked them not to. So you let rip, “You don’t give a crap about me!” Or your staff member continually fails to complete the to-do list you’ve given them. And so forth.\r\n\r\nYou’re angry, right? Well, yes and no, says Burckhardt, a clinical psychologist who treats couples and individuals of all ages.\r\n\r\nSure, you might be angry. But that’s only a “secondary” emotion. Underlying that emotion, he says, is a “primary” and more vulnerable emotion, like sadness, anxiety or fear. This is the first emotion you feel when something happens.\r\n\r\n“If you don’t know you’re feeling anxious when your partner is coming home late, how will you even know what to express to your partner?” says Burckhardt. “[But if you do, and you express it] the person can go, ‘Oh my god. I’m so sorry you felt left alone. Actually, I was just working really hard because I want to give you that holiday you keep talking about.’ The person hears that, and thinks, ‘Oh my God, how could I have thought they were uncaring?’” If it’s a work situation, identifying your primary emotion can help you ask for structures or boundaries be put in place to attend to them.\r\n\r\nAnother tool that helps everybody?\r\n\r\n“The biggest tip I give people is usually to write out everything you want to do,” says clinical psychologist Tamara Cavenett, adding that this helps everyone from high school students in their final year stressed about exams, to middle-aged mums and dads struggling to juggle parenting and work.\r\n\r\n“You want it out of your head and on paper,” says Cavenett. She gets them to make three separate lists: what needs to be done today; what needs to be done in 24 hours; what they hope to do someday.\r\n\r\nIt’s immediately calming. “You see you usually have the time to get the most important things done.”\r\n\r\nAnother tip that helps anyone who feels bad about themselves, for any reason?\r\n\r\nCavenett often asks clients if what they say to themselves in their head is how they’d speak to a friend.\r\n\r\n“We’re a lot more harsh on ourselves,” says Cavenett, noting that many of us have unconsciously internalised the criticisms we received from other people when we were younger.\r\n\r\n“The scary thing is that at times, these [inner] voices have become such an accustomed way of thinking that you stop questioning it,” says Cavenett. “You can live your entire life based on this self-belief, it can cause all sorts of issues. 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source: Psychotherapy &amp; Counselling Federation of Australia        \n            <h2>\n                Psychotherapy & Counselling Federation of Australia            \n        </h2>\n            December 2022        \n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.1 - 14-12-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>Review by: Rochelle Armstrong</h3>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.1 - 14-12-2022 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It’s not that we don’t take them seriously when we create them. It’s just that changing our habits can be hard, despite our best intentions to follow through.\r\n\r\nFor the last few years, I haven’t made New Year’s resolutions. Historically I’ve found them really hard. They never stuck for very long – a few weeks at best - and I would end up feeling as if I’d failed. For me, setting resolutions on 1st January felt tokenistic. I now know that I hadn’t worked out a solid why for the resolutions, nor planned how I would achieve my goals.\r\n\r\nThese days I like to incorporate any changes that I want into my life as I need to or want to – irrespective of the month of the year. For example, in mid-April last year my older daughter convinced me to go to the gym and do weight training with her. She’d been super disciplined for over a year, transforming her little frame into a stronger and more Amazonian one. I admired her discipline and focus. At that time we were on holidays together, and I was fully aware she’d been seducing my ego with comments like “you’re strong mumma” or “you’ll take to it really well as you already train”.\r\n\r\nI felt flattered despite both of us knowing how manipulative she was being. She kept dropping little hints about me getting a trainer and us weight training together on our return. She fed my ego spectacularly. I tentatively agreed to sign up to a gym. It took a little while to translate as another part of my ego – the sabotaging part - kicked in to prevent me going. My ego created stories of how busy I was, how I don’t like gyms, how I do enough already, how it’s expensive, and the best story of all was that I should start in 8 months’ time in the Christmas break.\r\n\r\nAs a species we don’t like pain and certainly struggle with self-induced pain, which going to the gym to do strength training is. My ego knew that a commitment like that would require my mind to be strong enough to stay the distance, that time would need to be set aside, as would some finances. My sabotaging ego was busy creating stories to keep me out of the gym.\r\n\r\nIt took me until the end of May to firm up my why. Quite simply, my why was that I wanted to become stronger, and sitting around making up more ego-based sabotaging stories was not going to help me achieve my goal. I set up the sessions and off I went. After 3 weeks I felt things were going really well. I felt pleased with myself honouring my commitment, feeling a little stronger already, and developing a rhythm in the training.\r\n\r\nThen the Delta variant showed up in my local council. I was in Queensland and needed to make a late night, last-minute dash back over the NSW border, so I wasn’t forced into a 14-day quarantine with Annastacia. We were the first council declared a hotspot and a week later were in lockdown.\r\n\r\nWhat surprised me was how relieved I was to stop my gym training. Wow that was quick! Wasn’t I proud of myself showing up for three weeks? How quickly that evaporated as I shot off a text to my trainer telling him that we would need to reconvene down the track. Phew!!! It was just wonderful to have such a legitimate excuse to not go. It wasn’t me bailing, or even worse, failing. It was the pandemic’s fault.\r\n\r\nWithin a few days though I felt the pull of my original why. I’d lose my gains that I’d started to make and would need to start all over again in the months ahead. How would I become strong mumma without the sessions? I knew I would never do it by myself. I contacted my trainer and we set up in the park near my home. We’ve been doing this ever since.\r\n\r\nDoes it get easier to go to my sessions? Not for me. My ego makes excuses nearly every session. It wants to sabotage me because it would rather do anything else than weight training. But I don’t let it. I show up because my why won’t be answered unless I go. What helps me turn up is by asking myself one question: What would my best self do? My resolve no longer blows away in the wind, as I hear myself say “It’s time to get ready now”.\r\n\r\nWhen you’re faced with your sabotaging ego, just ask yourself:\r\n\r\nWhat would my best self do?\r\n\r\nHow would my best self respond?\r\n\r\nWhat action would my best self take?\r\n\r\nThis will make it very clear that the sabotaging ego isn’t working in the interests of your best self, but more like the Wizard of Oz creating drama and stories to hide behind because he doesn’t want to face his emotional pain.\r\n\r\nThis can be a tiring position for them as they voice their concerns. Sometimes they may be taken seriously, and changes happen. But for many they are not taken seriously, and their partner may complain or blame them for the problems, or the couple may end up in conflict.\r\n\r\nOver time either partner may move to the position of quiet quitting. One partner may reach their limit in constantly trying to improve the relationship, as they wanted the relationship to help them feel safe or more secure. The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.\r\n\r\nQuiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship’s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.\r\n\r\nDespite giving up, they’re not ready to hand over the keys.\r\n\r\nIt’s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. 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In a couple, one partner often detects relationship difficulties more quickly and is keen to address them with their partner.\r\n\r\nThis can be a tiring position for them as they voice their concerns. Sometimes they may be taken seriously, and changes happen. But for many they are not taken seriously, and their partner may complain or blame them for the problems, or the couple may end up in conflict.\r\n\r\nOver time either partner may move to the position of quiet quitting. One partner may reach their limit in constantly trying to improve the relationship, as they wanted the relationship to help them feel safe or more secure. The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.\r\n\r\nQuiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship’s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.\r\n\r\nDespite giving up, they’re not ready to hand over the keys.\r\n\r\nIt’s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. These may include fear of losing extended family connections, social groups, the neighbourhood, community, financial security, companionship, the family cook, a Netflix buddy, or the dog walker.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h2>7 signs you or your partner may be \'quiet quitting\' in your relationship</h2>\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style> <style>/*! 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These can be financial, extended family, friendship groups, being co-parents, perhaps a joint business, a home, investments. To undo each of these it requires thought and they are often emotionally laden.\r\n\r\nQuiet quitting allows time in between – it’s a position like sitting on the fence. It’s not fully in the relationship and it’s not fully out. There may be emotional withdrawal from one’s partner however this is not the same as total withdrawal, and the aspects mentioned like friendships, extended family, being a family unit, or having a home together still hold well enough. Some people can sit on the fence for a short time before their bottom gets sore – and for others forever potentially.\r\n\r\nWhen a partner is quietly quitting, they are taking a position. It could edge the couple closer to separation or it could cause the other partner to rally, pull up their socks and allow themselves to be truly in it again.\r\n<h2>Don’t judge the quiet quitters!</h2>\r\nQuiet quitting is a valid position and shouldn’t be judged as childish or immature. It could be a reflective time to work on the next steps outside of the relationship. Some people get individual therapy at this point, others see a family lawyer.','What would my best self do?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5646-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 19:41:32','2022-12-28 19:41:32','',5646,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5648',0,'revision','',0),(5649,3,'2022-12-28 19:45:45','2022-12-28 19:45:45','As a therapist I know how hard many people work to keep their relationship healthy and prevent it spiralling towards a separation. In a couple, one partner often detects relationship difficulties more quickly and is keen to address them with their partner.\r\n\r\nThis can be a tiring position for them as they voice their concerns. Sometimes they may be taken seriously, and changes happen. But for many they are not taken seriously, and their partner may complain or blame them for the problems, or the couple may end up in conflict.\r\n\r\nOver time either partner may move to the position of quiet quitting. One partner may reach their limit in constantly trying to improve the relationship, as they wanted the relationship to help them feel safe or more secure. The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.\r\n\r\nQuiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship’s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.\r\n\r\nDespite giving up, they’re not ready to hand over the keys.\r\n\r\nIt’s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. These may include fear of losing extended family connections, social groups, the neighbourhood, community, financial security, companionship, the family cook, a Netflix buddy, or the dog walker.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h2>7 signs you or your partner may be \'quiet quitting\' in your relationship</h2>\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style> <style>/*! 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These can be financial, extended family, friendship groups, being co-parents, perhaps a joint business, a home, investments. To undo each of these it requires thought and they are often emotionally laden.\r\n\r\nQuiet quitting allows time in between – it’s a position like sitting on the fence. It’s not fully in the relationship and it’s not fully out. There may be emotional withdrawal from one’s partner however this is not the same as total withdrawal, and the aspects mentioned like friendships, extended family, being a family unit, or having a home together still hold well enough. Some people can sit on the fence for a short time before their bottom gets sore – and for others forever potentially.\r\n\r\nWhen a partner is quietly quitting, they are taking a position. It could edge the couple closer to separation or it could cause the other partner to rally, pull up their socks and allow themselves to be truly in it again.\r\n<h2>Don’t judge the quiet quitters!</h2>\r\nQuiet quitting is a valid position and shouldn’t be judged as childish or immature. It could be a reflective time to work on the next steps outside of the relationship. Some people get individual therapy at this point, others see a family lawyer.','What would my best self do?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5646-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 19:45:45','2022-12-28 19:45:45','',5646,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5649',0,'revision','',0),(5650,3,'2022-12-28 19:45:45','2022-12-28 19:45:45','As a therapist I know how hard many people work to keep their relationship healthy and prevent it spiralling towards a separation. In a couple, one partner often detects relationship difficulties more quickly and is keen to address them with their partner.\r\n\r\nThis can be a tiring position for them as they voice their concerns. Sometimes they may be taken seriously, and changes happen. But for many they are not taken seriously, and their partner may complain or blame them for the problems, or the couple may end up in conflict.\r\n\r\nOver time either partner may move to the position of quiet quitting. One partner may reach their limit in constantly trying to improve the relationship, as they wanted the relationship to help them feel safe or more secure. The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.\r\n\r\nQuiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship’s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.\r\n\r\nDespite giving up, they’re not ready to hand over the keys.\r\n\r\nIt’s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. These may include fear of losing extended family connections, social groups, the neighbourhood, community, financial security, companionship, the family cook, a Netflix buddy, or the dog walker.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h2>7 signs you or your partner may be \'quiet quitting\' in your relationship</h2>\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.8.1 - 13-11-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style> <style>/*! 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These can be financial, extended family, friendship groups, being co-parents, perhaps a joint business, a home, investments. To undo each of these it requires thought and they are often emotionally laden.\r\n\r\nQuiet quitting allows time in between – it’s a position like sitting on the fence. It’s not fully in the relationship and it’s not fully out. There may be emotional withdrawal from one’s partner however this is not the same as total withdrawal, and the aspects mentioned like friendships, extended family, being a family unit, or having a home together still hold well enough. Some people can sit on the fence for a short time before their bottom gets sore – and for others forever potentially.\r\n\r\nWhen a partner is quietly quitting, they are taking a position. It could edge the couple closer to separation or it could cause the other partner to rally, pull up their socks and allow themselves to be truly in it again.\r\n<h2>Don’t judge the quiet quitters!</h2>\r\nQuiet quitting is a valid position and shouldn’t be judged as childish or immature. It could be a reflective time to work on the next steps outside of the relationship. Some people get individual therapy at this point, others see a family lawyer.','What would my best self do?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5646-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 19:45:45','2022-12-28 19:45:45','',5646,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5650',0,'revision','',0),(5651,3,'2022-12-28 19:45:45','2022-12-28 19:45:45','<p>We all know that New Year’s resolutions come and go as if they were written in the wind. It’s not that we don’t take them seriously when we create them. It’s just that changing our habits can be hard, despite our best intentions to follow through.</p><p>For the last few years, I haven’t made New Year’s resolutions. Historically I’ve found them really hard. They never stuck for very long – a few weeks at best - and I would end up feeling as if I’d failed. For me, setting resolutions on 1st January felt tokenistic. I now know that I hadn’t worked out a solid why for the resolutions, nor planned how I would achieve my goals.</p><p>These days I like to incorporate any changes that I want into my life as I need to or want to – irrespective of the month of the year. For example, in mid-April last year my older daughter convinced me to go to the gym and do weight training with her. She’d been super disciplined for over a year, transforming her little frame into a stronger and more Amazonian one. I admired her discipline and focus. At that time we were on holidays together, and I was fully aware she’d been seducing my ego with comments like “you’re strong mumma” or “you’ll take to it really well as you already train”.</p><p>I felt flattered despite both of us knowing how manipulative she was being. She kept dropping little hints about me getting a trainer and us weight training together on our return. She fed my ego spectacularly. I tentatively agreed to sign up to a gym. It took a little while to translate as another part of my ego – the sabotaging part - kicked in to prevent me going. My ego created stories of how busy I was, how I don’t like gyms, how I do enough already, how it’s expensive, and the best story of all was that I should start in 8 months’ time in the Christmas break.</p><p>As a species we don’t like pain and certainly struggle with self-induced pain, which going to the gym to do strength training is. My ego knew that a commitment like that would require my mind to be strong enough to stay the distance, that time would need to be set aside, as would some finances. My sabotaging ego was busy creating stories to keep me out of the gym.</p><p>It took me until the end of May to firm up my why. Quite simply, my why was that I wanted to become stronger, and sitting around making up more ego-based sabotaging stories was not going to help me achieve my goal. I set up the sessions and off I went. After 3 weeks I felt things were going really well. I felt pleased with myself honouring my commitment, feeling a little stronger already, and developing a rhythm in the training.</p><p>Then the Delta variant showed up in my local council. I was in Queensland and needed to make a late night, last-minute dash back over the NSW border, so I wasn’t forced into a 14-day quarantine with Annastacia. We were the first council declared a hotspot and a week later were in lockdown.</p><p>What surprised me was how relieved I was to stop my gym training. Wow that was quick! Wasn’t I proud of myself showing up for three weeks? How quickly that evaporated as I shot off a text to my trainer telling him that we would need to reconvene down the track. Phew!!! It was just wonderful to have such a legitimate excuse to not go. It wasn’t me bailing, or even worse, failing. It was the pandemic’s fault.  </p><p>Within a few days though I felt the pull of my original why. I’d lose my gains that I’d started to make and would need to start all over again in the months ahead. How would I become strong mumma without the sessions? I knew I would never do it by myself. I contacted my trainer and we set up in the park near my home. We’ve been doing this ever since.</p><p>Does it get easier to go to my sessions? Not for me. My ego makes excuses nearly every session. It wants to sabotage me because it would rather do anything else than weight training. But I don’t let it. I show up because my why won’t be answered unless I go. What helps me turn up is by asking myself one question: What would my best self do? My resolve no longer blows away in the wind, as I hear myself say “It’s time to get ready now”.</p><p>When you’re faced with your sabotaging ego, just ask yourself:</p><p>What would my best self do?</p><p>How would my best self respond?</p><p>What action would my best self take?</p><p>This will make it very clear that the sabotaging ego isn’t working in the interests of your best self, but more like the Wizard of Oz creating drama and stories to hide behind because he doesn’t want to face his emotional pain.</p><p>This can be a tiring position for them as they voice their concerns. Sometimes they may be taken seriously, and changes happen. But for many they are not taken seriously, and their partner may complain or blame them for the problems, or the couple may end up in conflict.</p><p>Over time either partner may move to the position of quiet quitting. One partner may reach their limit in constantly trying to improve the relationship, as they wanted the relationship to help them feel safe or more secure. The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.</p><p>Quiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship’s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.</p><p>Despite giving up, they’re not ready to hand over the keys.</p><p>It’s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. These may include fear of losing extended family connections, social groups, the neighbourhood, community, financial security, companionship, the family cook, a Netflix buddy, or the dog walker.</p>','What would my best self do?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5646-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 19:45:45','2022-12-28 19:45:45','',5646,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5651',0,'revision','',0),(5652,3,'2023-01-14 09:52:14','2023-01-14 09:52:14','<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h2>New Year\'s Separation</h2>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n		<p>Whilst many of us welcomed 2023 with excitement and thoughts of New Year’s resolutions or goals we wish to achieve, there are also many of us struggling with the state of our couple relationship and close to ending it.</p><p>This is no surprise for family lawyers who traditionally see an increase in client numbers in January with high numbers of partners seeking legal advice for how to separate. Some lawyers see an increase of 30%. For family lawyers January is traditionally known as Divorce Month, and this usually begins in the second week of January when many of us head back to work after the Christmas break.</p><p>Therapists are also typically inundated at this time too. I know in my clinic we always experience a huge spike in clients contacts, and many of these are related to partners having increased depression, anxiety, or loneliness relating to issues in their couple relationship.</p><p>What we don’t know is whether this New Year will be any different. Many lawyers have already experienced these spikes following the lifting of Covid restrictions and lockdowns. Therapists similarly saw major spikes last year, as Covid related anxiety, depression, and stressors pushed many more people to seek help. I hope this January is different, as relationships have already been heavily tested during the pandemic.</p><p>I’m not against couples separating. No-one walks in anyone else’s shoes and can determine just how unhappy they are in their relationship. I do, however, believe we need to try everything to fix it before leaving, especially if there are children involved. Sadly, there are many relationships that could have been saved if partners knew how to get the right help.</p>		\n			<h2>New Year\'s Resolution</h2>		\n		<p>If you’re going to make any New Year’s resolutions, I believe you would best be served by working on your couple relationship. Unless there is violence or abuse occurring, then it may be worth trying again to resolve issues in your relationship. Just make sure you’ve done everything you can before you open the door to separation.</p><p>Separation processes are nearly always anxiety provoking and exhausting, and typically it takes 2 years to feel yourself again following a separation – and that’s if it’s a friendly enough separation. I have some clients who have to deal with continuously hostile and belligerent exes even years after the actual separation. They are dragged into multiple court processes, racking up massive legal fees, leaving them unable to properly get on with their lives.</p><p>Unfortunately, financial stress can lead many couples to separate, however this doesn’t solve the financial problem as separation leaves everyone worse off. On top of this, many couples have already been financially hammered by the pandemic. Separation brings the standard of living down a notch or more for everyone. See if there are other ways to solve your financial stress, even if it’s a long-term plan such as studying part time or skills development. </p><p>If you are a couple with regular cycles of conflict, then you can work through the conflict to make sense of it and understand where it really comes from. You can learn why you are triggered by your partner. You can also learn strategies to calm yourself down once you have been triggered.</p><p>If you are a couple with communication difficulties, then you can work to overcome the differences between you. Communication is tricky and we can easily take our partner’s communication style personally. As a therapist, I can tell you that our partner’s communication style is all about them, it’s hardly ever personal, even though it can feel very personal indeed.</p><p>If you are a couple struggling with decreased intimacy and connection, then you can improve this too.</p><p>Therapy is a helpful avenue for many couples to go down. Learning about each other in couples therapy is an intimate experience and leads to greater joy and connection between partners. Take the time to get to know each other and why you react to each other the way you do.</p><p>There are also online courses and even podcasts that can decrease your conflict, improve the way you both communicate and increase intimacy and joy. If money is tight, these are cheaper options than ongoing therapy and can provide you a wealth of information. They really can set you on a better path in yourself and your relationship.</p><p>Make it a priority to resolve your relationship difficulties in 2023.</p>','New Year\'s Separation or New Year\'s Resolutions','','publish','open','open','','ny-separation-or-ny-resolutions','','','2022-12-28 19:59:45','2022-12-28 19:59:45','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5652',0,'post','',0),(5653,3,'2022-12-28 19:54:33','2022-12-28 19:54:33','','This Year I Will Motivational Concept','Inspirational text This Year I Will typed on a piece of white paper pinned on cork bulletin board. Motivational New Year resolutions concept.','inherit','open','closed','','this-year-i-will-motivational-concept','','','2022-12-28 19:54:33','2022-12-28 19:54:33','',5652,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/AdobeStock_390477007.jpeg',0,'attachment','image/jpeg',0),(5654,3,'2022-12-28 19:55:06','2022-12-28 19:55:06','We all know that New Year’s resolutions come and go as if they were written in the wind. It’s not that we don’t take them seriously when we create them. It’s just that changing our habits can be hard, despite our best intentions to follow through.\r\n\r\nFor the last few years, I haven’t made New Year’s resolutions. Historically I’ve found them really hard. They never stuck for very long – a few weeks at best - and I would end up feeling as if I’d failed. For me, setting resolutions on 1st January felt tokenistic. I now know that I hadn’t worked out a solid why for the resolutions, nor planned how I would achieve my goals.\r\n\r\nThese days I like to incorporate any changes that I want into my life as I need to or want to – irrespective of the month of the year. For example, in mid-April last year my older daughter convinced me to go to the gym and do weight training with her. She’d been super disciplined for over a year, transforming her little frame into a stronger and more Amazonian one. I admired her discipline and focus. At that time we were on holidays together, and I was fully aware she’d been seducing my ego with comments like “you’re strong mumma” or “you’ll take to it really well as you already train”.\r\n\r\nI felt flattered despite both of us knowing how manipulative she was being. She kept dropping little hints about me getting a trainer and us weight training together on our return. She fed my ego spectacularly. I tentatively agreed to sign up to a gym. It took a little while to translate as another part of my ego – the sabotaging part - kicked in to prevent me going. My ego created stories of how busy I was, how I don’t like gyms, how I do enough already, how it’s expensive, and the best story of all was that I should start in 8 months’ time in the Christmas break.\r\n\r\nAs a species we don’t like pain and certainly struggle with self-induced pain, which going to the gym to do strength training is. My ego knew that a commitment like that would require my mind to be strong enough to stay the distance, that time would need to be set aside, as would some finances. My sabotaging ego was busy creating stories to keep me out of the gym.\r\n\r\nIt took me until the end of May to firm up my why. Quite simply, my why was that I wanted to become stronger, and sitting around making up more ego-based sabotaging stories was not going to help me achieve my goal. I set up the sessions and off I went. After 3 weeks I felt things were going really well. I felt pleased with myself honouring my commitment, feeling a little stronger already, and developing a rhythm in the training.\r\n\r\nThen the Delta variant showed up in my local council. I was in Queensland and needed to make a late night, last-minute dash back over the NSW border, so I wasn’t forced into a 14-day quarantine with Annastacia. We were the first council declared a hotspot and a week later were in lockdown.\r\n\r\nWhat surprised me was how relieved I was to stop my gym training. Wow that was quick! Wasn’t I proud of myself showing up for three weeks? How quickly that evaporated as I shot off a text to my trainer telling him that we would need to reconvene down the track. Phew!!! It was just wonderful to have such a legitimate excuse to not go. It wasn’t me bailing, or even worse, failing. It was the pandemic’s fault.\r\n\r\nWithin a few days though I felt the pull of my original why. I’d lose my gains that I’d started to make and would need to start all over again in the months ahead. How would I become strong mumma without the sessions? I knew I would never do it by myself. I contacted my trainer and we set up in the park near my home. We’ve been doing this ever since.\r\n\r\nDoes it get easier to go to my sessions? Not for me. My ego makes excuses nearly every session. It wants to sabotage me because it would rather do anything else than weight training. But I don’t let it. I show up because my why won’t be answered unless I go. What helps me turn up is by asking myself one question: What would my best self do? My resolve no longer blows away in the wind, as I hear myself say “It’s time to get ready now”.\r\n\r\nWhen you’re faced with your sabotaging ego, just ask yourself:\r\n\r\nWhat would my best self do?\r\n\r\nHow would my best self respond?\r\n\r\nWhat action would my best self take?\r\n\r\nThis will make it very clear that the sabotaging ego isn’t working in the interests of your best self, but more like the Wizard of Oz creating drama and stories to hide behind because he doesn’t want to face his emotional pain.\r\n\r\nThis can be a tiring position for them as they voice their concerns. Sometimes they may be taken seriously, and changes happen. But for many they are not taken seriously, and their partner may complain or blame them for the problems, or the couple may end up in conflict.\r\n\r\nOver time either partner may move to the position of quiet quitting. One partner may reach their limit in constantly trying to improve the relationship, as they wanted the relationship to help them feel safe or more secure. The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.\r\n\r\nQuiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship’s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.\r\n\r\nDespite giving up, they’re not ready to hand over the keys.\r\n\r\nIt’s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. These may include fear of losing extended family connections, social groups, the neighbourhood, community, financial security, companionship, the family cook, a Netflix buddy, or the dog walker.','New Year\'s Separation or New Year\'s Resolutions','','inherit','closed','closed','','5652-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 19:55:06','2022-12-28 19:55:06','',5652,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5654',0,'revision','',0),(5655,3,'2022-12-28 19:59:21','2022-12-28 19:59:21','We all know that New Year’s resolutions come and go as if they were written in the wind. It’s not that we don’t take them seriously when we create them. It’s just that changing our habits can be hard, despite our best intentions to follow through.\r\n\r\nFor the last few years, I haven’t made New Year’s resolutions. Historically I’ve found them really hard. They never stuck for very long – a few weeks at best - and I would end up feeling as if I’d failed. For me, setting resolutions on 1st January felt tokenistic. I now know that I hadn’t worked out a solid why for the resolutions, nor planned how I would achieve my goals.\r\n\r\nThese days I like to incorporate any changes that I want into my life as I need to or want to – irrespective of the month of the year. For example, in mid-April last year my older daughter convinced me to go to the gym and do weight training with her. She’d been super disciplined for over a year, transforming her little frame into a stronger and more Amazonian one. I admired her discipline and focus. At that time we were on holidays together, and I was fully aware she’d been seducing my ego with comments like “you’re strong mumma” or “you’ll take to it really well as you already train”.\r\n\r\nI felt flattered despite both of us knowing how manipulative she was being. She kept dropping little hints about me getting a trainer and us weight training together on our return. She fed my ego spectacularly. I tentatively agreed to sign up to a gym. It took a little while to translate as another part of my ego – the sabotaging part - kicked in to prevent me going. My ego created stories of how busy I was, how I don’t like gyms, how I do enough already, how it’s expensive, and the best story of all was that I should start in 8 months’ time in the Christmas break.\r\n\r\nAs a species we don’t like pain and certainly struggle with self-induced pain, which going to the gym to do strength training is. My ego knew that a commitment like that would require my mind to be strong enough to stay the distance, that time would need to be set aside, as would some finances. My sabotaging ego was busy creating stories to keep me out of the gym.\r\n\r\nIt took me until the end of May to firm up my why. Quite simply, my why was that I wanted to become stronger, and sitting around making up more ego-based sabotaging stories was not going to help me achieve my goal. I set up the sessions and off I went. After 3 weeks I felt things were going really well. I felt pleased with myself honouring my commitment, feeling a little stronger already, and developing a rhythm in the training.\r\n\r\nThen the Delta variant showed up in my local council. I was in Queensland and needed to make a late night, last-minute dash back over the NSW border, so I wasn’t forced into a 14-day quarantine with Annastacia. We were the first council declared a hotspot and a week later were in lockdown.\r\n\r\nWhat surprised me was how relieved I was to stop my gym training. Wow that was quick! Wasn’t I proud of myself showing up for three weeks? How quickly that evaporated as I shot off a text to my trainer telling him that we would need to reconvene down the track. Phew!!! It was just wonderful to have such a legitimate excuse to not go. It wasn’t me bailing, or even worse, failing. It was the pandemic’s fault.\r\n\r\nWithin a few days though I felt the pull of my original why. I’d lose my gains that I’d started to make and would need to start all over again in the months ahead. How would I become strong mumma without the sessions? I knew I would never do it by myself. I contacted my trainer and we set up in the park near my home. We’ve been doing this ever since.\r\n\r\nDoes it get easier to go to my sessions? Not for me. My ego makes excuses nearly every session. It wants to sabotage me because it would rather do anything else than weight training. But I don’t let it. I show up because my why won’t be answered unless I go. What helps me turn up is by asking myself one question: What would my best self do? My resolve no longer blows away in the wind, as I hear myself say “It’s time to get ready now”.\r\n\r\nWhen you’re faced with your sabotaging ego, just ask yourself:\r\n\r\nWhat would my best self do?\r\n\r\nHow would my best self respond?\r\n\r\nWhat action would my best self take?\r\n\r\nThis will make it very clear that the sabotaging ego isn’t working in the interests of your best self, but more like the Wizard of Oz creating drama and stories to hide behind because he doesn’t want to face his emotional pain.\r\n\r\nThis can be a tiring position for them as they voice their concerns. Sometimes they may be taken seriously, and changes happen. But for many they are not taken seriously, and their partner may complain or blame them for the problems, or the couple may end up in conflict.\r\n\r\nOver time either partner may move to the position of quiet quitting. One partner may reach their limit in constantly trying to improve the relationship, as they wanted the relationship to help them feel safe or more secure. The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.\r\n\r\nQuiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship’s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.\r\n\r\nDespite giving up, they’re not ready to hand over the keys.\r\n\r\nIt’s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. These may include fear of losing extended family connections, social groups, the neighbourhood, community, financial security, companionship, the family cook, a Netflix buddy, or the dog walker.','New Year\'s Separation or New Year\'s Resolutions','','inherit','closed','closed','','5652-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 19:59:21','2022-12-28 19:59:21','',5652,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5655',0,'revision','',0),(5656,3,'2022-12-28 19:59:22','2022-12-28 19:59:22','We all know that New Year’s resolutions come and go as if they were written in the wind. It’s not that we don’t take them seriously when we create them. It’s just that changing our habits can be hard, despite our best intentions to follow through.\r\n\r\nFor the last few years, I haven’t made New Year’s resolutions. Historically I’ve found them really hard. They never stuck for very long – a few weeks at best - and I would end up feeling as if I’d failed. For me, setting resolutions on 1st January felt tokenistic. I now know that I hadn’t worked out a solid why for the resolutions, nor planned how I would achieve my goals.\r\n\r\nThese days I like to incorporate any changes that I want into my life as I need to or want to – irrespective of the month of the year. For example, in mid-April last year my older daughter convinced me to go to the gym and do weight training with her. She’d been super disciplined for over a year, transforming her little frame into a stronger and more Amazonian one. I admired her discipline and focus. At that time we were on holidays together, and I was fully aware she’d been seducing my ego with comments like “you’re strong mumma” or “you’ll take to it really well as you already train”.\r\n\r\nI felt flattered despite both of us knowing how manipulative she was being. She kept dropping little hints about me getting a trainer and us weight training together on our return. She fed my ego spectacularly. I tentatively agreed to sign up to a gym. It took a little while to translate as another part of my ego – the sabotaging part - kicked in to prevent me going. My ego created stories of how busy I was, how I don’t like gyms, how I do enough already, how it’s expensive, and the best story of all was that I should start in 8 months’ time in the Christmas break.\r\n\r\nAs a species we don’t like pain and certainly struggle with self-induced pain, which going to the gym to do strength training is. My ego knew that a commitment like that would require my mind to be strong enough to stay the distance, that time would need to be set aside, as would some finances. My sabotaging ego was busy creating stories to keep me out of the gym.\r\n\r\nIt took me until the end of May to firm up my why. Quite simply, my why was that I wanted to become stronger, and sitting around making up more ego-based sabotaging stories was not going to help me achieve my goal. I set up the sessions and off I went. After 3 weeks I felt things were going really well. I felt pleased with myself honouring my commitment, feeling a little stronger already, and developing a rhythm in the training.\r\n\r\nThen the Delta variant showed up in my local council. I was in Queensland and needed to make a late night, last-minute dash back over the NSW border, so I wasn’t forced into a 14-day quarantine with Annastacia. We were the first council declared a hotspot and a week later were in lockdown.\r\n\r\nWhat surprised me was how relieved I was to stop my gym training. Wow that was quick! Wasn’t I proud of myself showing up for three weeks? How quickly that evaporated as I shot off a text to my trainer telling him that we would need to reconvene down the track. Phew!!! It was just wonderful to have such a legitimate excuse to not go. It wasn’t me bailing, or even worse, failing. It was the pandemic’s fault.\r\n\r\nWithin a few days though I felt the pull of my original why. I’d lose my gains that I’d started to make and would need to start all over again in the months ahead. How would I become strong mumma without the sessions? I knew I would never do it by myself. I contacted my trainer and we set up in the park near my home. We’ve been doing this ever since.\r\n\r\nDoes it get easier to go to my sessions? Not for me. My ego makes excuses nearly every session. It wants to sabotage me because it would rather do anything else than weight training. But I don’t let it. I show up because my why won’t be answered unless I go. What helps me turn up is by asking myself one question: What would my best self do? My resolve no longer blows away in the wind, as I hear myself say “It’s time to get ready now”.\r\n\r\nWhen you’re faced with your sabotaging ego, just ask yourself:\r\n\r\nWhat would my best self do?\r\n\r\nHow would my best self respond?\r\n\r\nWhat action would my best self take?\r\n\r\nThis will make it very clear that the sabotaging ego isn’t working in the interests of your best self, but more like the Wizard of Oz creating drama and stories to hide behind because he doesn’t want to face his emotional pain.\r\n\r\nThis can be a tiring position for them as they voice their concerns. Sometimes they may be taken seriously, and changes happen. But for many they are not taken seriously, and their partner may complain or blame them for the problems, or the couple may end up in conflict.\r\n\r\nOver time either partner may move to the position of quiet quitting. One partner may reach their limit in constantly trying to improve the relationship, as they wanted the relationship to help them feel safe or more secure. The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.\r\n\r\nQuiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship’s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.\r\n\r\nDespite giving up, they’re not ready to hand over the keys.\r\n\r\nIt’s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. These may include fear of losing extended family connections, social groups, the neighbourhood, community, financial security, companionship, the family cook, a Netflix buddy, or the dog walker.','New Year\'s Separation or New Year\'s Resolutions','','inherit','closed','closed','','5652-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 19:59:22','2022-12-28 19:59:22','',5652,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5656',0,'revision','',0),(5657,3,'2022-12-28 19:59:22','2022-12-28 19:59:22','<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h2>New Year\'s Separation</h2>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n		<p>Whilst many of us welcomed 2023 with excitement and thoughts of New Year’s resolutions or goals we wish to achieve, there are also many of us struggling with the state of our couple relationship and close to ending it.</p>\n<p>This is no surprise for family lawyers who traditionally see an increase in client numbers in January with high numbers of partners seeking legal advice for how to separate. Some lawyers see an increase of 30%. For family lawyers January is traditionally known as Divorce Month, and this usually begins in the second week of January when many of us head back to work after the Christmas break.</p>\n<p>Therapists are also typically inundated at this time too. I know in my clinic we always experience a huge spike in clients contacts, and many of these are related to partners having increased depression, anxiety, or loneliness relating to issues in their couple relationship.</p>\n<p>What we don’t know is whether this New Year will be any different. Many lawyers have already experienced these spikes following the lifting of Covid restrictions and lockdowns. Therapists similarly saw major spikes last year, as Covid related anxiety, depression, and stressors pushed many more people to seek help. I hope this January is different, as relationships have already been heavily tested during the pandemic.</p>\n<p>I’m not against couples separating. No-one walks in anyone else’s shoes and can determine just how unhappy they are in their relationship. I do, however, believe we need to try everything to fix it before leaving, especially if there are children involved. Sadly, there are many relationships that could have been saved if partners knew how to get the right help.</p>		\n			<h2>New Year\'s Resolution</h2>		\n		<p>If you’re going to make any New Year’s resolutions, I believe you would best be served by working on your couple relationship. Unless there is violence or abuse occurring, then it may be worth trying again to resolve issues in your relationship. Just make sure you’ve done everything you can before you open the door to separation.</p><p>Separation processes are nearly always anxiety provoking and exhausting, and typically it takes 2 years to feel yourself again following a separation – and that’s if it’s a friendly enough separation. I have some clients who have to deal with continuously hostile and belligerent exes even years after the actual separation. They are dragged into multiple court processes, racking up massive legal fees, leaving them unable to properly get on with their lives.</p><p>Unfortunately, financial stress can lead many couples to separate, however this doesn’t solve the financial problem as separation leaves everyone worse off. On top of this, many couples have already been financially hammered by the pandemic. Separation brings the standard of living down a notch or more for everyone. See if there are other ways to solve your financial stress, even if it’s a long-term plan such as studying part time or skills development. </p><p>If you are a couple with regular cycles of conflict, then you can work through the conflict to make sense of it and understand where it really comes from. You can learn why you are triggered by your partner. You can also learn strategies to calm yourself down once you have been triggered.</p><p>If you are a couple with communication difficulties, then you can work to overcome the differences between you. Communication is tricky and we can easily take our partner’s communication style personally. As a therapist, I can tell you that our partner’s communication style is all about them, it’s hardly ever personal, even though it can feel very personal indeed.</p><p>If you are a couple struggling with decreased intimacy and connection, then you can improve this too.</p><p>Therapy is a helpful avenue for many couples to go down. Learning about each other in couples therapy is an intimate experience and leads to greater joy and connection between partners. Take the time to get to know each other and why you react to each other the way you do.</p><p>There are also online courses and even podcasts that can decrease your conflict, improve the way you both communicate and increase intimacy and joy. If money is tight, these are cheaper options than ongoing therapy and can provide you a wealth of information. They really can set you on a better path in yourself and your relationship.</p><p>Make it a priority to resolve your relationship difficulties in 2023.</p>','New Year\'s Separation or New Year\'s Resolutions','','inherit','closed','closed','','5652-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 19:59:22','2022-12-28 19:59:22','',5652,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5657',0,'revision','',0),(5658,3,'2022-12-28 19:59:44','2022-12-28 19:59:44','<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h2>New Year\'s Separation</h2>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n		<p>Whilst many of us welcomed 2023 with excitement and thoughts of New Year’s resolutions or goals we wish to achieve, there are also many of us struggling with the state of our couple relationship and close to ending it.</p>\n<p>This is no surprise for family lawyers who traditionally see an increase in client numbers in January with high numbers of partners seeking legal advice for how to separate. Some lawyers see an increase of 30%. For family lawyers January is traditionally known as Divorce Month, and this usually begins in the second week of January when many of us head back to work after the Christmas break.</p>\n<p>Therapists are also typically inundated at this time too. I know in my clinic we always experience a huge spike in clients contacts, and many of these are related to partners having increased depression, anxiety, or loneliness relating to issues in their couple relationship.</p>\n<p>What we don’t know is whether this New Year will be any different. Many lawyers have already experienced these spikes following the lifting of Covid restrictions and lockdowns. Therapists similarly saw major spikes last year, as Covid related anxiety, depression, and stressors pushed many more people to seek help. I hope this January is different, as relationships have already been heavily tested during the pandemic.</p>\n<p>I’m not against couples separating. No-one walks in anyone else’s shoes and can determine just how unhappy they are in their relationship. I do, however, believe we need to try everything to fix it before leaving, especially if there are children involved. Sadly, there are many relationships that could have been saved if partners knew how to get the right help.</p>		\n			<h2>New Year\'s Resolution</h2>		\n		<p>If you’re going to make any New Year’s resolutions, I believe you would best be served by working on your couple relationship. Unless there is violence or abuse occurring, then it may be worth trying again to resolve issues in your relationship. Just make sure you’ve done everything you can before you open the door to separation.</p><p>Separation processes are nearly always anxiety provoking and exhausting, and typically it takes 2 years to feel yourself again following a separation – and that’s if it’s a friendly enough separation. I have some clients who have to deal with continuously hostile and belligerent exes even years after the actual separation. They are dragged into multiple court processes, racking up massive legal fees, leaving them unable to properly get on with their lives.</p><p>Unfortunately, financial stress can lead many couples to separate, however this doesn’t solve the financial problem as separation leaves everyone worse off. On top of this, many couples have already been financially hammered by the pandemic. Separation brings the standard of living down a notch or more for everyone. See if there are other ways to solve your financial stress, even if it’s a long-term plan such as studying part time or skills development. </p><p>If you are a couple with regular cycles of conflict, then you can work through the conflict to make sense of it and understand where it really comes from. You can learn why you are triggered by your partner. You can also learn strategies to calm yourself down once you have been triggered.</p><p>If you are a couple with communication difficulties, then you can work to overcome the differences between you. Communication is tricky and we can easily take our partner’s communication style personally. As a therapist, I can tell you that our partner’s communication style is all about them, it’s hardly ever personal, even though it can feel very personal indeed.</p><p>If you are a couple struggling with decreased intimacy and connection, then you can improve this too.</p><p>Therapy is a helpful avenue for many couples to go down. Learning about each other in couples therapy is an intimate experience and leads to greater joy and connection between partners. Take the time to get to know each other and why you react to each other the way you do.</p><p>There are also online courses and even podcasts that can decrease your conflict, improve the way you both communicate and increase intimacy and joy. If money is tight, these are cheaper options than ongoing therapy and can provide you a wealth of information. They really can set you on a better path in yourself and your relationship.</p><p>Make it a priority to resolve your relationship difficulties in 2023.</p>','New Year\'s Separation or New Year\'s Resolutions','','inherit','closed','closed','','5652-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 19:59:44','2022-12-28 19:59:44','',5652,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5658',0,'revision','',0),(5659,3,'2022-12-28 19:59:44','2022-12-28 19:59:44','<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h2>New Year\'s Separation</h2>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n		<p>Whilst many of us welcomed 2023 with excitement and thoughts of New Year’s resolutions or goals we wish to achieve, there are also many of us struggling with the state of our couple relationship and close to ending it.</p>\n<p>This is no surprise for family lawyers who traditionally see an increase in client numbers in January with high numbers of partners seeking legal advice for how to separate. Some lawyers see an increase of 30%. For family lawyers January is traditionally known as Divorce Month, and this usually begins in the second week of January when many of us head back to work after the Christmas break.</p>\n<p>Therapists are also typically inundated at this time too. I know in my clinic we always experience a huge spike in clients contacts, and many of these are related to partners having increased depression, anxiety, or loneliness relating to issues in their couple relationship.</p>\n<p>What we don’t know is whether this New Year will be any different. Many lawyers have already experienced these spikes following the lifting of Covid restrictions and lockdowns. Therapists similarly saw major spikes last year, as Covid related anxiety, depression, and stressors pushed many more people to seek help. I hope this January is different, as relationships have already been heavily tested during the pandemic.</p>\n<p>I’m not against couples separating. No-one walks in anyone else’s shoes and can determine just how unhappy they are in their relationship. I do, however, believe we need to try everything to fix it before leaving, especially if there are children involved. Sadly, there are many relationships that could have been saved if partners knew how to get the right help.</p>		\n			<h2>New Year\'s Resolution</h2>		\n		<p>If you’re going to make any New Year’s resolutions, I believe you would best be served by working on your couple relationship. Unless there is violence or abuse occurring, then it may be worth trying again to resolve issues in your relationship. Just make sure you’ve done everything you can before you open the door to separation.</p><p>Separation processes are nearly always anxiety provoking and exhausting, and typically it takes 2 years to feel yourself again following a separation – and that’s if it’s a friendly enough separation. I have some clients who have to deal with continuously hostile and belligerent exes even years after the actual separation. They are dragged into multiple court processes, racking up massive legal fees, leaving them unable to properly get on with their lives.</p><p>Unfortunately, financial stress can lead many couples to separate, however this doesn’t solve the financial problem as separation leaves everyone worse off. On top of this, many couples have already been financially hammered by the pandemic. Separation brings the standard of living down a notch or more for everyone. See if there are other ways to solve your financial stress, even if it’s a long-term plan such as studying part time or skills development. </p><p>If you are a couple with regular cycles of conflict, then you can work through the conflict to make sense of it and understand where it really comes from. You can learn why you are triggered by your partner. You can also learn strategies to calm yourself down once you have been triggered.</p><p>If you are a couple with communication difficulties, then you can work to overcome the differences between you. Communication is tricky and we can easily take our partner’s communication style personally. As a therapist, I can tell you that our partner’s communication style is all about them, it’s hardly ever personal, even though it can feel very personal indeed.</p><p>If you are a couple struggling with decreased intimacy and connection, then you can improve this too.</p><p>Therapy is a helpful avenue for many couples to go down. Learning about each other in couples therapy is an intimate experience and leads to greater joy and connection between partners. Take the time to get to know each other and why you react to each other the way you do.</p><p>There are also online courses and even podcasts that can decrease your conflict, improve the way you both communicate and increase intimacy and joy. If money is tight, these are cheaper options than ongoing therapy and can provide you a wealth of information. They really can set you on a better path in yourself and your relationship.</p><p>Make it a priority to resolve your relationship difficulties in 2023.</p>','New Year\'s Separation or New Year\'s Resolutions','','inherit','closed','closed','','5652-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 19:59:44','2022-12-28 19:59:44','',5652,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5659',0,'revision','',0),(5660,3,'2022-12-28 19:59:45','2022-12-28 19:59:45','<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h2>New Year\'s Separation</h2>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n		<p>Whilst many of us welcomed 2023 with excitement and thoughts of New Year’s resolutions or goals we wish to achieve, there are also many of us struggling with the state of our couple relationship and close to ending it.</p><p>This is no surprise for family lawyers who traditionally see an increase in client numbers in January with high numbers of partners seeking legal advice for how to separate. Some lawyers see an increase of 30%. For family lawyers January is traditionally known as Divorce Month, and this usually begins in the second week of January when many of us head back to work after the Christmas break.</p><p>Therapists are also typically inundated at this time too. I know in my clinic we always experience a huge spike in clients contacts, and many of these are related to partners having increased depression, anxiety, or loneliness relating to issues in their couple relationship.</p><p>What we don’t know is whether this New Year will be any different. Many lawyers have already experienced these spikes following the lifting of Covid restrictions and lockdowns. Therapists similarly saw major spikes last year, as Covid related anxiety, depression, and stressors pushed many more people to seek help. I hope this January is different, as relationships have already been heavily tested during the pandemic.</p><p>I’m not against couples separating. No-one walks in anyone else’s shoes and can determine just how unhappy they are in their relationship. I do, however, believe we need to try everything to fix it before leaving, especially if there are children involved. Sadly, there are many relationships that could have been saved if partners knew how to get the right help.</p>		\n			<h2>New Year\'s Resolution</h2>		\n		<p>If you’re going to make any New Year’s resolutions, I believe you would best be served by working on your couple relationship. Unless there is violence or abuse occurring, then it may be worth trying again to resolve issues in your relationship. Just make sure you’ve done everything you can before you open the door to separation.</p><p>Separation processes are nearly always anxiety provoking and exhausting, and typically it takes 2 years to feel yourself again following a separation – and that’s if it’s a friendly enough separation. I have some clients who have to deal with continuously hostile and belligerent exes even years after the actual separation. They are dragged into multiple court processes, racking up massive legal fees, leaving them unable to properly get on with their lives.</p><p>Unfortunately, financial stress can lead many couples to separate, however this doesn’t solve the financial problem as separation leaves everyone worse off. On top of this, many couples have already been financially hammered by the pandemic. Separation brings the standard of living down a notch or more for everyone. See if there are other ways to solve your financial stress, even if it’s a long-term plan such as studying part time or skills development. </p><p>If you are a couple with regular cycles of conflict, then you can work through the conflict to make sense of it and understand where it really comes from. You can learn why you are triggered by your partner. You can also learn strategies to calm yourself down once you have been triggered.</p><p>If you are a couple with communication difficulties, then you can work to overcome the differences between you. Communication is tricky and we can easily take our partner’s communication style personally. As a therapist, I can tell you that our partner’s communication style is all about them, it’s hardly ever personal, even though it can feel very personal indeed.</p><p>If you are a couple struggling with decreased intimacy and connection, then you can improve this too.</p><p>Therapy is a helpful avenue for many couples to go down. Learning about each other in couples therapy is an intimate experience and leads to greater joy and connection between partners. Take the time to get to know each other and why you react to each other the way you do.</p><p>There are also online courses and even podcasts that can decrease your conflict, improve the way you both communicate and increase intimacy and joy. If money is tight, these are cheaper options than ongoing therapy and can provide you a wealth of information. They really can set you on a better path in yourself and your relationship.</p><p>Make it a priority to resolve your relationship difficulties in 2023.</p>','New Year\'s Separation or New Year\'s Resolutions','','inherit','closed','closed','','5652-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 19:59:45','2022-12-28 19:59:45','',5652,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5660',0,'revision','',0),(5662,3,'2023-01-27 10:00:23','2023-01-27 10:00:23','One of the greatest fears expressed by most separating parents, is whether their children will be damaged by the process. Typically, separation is a disorientating experience for all the members of the family. There are literally hundreds of practical and emotional decisions that need to be made, as well as implementing many adjustments to living arrangements.\r\n\r\nA co-parenting relationship is one where parents think together about the child’s wellbeing and make joint decisions that support the child’s emotional, physical, and practical needs. A co-parenting relationship is not about your ex-partner – it’s about putting your child’s best interests first and loving them above your own hurt, sadness or resentment. A co-parenting relationship is one of the most important ingredients for children to flourish and develop well post separation.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style> <style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h2>The greatest gift for your child</h2>\r\nForming an effective co-parenting relationship is the greatest gift you could ever give your child. It says, “We are still your parents. We look after you. You are still our priority. You are still a child who should just be focusing on your schoolwork, sports, friendships, having fun and learning.” The gift here is freedom, the freedom to continue to be a child following a separation.\r\n<h2>Good mental health</h2>\r\nTypically, children of parents with good co-parenting relationships remain emotionally well, are able to settle into their new family units and thrive. Sadly, children do not fare as well when their parents are in continuous conflict. They are more likely to struggle with mental health issues (particularly anxiety and depression), behavioural outbursts and substance abuse.\r\n<h2>Allow your child to dream about the future… in the present</h2>\r\nWhen parents create a respectful and thoughtful co-parenting relationship, a child has the freedom to imagine a future where both parents can be in a room together celebrating life with them. This could be future birthdays, graduations, getting married or having children. When parents remain entwined in perpetual verbal conflict or a cold war, a child cannot even fantasise about any of these celebratory life events without their parents’ conflict destroying the fantasy. This breeds enormous anxiety for children in the present.\r\n<h2>Be the parent you would want to have</h2>\r\nStand in your child’s shoes for a moment. Your family unit is disintegrating. Your future is uncertain. You do not control the separation process. If you were your child, how would you like your parents to behave at this time? You would absolutely want a co-parenting relationship to be created. You would want the right to love both parents without spite and belittling of the other parent. You would want to have them to model respectful communication and demonstrate good decision making on your behalf. Be the best parent and co-parent for your child that you would want for yourself if you were in their shoes.\r\n<h2>Conflict takes up so much energy</h2>\r\nEven one round of conflict with one’s ex is physically and emotionally exhausting. Typically fights leave partners and children feeling depleted, unhappy, and then require a dispiriting period of recovery. As much as you feel entitled to be upset or frustrated with your ex, conflict serves no useful purpose and will only keep your nervous system jangled and your life filled with unhealthy drama.\r\n\r\nWorking through a separation is a jarring and difficult experience for everyone involved. A separation is a massive emotional and practical undertaking, and it is understandable that parents become preoccupied with having so much to navigate. However, it is essential that parents create a good co-parenting relationship so that their children can thrive now and into the future.','Co-parenting successfully following a separation','','publish','open','open','','co-parenting-successfully-following-a-separation','','','2023-01-28 08:34:04','2023-01-28 08:34:04','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5662',0,'post','',0),(5663,3,'2022-12-28 20:03:17','2022-12-28 20:03:17','','White Caucasian Fathers with their Children','','inherit','open','closed','','white-caucasian-fathers-with-their-children','','','2022-12-28 20:03:17','2022-12-28 20:03:17','',5662,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/AdobeStock_297133366.jpeg',0,'attachment','image/jpeg',0),(5664,3,'2022-12-28 20:03:30','2022-12-28 20:03:30','<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h2>New Year\'s Separation</h2>\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n\r\nWhilst many of us welcomed 2023 with excitement and thoughts of New Year’s resolutions or goals we wish to achieve, there are also many of us struggling with the state of our couple relationship and close to ending it.\r\n\r\nThis is no surprise for family lawyers who traditionally see an increase in client numbers in January with high numbers of partners seeking legal advice for how to separate. Some lawyers see an increase of 30%. For family lawyers January is traditionally known as Divorce Month, and this usually begins in the second week of January when many of us head back to work after the Christmas break.\r\n\r\nTherapists are also typically inundated at this time too. I know in my clinic we always experience a huge spike in clients contacts, and many of these are related to partners having increased depression, anxiety, or loneliness relating to issues in their couple relationship.\r\n\r\nWhat we don’t know is whether this New Year will be any different. Many lawyers have already experienced these spikes following the lifting of Covid restrictions and lockdowns. Therapists similarly saw major spikes last year, as Covid related anxiety, depression, and stressors pushed many more people to seek help. I hope this January is different, as relationships have already been heavily tested during the pandemic.\r\n\r\nI’m not against couples separating. No-one walks in anyone else’s shoes and can determine just how unhappy they are in their relationship. I do, however, believe we need to try everything to fix it before leaving, especially if there are children involved. Sadly, there are many relationships that could have been saved if partners knew how to get the right help.\r\n<h2>New Year\'s Resolution</h2>\r\nIf you’re going to make any New Year’s resolutions, I believe you would best be served by working on your couple relationship. Unless there is violence or abuse occurring, then it may be worth trying again to resolve issues in your relationship. Just make sure you’ve done everything you can before you open the door to separation.\r\n\r\nSeparation processes are nearly always anxiety provoking and exhausting, and typically it takes 2 years to feel yourself again following a separation – and that’s if it’s a friendly enough separation. I have some clients who have to deal with continuously hostile and belligerent exes even years after the actual separation. They are dragged into multiple court processes, racking up massive legal fees, leaving them unable to properly get on with their lives.\r\n\r\nUnfortunately, financial stress can lead many couples to separate, however this doesn’t solve the financial problem as separation leaves everyone worse off. On top of this, many couples have already been financially hammered by the pandemic. Separation brings the standard of living down a notch or more for everyone. See if there are other ways to solve your financial stress, even if it’s a long-term plan such as studying part time or skills development.\r\n\r\nIf you are a couple with regular cycles of conflict, then you can work through the conflict to make sense of it and understand where it really comes from. You can learn why you are triggered by your partner. You can also learn strategies to calm yourself down once you have been triggered.\r\n\r\nIf you are a couple with communication difficulties, then you can work to overcome the differences between you. Communication is tricky and we can easily take our partner’s communication style personally. As a therapist, I can tell you that our partner’s communication style is all about them, it’s hardly ever personal, even though it can feel very personal indeed.\r\n\r\nIf you are a couple struggling with decreased intimacy and connection, then you can improve this too.\r\n\r\nTherapy is a helpful avenue for many couples to go down. Learning about each other in couples therapy is an intimate experience and leads to greater joy and connection between partners. Take the time to get to know each other and why you react to each other the way you do.\r\n\r\nThere are also online courses and even podcasts that can decrease your conflict, improve the way you both communicate and increase intimacy and joy. If money is tight, these are cheaper options than ongoing therapy and can provide you a wealth of information. They really can set you on a better path in yourself and your relationship.\r\n\r\nMake it a priority to resolve your relationship difficulties in 2023.','Co-parenting successfully following a separation','','inherit','closed','closed','','5662-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 20:03:30','2022-12-28 20:03:30','',5662,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5664',0,'revision','',0),(5665,3,'2022-12-28 20:09:22','2022-12-28 20:09:22','<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h2>New Year\'s Separation</h2>\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n\r\nWhilst many of us welcomed 2023 with excitement and thoughts of New Year’s resolutions or goals we wish to achieve, there are also many of us struggling with the state of our couple relationship and close to ending it.\r\n\r\nThis is no surprise for family lawyers who traditionally see an increase in client numbers in January with high numbers of partners seeking legal advice for how to separate. Some lawyers see an increase of 30%. For family lawyers January is traditionally known as Divorce Month, and this usually begins in the second week of January when many of us head back to work after the Christmas break.\r\n\r\nTherapists are also typically inundated at this time too. I know in my clinic we always experience a huge spike in clients contacts, and many of these are related to partners having increased depression, anxiety, or loneliness relating to issues in their couple relationship.\r\n\r\nWhat we don’t know is whether this New Year will be any different. Many lawyers have already experienced these spikes following the lifting of Covid restrictions and lockdowns. Therapists similarly saw major spikes last year, as Covid related anxiety, depression, and stressors pushed many more people to seek help. I hope this January is different, as relationships have already been heavily tested during the pandemic.\r\n\r\nI’m not against couples separating. No-one walks in anyone else’s shoes and can determine just how unhappy they are in their relationship. I do, however, believe we need to try everything to fix it before leaving, especially if there are children involved. Sadly, there are many relationships that could have been saved if partners knew how to get the right help.\r\n<h2>New Year\'s Resolution</h2>\r\nIf you’re going to make any New Year’s resolutions, I believe you would best be served by working on your couple relationship. Unless there is violence or abuse occurring, then it may be worth trying again to resolve issues in your relationship. Just make sure you’ve done everything you can before you open the door to separation.\r\n\r\nSeparation processes are nearly always anxiety provoking and exhausting, and typically it takes 2 years to feel yourself again following a separation – and that’s if it’s a friendly enough separation. I have some clients who have to deal with continuously hostile and belligerent exes even years after the actual separation. They are dragged into multiple court processes, racking up massive legal fees, leaving them unable to properly get on with their lives.\r\n\r\nUnfortunately, financial stress can lead many couples to separate, however this doesn’t solve the financial problem as separation leaves everyone worse off. On top of this, many couples have already been financially hammered by the pandemic. Separation brings the standard of living down a notch or more for everyone. See if there are other ways to solve your financial stress, even if it’s a long-term plan such as studying part time or skills development.\r\n\r\nIf you are a couple with regular cycles of conflict, then you can work through the conflict to make sense of it and understand where it really comes from. You can learn why you are triggered by your partner. You can also learn strategies to calm yourself down once you have been triggered.\r\n\r\nIf you are a couple with communication difficulties, then you can work to overcome the differences between you. Communication is tricky and we can easily take our partner’s communication style personally. As a therapist, I can tell you that our partner’s communication style is all about them, it’s hardly ever personal, even though it can feel very personal indeed.\r\n\r\nIf you are a couple struggling with decreased intimacy and connection, then you can improve this too.\r\n\r\nTherapy is a helpful avenue for many couples to go down. Learning about each other in couples therapy is an intimate experience and leads to greater joy and connection between partners. Take the time to get to know each other and why you react to each other the way you do.\r\n\r\nThere are also online courses and even podcasts that can decrease your conflict, improve the way you both communicate and increase intimacy and joy. If money is tight, these are cheaper options than ongoing therapy and can provide you a wealth of information. They really can set you on a better path in yourself and your relationship.\r\n\r\nMake it a priority to resolve your relationship difficulties in 2023.','Co-parenting successfully following a separation','','inherit','closed','closed','','5662-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 20:09:22','2022-12-28 20:09:22','',5662,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5665',0,'revision','',0),(5666,3,'2022-12-28 20:09:22','2022-12-28 20:09:22','<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h2>New Year\'s Separation</h2>\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n\r\nWhilst many of us welcomed 2023 with excitement and thoughts of New Year’s resolutions or goals we wish to achieve, there are also many of us struggling with the state of our couple relationship and close to ending it.\r\n\r\nThis is no surprise for family lawyers who traditionally see an increase in client numbers in January with high numbers of partners seeking legal advice for how to separate. Some lawyers see an increase of 30%. For family lawyers January is traditionally known as Divorce Month, and this usually begins in the second week of January when many of us head back to work after the Christmas break.\r\n\r\nTherapists are also typically inundated at this time too. I know in my clinic we always experience a huge spike in clients contacts, and many of these are related to partners having increased depression, anxiety, or loneliness relating to issues in their couple relationship.\r\n\r\nWhat we don’t know is whether this New Year will be any different. Many lawyers have already experienced these spikes following the lifting of Covid restrictions and lockdowns. Therapists similarly saw major spikes last year, as Covid related anxiety, depression, and stressors pushed many more people to seek help. I hope this January is different, as relationships have already been heavily tested during the pandemic.\r\n\r\nI’m not against couples separating. No-one walks in anyone else’s shoes and can determine just how unhappy they are in their relationship. I do, however, believe we need to try everything to fix it before leaving, especially if there are children involved. Sadly, there are many relationships that could have been saved if partners knew how to get the right help.\r\n<h2>New Year\'s Resolution</h2>\r\nIf you’re going to make any New Year’s resolutions, I believe you would best be served by working on your couple relationship. Unless there is violence or abuse occurring, then it may be worth trying again to resolve issues in your relationship. Just make sure you’ve done everything you can before you open the door to separation.\r\n\r\nSeparation processes are nearly always anxiety provoking and exhausting, and typically it takes 2 years to feel yourself again following a separation – and that’s if it’s a friendly enough separation. I have some clients who have to deal with continuously hostile and belligerent exes even years after the actual separation. They are dragged into multiple court processes, racking up massive legal fees, leaving them unable to properly get on with their lives.\r\n\r\nUnfortunately, financial stress can lead many couples to separate, however this doesn’t solve the financial problem as separation leaves everyone worse off. On top of this, many couples have already been financially hammered by the pandemic. Separation brings the standard of living down a notch or more for everyone. See if there are other ways to solve your financial stress, even if it’s a long-term plan such as studying part time or skills development.\r\n\r\nIf you are a couple with regular cycles of conflict, then you can work through the conflict to make sense of it and understand where it really comes from. You can learn why you are triggered by your partner. You can also learn strategies to calm yourself down once you have been triggered.\r\n\r\nIf you are a couple with communication difficulties, then you can work to overcome the differences between you. Communication is tricky and we can easily take our partner’s communication style personally. As a therapist, I can tell you that our partner’s communication style is all about them, it’s hardly ever personal, even though it can feel very personal indeed.\r\n\r\nIf you are a couple struggling with decreased intimacy and connection, then you can improve this too.\r\n\r\nTherapy is a helpful avenue for many couples to go down. Learning about each other in couples therapy is an intimate experience and leads to greater joy and connection between partners. Take the time to get to know each other and why you react to each other the way you do.\r\n\r\nThere are also online courses and even podcasts that can decrease your conflict, improve the way you both communicate and increase intimacy and joy. If money is tight, these are cheaper options than ongoing therapy and can provide you a wealth of information. They really can set you on a better path in yourself and your relationship.\r\n\r\nMake it a priority to resolve your relationship difficulties in 2023.','Co-parenting successfully following a separation','','inherit','closed','closed','','5662-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 20:09:22','2022-12-28 20:09:22','',5662,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5666',0,'revision','',0),(5667,3,'2022-12-28 20:09:22','2022-12-28 20:09:22','<p>One of the greatest fears expressed by most separating parents, is whether their children will be damaged by the process. Typically, separation is a disorientating experience for all the members of the family. There are literally hundreds of practical and emotional decisions that need to be made, as well as implementing many adjustments to living arrangements.</p><p>A co-parenting relationship is one where parents think together about the child’s wellbeing and make joint decisions that support the child’s emotional, physical, and practical needs. A co-parenting relationship is not about your ex-partner – it’s about putting your child’s best interests first and loving them above your own hurt, sadness or resentment. A co-parenting relationship is one of the most important ingredients for children to flourish and develop well post separation.  </p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h2>The greatest gift for your child</h2>		\n		<p>Forming an effective co-parenting relationship is the greatest gift you could ever give your child. It says, “We are still your parents. We look after you. You are still our priority. You are still a child who should just be focusing on your schoolwork, sports, friendships, having fun and learning.” The gift here is freedom, the freedom to continue to be a child following a separation.</p>		\n			<h2>Good mental health</h2>		\n		<p>Typically, children of parents with good co-parenting relationships remain emotionally well, are able to settle into their new family units and thrive. Sadly, children do not fare as well when their parents are in continuous conflict. They are more likely to struggle with mental health issues (particularly anxiety and depression), behavioural outbursts and substance abuse.</p>		\n			<h2>Allow your child to dream about the future… in the present</h2>		\n		<p>When parents create a respectful and thoughtful co-parenting relationship, a child has the freedom to imagine a future where both parents can be in a room together celebrating life with them. This could be future birthdays, graduations, getting married or having children. When parents remain entwined in perpetual verbal conflict or a cold war, a child cannot even fantasise about any of these celebratory life events without their parents’ conflict destroying the fantasy. This breeds enormous anxiety for children in the present.</p>		\n			<h2>Be the parent you would want to have</h2>		\n		<p>Stand in your child’s shoes for a moment. Your family unit is disintegrating. Your future is uncertain. You do not control the separation process. If you were your child, how would you like your parents to behave at this time? You would absolutely want a co-parenting relationship to be created. You would want the right to love both parents without spite and belittling of the other parent. You would want to have them to model respectful communication and demonstrate good decision making on your behalf. Be the best parent and co-parent for your child that you would want for yourself if you were in their shoes.</p>		\n			<h2>Conflict takes up so much energy</h2>		\n		<p>Even one round of conflict with one’s ex is physically and emotionally exhausting. Typically fights leave partners and children feeling depleted, unhappy, and then require a dispiriting period of recovery. As much as you feel entitled to be upset or frustrated with your ex, conflict serves no useful purpose and will only keep your nervous system jangled and your life filled with unhealthy drama.</p><p>Working through a separation is a jarring and difficult experience for everyone involved. A separation is a massive emotional and practical undertaking, and it is understandable that parents become preoccupied with having so much to navigate. However, it is essential that parents create a good co-parenting relationship so that their children can thrive now and into the future.</p>','Co-parenting successfully following a separation','','inherit','closed','closed','','5662-revision-v1','','','2022-12-28 20:09:22','2022-12-28 20:09:22','',5662,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5667',0,'revision','',0),(5668,3,'2022-12-30 03:40:13','2022-12-30 03:40:13','We all know that New Year’s resolutions come and go as if they were written in the wind. It’s not that we don’t take them seriously when we create them. It’s just that changing our habits can be hard, despite our best intentions to follow through.\r\n\r\nFor the last few years, I haven’t made New Year’s resolutions. Historically I’ve found them really hard. They never stuck for very long – a few weeks at best - and I would end up feeling as if I’d failed. For me, setting resolutions on 1st January felt tokenistic. I now know that I hadn’t worked out a solid why for the resolutions, nor planned how I would achieve my goals.\r\n\r\nThese days I like to incorporate any changes that I want into my life as I need to or want to – irrespective of the month of the year. For example, in mid-April last year my older daughter convinced me to go to the gym and do weight training with her. She’d been super disciplined for over a year, transforming her little frame into a stronger and more Amazonian one. I admired her discipline and focus. At that time we were on holidays together, and I was fully aware she’d been seducing my ego with comments like “you’re strong mumma” or “you’ll take to it really well as you already train”.\r\n\r\nI felt flattered despite both of us knowing how manipulative she was being. She kept dropping little hints about me getting a trainer and us weight training together on our return. She fed my ego spectacularly. I tentatively agreed to sign up to a gym. It took a little while to translate as another part of my ego – the sabotaging part - kicked in to prevent me going. My ego created stories of how busy I was, how I don’t like gyms, how I do enough already, how it’s expensive, and the best story of all was that I should start in 8 months’ time in the Christmas break.\r\n\r\nAs a species we don’t like pain and certainly struggle with self-induced pain, which going to the gym to do strength training is. My ego knew that a commitment like that would require my mind to be strong enough to stay the distance, that time would need to be set aside, as would some finances. My sabotaging ego was busy creating stories to keep me out of the gym.\r\n\r\nIt took me until the end of May to firm up my why. Quite simply, my why was that I wanted to become stronger, and sitting around making up more ego-based sabotaging stories was not going to help me achieve my goal. I set up the sessions and off I went. After 3 weeks I felt things were going really well. I felt pleased with myself honouring my commitment, feeling a little stronger already, and developing a rhythm in the training.\r\n\r\nThen the Delta variant showed up in my local council. I was in Queensland and needed to make a late night, last-minute dash back over the NSW border, so I wasn’t forced into a 14-day quarantine with Annastacia. We were the first council declared a hotspot and a week later were in lockdown.\r\n\r\nWhat surprised me was how relieved I was to stop my gym training. Wow that was quick! Wasn’t I proud of myself showing up for three weeks? How quickly that evaporated as I shot off a text to my trainer telling him that we would need to reconvene down the track. Phew!!! It was just wonderful to have such a legitimate excuse to not go. It wasn’t me bailing, or even worse, failing. It was the pandemic’s fault.\r\n\r\nWithin a few days though I felt the pull of my original why. I’d lose my gains that I’d started to make and would need to start all over again in the months ahead. How would I become strong mumma without the sessions? I knew I would never do it by myself. I contacted my trainer and we set up in the park near my home. We’ve been doing this ever since.\r\n\r\nDoes it get easier to go to my sessions? Not for me. My ego makes excuses nearly every session. It wants to sabotage me because it would rather do anything else than weight training. But I don’t let it. I show up because my why won’t be answered unless I go. What helps me turn up is by asking myself one question: What would my best self do? My resolve no longer blows away in the wind, as I hear myself say “It’s time to get ready now”.\r\n\r\nWhen you’re faced with your sabotaging ego, just ask yourself:\r\n\r\nWhat would my best self do?\r\n\r\nHow would my best self respond?\r\n\r\nWhat action would my best self take?\r\n\r\nThis will make it very clear that the sabotaging ego isn’t working in the interests of your best self, but more like the Wizard of Oz creating drama and stories to hide behind because he doesn’t want to face his emotional pain.\r\n\r\nThis can be a tiring position for them as they voice their concerns. Sometimes they may be taken seriously, and changes happen. But for many they are not taken seriously, and their partner may complain or blame them for the problems, or the couple may end up in conflict.\r\n\r\nOver time either partner may move to the position of quiet quitting. One partner may reach their limit in constantly trying to improve the relationship, as they wanted the relationship to help them feel safe or more secure. The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.\r\n\r\nQuiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship’s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.\r\n\r\nDespite giving up, they’re not ready to hand over the keys.\r\n\r\nIt’s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. These may include fear of losing extended family connections, social groups, the neighbourhood, community, financial security, companionship, the family cook, a Netflix buddy, or the dog walker.','What would my best self do?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5646-revision-v1','','','2022-12-30 03:40:13','2022-12-30 03:40:13','',5646,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5668',0,'revision','',0),(5669,1,'2023-01-06 00:59:56','2023-01-06 00:59:56','','Order &ndash; January 6, 2023 @ 12:59 AM','','wc-completed','open','closed','wc_order_aL4RIAuUWDmyl','order-jan-06-2023-1259-am','','','2023-01-26 22:04:10','2023-01-26 22:04:10','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?post_type=shop_order&#038;p=5669',0,'shop_order','',7),(5671,3,'2023-01-06 23:25:04','2023-01-06 23:25:04','<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Join Our Newsletter            \n        </h1>\n            <h2>\n                Sign up now! 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           \n        </h2>\n			<iframe src=\"https://link.mapwarriors.io/widget/form/TCEkbuyZ0EnXmtX0SRGO\" style=\"border:none;width:100%;\" scrolling=\"no\" id=\"TCEkbuyZ0EnXmtX0SRGO\"></iframe>','Newsletter Sign Up','','inherit','closed','closed','','5671-revision-v1','','','2023-01-06 23:26:48','2023-01-06 23:26:48','',5671,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5675',0,'revision','',0),(5676,1,'2023-01-18 20:37:40','2023-01-18 20:37:40','','Order &ndash; January 18, 2023 @ 08:37 PM','','wc-completed','open','closed','wc_order_iM6HuBMdGmB5C','order-jan-18-2023-0837-pm','','','2023-01-26 22:04:11','2023-01-26 22:04:11','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?post_type=shop_order&#038;p=5676',0,'shop_order','',5),(5678,1,'2023-01-28 08:33:23','2023-01-28 08:33:23','One of the greatest fears expressed by most separating parents, is whether their children will be damaged by the process. Typically, separation is a disorientating experience for all the members of the family. There are literally hundreds of practical and emotional decisions that need to be made, as well as implementing many adjustments to living arrangements.\r\n\r\nA co-parenting relationship is one where parents think together about the child’s wellbeing and make joint decisions that support the child’s emotional, physical, and practical needs. A co-parenting relationship is not about your ex-partner – it’s about putting your child’s best interests first and loving them above your own hurt, sadness or resentment. A co-parenting relationship is one of the most important ingredients for children to flourish and develop well post separation.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style> <style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h2>The greatest gift for your child</h2>\r\nForming an effective co-parenting relationship is the greatest gift you could ever give your child. It says, “We are still your parents. We look after you. You are still our priority. You are still a child who should just be focusing on your schoolwork, sports, friendships, having fun and learning.” The gift here is freedom, the freedom to continue to be a child following a separation.\r\n<h2>Good mental health</h2>\r\nTypically, children of parents with good co-parenting relationships remain emotionally well, are able to settle into their new family units and thrive. Sadly, children do not fare as well when their parents are in continuous conflict. They are more likely to struggle with mental health issues (particularly anxiety and depression), behavioural outbursts and substance abuse.\r\n<h2>Allow your child to dream about the future… in the present</h2>\r\nWhen parents create a respectful and thoughtful co-parenting relationship, a child has the freedom to imagine a future where both parents can be in a room together celebrating life with them. This could be future birthdays, graduations, getting married or having children. When parents remain entwined in perpetual verbal conflict or a cold war, a child cannot even fantasise about any of these celebratory life events without their parents’ conflict destroying the fantasy. This breeds enormous anxiety for children in the present.\r\n<h2>Be the parent you would want to have</h2>\r\nStand in your child’s shoes for a moment. Your family unit is disintegrating. Your future is uncertain. You do not control the separation process. If you were your child, how would you like your parents to behave at this time? You would absolutely want a co-parenting relationship to be created. You would want the right to love both parents without spite and belittling of the other parent. You would want to have them to model respectful communication and demonstrate good decision making on your behalf. Be the best parent and co-parent for your child that you would want for yourself if you were in their shoes.\r\n<h2>Conflict takes up so much energy</h2>\r\nEven one round of conflict with one’s ex is physically and emotionally exhausting. Typically fights leave partners and children feeling depleted, unhappy, and then require a dispiriting period of recovery. As much as you feel entitled to be upset or frustrated with your ex, conflict serves no useful purpose and will only keep your nervous system jangled and your life filled with unhealthy drama.\r\n\r\nWorking through a separation is a jarring and difficult experience for everyone involved. A separation is a massive emotional and practical undertaking, and it is understandable that parents become preoccupied with having so much to navigate. However, it is essential that parents create a good co-parenting relationship so that their children can thrive now and into the future.','Co-parenting successfully following a separation','','inherit','closed','closed','','5662-revision-v1','','','2023-01-28 08:33:23','2023-01-28 08:33:23','',5662,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5678',0,'revision','',0),(5679,1,'2023-01-28 08:33:30','2023-01-28 08:33:30','One of the greatest fears expressed by most separating parents, is whether their children will be damaged by the process. Typically, separation is a disorientating experience for all the members of the family. There are literally hundreds of practical and emotional decisions that need to be made, as well as implementing many adjustments to living arrangements.\r\n\r\nA co-parenting relationship is one where parents think together about the child’s wellbeing and make joint decisions that support the child’s emotional, physical, and practical needs. A co-parenting relationship is not about your ex-partner – it’s about putting your child’s best interests first and loving them above your own hurt, sadness or resentment. A co-parenting relationship is one of the most important ingredients for children to flourish and develop well post separation.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style> <style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h2>The greatest gift for your child</h2>\r\nForming an effective co-parenting relationship is the greatest gift you could ever give your child. It says, “We are still your parents. We look after you. You are still our priority. You are still a child who should just be focusing on your schoolwork, sports, friendships, having fun and learning.” The gift here is freedom, the freedom to continue to be a child following a separation.\r\n<h2>Good mental health</h2>\r\nTypically, children of parents with good co-parenting relationships remain emotionally well, are able to settle into their new family units and thrive. Sadly, children do not fare as well when their parents are in continuous conflict. They are more likely to struggle with mental health issues (particularly anxiety and depression), behavioural outbursts and substance abuse.\r\n<h2>Allow your child to dream about the future… in the present</h2>\r\nWhen parents create a respectful and thoughtful co-parenting relationship, a child has the freedom to imagine a future where both parents can be in a room together celebrating life with them. This could be future birthdays, graduations, getting married or having children. When parents remain entwined in perpetual verbal conflict or a cold war, a child cannot even fantasise about any of these celebratory life events without their parents’ conflict destroying the fantasy. This breeds enormous anxiety for children in the present.\r\n<h2>Be the parent you would want to have</h2>\r\nStand in your child’s shoes for a moment. Your family unit is disintegrating. Your future is uncertain. You do not control the separation process. If you were your child, how would you like your parents to behave at this time? You would absolutely want a co-parenting relationship to be created. You would want the right to love both parents without spite and belittling of the other parent. You would want to have them to model respectful communication and demonstrate good decision making on your behalf. Be the best parent and co-parent for your child that you would want for yourself if you were in their shoes.\r\n<h2>Conflict takes up so much energy</h2>\r\nEven one round of conflict with one’s ex is physically and emotionally exhausting. Typically fights leave partners and children feeling depleted, unhappy, and then require a dispiriting period of recovery. As much as you feel entitled to be upset or frustrated with your ex, conflict serves no useful purpose and will only keep your nervous system jangled and your life filled with unhealthy drama.\r\n\r\nWorking through a separation is a jarring and difficult experience for everyone involved. A separation is a massive emotional and practical undertaking, and it is understandable that parents become preoccupied with having so much to navigate. However, it is essential that parents create a good co-parenting relationship so that their children can thrive now and into the future.','Co-parenting successfully following a separation','','inherit','closed','closed','','5662-revision-v1','','','2023-01-28 08:33:30','2023-01-28 08:33:30','',5662,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5679',0,'revision','',0),(5680,1,'2023-02-05 09:03:47','2023-02-05 09:03:47','<p>Jeremy and Min have been together for 7 years and have 2 young children. When he returns home from work, Jeremy always does chores for 2 or 3 hours. He feels that Min doesn’t see the vast array of tasks that they need to do to keep the household running smoothly.</p><p>He feels overwhelmed and can’t understand why Min never seems bothered by this. He can’t believe she can live with so much mess and chaos. It does his head in, and he becomes most critical when Min sits on the sofa flicking through her phone when the kids are in bed.</p><p>He tells himself that it’s like having a third child. Sometimes he’s surprised by his anger, and he’s concerned how much it is seeping into other areas of their relationship.</p><p>I’ve seen a gazillion couples where a partner complains, comments, and often becomes critical when their partner doesn’t live up to their expectations. They’re often shocked by their partner’s inability to tidy, clean, or parent in a way that seems ‘obvious’ to them. They end up exasperated and frustrated with them.</p><p>The problem is that it doesn’t stop with exasperation and frustration. Overtime, they start to see their partner as a child who can’t operate properly in the adult world. When partners view their partner this way, they often start to treat them as a child in other areas, not trusting their adult capacities.</p><p>This is extremely unattractive and unpleasant for both partners. These relationships typically become highly conflictual as no partner wants to continuously be sent to the doghouse. They’ll often ark up when criticised or corrected or experience their partner’s attempts to control them. This may take the form of becoming verbally defensive, justifying behaviours, being secretive, or retreating into a world of their own where their partner can’t reach them – into themselves.</p><p>We all experience the world differently as we have different minds, and this plays out in our day to day lives at home within our relationships. Couples with parent-child dynamics, like Jeremy and Min, have difficulty navigating the massive gap between their expectations and priorities.  </p><p>For example, Min has spent all day attending to the needs of the kids. She’s fed them in a timely manner, attended to their nappies and scrapes, she’s played music and dress ups. She’s read them books and attended to their tears. She understands Jeremy wants a more organised home, but her priority is to have healthy happy children.</p><p>Min focuses on them solely until they go to bed, by which time she is completely spent and needs some downtime to just be quiet and in her own mind. She knows she’s doing a pretty good job. She feels she’s earned some time to put her feet up and have some time to herself.</p><p>As you can see, from their own perspectives, they’re both right. The house needs more attention and Min deserves to put her feet up. But Min and Jeremy need to be careful, because remaining in self-righteous positions whilst not finding a solution will only entrench negative mindsets about each other.</p><p>Jeremy will repeatedly try to push Min into the doghouse telling himself, and her, that she is self-centred and only cares about the kids. She will entrench her version elaborating how controlling, aggressive, and horrible Jeremy is. Where their narratives go, the behaviour will follow.</p><p>What they need is a way of moving this situation from either/or - Jeremy’s way or Min’s way – They need to find a new position where both positions are kept in mind. This is an ‘and position’ so they don’t cancel each other out.</p><p>They may decide to get some outside assistance with the household or with the children. Jeremy may come home earlier from work one day a week to relieve Min so she can organise things with more energy.</p><p>Couples need to keep an ‘and position’ and keep binary positions (like either/or) at bay.</p><p>A co-parenting relationship is one where parents think together about the child’s wellbeing and make joint decisions that support the child’s emotional, physical, and practical needs. A co-parenting relationship is not about your ex-partner – it’s about putting your child’s best interests first and loving them above your own hurt, sadness or resentment. A co-parenting relationship is one of the most important ingredients for children to flourish and develop well post separation.  </p>','Parent-child dynamics in couple relationships – who’s in the doghouse?','','publish','open','open','','whos-in-the-doghouse','','','2023-01-30 09:14:48','2023-01-30 09:14:48','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5680',0,'post','',0),(5681,1,'2023-01-30 09:09:58','2023-01-30 09:09:58','','Husband or boyfriend man sleeping in the doghouse because of dom','Husband or boyfriend man sleeping in the doghouse because of domestic problems with his wife or girlfriend like fighting, cheating infidelity, too much partying with the boys, won’t help with chores.','inherit','open','closed','','husband-or-boyfriend-man-sleeping-in-the-doghouse-because-of-dom','','','2023-01-30 09:09:58','2023-01-30 09:09:58','',5680,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/Doghouse.jpeg',0,'attachment','image/jpeg',0),(5682,1,'2023-01-30 09:10:55','2023-01-30 09:10:55','One of the greatest fears expressed by most separating parents, is whether their children will be damaged by the process. Typically, separation is a disorientating experience for all the members of the family. There are literally hundreds of practical and emotional decisions that need to be made, as well as implementing many adjustments to living arrangements.\r\n\r\nA co-parenting relationship is one where parents think together about the child’s wellbeing and make joint decisions that support the child’s emotional, physical, and practical needs. A co-parenting relationship is not about your ex-partner – it’s about putting your child’s best interests first and loving them above your own hurt, sadness or resentment. A co-parenting relationship is one of the most important ingredients for children to flourish and develop well post separation.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style> <style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h2>The greatest gift for your child</h2>\r\nForming an effective co-parenting relationship is the greatest gift you could ever give your child. It says, “We are still your parents. We look after you. You are still our priority. You are still a child who should just be focusing on your schoolwork, sports, friendships, having fun and learning.” The gift here is freedom, the freedom to continue to be a child following a separation.\r\n<h2>Good mental health</h2>\r\nTypically, children of parents with good co-parenting relationships remain emotionally well, are able to settle into their new family units and thrive. Sadly, children do not fare as well when their parents are in continuous conflict. They are more likely to struggle with mental health issues (particularly anxiety and depression), behavioural outbursts and substance abuse.\r\n<h2>Allow your child to dream about the future… in the present</h2>\r\nWhen parents create a respectful and thoughtful co-parenting relationship, a child has the freedom to imagine a future where both parents can be in a room together celebrating life with them. This could be future birthdays, graduations, getting married or having children. When parents remain entwined in perpetual verbal conflict or a cold war, a child cannot even fantasise about any of these celebratory life events without their parents’ conflict destroying the fantasy. This breeds enormous anxiety for children in the present.\r\n<h2>Be the parent you would want to have</h2>\r\nStand in your child’s shoes for a moment. Your family unit is disintegrating. Your future is uncertain. You do not control the separation process. If you were your child, how would you like your parents to behave at this time? You would absolutely want a co-parenting relationship to be created. You would want the right to love both parents without spite and belittling of the other parent. You would want to have them to model respectful communication and demonstrate good decision making on your behalf. Be the best parent and co-parent for your child that you would want for yourself if you were in their shoes.\r\n<h2>Conflict takes up so much energy</h2>\r\nEven one round of conflict with one’s ex is physically and emotionally exhausting. Typically fights leave partners and children feeling depleted, unhappy, and then require a dispiriting period of recovery. As much as you feel entitled to be upset or frustrated with your ex, conflict serves no useful purpose and will only keep your nervous system jangled and your life filled with unhealthy drama.\r\n\r\nWorking through a separation is a jarring and difficult experience for everyone involved. A separation is a massive emotional and practical undertaking, and it is understandable that parents become preoccupied with having so much to navigate. However, it is essential that parents create a good co-parenting relationship so that their children can thrive now and into the future.','Parent-child dynamics in couple relationships – who’s in the doghouse?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5680-revision-v1','','','2023-01-30 09:10:55','2023-01-30 09:10:55','',5680,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5682',0,'revision','',0),(5683,1,'2023-01-30 09:14:29','2023-01-30 09:14:29','One of the greatest fears expressed by most separating parents, is whether their children will be damaged by the process. Typically, separation is a disorientating experience for all the members of the family. There are literally hundreds of practical and emotional decisions that need to be made, as well as implementing many adjustments to living arrangements.\r\n\r\nA co-parenting relationship is one where parents think together about the child’s wellbeing and make joint decisions that support the child’s emotional, physical, and practical needs. A co-parenting relationship is not about your ex-partner – it’s about putting your child’s best interests first and loving them above your own hurt, sadness or resentment. A co-parenting relationship is one of the most important ingredients for children to flourish and develop well post separation.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style> <style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h2>The greatest gift for your child</h2>\r\nForming an effective co-parenting relationship is the greatest gift you could ever give your child. It says, “We are still your parents. We look after you. You are still our priority. You are still a child who should just be focusing on your schoolwork, sports, friendships, having fun and learning.” The gift here is freedom, the freedom to continue to be a child following a separation.\r\n<h2>Good mental health</h2>\r\nTypically, children of parents with good co-parenting relationships remain emotionally well, are able to settle into their new family units and thrive. Sadly, children do not fare as well when their parents are in continuous conflict. They are more likely to struggle with mental health issues (particularly anxiety and depression), behavioural outbursts and substance abuse.\r\n<h2>Allow your child to dream about the future… in the present</h2>\r\nWhen parents create a respectful and thoughtful co-parenting relationship, a child has the freedom to imagine a future where both parents can be in a room together celebrating life with them. This could be future birthdays, graduations, getting married or having children. When parents remain entwined in perpetual verbal conflict or a cold war, a child cannot even fantasise about any of these celebratory life events without their parents’ conflict destroying the fantasy. This breeds enormous anxiety for children in the present.\r\n<h2>Be the parent you would want to have</h2>\r\nStand in your child’s shoes for a moment. Your family unit is disintegrating. Your future is uncertain. You do not control the separation process. If you were your child, how would you like your parents to behave at this time? You would absolutely want a co-parenting relationship to be created. You would want the right to love both parents without spite and belittling of the other parent. You would want to have them to model respectful communication and demonstrate good decision making on your behalf. Be the best parent and co-parent for your child that you would want for yourself if you were in their shoes.\r\n<h2>Conflict takes up so much energy</h2>\r\nEven one round of conflict with one’s ex is physically and emotionally exhausting. Typically fights leave partners and children feeling depleted, unhappy, and then require a dispiriting period of recovery. As much as you feel entitled to be upset or frustrated with your ex, conflict serves no useful purpose and will only keep your nervous system jangled and your life filled with unhealthy drama.\r\n\r\nWorking through a separation is a jarring and difficult experience for everyone involved. A separation is a massive emotional and practical undertaking, and it is understandable that parents become preoccupied with having so much to navigate. However, it is essential that parents create a good co-parenting relationship so that their children can thrive now and into the future.','Parent-child dynamics in couple relationships – who’s in the doghouse?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5680-revision-v1','','','2023-01-30 09:14:29','2023-01-30 09:14:29','',5680,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5683',0,'revision','',0),(5684,1,'2023-01-30 09:14:29','2023-01-30 09:14:29','One of the greatest fears expressed by most separating parents, is whether their children will be damaged by the process. Typically, separation is a disorientating experience for all the members of the family. There are literally hundreds of practical and emotional decisions that need to be made, as well as implementing many adjustments to living arrangements.\r\n\r\nA co-parenting relationship is one where parents think together about the child’s wellbeing and make joint decisions that support the child’s emotional, physical, and practical needs. A co-parenting relationship is not about your ex-partner – it’s about putting your child’s best interests first and loving them above your own hurt, sadness or resentment. A co-parenting relationship is one of the most important ingredients for children to flourish and develop well post separation.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style> <style>/*! elementor - v3.9.2 - 21-12-2022 */<br />.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h2>The greatest gift for your child</h2>\r\nForming an effective co-parenting relationship is the greatest gift you could ever give your child. It says, “We are still your parents. We look after you. You are still our priority. You are still a child who should just be focusing on your schoolwork, sports, friendships, having fun and learning.” The gift here is freedom, the freedom to continue to be a child following a separation.\r\n<h2>Good mental health</h2>\r\nTypically, children of parents with good co-parenting relationships remain emotionally well, are able to settle into their new family units and thrive. Sadly, children do not fare as well when their parents are in continuous conflict. They are more likely to struggle with mental health issues (particularly anxiety and depression), behavioural outbursts and substance abuse.\r\n<h2>Allow your child to dream about the future… in the present</h2>\r\nWhen parents create a respectful and thoughtful co-parenting relationship, a child has the freedom to imagine a future where both parents can be in a room together celebrating life with them. This could be future birthdays, graduations, getting married or having children. When parents remain entwined in perpetual verbal conflict or a cold war, a child cannot even fantasise about any of these celebratory life events without their parents’ conflict destroying the fantasy. This breeds enormous anxiety for children in the present.\r\n<h2>Be the parent you would want to have</h2>\r\nStand in your child’s shoes for a moment. Your family unit is disintegrating. Your future is uncertain. You do not control the separation process. If you were your child, how would you like your parents to behave at this time? You would absolutely want a co-parenting relationship to be created. You would want the right to love both parents without spite and belittling of the other parent. You would want to have them to model respectful communication and demonstrate good decision making on your behalf. Be the best parent and co-parent for your child that you would want for yourself if you were in their shoes.\r\n<h2>Conflict takes up so much energy</h2>\r\nEven one round of conflict with one’s ex is physically and emotionally exhausting. Typically fights leave partners and children feeling depleted, unhappy, and then require a dispiriting period of recovery. As much as you feel entitled to be upset or frustrated with your ex, conflict serves no useful purpose and will only keep your nervous system jangled and your life filled with unhealthy drama.\r\n\r\nWorking through a separation is a jarring and difficult experience for everyone involved. A separation is a massive emotional and practical undertaking, and it is understandable that parents become preoccupied with having so much to navigate. However, it is essential that parents create a good co-parenting relationship so that their children can thrive now and into the future.','Parent-child dynamics in couple relationships – who’s in the doghouse?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5680-revision-v1','','','2023-01-30 09:14:29','2023-01-30 09:14:29','',5680,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5684',0,'revision','',0),(5685,1,'2023-01-30 09:14:29','2023-01-30 09:14:29','<p>Jeremy and Min have been together for 7 years and have 2 young children. When he returns home from work, Jeremy always does chores for 2 or 3 hours. He feels that Min doesn’t see the vast array of tasks that they need to do to keep the household running smoothly.</p>\n<p>He feels overwhelmed and can’t understand why Min never seems bothered by this. He can’t believe she can live with so much mess and chaos. It does his head in, and he becomes most critical when Min sits on the sofa flicking through her phone when the kids are in bed.</p><p>He tells himself that it’s like having a third child. Sometimes he’s surprised by his anger, and he’s concerned how much it is seeping into other areas of their relationship.</p><p>I’ve seen a gazillion couples where a partner complains, comments, and often becomes critical when their partner doesn’t live up to their expectations. They’re often shocked by their partner’s inability to tidy, clean, or parent in a way that seems ‘obvious’ to them. They end up exasperated and frustrated with them.</p><p>The problem is that it doesn’t stop with exasperation and frustration. Overtime, they start to see their partner as a child who can’t operate properly in the adult world. When partners view their partner this way, they often start to treat them as a child in other areas, not trusting their adult capacities.</p><p>This is extremely unattractive and unpleasant for both partners. These relationships typically become highly conflictual as no partner wants to continuously be sent to the doghouse. They’ll often ark up when criticised or corrected or experience their partner’s attempts to control them. This may take the form of becoming verbally defensive, justifying behaviours, being secretive, or retreating into a world of their own where their partner can’t reach them – into themselves.</p><p>We all experience the world differently as we have different minds, and this plays out in our day to day lives&nbsp;at home within our relationships. Couples with parent-child dynamics, like Jeremy and Min, have difficulty navigating the massive gap between their expectations and priorities.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><p>For example, Min has spent all day attending to the needs of the kids. She’s fed them in a timely manner, attended to their nappies and scrapes, she’s played music and dress ups. She’s read them books and attended to their tears. She understands Jeremy wants a more organised home, but her priority is to have healthy happy children.</p><p>Min focuses on them solely until they go to bed, by which time she is completely spent and needs some downtime to just be quiet and in her own mind. She knows she’s doing a pretty good job. She feels she’s earned some time to put her feet up and have some time to herself.</p><p>As you can see, from their own perspectives, they’re both right. The house needs more attention and Min deserves to put her feet up. But Min and Jeremy need to be careful, because remaining in self-righteous positions whilst not finding a solution will only entrench negative mindsets about each other.</p><p>Jeremy will repeatedly try to push Min into the doghouse telling himself, and her, that she is self-centred and only cares about the kids. She will entrench her version elaborating how controlling, aggressive, and horrible Jeremy is. Where their narratives go, the behaviour will follow.</p><p>What they need is a way of moving this situation from either/or - Jeremy’s way or Min’s way – They need to find a new position where both positions are kept in mind. This is an ‘and position’ so they don’t cancel each other out.</p><p>They may decide to get some outside assistance with the household or with the children. Jeremy may come home earlier from work one day a week to relieve Min so she can organise things with more energy.</p><p>Couples need to keep an ‘and position’ and keep binary positions (like either/or) at bay.</p><p>A co-parenting relationship is one where parents think together about the child’s wellbeing and make joint decisions that support the child’s emotional, physical, and practical needs. A co-parenting relationship is not about your ex-partner – it’s about putting your child’s best interests first and loving them above your own hurt, sadness or resentment. A co-parenting relationship is one of the most important ingredients for children to flourish and develop well post separation. &nbsp;</p>','Parent-child dynamics in couple relationships – who’s in the doghouse?','','inherit','closed','closed','','5680-revision-v1','','','2023-01-30 09:14:29','2023-01-30 09:14:29','',5680,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5685',0,'revision','',0),(5686,1,'2023-01-30 09:14:48','2023-01-30 09:14:48','<p>Jeremy and Min have been together for 7 years and have 2 young children. When he returns home from work, Jeremy always does chores for 2 or 3 hours. He feels that Min doesn’t see the vast array of tasks that they need to do to keep the household running smoothly.</p>\n<p>He feels overwhelmed and can’t understand why Min never seems bothered by this. He can’t believe she can live with so much mess and chaos. It does his head in, and he becomes most critical when Min sits on the sofa flicking through her phone when the kids are in bed.</p><p>He tells himself that it’s like having a third child. Sometimes he’s surprised by his anger, and he’s concerned how much it is seeping into other areas of their relationship.</p><p>I’ve seen a gazillion couples where a partner complains, comments, and often becomes critical when their partner doesn’t live up to their expectations. They’re often shocked by their partner’s inability to tidy, clean, or parent in a way that seems ‘obvious’ to them. They end up exasperated and frustrated with them.</p><p>The problem is that it doesn’t stop with exasperation and frustration. Overtime, they start to see their partner as a child who can’t operate properly in the adult world. When partners view their partner this way, they often start to treat them as a child in other areas, not trusting their adult capacities.</p><p>This is extremely unattractive and unpleasant for both partners. These relationships typically become highly conflictual as no partner wants to continuously be sent to the doghouse. They’ll often ark up when criticised or corrected or experience their partner’s attempts to control them. This may take the form of becoming verbally defensive, justifying behaviours, being secretive, or retreating into a world of their own where their partner can’t reach them – into themselves.</p><p>We all experience the world differently as we have different minds, and this plays out in our day to day lives&nbsp;at home within our relationships. Couples with parent-child dynamics, like Jeremy and Min, have difficulty navigating the massive gap between their expectations and priorities.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><p>For example, Min has spent all day attending to the needs of the kids. She’s fed them in a timely manner, attended to their nappies and scrapes, she’s played music and dress ups. She’s read them books and attended to their tears. She understands Jeremy wants a more organised home, but her priority is to have healthy happy children.</p><p>Min focuses on them solely until they go to bed, by which time she is completely spent and needs some downtime to just be quiet and in her own mind. She knows she’s doing a pretty good job. She feels she’s earned some time to put her feet up and have some time to herself.</p><p>As you can see, from their own perspectives, they’re both right. The house needs more attention and Min deserves to put her feet up. But Min and Jeremy need to be careful, because remaining in self-righteous positions whilst not finding a solution will only entrench negative mindsets about each other.</p><p>Jeremy will repeatedly try to push Min into the doghouse telling himself, and her, that she is self-centred and only cares about the kids. She will entrench her version elaborating how controlling, aggressive, and horrible Jeremy is. Where their narratives go, the behaviour will follow.</p><p>What they need is a way of moving this situation from either/or - Jeremy’s way or Min’s way – They need to find a new position where both positions are kept in mind. This is an ‘and position’ so they don’t cancel each other out.</p><p>They may decide to get some outside assistance with the household or with the children. Jeremy may come home earlier from work one day a week to relieve Min so she can organise things with more energy.</p><p>Couples need to keep an ‘and position’ and keep binary positions (like either/or) at bay.</p><p>A co-parenting relationship is one where parents think together about the child’s wellbeing and make joint decisions that support the child’s emotional, physical, and practical needs. A co-parenting relationship is not about your ex-partner – it’s about putting your child’s best interests first and loving them above your own hurt, sadness or resentment. 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It does his head in, and he becomes most critical when Min sits on the sofa flicking through her phone when the kids are in bed.</p><p>He tells himself that it’s like having a third child. Sometimes he’s surprised by his anger, and he’s concerned how much it is seeping into other areas of their relationship.</p><p>I’ve seen a gazillion couples where a partner complains, comments, and often becomes critical when their partner doesn’t live up to their expectations. They’re often shocked by their partner’s inability to tidy, clean, or parent in a way that seems ‘obvious’ to them. They end up exasperated and frustrated with them.</p><p>The problem is that it doesn’t stop with exasperation and frustration. Overtime, they start to see their partner as a child who can’t operate properly in the adult world. When partners view their partner this way, they often start to treat them as a child in other areas, not trusting their adult capacities.</p><p>This is extremely unattractive and unpleasant for both partners. These relationships typically become highly conflictual as no partner wants to continuously be sent to the doghouse. They’ll often ark up when criticised or corrected or experience their partner’s attempts to control them. This may take the form of becoming verbally defensive, justifying behaviours, being secretive, or retreating into a world of their own where their partner can’t reach them – into themselves.</p><p>We all experience the world differently as we have different minds, and this plays out in our day to day lives&nbsp;at home within our relationships. Couples with parent-child dynamics, like Jeremy and Min, have difficulty navigating the massive gap between their expectations and priorities.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><p>For example, Min has spent all day attending to the needs of the kids. She’s fed them in a timely manner, attended to their nappies and scrapes, she’s played music and dress ups. She’s read them books and attended to their tears. She understands Jeremy wants a more organised home, but her priority is to have healthy happy children.</p><p>Min focuses on them solely until they go to bed, by which time she is completely spent and needs some downtime to just be quiet and in her own mind. She knows she’s doing a pretty good job. She feels she’s earned some time to put her feet up and have some time to herself.</p><p>As you can see, from their own perspectives, they’re both right. The house needs more attention and Min deserves to put her feet up. But Min and Jeremy need to be careful, because remaining in self-righteous positions whilst not finding a solution will only entrench negative mindsets about each other.</p><p>Jeremy will repeatedly try to push Min into the doghouse telling himself, and her, that she is self-centred and only cares about the kids. She will entrench her version elaborating how controlling, aggressive, and horrible Jeremy is. Where their narratives go, the behaviour will follow.</p><p>What they need is a way of moving this situation from either/or - Jeremy’s way or Min’s way – They need to find a new position where both positions are kept in mind. This is an ‘and position’ so they don’t cancel each other out.</p><p>They may decide to get some outside assistance with the household or with the children. Jeremy may come home earlier from work one day a week to relieve Min so she can organise things with more energy.</p><p>Couples need to keep an ‘and position’ and keep binary positions (like either/or) at bay.</p><p>A co-parenting relationship is one where parents think together about the child’s wellbeing and make joint decisions that support the child’s emotional, physical, and practical needs. A co-parenting relationship is not about your ex-partner – it’s about putting your child’s best interests first and loving them above your own hurt, sadness or resentment. 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It does his head in, and he becomes most critical when Min sits on the sofa flicking through her phone when the kids are in bed.</p><p>He tells himself that it’s like having a third child. Sometimes he’s surprised by his anger, and he’s concerned how much it is seeping into other areas of their relationship.</p><p>I’ve seen a gazillion couples where a partner complains, comments, and often becomes critical when their partner doesn’t live up to their expectations. They’re often shocked by their partner’s inability to tidy, clean, or parent in a way that seems ‘obvious’ to them. They end up exasperated and frustrated with them.</p><p>The problem is that it doesn’t stop with exasperation and frustration. Overtime, they start to see their partner as a child who can’t operate properly in the adult world. When partners view their partner this way, they often start to treat them as a child in other areas, not trusting their adult capacities.</p><p>This is extremely unattractive and unpleasant for both partners. These relationships typically become highly conflictual as no partner wants to continuously be sent to the doghouse. They’ll often ark up when criticised or corrected or experience their partner’s attempts to control them. This may take the form of becoming verbally defensive, justifying behaviours, being secretive, or retreating into a world of their own where their partner can’t reach them – into themselves.</p><p>We all experience the world differently as we have different minds, and this plays out in our day to day lives at home within our relationships. Couples with parent-child dynamics, like Jeremy and Min, have difficulty navigating the massive gap between their expectations and priorities.  </p><p>For example, Min has spent all day attending to the needs of the kids. She’s fed them in a timely manner, attended to their nappies and scrapes, she’s played music and dress ups. She’s read them books and attended to their tears. She understands Jeremy wants a more organised home, but her priority is to have healthy happy children.</p><p>Min focuses on them solely until they go to bed, by which time she is completely spent and needs some downtime to just be quiet and in her own mind. She knows she’s doing a pretty good job. She feels she’s earned some time to put her feet up and have some time to herself.</p><p>As you can see, from their own perspectives, they’re both right. The house needs more attention and Min deserves to put her feet up. But Min and Jeremy need to be careful, because remaining in self-righteous positions whilst not finding a solution will only entrench negative mindsets about each other.</p><p>Jeremy will repeatedly try to push Min into the doghouse telling himself, and her, that she is self-centred and only cares about the kids. She will entrench her version elaborating how controlling, aggressive, and horrible Jeremy is. Where their narratives go, the behaviour will follow.</p><p>What they need is a way of moving this situation from either/or - Jeremy’s way or Min’s way – They need to find a new position where both positions are kept in mind. This is an ‘and position’ so they don’t cancel each other out.</p><p>They may decide to get some outside assistance with the household or with the children. Jeremy may come home earlier from work one day a week to relieve Min so she can organise things with more energy.</p><p>Couples need to keep an ‘and position’ and keep binary positions (like either/or) at bay.</p><p>A co-parenting relationship is one where parents think together about the child’s wellbeing and make joint decisions that support the child’s emotional, physical, and practical needs. A co-parenting relationship is not about your ex-partner – it’s about putting your child’s best interests first and loving them above your own hurt, sadness or resentment. 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