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The other partner may be exhausted at what feels like constant complaints or blame about them getting it wrong all the time.<\/p><p>Quiet quitting is a state of resignation where a partner or partners are no longer investing in the relationship\u2019s wellbeing or even survival. It can be due to conscious and unconscious reasons.<\/p><p>Despite giving up, they\u2019re not ready to hand over the keys.<\/p><p>It\u2019s a recognition from one partner that even though the couple is no longer an alive entity, there are still benefits or support in remaining in the union. 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sexually)<\/p>"},"elements":[],"widgetType":"text-editor"}],"isInner":false}],"isInner":false},{"id":"41a3d87","elType":"section","settings":{"structure":"20"},"elements":[{"id":"26548a7","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":50,"_inline_size":14.025999999999999801048033987171947956085205078125},"elements":[{"id":"372229d","elType":"widget","settings":{"image":{"url":"https:\/\/www.lissyabrahams.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/2.png","id":3748,"alt":"","source":"library"}},"elements":[],"widgetType":"image"}],"isInner":false},{"id":"74bb303","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":50,"_inline_size":85.9740000000000037516656448133289813995361328125},"elements":[{"id":"1c39ed6","elType":"widget","settings":{"editor":"<p>Not valuing or seeking out partner\u2019s advice, opinions, or viewpoints any more<\/p>"},"elements":[],"widgetType":"text-editor"}],"isInner":false}],"isInner":false},{"id":"bfcf15d","elType":"section","settings":{"structure":"20"},"elements":[{"id":"824f06e","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":50,"_inline_size":14.025999999999999801048033987171947956085205078125},"elements":[{"id":"6f06d39","elType":"widget","settings":{"image":{"url":"https:\/\/www.lissyabrahams.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/3.png","id":3749,"alt":"","source":"library"}},"elements":[],"widgetType":"image"}],"isInner":false},{"id":"e0cd0ce","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":50,"_inline_size":85.9740000000000037516656448133289813995361328125},"elements":[{"id":"e8e2d03","elType":"widget","settings":{"editor":"<p>Partner and relationship are no longer a priority unlike other people, the phone, work, or exercising<\/p>"},"elements":[],"widgetType":"text-editor"}],"isInner":false}],"isInner":false},{"id":"b2b86bd","elType":"section","settings":{"structure":"20"},"elements":[{"id":"bc44c97","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":50,"_inline_size":14.025999999999999801048033987171947956085205078125},"elements":[{"id":"2f07f2e","elType":"widget","settings":{"image":{"url":"https:\/\/www.lissyabrahams.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/4.png","id":3750,"alt":"","source":"library"}},"elements":[],"widgetType":"image"}],"isInner":false},{"id":"568f337","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":50,"_inline_size":85.9740000000000037516656448133289813995361328125},"elements":[{"id":"c0456d8","elType":"widget","settings":{"editor":"<p>Being indifferent to partner \u2013 a lack of attention, time, curiosity, or care for them<\/p>"},"elements":[],"widgetType":"text-editor"}],"isInner":false}],"isInner":false},{"id":"7374c28","elType":"section","settings":{"structure":"20"},"elements":[{"id":"9cd33e3","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":50,"_inline_size":14.025999999999999801048033987171947956085205078125},"elements":[{"id":"1ef632b","elType":"widget","settings":{"image":{"url":"https:\/\/www.lissyabrahams.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/5.png","id":3751,"alt":"","source":"library"}},"elements":[],"widgetType":"image"}],"isInner":false},{"id":"f84abe8","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":50,"_inline_size":85.9740000000000037516656448133289813995361328125},"elements":[{"id":"3156fa4","elType":"widget","settings":{"editor":"<p>No longer trying to resolve issues in the relationship, and believe there is no point seeing a therapist<\/p>"},"elements":[],"widgetType":"text-editor"}],"isInner":false}],"isInner":false},{"id":"8fb546f","elType":"section","settings":{"structure":"20"},"elements":[{"id":"dd0b292","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":50,"_inline_size":14.025999999999999801048033987171947956085205078125},"elements":[{"id":"6722a2a","elType":"widget","settings":{"image":{"url":"https:\/\/www.lissyabrahams.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/6.png","id":3742,"alt":"","source":"library"}},"elements":[],"widgetType":"image"}],"isInner":false},{"id":"2e70bce","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":50,"_inline_size":85.9740000000000037516656448133289813995361328125},"elements":[{"id":"c83e2ac","elType":"widget","settings":{"editor":"<p>Resignation at the state of the relationship, no longer feeling despair<\/p>"},"elements":[],"widgetType":"text-editor"}],"isInner":false}],"isInner":false},{"id":"03a45b1","elType":"section","settings":{"structure":"20"},"elements":[{"id":"4d57031","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":50,"_inline_size":14.025999999999999801048033987171947956085205078125},"elements":[{"id":"bd6b498","elType":"widget","settings":{"image":{"url":"https:\/\/www.lissyabrahams.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/7.png","id":3743,"alt":"","source":"library"}},"elements":[],"widgetType":"image"}],"isInner":false},{"id":"089a3ba","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":50,"_inline_size":85.9740000000000037516656448133289813995361328125},"elements":[{"id":"d9f3c2d","elType":"widget","settings":{"editor":"<p>Unable and unwilling to engage in discussions about future plans together \u2013 have lost a sense of \u201cus\u201d or \u201cwe\u201d both now and for the 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These can be financial, extended family, friendship groups, being co-parents, perhaps a joint business, a home, investments. To undo each of these it requires thought and they are often emotionally laden.<\/p><p>Quiet quitting allows time in between \u2013 it\u2019s a position like sitting on the fence. It\u2019s not fully in the relationship and it\u2019s not fully out. There may be emotional withdrawal from one\u2019s partner however this is not the same as total withdrawal, and the aspects mentioned like friendships, extended\u00a0family, being a family unit, or having a home together still hold well enough. Some people can sit on the fence for a short time before their bottom gets sore \u2013 and for others forever potentially.<\/p><p>When a partner is quietly quitting, they are taking a position. It could edge the couple closer to separation or it could cause the other partner to rally, pull up their socks and allow themselves to be truly in it again.<\/p>"},"elements":[],"widgetType":"text-editor"}],"isInner":false}],"isInner":false},{"id":"746dcac","elType":"section","settings":[],"elements":[{"id":"372fcea","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":100,"_inline_size":null},"elements":[{"id":"0340408","elType":"widget","settings":{"title":"Don\u2019t judge the quiet quitters!"},"elements":[],"widgetType":"heading"},{"id":"20ba5e2","elType":"widget","settings":{"space":{"unit":"px","size":20,"sizes":[]}},"elements":[],"widgetType":"spacer"},{"id":"44093cc","elType":"widget","settings":{"editor":"<p>Quiet quitting is a valid position and shouldn\u2019t be judged as childish or immature. It could be a reflective time to work on the next steps outside of the relationship. 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