(4906,1,'2022-08-07 11:15:00','2022-08-07 11:15:00','For many decades people have been looking for the perfect book to help solve their couple conflict or they seek regular help from a couple’s therapist in a consulting room, to stop their fights and to improve their ability to communicate as a couple.\r\n\r\nThe problem here is that books can be too general to apply to our own situation, and many people won’t attend couples therapy, even if their relationship can feel rocky and even at times, distressing. Often one partner refuses to go as they believe therapy will be too exposing or it may be financially difficult to afford regular sessions.\r\n\r\nWhat I do know is that, when couples fight regularly, or have what are called ‘cycles of conflict’, it is rare for the problems to go away without working through them. The couple communication can feel destructive at times. When this is occurring, we cannot permanently solve our struggles as we simply do not know how to, in turn resulting in it worsening over time. The reason being that we are missing the vital information, techniques, skills to process information, as well as the capacity to reflect on our own life and relationship. To help solve this, I have crafted and designed a course to provide you with all of this, and you can do it all online at your convenience.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>The top 10 benefits of doing this course:</h3>\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a greater understanding of why creating a ‘special’ relationship together was important and how this was linked to creating safety.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a greater understanding of why you originally chose your partner and how this was linked to creating safety in the future for yourself, and any children you may have wanted at that time.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a deeper understanding of how your past and present are affected by childhood experiences.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/4.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a deeper understanding of why you respond or react to life, and especially your partner the way you do.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/5.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou learn about the ego, how it is developed and how it plays out in your own life.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/6.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou identify the role of both your ego and your partner’s ego is causing distressing and overwhelming conflict in your relationship.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/7.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou learn strategies for how to calm down once your nervous system has been triggered.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/8.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop essential skills for respectfully communicating with your partner, as these decrease conflict and promote understanding and intimacy.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/9.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou create sufficient space and safety for the two of you to bring your differences into the relationship and navigate these skilfully.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/10.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou understand why listening, being curious and learning to apologise is critical to the wellbeing of your relationship, and how these re-build trust.\r\n\r\nOnline courses are an increasingly popular and convenient way to learn. They allow you to learn on your terms when it suits you. They are portable. This means you can easily take it with you if you have a break from work, the children, or are on a holiday. Online courses have been designed to work for you.\r\n<h3>So how do you get the most out of your course? Top tips include;</h3>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Treat this online course seriously. This online course is life-transforming. To achieve this, you need to take in the content and reflect on how this applies to your own life situation.</li>\r\n 	<li>You need to set up your environment for learning and focused attention. Remove any distractions to allow yourself to have the benefits of greater knowledge and understanding so your relationship can improve. Turn off notifications, put your phone on airplane mode, grab some water and settle in to allow your learning and reflection to occur.</li>\r\n 	<li>Unlike a live event, you can re-watch any section of the course at any time you wish.</li>\r\n 	<li>This course has a detailed downloadable workbook with all the information from the course included. The workbook includes all of the activities to guide you through your own reflection and developmental process. The videos and the workbook have been designed together to optimise your online learning experience.</li>\r\n 	<li>Be accountable to yourself and commit to the course. You have purchased the course as you want help to improve your couple relationship. This is an amazing first step you have made. Make sure you honour your commitment to yourself by complete the course.</li>\r\n 	<li>Enjoy this process. Learning about yourself is rewarding and can be fascinating. Let yourself be curious and intrigued by how you operate in a relationship. The rewards will show themselves in all aspects of your life, not only in your relationship!</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/product/fight-less-love-more/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">This course</a> reflects many years of specialist therapy training, skills development, clinical work, supervising, tutoring, and lecturing. I have helped so many people reduce conflict and create healthier and happier relationships. If you want to this too, then join me, like all the others have, in creating the life and relationship you really want.','How To Get The Most Out Of Your Online Course for Decreasing Conflict and Improving Communication','','inherit','closed','closed','','4900-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:15:00','2022-08-07 11:15:00','',4900,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4906',0,'revision','',0),(4907,1,'2021-07-13 11:22:56','2021-07-13 11:22:56','When the coronavirus pandemic began and quickly spread across regions of the world, our country’s leaders determined it best to firmly close our Australian borders to prevent the escalation of the virus and to keep us safe. This firm border policy has earned us the nickname “Fortress Australia”.\r\n\r\nThe difficulty we face, is that 1.5 years into the pandemic, hundreds of thousands of people have been and are still impacted by this policy, causing great distress to those either stuck inside or those kept helplessly outside of the “<a href=\"https://www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-57224635\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">fortress</a>” Australia.\r\n\r\nOn the news channels, we have heard their voices and seen their frustration as these Australians stranded around the globe just cannot get home to be with loved ones. Many have lost patience with the policy and given up trying to return as the process has been too distressing.\r\n\r\nAs a therapist working with both individuals and couples, I am seeing many of the impacts in my consulting room for those unable to travel to their native countries. For people who have settled in Australia from overseas, they live permanently with a tear in their heart, as they miss their home country and loved ones, despite their love of living in Australia. Their inability to travel currently massively increases the size of their tear. Many of them are frustrated and distressed at not being able to visit their home country and feel completely trapped by this policy.\r\n\r\nThe most devastating experience for them is when a family member or loved one overseas is dying and they are unable to be by their side to pay their respects. Then there is the funeral. With no friends or family from home to support them, just themselves and maybe their partner watching a service on a screen, often in the late hours of the night. It is just soul-destroying for them having to farewell a loved one via Facetime.\r\n\r\nI see a young couple in my consulting room, where the wife is Italian and the husband Australian. She was unable to return to Italy when her mother was dying. She felt cut-off and disconnected from those who were grieving in her home country together. Her mental health declined rapidly as she became depressed and started to withdraw into herself. For those in her position, they live with a deep sense of loneliness and despair, a longing for home, and a sense of helplessness about their situation.\r\n\r\nMany people seeking permission to leave Fortress Australia have been denied it, whilst others manage to get out on compassionate grounds. The next option for people who have been denied permission to leave on compassionate grounds is to apply to leave the country for 3 months. 3 months! How is this even a viable option? How many of us can really walk out of our day-to-day lives for three months? How do we leave our family here in Australia? What about our partner? What happens to our relationship? How do we leave our children for three months? What happens to our work or studies? I am yet to meet anyone who is able to take this option up.\r\n\r\nFor people struggling with this, I have three tips -\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Never give up</strong> – Keep applying to home affairs to have your request heard. Do not accept the decision is final. If you give up your mental health will likely decline as you will feel helpless and hopeless, and this will increase your chance of developing depression.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Get properly supported</strong> – If your mental health, especially depression or anxiety symptoms, have worsened you can find a therapist to help process this with you. You can also find or create an online support group of people in a similar situation. You may find that some live locally enough for you to meet up.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Help your partner truly get it</strong> – If you are in a <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/04/26/what-is-couple-mindedness/\" rel=\"noopener\">couple relationship</a>, help your partner understand the situation from your side. They need to understand a few things. These include, that they cannot make this better for you. That this is always there for you, beneath the surface, and this can impact your mood from time to time. Finally, that the difference between your two situations is tricky to manage sometimes, for example, when a family comes over it can bring up your own situation of being trapped without a way to get home. If this is difficult to do together, then find a couples therapist to help you communicate this in a way your partner can really understand.','How Our Closed Border Policies Impact Our Mental Health & Our Couple Relationships','','publish','open','open','','how-our-closed-border-policies-impact-our-mental-health-our-couple-relationships','','\nhttps://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/04/26/what-is-couple-mindedness/','2022-08-07 11:41:47','2022-08-07 11:41:47','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4907',0,'post','',0),(4908,1,'2022-08-07 11:24:11','2022-08-07 11:24:11','For many decades people have been looking for the perfect book to help solve their couple conflict or they seek regular help from a couple’s therapist in a consulting room, to stop their fights and to improve their ability to communicate as a couple.\r\n\r\nThe problem here is that books can be too general to apply to our own situation, and many people won’t attend couples therapy, even if their relationship can feel rocky and even at times, distressing. Often one partner refuses to go as they believe therapy will be too exposing or it may be financially difficult to afford regular sessions.\r\n\r\nWhat I do know is that, when couples fight regularly, or have what are called ‘cycles of conflict’, it is rare for the problems to go away without working through them. The couple communication can feel destructive at times. When this is occurring, we cannot permanently solve our struggles as we simply do not know how to, in turn resulting in it worsening over time. The reason being that we are missing the vital information, techniques, skills to process information, as well as the capacity to reflect on our own life and relationship. To help solve this, I have crafted and designed a course to provide you with all of this, and you can do it all online at your convenience.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>The top 10 benefits of doing this course:</h3>\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a greater understanding of why creating a ‘special’ relationship together was important and how this was linked to creating safety.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a greater understanding of why you originally chose your partner and how this was linked to creating safety in the future for yourself, and any children you may have wanted at that time.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a deeper understanding of how your past and present are affected by childhood experiences.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/4.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a deeper understanding of why you respond or react to life, and especially your partner the way you do.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/5.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou learn about the ego, how it is developed and how it plays out in your own life.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/6.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou identify the role of both your ego and your partner’s ego is causing distressing and overwhelming conflict in your relationship.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/7.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou learn strategies for how to calm down once your nervous system has been triggered.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/8.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop essential skills for respectfully communicating with your partner, as these decrease conflict and promote understanding and intimacy.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/9.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou create sufficient space and safety for the two of you to bring your differences into the relationship and navigate these skilfully.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/10.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou understand why listening, being curious and learning to apologise is critical to the wellbeing of your relationship, and how these re-build trust.\r\n\r\nOnline courses are an increasingly popular and convenient way to learn. They allow you to learn on your terms when it suits you. They are portable. This means you can easily take it with you if you have a break from work, the children, or are on a holiday. Online courses have been designed to work for you.\r\n<h3>So how do you get the most out of your course? Top tips include;</h3>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Treat this online course seriously. This online course is life-transforming. To achieve this, you need to take in the content and reflect on how this applies to your own life situation.</li>\r\n 	<li>You need to set up your environment for learning and focused attention. Remove any distractions to allow yourself to have the benefits of greater knowledge and understanding so your relationship can improve. Turn off notifications, put your phone on airplane mode, grab some water and settle in to allow your learning and reflection to occur.</li>\r\n 	<li>Unlike a live event, you can re-watch any section of the course at any time you wish.</li>\r\n 	<li>This course has a detailed downloadable workbook with all the information from the course included. The workbook includes all of the activities to guide you through your own reflection and developmental process. The videos and the workbook have been designed together to optimise your online learning experience.</li>\r\n 	<li>Be accountable to yourself and commit to the course. You have purchased the course as you want help to improve your couple relationship. This is an amazing first step you have made. Make sure you honour your commitment to yourself by complete the course.</li>\r\n 	<li>Enjoy this process. Learning about yourself is rewarding and can be fascinating. Let yourself be curious and intrigued by how you operate in a relationship. The rewards will show themselves in all aspects of your life, not only in your relationship!</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/product/fight-less-love-more/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">This course</a> reflects many years of specialist therapy training, skills development, clinical work, supervising, tutoring, and lecturing. I have helped so many people reduce conflict and create healthier and happier relationships. If you want to this too, then join me, like all the others have, in creating the life and relationship you really want.','How Our Closed Border Policies Impact Our Mental Health & Our Couple Relationships','','inherit','closed','closed','','4907-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:24:11','2022-08-07 11:24:11','',4907,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4908',0,'revision','',0),(4909,1,'2022-08-07 11:24:28','2022-08-07 11:24:28','','How Our Closed Border Policies Impact Our Mental Health & Our Couple Relationships','','inherit','open','closed','','sideviewyoungwomanlookingawayatwindowsittingon','','','2022-08-07 11:41:41','2022-08-07 11:41:41','',4907,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/20210713.jpeg',0,'attachment','image/jpeg',0),(4910,1,'2022-08-07 11:29:58','2022-08-07 11:29:58','For many decades people have been looking for the perfect book to help solve their couple conflict or they seek regular help from a couple’s therapist in a consulting room, to stop their fights and to improve their ability to communicate as a couple.\r\n\r\nThe problem here is that books can be too general to apply to our own situation, and many people won’t attend couples therapy, even if their relationship can feel rocky and even at times, distressing. Often one partner refuses to go as they believe therapy will be too exposing or it may be financially difficult to afford regular sessions.\r\n\r\nWhat I do know is that, when couples fight regularly, or have what are called ‘cycles of conflict’, it is rare for the problems to go away without working through them. The couple communication can feel destructive at times. When this is occurring, we cannot permanently solve our struggles as we simply do not know how to, in turn resulting in it worsening over time. The reason being that we are missing the vital information, techniques, skills to process information, as well as the capacity to reflect on our own life and relationship. To help solve this, I have crafted and designed a course to provide you with all of this, and you can do it all online at your convenience.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>The top 10 benefits of doing this course:</h3>\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a greater understanding of why creating a ‘special’ relationship together was important and how this was linked to creating safety.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a greater understanding of why you originally chose your partner and how this was linked to creating safety in the future for yourself, and any children you may have wanted at that time.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a deeper understanding of how your past and present are affected by childhood experiences.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/4.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a deeper understanding of why you respond or react to life, and especially your partner the way you do.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/5.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou learn about the ego, how it is developed and how it plays out in your own life.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/6.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou identify the role of both your ego and your partner’s ego is causing distressing and overwhelming conflict in your relationship.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/7.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou learn strategies for how to calm down once your nervous system has been triggered.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/8.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop essential skills for respectfully communicating with your partner, as these decrease conflict and promote understanding and intimacy.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/9.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou create sufficient space and safety for the two of you to bring your differences into the relationship and navigate these skilfully.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/10.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou understand why listening, being curious and learning to apologise is critical to the wellbeing of your relationship, and how these re-build trust.\r\n\r\nOnline courses are an increasingly popular and convenient way to learn. They allow you to learn on your terms when it suits you. They are portable. This means you can easily take it with you if you have a break from work, the children, or are on a holiday. Online courses have been designed to work for you.\r\n<h3>So how do you get the most out of your course? Top tips include;</h3>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Treat this online course seriously. This online course is life-transforming. To achieve this, you need to take in the content and reflect on how this applies to your own life situation.</li>\r\n 	<li>You need to set up your environment for learning and focused attention. Remove any distractions to allow yourself to have the benefits of greater knowledge and understanding so your relationship can improve. Turn off notifications, put your phone on airplane mode, grab some water and settle in to allow your learning and reflection to occur.</li>\r\n 	<li>Unlike a live event, you can re-watch any section of the course at any time you wish.</li>\r\n 	<li>This course has a detailed downloadable workbook with all the information from the course included. The workbook includes all of the activities to guide you through your own reflection and developmental process. The videos and the workbook have been designed together to optimise your online learning experience.</li>\r\n 	<li>Be accountable to yourself and commit to the course. You have purchased the course as you want help to improve your couple relationship. This is an amazing first step you have made. Make sure you honour your commitment to yourself by complete the course.</li>\r\n 	<li>Enjoy this process. Learning about yourself is rewarding and can be fascinating. Let yourself be curious and intrigued by how you operate in a relationship. The rewards will show themselves in all aspects of your life, not only in your relationship!</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/product/fight-less-love-more/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">This course</a> reflects many years of specialist therapy training, skills development, clinical work, supervising, tutoring, and lecturing. I have helped so many people reduce conflict and create healthier and happier relationships. If you want to this too, then join me, like all the others have, in creating the life and relationship you really want.','How Our Closed Border Policies Impact Our Mental Health & Our Couple Relationships','','inherit','closed','closed','','4907-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:29:58','2022-08-07 11:29:58','',4907,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4910',0,'revision','',0),(4911,1,'2022-08-07 11:29:58','2022-08-07 11:29:58','For many decades people have been looking for the perfect book to help solve their couple conflict or they seek regular help from a couple’s therapist in a consulting room, to stop their fights and to improve their ability to communicate as a couple.\r\n\r\nThe problem here is that books can be too general to apply to our own situation, and many people won’t attend couples therapy, even if their relationship can feel rocky and even at times, distressing. Often one partner refuses to go as they believe therapy will be too exposing or it may be financially difficult to afford regular sessions.\r\n\r\nWhat I do know is that, when couples fight regularly, or have what are called ‘cycles of conflict’, it is rare for the problems to go away without working through them. The couple communication can feel destructive at times. When this is occurring, we cannot permanently solve our struggles as we simply do not know how to, in turn resulting in it worsening over time. The reason being that we are missing the vital information, techniques, skills to process information, as well as the capacity to reflect on our own life and relationship. To help solve this, I have crafted and designed a course to provide you with all of this, and you can do it all online at your convenience.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>The top 10 benefits of doing this course:</h3>\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a greater understanding of why creating a ‘special’ relationship together was important and how this was linked to creating safety.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a greater understanding of why you originally chose your partner and how this was linked to creating safety in the future for yourself, and any children you may have wanted at that time.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a deeper understanding of how your past and present are affected by childhood experiences.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/4.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop a deeper understanding of why you respond or react to life, and especially your partner the way you do.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/5.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou learn about the ego, how it is developed and how it plays out in your own life.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/6.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou identify the role of both your ego and your partner’s ego is causing distressing and overwhelming conflict in your relationship.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/7.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou learn strategies for how to calm down once your nervous system has been triggered.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/8.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou develop essential skills for respectfully communicating with your partner, as these decrease conflict and promote understanding and intimacy.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/9.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou create sufficient space and safety for the two of you to bring your differences into the relationship and navigate these skilfully.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/10.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nYou understand why listening, being curious and learning to apologise is critical to the wellbeing of your relationship, and how these re-build trust.\r\n\r\nOnline courses are an increasingly popular and convenient way to learn. They allow you to learn on your terms when it suits you. They are portable. This means you can easily take it with you if you have a break from work, the children, or are on a holiday. Online courses have been designed to work for you.\r\n<h3>So how do you get the most out of your course? Top tips include;</h3>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Treat this online course seriously. This online course is life-transforming. To achieve this, you need to take in the content and reflect on how this applies to your own life situation.</li>\r\n 	<li>You need to set up your environment for learning and focused attention. Remove any distractions to allow yourself to have the benefits of greater knowledge and understanding so your relationship can improve. Turn off notifications, put your phone on airplane mode, grab some water and settle in to allow your learning and reflection to occur.</li>\r\n 	<li>Unlike a live event, you can re-watch any section of the course at any time you wish.</li>\r\n 	<li>This course has a detailed downloadable workbook with all the information from the course included. The workbook includes all of the activities to guide you through your own reflection and developmental process. The videos and the workbook have been designed together to optimise your online learning experience.</li>\r\n 	<li>Be accountable to yourself and commit to the course. You have purchased the course as you want help to improve your couple relationship. This is an amazing first step you have made. Make sure you honour your commitment to yourself by complete the course.</li>\r\n 	<li>Enjoy this process. Learning about yourself is rewarding and can be fascinating. Let yourself be curious and intrigued by how you operate in a relationship. The rewards will show themselves in all aspects of your life, not only in your relationship!</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/product/fight-less-love-more/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">This course</a> reflects many years of specialist therapy training, skills development, clinical work, supervising, tutoring, and lecturing. I have helped so many people reduce conflict and create healthier and happier relationships. If you want to this too, then join me, like all the others have, in creating the life and relationship you really want.','How Our Closed Border Policies Impact Our Mental Health & Our Couple Relationships','','inherit','closed','closed','','4907-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:29:58','2022-08-07 11:29:58','',4907,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4911',0,'revision','',0),(4912,1,'2022-08-07 11:29:58','2022-08-07 11:29:58','<p>When the coronavirus pandemic began and quickly spread across regions of the world, our country’s leaders determined it best to firmly close our Australian borders to prevent the escalation of the virus and to keep us safe. This firm border policy has earned us the nickname “Fortress Australia”.</p><p> </p><p>The difficulty we face, is that 1.5 years into the pandemic, hundreds of thousands of people have been and are still impacted by this policy, causing great distress to those either stuck inside or those kept helplessly outside of the “<a href=\"https://www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-57224635\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">fortress</a>” Australia.</p><p>On the news channels, we have heard their voices and seen their frustration as these Australians stranded around the globe just cannot get home to be with loved ones. Many have lost patience with the policy and given up trying to return as the process has been too distressing.</p><p>As a therapist working with both individuals and couples, I am seeing many of the impacts in my consulting room for those unable to travel to their native countries. For people who have settled in Australia from overseas, they live permanently with a tear in their heart, as they miss their home country and loved ones, despite their love of living in Australia. Their inability to travel currently massively increases the size of their tear. Many of them are frustrated and distressed at not being able to visit their home country and feel completely trapped by this policy.</p><p>The most devastating experience for them is when a family member or loved one overseas is dying and they are unable to be by their side to pay their respects. Then there is the funeral. With no friends or family from home to support them, just themselves and maybe their partner watching a service on a screen, often in the late hours of the night. It is just soul-destroying for them having to farewell a loved one via Facetime.</p><p>I see a young couple in my consulting room, where the wife is Italian and the husband Australian. She was unable to return to Italy when her mother was dying. She felt cut-off and disconnected from those who were grieving in her home country together. Her mental health declined rapidly as she became depressed and started to withdraw into herself. For those in her position, they live with a deep sense of loneliness and despair, a longing for home, and a sense of helplessness about their situation.</p><p>Many people seeking permission to leave Fortress Australia have been denied it, whilst others manage to get out on compassionate grounds. The next option for people who have been denied permission to leave on compassionate grounds is to apply to leave the country for 3 months. 3 months! How is this even a viable option? How many of us can really walk out of our day-to-day lives for three months? How do we leave our family here in Australia? What about our partner? What happens to our relationship? How do we leave our children for three months? What happens to our work or studies? I am yet to meet anyone who is able to take this option up.</p><p>For people struggling with this, I have three tips -</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Never give up</strong> – Keep applying to home affairs to have your request heard. Do not accept the decision is final. If you give up your mental health will likely decline as you will feel helpless and hopeless, and this will increase your chance of developing depression.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Get properly supported</strong> – If your mental health, especially depression or anxiety symptoms, have worsened you can find a therapist to help process this with you. You can also find or create an online support group of people in a similar situation. You may find that some live locally enough for you to meet up.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Help your partner truly get it</strong> – If you are in a <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/04/26/what-is-couple-mindedness/\" rel=\"noopener\">couple relationship</a>, help your partner understand the situation from your side. They need to understand a few things. These include, that they cannot make this better for you. That this is always there for you, beneath the surface, and this can impact your mood from time to time. Finally, that the difference between your two situations is tricky to manage sometimes, for example, when a family comes over it can bring up your own situation of being trapped without a way to get home. If this is difficult to do together, then find a couples therapist to help you communicate this in a way your partner can really understand.</p>','How Our Closed Border Policies Impact Our Mental Health & Our Couple Relationships','','inherit','closed','closed','','4907-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:29:58','2022-08-07 11:29:58','',4907,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4912',0,'revision','',0),(4913,1,'2022-08-07 11:30:36','2022-08-07 11:30:36','<p>When the coronavirus pandemic began and quickly spread across regions of the world, our country’s leaders determined it best to firmly close our Australian borders to prevent the escalation of the virus and to keep us safe. This firm border policy has earned us the nickname “Fortress Australia”.</p><p> </p><p>The difficulty we face, is that 1.5 years into the pandemic, hundreds of thousands of people have been and are still impacted by this policy, causing great distress to those either stuck inside or those kept helplessly outside of the “<a href=\"https://www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-57224635\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">fortress</a>” Australia.</p><p>On the news channels, we have heard their voices and seen their frustration as these Australians stranded around the globe just cannot get home to be with loved ones. Many have lost patience with the policy and given up trying to return as the process has been too distressing.</p><p>As a therapist working with both individuals and couples, I am seeing many of the impacts in my consulting room for those unable to travel to their native countries. For people who have settled in Australia from overseas, they live permanently with a tear in their heart, as they miss their home country and loved ones, despite their love of living in Australia. Their inability to travel currently massively increases the size of their tear. Many of them are frustrated and distressed at not being able to visit their home country and feel completely trapped by this policy.</p><p>The most devastating experience for them is when a family member or loved one overseas is dying and they are unable to be by their side to pay their respects. Then there is the funeral. With no friends or family from home to support them, just themselves and maybe their partner watching a service on a screen, often in the late hours of the night. It is just soul-destroying for them having to farewell a loved one via Facetime.</p><p>I see a young couple in my consulting room, where the wife is Italian and the husband Australian. She was unable to return to Italy when her mother was dying. She felt cut-off and disconnected from those who were grieving in her home country together. Her mental health declined rapidly as she became depressed and started to withdraw into herself. For those in her position, they live with a deep sense of loneliness and despair, a longing for home, and a sense of helplessness about their situation.</p><p>Many people seeking permission to leave Fortress Australia have been denied it, whilst others manage to get out on compassionate grounds. The next option for people who have been denied permission to leave on compassionate grounds is to apply to leave the country for 3 months. 3 months! How is this even a viable option? How many of us can really walk out of our day-to-day lives for three months? How do we leave our family here in Australia? What about our partner? What happens to our relationship? How do we leave our children for three months? What happens to our work or studies? I am yet to meet anyone who is able to take this option up.</p><p>For people struggling with this, I have three tips -</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Never give up</strong> – Keep applying to home affairs to have your request heard. Do not accept the decision is final. If you give up your mental health will likely decline as you will feel helpless and hopeless, and this will increase your chance of developing depression.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Get properly supported</strong> – If your mental health, especially depression or anxiety symptoms, have worsened you can find a therapist to help process this with you. You can also find or create an online support group of people in a similar situation. You may find that some live locally enough for you to meet up.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Help your partner truly get it</strong> – If you are in a <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/04/26/what-is-couple-mindedness/\" rel=\"noopener\">couple relationship</a>, help your partner understand the situation from your side. They need to understand a few things. These include, that they cannot make this better for you. That this is always there for you, beneath the surface, and this can impact your mood from time to time. Finally, that the difference between your two situations is tricky to manage sometimes, for example, when a family comes over it can bring up your own situation of being trapped without a way to get home. If this is difficult to do together, then find a couples therapist to help you communicate this in a way your partner can really understand.</p>','How Our Closed Border Policies Impact Our Mental Health & Our Couple Relationships','','inherit','closed','closed','','4907-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:30:36','2022-08-07 11:30:36','',4907,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4913',0,'revision','',0),(4914,1,'2022-08-07 11:30:36','2022-08-07 11:30:36','<p>When the coronavirus pandemic began and quickly spread across regions of the world, our country’s leaders determined it best to firmly close our Australian borders to prevent the escalation of the virus and to keep us safe. This firm border policy has earned us the nickname “Fortress Australia”.</p><p> </p><p>The difficulty we face, is that 1.5 years into the pandemic, hundreds of thousands of people have been and are still impacted by this policy, causing great distress to those either stuck inside or those kept helplessly outside of the “<a href=\"https://www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-57224635\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">fortress</a>” Australia.</p><p>On the news channels, we have heard their voices and seen their frustration as these Australians stranded around the globe just cannot get home to be with loved ones. Many have lost patience with the policy and given up trying to return as the process has been too distressing.</p><p>As a therapist working with both individuals and couples, I am seeing many of the impacts in my consulting room for those unable to travel to their native countries. For people who have settled in Australia from overseas, they live permanently with a tear in their heart, as they miss their home country and loved ones, despite their love of living in Australia. Their inability to travel currently massively increases the size of their tear. Many of them are frustrated and distressed at not being able to visit their home country and feel completely trapped by this policy.</p><p>The most devastating experience for them is when a family member or loved one overseas is dying and they are unable to be by their side to pay their respects. Then there is the funeral. With no friends or family from home to support them, just themselves and maybe their partner watching a service on a screen, often in the late hours of the night. It is just soul-destroying for them having to farewell a loved one via Facetime.</p><p>I see a young couple in my consulting room, where the wife is Italian and the husband Australian. She was unable to return to Italy when her mother was dying. She felt cut-off and disconnected from those who were grieving in her home country together. Her mental health declined rapidly as she became depressed and started to withdraw into herself. For those in her position, they live with a deep sense of loneliness and despair, a longing for home, and a sense of helplessness about their situation.</p><p>Many people seeking permission to leave Fortress Australia have been denied it, whilst others manage to get out on compassionate grounds. The next option for people who have been denied permission to leave on compassionate grounds is to apply to leave the country for 3 months. 3 months! How is this even a viable option? How many of us can really walk out of our day-to-day lives for three months? How do we leave our family here in Australia? What about our partner? What happens to our relationship? How do we leave our children for three months? What happens to our work or studies? I am yet to meet anyone who is able to take this option up.</p><p>For people struggling with this, I have three tips -</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Never give up</strong> – Keep applying to home affairs to have your request heard. Do not accept the decision is final. If you give up your mental health will likely decline as you will feel helpless and hopeless, and this will increase your chance of developing depression.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Get properly supported</strong> – If your mental health, especially depression or anxiety symptoms, have worsened you can find a therapist to help process this with you. You can also find or create an online support group of people in a similar situation. You may find that some live locally enough for you to meet up.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Help your partner truly get it</strong> – If you are in a <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/04/26/what-is-couple-mindedness/\" rel=\"noopener\">couple relationship</a>, help your partner understand the situation from your side. They need to understand a few things. These include, that they cannot make this better for you. That this is always there for you, beneath the surface, and this can impact your mood from time to time. Finally, that the difference between your two situations is tricky to manage sometimes, for example, when a family comes over it can bring up your own situation of being trapped without a way to get home. If this is difficult to do together, then find a couples therapist to help you communicate this in a way your partner can really understand.</p>','How Our Closed Border Policies Impact Our Mental Health & Our Couple Relationships','','inherit','closed','closed','','4907-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:30:36','2022-08-07 11:30:36','',4907,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4914',0,'revision','',0),(4915,1,'2022-08-07 11:30:36','2022-08-07 11:30:36','<p>When the coronavirus pandemic began and quickly spread across regions of the world, our country’s leaders determined it best to firmly close our Australian borders to prevent the escalation of the virus and to keep us safe. This firm border policy has earned us the nickname “Fortress Australia”.</p><p>The difficulty we face, is that 1.5 years into the pandemic, hundreds of thousands of people have been and are still impacted by this policy, causing great distress to those either stuck inside or those kept helplessly outside of the “<a href=\"https://www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-57224635\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">fortress</a>” Australia.</p><p>On the news channels, we have heard their voices and seen their frustration as these Australians stranded around the globe just cannot get home to be with loved ones. Many have lost patience with the policy and given up trying to return as the process has been too distressing.</p><p>As a therapist working with both individuals and couples, I am seeing many of the impacts in my consulting room for those unable to travel to their native countries. For people who have settled in Australia from overseas, they live permanently with a tear in their heart, as they miss their home country and loved ones, despite their love of living in Australia. Their inability to travel currently massively increases the size of their tear. Many of them are frustrated and distressed at not being able to visit their home country and feel completely trapped by this policy.</p><p>The most devastating experience for them is when a family member or loved one overseas is dying and they are unable to be by their side to pay their respects. Then there is the funeral. With no friends or family from home to support them, just themselves and maybe their partner watching a service on a screen, often in the late hours of the night. It is just soul-destroying for them having to farewell a loved one via Facetime.</p><p>I see a young couple in my consulting room, where the wife is Italian and the husband Australian. She was unable to return to Italy when her mother was dying. She felt cut-off and disconnected from those who were grieving in her home country together. Her mental health declined rapidly as she became depressed and started to withdraw into herself. For those in her position, they live with a deep sense of loneliness and despair, a longing for home, and a sense of helplessness about their situation.</p><p>Many people seeking permission to leave Fortress Australia have been denied it, whilst others manage to get out on compassionate grounds. The next option for people who have been denied permission to leave on compassionate grounds is to apply to leave the country for 3 months. 3 months! How is this even a viable option? How many of us can really walk out of our day-to-day lives for three months? How do we leave our family here in Australia? What about our partner? What happens to our relationship? How do we leave our children for three months? What happens to our work or studies? I am yet to meet anyone who is able to take this option up.</p><p>For people struggling with this, I have three tips -</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Never give up</strong> – Keep applying to home affairs to have your request heard. Do not accept the decision is final. If you give up your mental health will likely decline as you will feel helpless and hopeless, and this will increase your chance of developing depression.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Get properly supported</strong> – If your mental health, especially depression or anxiety symptoms, have worsened you can find a therapist to help process this with you. You can also find or create an online support group of people in a similar situation. You may find that some live locally enough for you to meet up.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Help your partner truly get it</strong> – If you are in a <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/04/26/what-is-couple-mindedness/\" rel=\"noopener\">couple relationship</a>, help your partner understand the situation from your side. They need to understand a few things. These include, that they cannot make this better for you. That this is always there for you, beneath the surface, and this can impact your mood from time to time. Finally, that the difference between your two situations is tricky to manage sometimes, for example, when a family comes over it can bring up your own situation of being trapped without a way to get home. If this is difficult to do together, then find a couples therapist to help you communicate this in a way your partner can really understand.</p>','How Our Closed Border Policies Impact Our Mental Health & Our Couple Relationships','','inherit','closed','closed','','4907-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:30:36','2022-08-07 11:30:36','',4907,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4915',0,'revision','',0),(4916,1,'2021-07-14 11:34:19','2021-07-14 11:34:19','<p>As a therapist, I am seeing first-hand the distressing impact of lockdown on couple relationships. Many were greatly impacted by the first 2-week stint, however, the recent extension of restrictions and the increasing infection cases has created greater anxiety and even depression. This is all made worse as there is no certainty to an end. Many couples suffer behind closed doors and relationships are becoming the often-unseen victims of the pandemic.</p><p>Partners are describing living in “a pressure cooker” with increased work and home life demands, and for many, there is greater financial strain. Many are <a href=\"https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/health/mental-health/new-study-reveals-worrying-mental-health-numbers-for-those-stuck-in-lockdown/news-story/f7d739148bae5294a1b956000340087c\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">distressed</a> at how they will manage their own work responsibilities as well as overseeing their children’s homeschooling. On top of this, some couples have much younger children around who would normally be in daycare or with nannies. The domestic workload is huge, and partners describe feeling very overwhelmed and anxious.</p><p>For many couples, if there were any cracks in the relationship before the pandemic, the pressure of <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/07/13/how-our-closed-border-policies-impact-our-mental-health-our-couple-relationships/\">lockdowns</a> rips these cracks wide open. This is being seen across the world, as greater numbers of people are looking for advice online on how to help their couple relationship.</p><p>My clinic in Sydney is receiving more and more requests for couples therapy. Partners are desperate to improve their communication, and many just want to stop the fights. Some contact my clinic concerned about their partner’s increasing alcohol intake, whilst others are withdrawing from their partner. Some are worried that they are losing interest in being intimate and don’t feel much of a couple anymore. A recent research study from the University of Indiana echoes what I am seeing. They found that since the pandemic, 34% of participants reported increased conflict in their relationship and decreased intimacy.</p><p>For many people in relationships, lockdown and the pandemic, in general, has left them watching so much more Netflix, wearing their tracksuits all the time, not making an effort with each other, not going out and being a couple in the world, and having less hugs, kisses, or sex. As this lockdown continues, permanent damage can occur in relationships when partners feel less desire for their partner and less desirable to their partner. All of this opens the door to less satisfaction in the relationship and can cause mental health to deteriorate.</p><p>What I do know is that these conditions are dangerous for couples over time, as partners become increasingly lonely and unhappy. If this goes on much longer it can move couples closer to separation and divorce. Many family lawyers are reporting 33% more enquiries for separation advice in the last year, than previously.</p><p>As you can see, the fallout from the pandemic, and even more so with lockdowns, is concerning and we need to take our couple relationships seriously and protect them. Many couples wish they had prevented this damage from occurring much earlier in the pandemic.</p><p>Here are 3 tips to make sure you keep your eyes on your relationship - </p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Put intimacy on the agenda</strong> – It is vital you keep being intimate with your partner. Make the effort to connect emotionally, physically and sexually. Create opportunities to be playful and connected. You will need to turn off Netflix and digital devices. Be attentive to your partner.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Turn up the fun</strong> – Being regimented and routine is seriously dull for partners. The human brain likes new experiences and creativity and so do couple relationships. Create fun opportunities together. You could cook a new meal together, create a date night at home, catch up with another couple online together. You could also do a course together either for fun or one to improve your couple relationship.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Allow each partner time out and space</strong> – During lockdown and the pandemic, partners are couped up together. Allow each other space and time to be alone and also to connect with others. It is important for you both to be individuals whilst also being in your relationship.</p>','The Distressing Impact of Lockdown on Couple Relationships','','publish','open','open','','the-distressing-impact-of-lockdown-on-relationships','','https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/04/26/what-is-couple-mindedness/\nhttps://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/07/13/how-our-closed-border-policies-impact-our-mental-health-our-couple-relationships/','2022-08-07 11:40:42','2022-08-07 11:40:42','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4916',0,'post','',0),(4917,1,'2022-08-07 11:35:21','2022-08-07 11:35:21','','Coronavirus,Lockdow.,Bored,Family,Watching,Tv,Helpless,In,Isolation,At','','inherit','open','closed','','coronaviruslockdow-boredfamilywatchingtvhelplessinisolationat','','','2022-08-07 11:35:21','2022-08-07 11:35:21','',4916,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/20210714.jpeg',0,'attachment','image/jpeg',0),(4918,1,'2022-08-07 11:35:41','2022-08-07 11:35:41','When the coronavirus pandemic began and quickly spread across regions of the world, our country’s leaders determined it best to firmly close our Australian borders to prevent the escalation of the virus and to keep us safe. This firm border policy has earned us the nickname “Fortress Australia”.\r\n\r\nThe difficulty we face, is that 1.5 years into the pandemic, hundreds of thousands of people have been and are still impacted by this policy, causing great distress to those either stuck inside or those kept helplessly outside of the “<a href=\"https://www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-57224635\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">fortress</a>” Australia.\r\n\r\nOn the news channels, we have heard their voices and seen their frustration as these Australians stranded around the globe just cannot get home to be with loved ones. Many have lost patience with the policy and given up trying to return as the process has been too distressing.\r\n\r\nAs a therapist working with both individuals and couples, I am seeing many of the impacts in my consulting room for those unable to travel to their native countries. For people who have settled in Australia from overseas, they live permanently with a tear in their heart, as they miss their home country and loved ones, despite their love of living in Australia. Their inability to travel currently massively increases the size of their tear. Many of them are frustrated and distressed at not being able to visit their home country and feel completely trapped by this policy.\r\n\r\nThe most devastating experience for them is when a family member or loved one overseas is dying and they are unable to be by their side to pay their respects. Then there is the funeral. With no friends or family from home to support them, just themselves and maybe their partner watching a service on a screen, often in the late hours of the night. It is just soul-destroying for them having to farewell a loved one via Facetime.\r\n\r\nI see a young couple in my consulting room, where the wife is Italian and the husband Australian. She was unable to return to Italy when her mother was dying. She felt cut-off and disconnected from those who were grieving in her home country together. Her mental health declined rapidly as she became depressed and started to withdraw into herself. For those in her position, they live with a deep sense of loneliness and despair, a longing for home, and a sense of helplessness about their situation.\r\n\r\nMany people seeking permission to leave Fortress Australia have been denied it, whilst others manage to get out on compassionate grounds. The next option for people who have been denied permission to leave on compassionate grounds is to apply to leave the country for 3 months. 3 months! How is this even a viable option? How many of us can really walk out of our day-to-day lives for three months? How do we leave our family here in Australia? What about our partner? What happens to our relationship? How do we leave our children for three months? What happens to our work or studies? I am yet to meet anyone who is able to take this option up.\r\n\r\nFor people struggling with this, I have three tips -\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Never give up</strong> – Keep applying to home affairs to have your request heard. Do not accept the decision is final. If you give up your mental health will likely decline as you will feel helpless and hopeless, and this will increase your chance of developing depression.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Get properly supported</strong> – If your mental health, especially depression or anxiety symptoms, have worsened you can find a therapist to help process this with you. You can also find or create an online support group of people in a similar situation. You may find that some live locally enough for you to meet up.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Help your partner truly get it</strong> – If you are in a <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/04/26/what-is-couple-mindedness/\" rel=\"noopener\">couple relationship</a>, help your partner understand the situation from your side. They need to understand a few things. These include, that they cannot make this better for you. That this is always there for you, beneath the surface, and this can impact your mood from time to time. Finally, that the difference between your two situations is tricky to manage sometimes, for example, when a family comes over it can bring up your own situation of being trapped without a way to get home. If this is difficult to do together, then find a couples therapist to help you communicate this in a way your partner can really understand.','The Distressing Impact of Lockdown on Couple Relationships','','inherit','closed','closed','','4916-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:35:41','2022-08-07 11:35:41','',4916,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4918',0,'revision','',0),(4919,1,'2022-08-07 11:37:29','2022-08-07 11:37:29','When the coronavirus pandemic began and quickly spread across regions of the world, our country’s leaders determined it best to firmly close our Australian borders to prevent the escalation of the virus and to keep us safe. This firm border policy has earned us the nickname “Fortress Australia”.\r\n\r\nThe difficulty we face, is that 1.5 years into the pandemic, hundreds of thousands of people have been and are still impacted by this policy, causing great distress to those either stuck inside or those kept helplessly outside of the “<a href=\"https://www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-57224635\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">fortress</a>” Australia.\r\n\r\nOn the news channels, we have heard their voices and seen their frustration as these Australians stranded around the globe just cannot get home to be with loved ones. Many have lost patience with the policy and given up trying to return as the process has been too distressing.\r\n\r\nAs a therapist working with both individuals and couples, I am seeing many of the impacts in my consulting room for those unable to travel to their native countries. For people who have settled in Australia from overseas, they live permanently with a tear in their heart, as they miss their home country and loved ones, despite their love of living in Australia. Their inability to travel currently massively increases the size of their tear. Many of them are frustrated and distressed at not being able to visit their home country and feel completely trapped by this policy.\r\n\r\nThe most devastating experience for them is when a family member or loved one overseas is dying and they are unable to be by their side to pay their respects. Then there is the funeral. With no friends or family from home to support them, just themselves and maybe their partner watching a service on a screen, often in the late hours of the night. It is just soul-destroying for them having to farewell a loved one via Facetime.\r\n\r\nI see a young couple in my consulting room, where the wife is Italian and the husband Australian. She was unable to return to Italy when her mother was dying. She felt cut-off and disconnected from those who were grieving in her home country together. Her mental health declined rapidly as she became depressed and started to withdraw into herself. For those in her position, they live with a deep sense of loneliness and despair, a longing for home, and a sense of helplessness about their situation.\r\n\r\nMany people seeking permission to leave Fortress Australia have been denied it, whilst others manage to get out on compassionate grounds. The next option for people who have been denied permission to leave on compassionate grounds is to apply to leave the country for 3 months. 3 months! How is this even a viable option? How many of us can really walk out of our day-to-day lives for three months? How do we leave our family here in Australia? What about our partner? What happens to our relationship? How do we leave our children for three months? What happens to our work or studies? I am yet to meet anyone who is able to take this option up.\r\n\r\nFor people struggling with this, I have three tips -\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Never give up</strong> – Keep applying to home affairs to have your request heard. Do not accept the decision is final. If you give up your mental health will likely decline as you will feel helpless and hopeless, and this will increase your chance of developing depression.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Get properly supported</strong> – If your mental health, especially depression or anxiety symptoms, have worsened you can find a therapist to help process this with you. You can also find or create an online support group of people in a similar situation. You may find that some live locally enough for you to meet up.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Help your partner truly get it</strong> – If you are in a <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/04/26/what-is-couple-mindedness/\" rel=\"noopener\">couple relationship</a>, help your partner understand the situation from your side. They need to understand a few things. These include, that they cannot make this better for you. That this is always there for you, beneath the surface, and this can impact your mood from time to time. Finally, that the difference between your two situations is tricky to manage sometimes, for example, when a family comes over it can bring up your own situation of being trapped without a way to get home. If this is difficult to do together, then find a couples therapist to help you communicate this in a way your partner can really understand.','The Distressing Impact of Lockdown on Couple Relationships','','inherit','closed','closed','','4916-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:37:29','2022-08-07 11:37:29','',4916,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4919',0,'revision','',0),(4921,1,'2022-08-07 11:40:41','2022-08-07 11:40:41','When the coronavirus pandemic began and quickly spread across regions of the world, our country’s leaders determined it best to firmly close our Australian borders to prevent the escalation of the virus and to keep us safe. This firm border policy has earned us the nickname “Fortress Australia”.\r\n\r\nThe difficulty we face, is that 1.5 years into the pandemic, hundreds of thousands of people have been and are still impacted by this policy, causing great distress to those either stuck inside or those kept helplessly outside of the “<a href=\"https://www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-57224635\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">fortress</a>” Australia.\r\n\r\nOn the news channels, we have heard their voices and seen their frustration as these Australians stranded around the globe just cannot get home to be with loved ones. Many have lost patience with the policy and given up trying to return as the process has been too distressing.\r\n\r\nAs a therapist working with both individuals and couples, I am seeing many of the impacts in my consulting room for those unable to travel to their native countries. For people who have settled in Australia from overseas, they live permanently with a tear in their heart, as they miss their home country and loved ones, despite their love of living in Australia. Their inability to travel currently massively increases the size of their tear. Many of them are frustrated and distressed at not being able to visit their home country and feel completely trapped by this policy.\r\n\r\nThe most devastating experience for them is when a family member or loved one overseas is dying and they are unable to be by their side to pay their respects. Then there is the funeral. With no friends or family from home to support them, just themselves and maybe their partner watching a service on a screen, often in the late hours of the night. It is just soul-destroying for them having to farewell a loved one via Facetime.\r\n\r\nI see a young couple in my consulting room, where the wife is Italian and the husband Australian. She was unable to return to Italy when her mother was dying. She felt cut-off and disconnected from those who were grieving in her home country together. Her mental health declined rapidly as she became depressed and started to withdraw into herself. For those in her position, they live with a deep sense of loneliness and despair, a longing for home, and a sense of helplessness about their situation.\r\n\r\nMany people seeking permission to leave Fortress Australia have been denied it, whilst others manage to get out on compassionate grounds. The next option for people who have been denied permission to leave on compassionate grounds is to apply to leave the country for 3 months. 3 months! How is this even a viable option? How many of us can really walk out of our day-to-day lives for three months? How do we leave our family here in Australia? What about our partner? What happens to our relationship? How do we leave our children for three months? What happens to our work or studies? I am yet to meet anyone who is able to take this option up.\r\n\r\nFor people struggling with this, I have three tips -\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Never give up</strong> – Keep applying to home affairs to have your request heard. Do not accept the decision is final. If you give up your mental health will likely decline as you will feel helpless and hopeless, and this will increase your chance of developing depression.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Get properly supported</strong> – If your mental health, especially depression or anxiety symptoms, have worsened you can find a therapist to help process this with you. You can also find or create an online support group of people in a similar situation. You may find that some live locally enough for you to meet up.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Help your partner truly get it</strong> – If you are in a <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/04/26/what-is-couple-mindedness/\" rel=\"noopener\">couple relationship</a>, help your partner understand the situation from your side. They need to understand a few things. These include, that they cannot make this better for you. That this is always there for you, beneath the surface, and this can impact your mood from time to time. Finally, that the difference between your two situations is tricky to manage sometimes, for example, when a family comes over it can bring up your own situation of being trapped without a way to get home. If this is difficult to do together, then find a couples therapist to help you communicate this in a way your partner can really understand.','The Distressing Impact of Lockdown on Couple Relationships','','inherit','closed','closed','','4916-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:40:41','2022-08-07 11:40:41','',4916,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4921',0,'revision','',0),(4922,1,'2022-08-07 11:40:42','2022-08-07 11:40:42','When the coronavirus pandemic began and quickly spread across regions of the world, our country’s leaders determined it best to firmly close our Australian borders to prevent the escalation of the virus and to keep us safe. This firm border policy has earned us the nickname “Fortress Australia”.\r\n\r\nThe difficulty we face, is that 1.5 years into the pandemic, hundreds of thousands of people have been and are still impacted by this policy, causing great distress to those either stuck inside or those kept helplessly outside of the “<a href=\"https://www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-57224635\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">fortress</a>” Australia.\r\n\r\nOn the news channels, we have heard their voices and seen their frustration as these Australians stranded around the globe just cannot get home to be with loved ones. Many have lost patience with the policy and given up trying to return as the process has been too distressing.\r\n\r\nAs a therapist working with both individuals and couples, I am seeing many of the impacts in my consulting room for those unable to travel to their native countries. For people who have settled in Australia from overseas, they live permanently with a tear in their heart, as they miss their home country and loved ones, despite their love of living in Australia. Their inability to travel currently massively increases the size of their tear. Many of them are frustrated and distressed at not being able to visit their home country and feel completely trapped by this policy.\r\n\r\nThe most devastating experience for them is when a family member or loved one overseas is dying and they are unable to be by their side to pay their respects. Then there is the funeral. With no friends or family from home to support them, just themselves and maybe their partner watching a service on a screen, often in the late hours of the night. It is just soul-destroying for them having to farewell a loved one via Facetime.\r\n\r\nI see a young couple in my consulting room, where the wife is Italian and the husband Australian. She was unable to return to Italy when her mother was dying. She felt cut-off and disconnected from those who were grieving in her home country together. Her mental health declined rapidly as she became depressed and started to withdraw into herself. For those in her position, they live with a deep sense of loneliness and despair, a longing for home, and a sense of helplessness about their situation.\r\n\r\nMany people seeking permission to leave Fortress Australia have been denied it, whilst others manage to get out on compassionate grounds. The next option for people who have been denied permission to leave on compassionate grounds is to apply to leave the country for 3 months. 3 months! How is this even a viable option? How many of us can really walk out of our day-to-day lives for three months? How do we leave our family here in Australia? What about our partner? What happens to our relationship? How do we leave our children for three months? What happens to our work or studies? I am yet to meet anyone who is able to take this option up.\r\n\r\nFor people struggling with this, I have three tips -\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Never give up</strong> – Keep applying to home affairs to have your request heard. Do not accept the decision is final. If you give up your mental health will likely decline as you will feel helpless and hopeless, and this will increase your chance of developing depression.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Get properly supported</strong> – If your mental health, especially depression or anxiety symptoms, have worsened you can find a therapist to help process this with you. You can also find or create an online support group of people in a similar situation. You may find that some live locally enough for you to meet up.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Help your partner truly get it</strong> – If you are in a <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/04/26/what-is-couple-mindedness/\" rel=\"noopener\">couple relationship</a>, help your partner understand the situation from your side. They need to understand a few things. These include, that they cannot make this better for you. That this is always there for you, beneath the surface, and this can impact your mood from time to time. Finally, that the difference between your two situations is tricky to manage sometimes, for example, when a family comes over it can bring up your own situation of being trapped without a way to get home. If this is difficult to do together, then find a couples therapist to help you communicate this in a way your partner can really understand.','The Distressing Impact of Lockdown on Couple Relationships','','inherit','closed','closed','','4916-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:40:42','2022-08-07 11:40:42','',4916,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4922',0,'revision','',0),(4923,1,'2022-08-07 11:40:42','2022-08-07 11:40:42','<p>As a therapist, I am seeing first-hand the distressing impact of lockdown on couple relationships. Many were greatly impacted by the first 2-week stint, however, the recent extension of restrictions and the increasing infection cases has created greater anxiety and even depression. This is all made worse as there is no certainty to an end. Many couples suffer behind closed doors and relationships are becoming the often-unseen victims of the pandemic.</p><p>Partners are describing living in “a pressure cooker” with increased work and home life demands, and for many, there is greater financial strain. Many are <a href=\"https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/health/mental-health/new-study-reveals-worrying-mental-health-numbers-for-those-stuck-in-lockdown/news-story/f7d739148bae5294a1b956000340087c\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">distressed</a> at how they will manage their own work responsibilities as well as overseeing their children’s homeschooling. On top of this, some couples have much younger children around who would normally be in daycare or with nannies. The domestic workload is huge, and partners describe feeling very overwhelmed and anxious.</p><p>For many couples, if there were any cracks in the relationship before the pandemic, the pressure of <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/07/13/how-our-closed-border-policies-impact-our-mental-health-our-couple-relationships/\">lockdowns</a> rips these cracks wide open. This is being seen across the world, as greater numbers of people are looking for advice online on how to help their couple relationship.</p><p>My clinic in Sydney is receiving more and more requests for couples therapy. Partners are desperate to improve their communication, and many just want to stop the fights. Some contact my clinic concerned about their partner’s increasing alcohol intake, whilst others are withdrawing from their partner. Some are worried that they are losing interest in being intimate and don’t feel much of a couple anymore. A recent research study from the University of Indiana echoes what I am seeing. They found that since the pandemic, 34% of participants reported increased conflict in their relationship and decreased intimacy.</p><p>For many people in relationships, lockdown and the pandemic, in general, has left them watching so much more Netflix, wearing their tracksuits all the time, not making an effort with each other, not going out and being a couple in the world, and having less hugs, kisses, or sex. As this lockdown continues, permanent damage can occur in relationships when partners feel less desire for their partner and less desirable to their partner. All of this opens the door to less satisfaction in the relationship and can cause mental health to deteriorate.</p><p>What I do know is that these conditions are dangerous for couples over time, as partners become increasingly lonely and unhappy. If this goes on much longer it can move couples closer to separation and divorce. Many family lawyers are reporting 33% more enquiries for separation advice in the last year, than previously.</p><p>As you can see, the fallout from the pandemic, and even more so with lockdowns, is concerning and we need to take our couple relationships seriously and protect them. Many couples wish they had prevented this damage from occurring much earlier in the pandemic.</p><p>Here are 3 tips to make sure you keep your eyes on your relationship - </p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Put intimacy on the agenda</strong> – It is vital you keep being intimate with your partner. Make the effort to connect emotionally, physically and sexually. Create opportunities to be playful and connected. You will need to turn off Netflix and digital devices. Be attentive to your partner.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Turn up the fun</strong> – Being regimented and routine is seriously dull for partners. The human brain likes new experiences and creativity and so do couple relationships. Create fun opportunities together. You could cook a new meal together, create a date night at home, catch up with another couple online together. You could also do a course together either for fun or one to improve your couple relationship.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Allow each partner time out and space</strong> – During lockdown and the pandemic, partners are couped up together. Allow each other space and time to be alone and also to connect with others. It is important for you both to be individuals whilst also being in your relationship.</p>','The Distressing Impact of Lockdown on Couple Relationships','','inherit','closed','closed','','4916-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:40:42','2022-08-07 11:40:42','',4916,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4923',0,'revision','',0),(4924,1,'2022-08-07 11:41:47','2022-08-07 11:41:47','When the coronavirus pandemic began and quickly spread across regions of the world, our country’s leaders determined it best to firmly close our Australian borders to prevent the escalation of the virus and to keep us safe. This firm border policy has earned us the nickname “Fortress Australia”.\r\n\r\nThe difficulty we face, is that 1.5 years into the pandemic, hundreds of thousands of people have been and are still impacted by this policy, causing great distress to those either stuck inside or those kept helplessly outside of the “<a href=\"https://www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-57224635\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">fortress</a>” Australia.\r\n\r\nOn the news channels, we have heard their voices and seen their frustration as these Australians stranded around the globe just cannot get home to be with loved ones. Many have lost patience with the policy and given up trying to return as the process has been too distressing.\r\n\r\nAs a therapist working with both individuals and couples, I am seeing many of the impacts in my consulting room for those unable to travel to their native countries. For people who have settled in Australia from overseas, they live permanently with a tear in their heart, as they miss their home country and loved ones, despite their love of living in Australia. Their inability to travel currently massively increases the size of their tear. Many of them are frustrated and distressed at not being able to visit their home country and feel completely trapped by this policy.\r\n\r\nThe most devastating experience for them is when a family member or loved one overseas is dying and they are unable to be by their side to pay their respects. Then there is the funeral. With no friends or family from home to support them, just themselves and maybe their partner watching a service on a screen, often in the late hours of the night. It is just soul-destroying for them having to farewell a loved one via Facetime.\r\n\r\nI see a young couple in my consulting room, where the wife is Italian and the husband Australian. She was unable to return to Italy when her mother was dying. She felt cut-off and disconnected from those who were grieving in her home country together. Her mental health declined rapidly as she became depressed and started to withdraw into herself. For those in her position, they live with a deep sense of loneliness and despair, a longing for home, and a sense of helplessness about their situation.\r\n\r\nMany people seeking permission to leave Fortress Australia have been denied it, whilst others manage to get out on compassionate grounds. The next option for people who have been denied permission to leave on compassionate grounds is to apply to leave the country for 3 months. 3 months! How is this even a viable option? How many of us can really walk out of our day-to-day lives for three months? How do we leave our family here in Australia? What about our partner? What happens to our relationship? How do we leave our children for three months? What happens to our work or studies? I am yet to meet anyone who is able to take this option up.\r\n\r\nFor people struggling with this, I have three tips -\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Never give up</strong> – Keep applying to home affairs to have your request heard. Do not accept the decision is final. If you give up your mental health will likely decline as you will feel helpless and hopeless, and this will increase your chance of developing depression.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Get properly supported</strong> – If your mental health, especially depression or anxiety symptoms, have worsened you can find a therapist to help process this with you. You can also find or create an online support group of people in a similar situation. You may find that some live locally enough for you to meet up.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Help your partner truly get it</strong> – If you are in a <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/04/26/what-is-couple-mindedness/\" rel=\"noopener\">couple relationship</a>, help your partner understand the situation from your side. They need to understand a few things. These include, that they cannot make this better for you. That this is always there for you, beneath the surface, and this can impact your mood from time to time. Finally, that the difference between your two situations is tricky to manage sometimes, for example, when a family comes over it can bring up your own situation of being trapped without a way to get home. If this is difficult to do together, then find a couples therapist to help you communicate this in a way your partner can really understand.','How Our Closed Border Policies Impact Our Mental Health & Our Couple Relationships','','inherit','closed','closed','','4907-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:41:47','2022-08-07 11:41:47','',4907,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4924',0,'revision','',0),(4925,1,'2021-08-02 11:42:54','2021-08-02 11:42:54','<p>Throughout history, humans across the world have endured the rampant effects of epidemics and pandemics. We, however, are living in extraordinary times as news agencies, the web, and social media platforms allow us to see the impact of the Covid-19 pandemic across the world. At the touch of a button, we have access to the latest Covid-19 statistics, the opinions and advice of health experts, and our politicians trying to manage the impacts.</p><p>We all can tune in to Glady’s daily Covid briefing, listening for the latest hotspots and infection numbers, and how many of these have been living normally “in the community”. We may stare at them intently for any additional clues – is Gladys fearful? Is the state losing control of this one? Why is Brad Hazzard so upset today? Kerry Chant sounds worried as she pleads for us to take lockdown seriously and to get vaccinated. Then in the evening news, Scott Morrison shares with us why we can now trust AstraZeneca.</p><p>We are all listening. We are re-evaluating the potential repercussions for our own lives. We watch and speak about this day in and day out. Children across the country are playing Premier and Chief Health Officer. Even young toddlers are watching and listening. They know how masks are worn and stick out their hand for hand sanitiser. Last Christmas, I chose Kerry Chant as the person for my family to guess in the Name Game.</p><p>We listen, we research, and we speak repeatedly with our family, friends, colleagues, and clients about the extraordinary times we are in. We share the horror stories about Covid and long Covid or speak about those who had such mild symptoms they barely knew they had it. We share our perspectives on many aspects of the pandemic, and we want others to agree with us. We feel less anxious when others agree with our perspective. It helps us feel as if we are on the right path.</p><p>We may judge others rather harshly for not sharing our perspectives. We may even dismiss others from our lives for holding a viewpoint that’s different to ours. The cancel culture is alive and kicking. It is critical to remember that we all have our own agenda that informs our perspective. We all hold a different piece of the <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/07/14/the-distressing-impact-of-lockdown-on-relationships/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">pandemic</a> puzzle. I can tell you that anxiety and fear sit underneath every single piece of the puzzle.</p><p>So what are we anxious and fearful about? Big stuff – our security, our lives, our families, and our sense of wellbeing. The list is long, so take a breath. We are all dealing with so much. Here goes we are anxious and fearful about our finances, the survival of our businesses, job security, our career development being on hold, saying no to our employers for fear of being sacked, our children’s social isolation, our parents who we can’t see, not seeing our grandchildren, parents who are getting older and/or sicker, living in lockdown with domestic violence and not being able to get out, being home with children all day, our growing dependence on alcohol, our loss of contact with friends, our secret gambling habit, being home so much with our partner, the news cycle, not being with our family overseas, not getting a mammogram or going to the dentist for fear of catching Covid, losing our freedom and rights with a future determine by a vaccine passport, which vaccine to have, whether to vaccinate at all, the long-term health implications of new vaccinations with no data yet, the side effects of vaccinations, balancing the fear of Covid and long Covid and vaccinations, this pandemic never ending, what to do with a strained and worsening couple relationship, loneliness, worsening mental health, who to lay off at work, not enough space at home, concern for the future, uptight, increased reactivity, body pains and tension, being isolated, losing friends, overwhelmed, guilt over not making contact with friends and family, no alone time, feeling a burden on others, not sleeping properly, mounting deferred tax debt, and so many more.</p><p>This list is maddening. We all have some or many of these anxieties and fears. We need to stop the madness and the enormous stress on our minds and bodies from these anxieties. We need to do it differently now. It’s been too much for too long. It is now time to listen. But who to? For our mental health and wellbeing, we need to sit quietly and listen to ourselves. We all need to change the way we manage this and take responsibility for what we put onto others. So let’s look at how to do this.</p><p>Here are my top tips - </p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Have a Covid fast. It’s all negative. Turn off the constant news reports on Covid. Stop sharing your perspective. Stop looking for others to agree with you or trying to persuade them to think or behave like you. Stop judging people. Find other areas of connection with others.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Make it a priority to calm down. Take note of how worked-up and stressed your nervous system is and make it a priority to calm down. The best way to do this is with breathing exercises. We have the amazing capacity to calm our nerves just by using our breath. Breathing slowly and evenly through our nose to our stomach for 5 seconds, then breathe out for 5 seconds slowly. Repeat 5 times – let your mind follow your breath. This exercise sends a message to our brain via the vagus nerve to ‘de-stress’ and calm down. It is so simple.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Remember joy and happiness. Sit quietly and remember what you really enjoy. Ask yourself, what can I do that makes me smile, bring joy, create, discover, or learn? For some it is reading, learning a language, going for a walk, taking a bath, cooking new meals, walking in nature, connecting online, time with pets, writing a journal, find an interesting online course, learn a new game.</p><p>What have you discovered or rediscovered during this pandemic that brings you joy? Share with me in the comments below, I would love to hear.</p>','If There is a Time for Listening it’s Now – But To Whom?','','publish','open','open','','if-there-is-a-time-for-listening-its-now-but-to-whom','','\nhttps://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/07/14/the-distressing-impact-of-lockdown-on-relationships/','2022-08-07 11:51:02','2022-08-07 11:51:02','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4925',0,'post','',0),(4926,1,'2022-08-07 11:44:09','2022-08-07 11:44:09','','20210802','','inherit','open','closed','','20210802','','','2022-08-07 11:44:09','2022-08-07 11:44:09','',4925,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/20210802.jpeg',0,'attachment','image/jpeg',0),(4927,1,'2022-08-07 11:47:07','2022-08-07 11:47:07','As a therapist, I am seeing first-hand the distressing impact of lockdown on couple relationships. Many were greatly impacted by the first 2-week stint, however, the recent extension of restrictions and the increasing infection cases has created greater anxiety and even depression. This is all made worse as there is no certainty to an end. Many couples suffer behind closed doors and relationships are becoming the often-unseen victims of the pandemic.\r\n\r\nPartners are describing living in “a pressure cooker” with increased work and home life demands, and for many, there is greater financial strain. Many are <a href=\"https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/health/mental-health/new-study-reveals-worrying-mental-health-numbers-for-those-stuck-in-lockdown/news-story/f7d739148bae5294a1b956000340087c\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">distressed</a> at how they will manage their own work responsibilities as well as overseeing their children’s homeschooling. On top of this, some couples have much younger children around who would normally be in daycare or with nannies. The domestic workload is huge, and partners describe feeling very overwhelmed and anxious.\r\n\r\nFor many couples, if there were any cracks in the relationship before the pandemic, the pressure of <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/07/13/how-our-closed-border-policies-impact-our-mental-health-our-couple-relationships/\">lockdowns</a> rips these cracks wide open. This is being seen across the world, as greater numbers of people are looking for advice online on how to help their couple relationship.\r\n\r\nMy clinic in Sydney is receiving more and more requests for couples therapy. Partners are desperate to improve their communication, and many just want to stop the fights. Some contact my clinic concerned about their partner’s increasing alcohol intake, whilst others are withdrawing from their partner. Some are worried that they are losing interest in being intimate and don’t feel much of a couple anymore. A recent research study from the University of Indiana echoes what I am seeing. They found that since the pandemic, 34% of participants reported increased conflict in their relationship and decreased intimacy.\r\n\r\nFor many people in relationships, lockdown and the pandemic, in general, has left them watching so much more Netflix, wearing their tracksuits all the time, not making an effort with each other, not going out and being a couple in the world, and having less hugs, kisses, or sex. As this lockdown continues, permanent damage can occur in relationships when partners feel less desire for their partner and less desirable to their partner. All of this opens the door to less satisfaction in the relationship and can cause mental health to deteriorate.\r\n\r\nWhat I do know is that these conditions are dangerous for couples over time, as partners become increasingly lonely and unhappy. If this goes on much longer it can move couples closer to separation and divorce. Many family lawyers are reporting 33% more enquiries for separation advice in the last year, than previously.\r\n\r\nAs you can see, the fallout from the pandemic, and even more so with lockdowns, is concerning and we need to take our couple relationships seriously and protect them. Many couples wish they had prevented this damage from occurring much earlier in the pandemic.\r\n\r\nHere are 3 tips to make sure you keep your eyes on your relationship -\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Put intimacy on the agenda</strong> – It is vital you keep being intimate with your partner. Make the effort to connect emotionally, physically and sexually. Create opportunities to be playful and connected. You will need to turn off Netflix and digital devices. Be attentive to your partner.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Turn up the fun</strong> – Being regimented and routine is seriously dull for partners. The human brain likes new experiences and creativity and so do couple relationships. Create fun opportunities together. You could cook a new meal together, create a date night at home, catch up with another couple online together. You could also do a course together either for fun or one to improve your couple relationship.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Allow each partner time out and space</strong> – During lockdown and the pandemic, partners are couped up together. Allow each other space and time to be alone and also to connect with others. It is important for you both to be individuals whilst also being in your relationship.','If There is a Time for Listening it’s Now – But To Whom?','','inherit','closed','closed','','4925-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:47:07','2022-08-07 11:47:07','',4925,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4927',0,'revision','',0),(4928,1,'2022-08-07 11:51:02','2022-08-07 11:51:02','As a therapist, I am seeing first-hand the distressing impact of lockdown on couple relationships. Many were greatly impacted by the first 2-week stint, however, the recent extension of restrictions and the increasing infection cases has created greater anxiety and even depression. This is all made worse as there is no certainty to an end. Many couples suffer behind closed doors and relationships are becoming the often-unseen victims of the pandemic.\r\n\r\nPartners are describing living in “a pressure cooker” with increased work and home life demands, and for many, there is greater financial strain. Many are <a href=\"https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/health/mental-health/new-study-reveals-worrying-mental-health-numbers-for-those-stuck-in-lockdown/news-story/f7d739148bae5294a1b956000340087c\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">distressed</a> at how they will manage their own work responsibilities as well as overseeing their children’s homeschooling. On top of this, some couples have much younger children around who would normally be in daycare or with nannies. The domestic workload is huge, and partners describe feeling very overwhelmed and anxious.\r\n\r\nFor many couples, if there were any cracks in the relationship before the pandemic, the pressure of <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/07/13/how-our-closed-border-policies-impact-our-mental-health-our-couple-relationships/\">lockdowns</a> rips these cracks wide open. This is being seen across the world, as greater numbers of people are looking for advice online on how to help their couple relationship.\r\n\r\nMy clinic in Sydney is receiving more and more requests for couples therapy. Partners are desperate to improve their communication, and many just want to stop the fights. Some contact my clinic concerned about their partner’s increasing alcohol intake, whilst others are withdrawing from their partner. Some are worried that they are losing interest in being intimate and don’t feel much of a couple anymore. A recent research study from the University of Indiana echoes what I am seeing. They found that since the pandemic, 34% of participants reported increased conflict in their relationship and decreased intimacy.\r\n\r\nFor many people in relationships, lockdown and the pandemic, in general, has left them watching so much more Netflix, wearing their tracksuits all the time, not making an effort with each other, not going out and being a couple in the world, and having less hugs, kisses, or sex. As this lockdown continues, permanent damage can occur in relationships when partners feel less desire for their partner and less desirable to their partner. All of this opens the door to less satisfaction in the relationship and can cause mental health to deteriorate.\r\n\r\nWhat I do know is that these conditions are dangerous for couples over time, as partners become increasingly lonely and unhappy. If this goes on much longer it can move couples closer to separation and divorce. Many family lawyers are reporting 33% more enquiries for separation advice in the last year, than previously.\r\n\r\nAs you can see, the fallout from the pandemic, and even more so with lockdowns, is concerning and we need to take our couple relationships seriously and protect them. Many couples wish they had prevented this damage from occurring much earlier in the pandemic.\r\n\r\nHere are 3 tips to make sure you keep your eyes on your relationship -\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Put intimacy on the agenda</strong> – It is vital you keep being intimate with your partner. Make the effort to connect emotionally, physically and sexually. Create opportunities to be playful and connected. You will need to turn off Netflix and digital devices. Be attentive to your partner.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Turn up the fun</strong> – Being regimented and routine is seriously dull for partners. The human brain likes new experiences and creativity and so do couple relationships. Create fun opportunities together. You could cook a new meal together, create a date night at home, catch up with another couple online together. You could also do a course together either for fun or one to improve your couple relationship.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Allow each partner time out and space</strong> – During lockdown and the pandemic, partners are couped up together. Allow each other space and time to be alone and also to connect with others. It is important for you both to be individuals whilst also being in your relationship.','If There is a Time for Listening it’s Now – But To Whom?','','inherit','closed','closed','','4925-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:51:02','2022-08-07 11:51:02','',4925,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4928',0,'revision','',0),(4929,1,'2022-08-07 11:51:02','2022-08-07 11:51:02','As a therapist, I am seeing first-hand the distressing impact of lockdown on couple relationships. Many were greatly impacted by the first 2-week stint, however, the recent extension of restrictions and the increasing infection cases has created greater anxiety and even depression. This is all made worse as there is no certainty to an end. Many couples suffer behind closed doors and relationships are becoming the often-unseen victims of the pandemic.\r\n\r\nPartners are describing living in “a pressure cooker” with increased work and home life demands, and for many, there is greater financial strain. Many are <a href=\"https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/health/mental-health/new-study-reveals-worrying-mental-health-numbers-for-those-stuck-in-lockdown/news-story/f7d739148bae5294a1b956000340087c\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">distressed</a> at how they will manage their own work responsibilities as well as overseeing their children’s homeschooling. On top of this, some couples have much younger children around who would normally be in daycare or with nannies. The domestic workload is huge, and partners describe feeling very overwhelmed and anxious.\r\n\r\nFor many couples, if there were any cracks in the relationship before the pandemic, the pressure of <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/07/13/how-our-closed-border-policies-impact-our-mental-health-our-couple-relationships/\">lockdowns</a> rips these cracks wide open. This is being seen across the world, as greater numbers of people are looking for advice online on how to help their couple relationship.\r\n\r\nMy clinic in Sydney is receiving more and more requests for couples therapy. Partners are desperate to improve their communication, and many just want to stop the fights. Some contact my clinic concerned about their partner’s increasing alcohol intake, whilst others are withdrawing from their partner. Some are worried that they are losing interest in being intimate and don’t feel much of a couple anymore. A recent research study from the University of Indiana echoes what I am seeing. They found that since the pandemic, 34% of participants reported increased conflict in their relationship and decreased intimacy.\r\n\r\nFor many people in relationships, lockdown and the pandemic, in general, has left them watching so much more Netflix, wearing their tracksuits all the time, not making an effort with each other, not going out and being a couple in the world, and having less hugs, kisses, or sex. As this lockdown continues, permanent damage can occur in relationships when partners feel less desire for their partner and less desirable to their partner. All of this opens the door to less satisfaction in the relationship and can cause mental health to deteriorate.\r\n\r\nWhat I do know is that these conditions are dangerous for couples over time, as partners become increasingly lonely and unhappy. If this goes on much longer it can move couples closer to separation and divorce. Many family lawyers are reporting 33% more enquiries for separation advice in the last year, than previously.\r\n\r\nAs you can see, the fallout from the pandemic, and even more so with lockdowns, is concerning and we need to take our couple relationships seriously and protect them. Many couples wish they had prevented this damage from occurring much earlier in the pandemic.\r\n\r\nHere are 3 tips to make sure you keep your eyes on your relationship -\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Put intimacy on the agenda</strong> – It is vital you keep being intimate with your partner. Make the effort to connect emotionally, physically and sexually. Create opportunities to be playful and connected. You will need to turn off Netflix and digital devices. Be attentive to your partner.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Turn up the fun</strong> – Being regimented and routine is seriously dull for partners. The human brain likes new experiences and creativity and so do couple relationships. Create fun opportunities together. You could cook a new meal together, create a date night at home, catch up with another couple online together. You could also do a course together either for fun or one to improve your couple relationship.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\n<strong>Allow each partner time out and space</strong> – During lockdown and the pandemic, partners are couped up together. Allow each other space and time to be alone and also to connect with others. It is important for you both to be individuals whilst also being in your relationship.','If There is a Time for Listening it’s Now – But To Whom?','','inherit','closed','closed','','4925-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:51:02','2022-08-07 11:51:02','',4925,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4929',0,'revision','',0),(4930,1,'2022-08-07 11:51:02','2022-08-07 11:51:02','<p>Throughout history, humans across the world have endured the rampant effects of epidemics and pandemics. We, however, are living in extraordinary times as news agencies, the web, and social media platforms allow us to see the impact of the Covid-19 pandemic across the world. At the touch of a button, we have access to the latest Covid-19 statistics, the opinions and advice of health experts, and our politicians trying to manage the impacts.</p><p>We all can tune in to Glady’s daily Covid briefing, listening for the latest hotspots and infection numbers, and how many of these have been living normally “in the community”. We may stare at them intently for any additional clues – is Gladys fearful? Is the state losing control of this one? Why is Brad Hazzard so upset today? Kerry Chant sounds worried as she pleads for us to take lockdown seriously and to get vaccinated. Then in the evening news, Scott Morrison shares with us why we can now trust AstraZeneca.</p><p>We are all listening. We are re-evaluating the potential repercussions for our own lives. We watch and speak about this day in and day out. Children across the country are playing Premier and Chief Health Officer. Even young toddlers are watching and listening. They know how masks are worn and stick out their hand for hand sanitiser. Last Christmas, I chose Kerry Chant as the person for my family to guess in the Name Game.</p><p>We listen, we research, and we speak repeatedly with our family, friends, colleagues, and clients about the extraordinary times we are in. We share the horror stories about Covid and long Covid or speak about those who had such mild symptoms they barely knew they had it. We share our perspectives on many aspects of the pandemic, and we want others to agree with us. We feel less anxious when others agree with our perspective. It helps us feel as if we are on the right path.</p><p>We may judge others rather harshly for not sharing our perspectives. We may even dismiss others from our lives for holding a viewpoint that’s different to ours. The cancel culture is alive and kicking. It is critical to remember that we all have our own agenda that informs our perspective. We all hold a different piece of the <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/07/14/the-distressing-impact-of-lockdown-on-relationships/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">pandemic</a> puzzle. I can tell you that anxiety and fear sit underneath every single piece of the puzzle.</p><p>So what are we anxious and fearful about? Big stuff – our security, our lives, our families, and our sense of wellbeing. The list is long, so take a breath. We are all dealing with so much. Here goes we are anxious and fearful about our finances, the survival of our businesses, job security, our career development being on hold, saying no to our employers for fear of being sacked, our children’s social isolation, our parents who we can’t see, not seeing our grandchildren, parents who are getting older and/or sicker, living in lockdown with domestic violence and not being able to get out, being home with children all day, our growing dependence on alcohol, our loss of contact with friends, our secret gambling habit, being home so much with our partner, the news cycle, not being with our family overseas, not getting a mammogram or going to the dentist for fear of catching Covid, losing our freedom and rights with a future determine by a vaccine passport, which vaccine to have, whether to vaccinate at all, the long-term health implications of new vaccinations with no data yet, the side effects of vaccinations, balancing the fear of Covid and long Covid and vaccinations, this pandemic never ending, what to do with a strained and worsening couple relationship, loneliness, worsening mental health, who to lay off at work, not enough space at home, concern for the future, uptight, increased reactivity, body pains and tension, being isolated, losing friends, overwhelmed, guilt over not making contact with friends and family, no alone time, feeling a burden on others, not sleeping properly, mounting deferred tax debt, and so many more.</p><p>This list is maddening. We all have some or many of these anxieties and fears. We need to stop the madness and the enormous stress on our minds and bodies from these anxieties. We need to do it differently now. It’s been too much for too long. It is now time to listen. But who to? For our mental health and wellbeing, we need to sit quietly and listen to ourselves. We all need to change the way we manage this and take responsibility for what we put onto others. So let’s look at how to do this.</p><p>Here are my top tips - </p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Have a Covid fast. It’s all negative. Turn off the constant news reports on Covid. Stop sharing your perspective. Stop looking for others to agree with you or trying to persuade them to think or behave like you. Stop judging people. Find other areas of connection with others.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Make it a priority to calm down. Take note of how worked-up and stressed your nervous system is and make it a priority to calm down. The best way to do this is with breathing exercises. We have the amazing capacity to calm our nerves just by using our breath. Breathing slowly and evenly through our nose to our stomach for 5 seconds, then breathe out for 5 seconds slowly. Repeat 5 times – let your mind follow your breath. This exercise sends a message to our brain via the vagus nerve to ‘de-stress’ and calm down. It is so simple.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Remember joy and happiness. Sit quietly and remember what you really enjoy. Ask yourself, what can I do that makes me smile, bring joy, create, discover, or learn? For some it is reading, learning a language, going for a walk, taking a bath, cooking new meals, walking in nature, connecting online, time with pets, writing a journal, find an interesting online course, learn a new game.</p><p>What have you discovered or rediscovered during this pandemic that brings you joy? Share with me in the comments below, I would love to hear.</p>','If There is a Time for Listening it’s Now – But To Whom?','','inherit','closed','closed','','4925-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:51:02','2022-08-07 11:51:02','',4925,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4930',0,'revision','',0),(4931,1,'2021-08-10 11:52:04','2021-08-10 11:52:04','<p>I am yet to meet anyone who wants to go through a separation or divorce process. This is not to say I haven’t met many people who can no longer stay in their relationship or have been left by their partner. Either way, no one wants to go through a separation process. Who would want to uproot their lives, see their children less frequently, have less financial security or sell their family home?</p><p>Separation &amp; divorce truly is one of life’s most stressful experiences. Nearly every part of our life needs to be rifled through to determine if it needs to be negotiated, compromised over, kept, sold, or handed over to our ex-partner.</p><p>There are also many emotional aspects we need to work through, especially fear, sadness, shame and humiliation. Added to this are the things in the diary or dreams of our couple future that will now never eventuate. It can feel as if life as we know it continues for everyone else – except for us, and our life is being painfully pulled apart.</p><p>Separation &amp; divorce tests our emotional maturity at so many levels. It tests our capacity to look after our health and wellbeing and not go off the rails. It tests our ability to still care about the wellbeing of our ex-partner and not seek their destruction through the legal system or poisoning our children against them. It tests our ability to love our children and put them first, even if we are hurt, angry or anxious about the separation process.</p><p>It’s important to understand that just because our relationship did not go in the direction we wanted, it does not give us the right to tear someone down legally, destroy them or pit the children against them. Even if they don’t treat us respectfully, we don’t need to join them in the sandpit of hostility. We will just become part of the problem and end up in a toxic wasteland with them.</p><p>I believe that to healthily move through this process we need to develop what I have named an Anchor of Integrity. It’s an anchor that holds our ship firmly in place in a storm, and in calmer moments it’s our compass and can help guide our decisions and actions.  There will be many times that we want to let loose on our ex-partner yet having an Anchor of Integrity stops us from doing this.</p><p>Using our Anchor of Integrity, we can make decisions about how to divide assets, how to handle ourselves in legal process, how to manage our emotions, how to put the health of the children first, and how to communicate with our ex-partner. Every decision needs to come from a place that is thoughtful and centred. It is crucial as we are making decisions that have long term consequences for everyone.</p><p>One way of orientating ourselves with an Anchor of Integrity is to imagine approximately 20 years into the future, imagining our older and wiser self looking back at us now.</p><p>Ask your older and wiser self - </p>		\n			<link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/plugins/elementor/assets/css/widget-icon-list.min.css\">		<ul>\n							<li>\n										What do you think of this moment or decision I need to make now? Can you guide me?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										How should I behave now so that I can be proud of how I have navigated this journey?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Am I seeking out appropriate support and advice?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Am I looking after myself emotionally and physically well?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Am I asking my lawyer to be too brutish or aggressive on my behalf? How will this impact the legal process going forward?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Am I taking any responsibility for the demise of my relationship, or do I blame it all on my ex-partner? Did I bring emotionally tricky things into the relationship that impacted it? Should I get some therapy to understand this further?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Am I recognising the need for my ex-partner to be ok in the future – even if they do not treat me with similar regard?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Is my ego in control of my separation process, or am I in control?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Do my actions or words cause my children to worry or feel shame regarding their other parent? How does this affect their focus at school, life goals, cause sadness and/or anxiety in the present?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Can I alter my behaviour, words, or attitude now so that my children’s narrative of this time is one where I am supportive, not shaming or embarrassing?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										What am I modelling to my children about facing and navigating stressful life events now and in the future?\n									</li>\n						</ul>\n		<p>We can all improve our ability to operate respectfully, non-reactively, and in a dignified manner. It is hard to believe this when we are in it, but this process will one day end. We all can make our present and future selves proud of the way we handled this difficult time. This is done by developing our Anchor of Integrity.</p>','Why An ‘Anchor Of Integrity’ Is Essential To Guide You During A Separation & Divorce','','publish','open','open','','why-an-anchor-of-integrity-is-essential-to-guide-you-during-a-separation-divorce','','','2022-08-07 12:01:37','2022-08-07 12:01:37','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4931',0,'post','',0),(4932,1,'2022-08-07 11:53:25','2022-08-07 11:53:25','','Head,Shot,Stressed,Confused,Young,Mixed,Race,Woman,Sitting,In','','inherit','open','closed','','headshotstressedconfusedyoungmixedracewomansittingin','','','2022-08-07 11:53:25','2022-08-07 11:53:25','',4931,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/20210810.jpeg',0,'attachment','image/jpeg',0),(4933,1,'2022-08-07 11:54:36','2022-08-07 11:54:36','Throughout history, humans across the world have endured the rampant effects of epidemics and pandemics. We, however, are living in extraordinary times as news agencies, the web, and social media platforms allow us to see the impact of the Covid-19 pandemic across the world. At the touch of a button, we have access to the latest Covid-19 statistics, the opinions and advice of health experts, and our politicians trying to manage the impacts.\r\n\r\nWe all can tune in to Glady’s daily Covid briefing, listening for the latest hotspots and infection numbers, and how many of these have been living normally “in the community”. We may stare at them intently for any additional clues – is Gladys fearful? Is the state losing control of this one? Why is Brad Hazzard so upset today? Kerry Chant sounds worried as she pleads for us to take lockdown seriously and to get vaccinated. Then in the evening news, Scott Morrison shares with us why we can now trust AstraZeneca.\r\n\r\nWe are all listening. We are re-evaluating the potential repercussions for our own lives. We watch and speak about this day in and day out. Children across the country are playing Premier and Chief Health Officer. Even young toddlers are watching and listening. They know how masks are worn and stick out their hand for hand sanitiser. Last Christmas, I chose Kerry Chant as the person for my family to guess in the Name Game.\r\n\r\nWe listen, we research, and we speak repeatedly with our family, friends, colleagues, and clients about the extraordinary times we are in. We share the horror stories about Covid and long Covid or speak about those who had such mild symptoms they barely knew they had it. We share our perspectives on many aspects of the pandemic, and we want others to agree with us. We feel less anxious when others agree with our perspective. It helps us feel as if we are on the right path.\r\n\r\nWe may judge others rather harshly for not sharing our perspectives. We may even dismiss others from our lives for holding a viewpoint that’s different to ours. The cancel culture is alive and kicking. It is critical to remember that we all have our own agenda that informs our perspective. We all hold a different piece of the <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/07/14/the-distressing-impact-of-lockdown-on-relationships/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">pandemic</a> puzzle. I can tell you that anxiety and fear sit underneath every single piece of the puzzle.\r\n\r\nSo what are we anxious and fearful about? Big stuff – our security, our lives, our families, and our sense of wellbeing. The list is long, so take a breath. We are all dealing with so much. Here goes we are anxious and fearful about our finances, the survival of our businesses, job security, our career development being on hold, saying no to our employers for fear of being sacked, our children’s social isolation, our parents who we can’t see, not seeing our grandchildren, parents who are getting older and/or sicker, living in lockdown with domestic violence and not being able to get out, being home with children all day, our growing dependence on alcohol, our loss of contact with friends, our secret gambling habit, being home so much with our partner, the news cycle, not being with our family overseas, not getting a mammogram or going to the dentist for fear of catching Covid, losing our freedom and rights with a future determine by a vaccine passport, which vaccine to have, whether to vaccinate at all, the long-term health implications of new vaccinations with no data yet, the side effects of vaccinations, balancing the fear of Covid and long Covid and vaccinations, this pandemic never ending, what to do with a strained and worsening couple relationship, loneliness, worsening mental health, who to lay off at work, not enough space at home, concern for the future, uptight, increased reactivity, body pains and tension, being isolated, losing friends, overwhelmed, guilt over not making contact with friends and family, no alone time, feeling a burden on others, not sleeping properly, mounting deferred tax debt, and so many more.\r\n\r\nThis list is maddening. We all have some or many of these anxieties and fears. We need to stop the madness and the enormous stress on our minds and bodies from these anxieties. We need to do it differently now. It’s been too much for too long. It is now time to listen. But who to? For our mental health and wellbeing, we need to sit quietly and listen to ourselves. We all need to change the way we manage this and take responsibility for what we put onto others. So let’s look at how to do this.\r\n\r\nHere are my top tips -\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nHave a Covid fast. It’s all negative. Turn off the constant news reports on Covid. Stop sharing your perspective. Stop looking for others to agree with you or trying to persuade them to think or behave like you. Stop judging people. Find other areas of connection with others.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nMake it a priority to calm down. Take note of how worked-up and stressed your nervous system is and make it a priority to calm down. The best way to do this is with breathing exercises. We have the amazing capacity to calm our nerves just by using our breath. Breathing slowly and evenly through our nose to our stomach for 5 seconds, then breathe out for 5 seconds slowly. Repeat 5 times – let your mind follow your breath. This exercise sends a message to our brain via the vagus nerve to ‘de-stress’ and calm down. It is so simple.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nRemember joy and happiness. Sit quietly and remember what you really enjoy. Ask yourself, what can I do that makes me smile, bring joy, create, discover, or learn? For some it is reading, learning a language, going for a walk, taking a bath, cooking new meals, walking in nature, connecting online, time with pets, writing a journal, find an interesting online course, learn a new game.\r\n\r\nWhat have you discovered or rediscovered during this pandemic that brings you joy? Share with me in the comments below, I would love to hear.','Why An ‘Anchor Of Integrity’ Is Essential To Guide You During A Separation & Divorce','','inherit','closed','closed','','4931-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 11:54:36','2022-08-07 11:54:36','',4931,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4933',0,'revision','',0),(4934,1,'2022-08-07 12:01:37','2022-08-07 12:01:37','<p>I am yet to meet anyone who wants to go through a separation or divorce process. This is not to say I haven’t met many people who can no longer stay in their relationship or have been left by their partner. Either way, no one wants to go through a separation process. Who would want to uproot their lives, see their children less frequently, have less financial security or sell their family home?</p><p>Separation &amp; divorce truly is one of life’s most stressful experiences. Nearly every part of our life needs to be rifled through to determine if it needs to be negotiated, compromised over, kept, sold, or handed over to our ex-partner.</p><p>There are also many emotional aspects we need to work through, especially fear, sadness, shame and humiliation. Added to this are the things in the diary or dreams of our couple future that will now never eventuate. It can feel as if life as we know it continues for everyone else – except for us, and our life is being painfully pulled apart.</p><p>Separation &amp; divorce tests our emotional maturity at so many levels. It tests our capacity to look after our health and wellbeing and not go off the rails. It tests our ability to still care about the wellbeing of our ex-partner and not seek their destruction through the legal system or poisoning our children against them. It tests our ability to love our children and put them first, even if we are hurt, angry or anxious about the separation process.</p><p>It’s important to understand that just because our relationship did not go in the direction we wanted, it does not give us the right to tear someone down legally, destroy them or pit the children against them. Even if they don’t treat us respectfully, we don’t need to join them in the sandpit of hostility. We will just become part of the problem and end up in a toxic wasteland with them.</p><p>I believe that to healthily move through this process we need to develop what I have named an Anchor of Integrity. It’s an anchor that holds our ship firmly in place in a storm, and in calmer moments it’s our compass and can help guide our decisions and actions.  There will be many times that we want to let loose on our ex-partner yet having an Anchor of Integrity stops us from doing this.</p><p>Using our Anchor of Integrity, we can make decisions about how to divide assets, how to handle ourselves in legal process, how to manage our emotions, how to put the health of the children first, and how to communicate with our ex-partner. Every decision needs to come from a place that is thoughtful and centred. It is crucial as we are making decisions that have long term consequences for everyone.</p><p>One way of orientating ourselves with an Anchor of Integrity is to imagine approximately 20 years into the future, imagining our older and wiser self looking back at us now.</p><p>Ask your older and wiser self - </p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Have a Covid fast. It’s all negative. Turn off the constant news reports on Covid. Stop sharing your perspective. Stop looking for others to agree with you or trying to persuade them to think or behave like you. Stop judging people. Find other areas of connection with others.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Make it a priority to calm down. Take note of how worked-up and stressed your nervous system is and make it a priority to calm down. The best way to do this is with breathing exercises. We have the amazing capacity to calm our nerves just by using our breath. Breathing slowly and evenly through our nose to our stomach for 5 seconds, then breathe out for 5 seconds slowly. Repeat 5 times – let your mind follow your breath. This exercise sends a message to our brain via the vagus nerve to ‘de-stress’ and calm down. It is so simple.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Remember joy and happiness. Sit quietly and remember what you really enjoy. Ask yourself, what can I do that makes me smile, bring joy, create, discover, or learn? For some it is reading, learning a language, going for a walk, taking a bath, cooking new meals, walking in nature, connecting online, time with pets, writing a journal, find an interesting online course, learn a new game.</p><p>What have you discovered or rediscovered during this pandemic that brings you joy? Share with me in the comments below, I would love to hear.</p>','Why An ‘Anchor Of Integrity’ Is Essential To Guide You During A Separation & Divorce','','inherit','closed','closed','','4931-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:01:37','2022-08-07 12:01:37','',4931,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4934',0,'revision','',0),(4935,1,'2022-08-07 12:01:37','2022-08-07 12:01:37','<p>I am yet to meet anyone who wants to go through a separation or divorce process. This is not to say I haven’t met many people who can no longer stay in their relationship or have been left by their partner. Either way, no one wants to go through a separation process. Who would want to uproot their lives, see their children less frequently, have less financial security or sell their family home?</p><p>Separation &amp; divorce truly is one of life’s most stressful experiences. Nearly every part of our life needs to be rifled through to determine if it needs to be negotiated, compromised over, kept, sold, or handed over to our ex-partner.</p><p>There are also many emotional aspects we need to work through, especially fear, sadness, shame and humiliation. Added to this are the things in the diary or dreams of our couple future that will now never eventuate. It can feel as if life as we know it continues for everyone else – except for us, and our life is being painfully pulled apart.</p><p>Separation &amp; divorce tests our emotional maturity at so many levels. It tests our capacity to look after our health and wellbeing and not go off the rails. It tests our ability to still care about the wellbeing of our ex-partner and not seek their destruction through the legal system or poisoning our children against them. It tests our ability to love our children and put them first, even if we are hurt, angry or anxious about the separation process.</p><p>It’s important to understand that just because our relationship did not go in the direction we wanted, it does not give us the right to tear someone down legally, destroy them or pit the children against them. Even if they don’t treat us respectfully, we don’t need to join them in the sandpit of hostility. We will just become part of the problem and end up in a toxic wasteland with them.</p><p>I believe that to healthily move through this process we need to develop what I have named an Anchor of Integrity. It’s an anchor that holds our ship firmly in place in a storm, and in calmer moments it’s our compass and can help guide our decisions and actions.  There will be many times that we want to let loose on our ex-partner yet having an Anchor of Integrity stops us from doing this.</p><p>Using our Anchor of Integrity, we can make decisions about how to divide assets, how to handle ourselves in legal process, how to manage our emotions, how to put the health of the children first, and how to communicate with our ex-partner. Every decision needs to come from a place that is thoughtful and centred. It is crucial as we are making decisions that have long term consequences for everyone.</p><p>One way of orientating ourselves with an Anchor of Integrity is to imagine approximately 20 years into the future, imagining our older and wiser self looking back at us now.</p><p>Ask your older and wiser self - </p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Have a Covid fast. It’s all negative. Turn off the constant news reports on Covid. Stop sharing your perspective. Stop looking for others to agree with you or trying to persuade them to think or behave like you. Stop judging people. Find other areas of connection with others.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Make it a priority to calm down. Take note of how worked-up and stressed your nervous system is and make it a priority to calm down. The best way to do this is with breathing exercises. We have the amazing capacity to calm our nerves just by using our breath. Breathing slowly and evenly through our nose to our stomach for 5 seconds, then breathe out for 5 seconds slowly. Repeat 5 times – let your mind follow your breath. This exercise sends a message to our brain via the vagus nerve to ‘de-stress’ and calm down. It is so simple.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Remember joy and happiness. Sit quietly and remember what you really enjoy. Ask yourself, what can I do that makes me smile, bring joy, create, discover, or learn? For some it is reading, learning a language, going for a walk, taking a bath, cooking new meals, walking in nature, connecting online, time with pets, writing a journal, find an interesting online course, learn a new game.</p><p>What have you discovered or rediscovered during this pandemic that brings you joy? Share with me in the comments below, I would love to hear.</p>','Why An ‘Anchor Of Integrity’ Is Essential To Guide You During A Separation & Divorce','','inherit','closed','closed','','4931-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:01:37','2022-08-07 12:01:37','',4931,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4935',0,'revision','',0),(4936,1,'2022-08-07 12:01:37','2022-08-07 12:01:37','<p>I am yet to meet anyone who wants to go through a separation or divorce process. This is not to say I haven’t met many people who can no longer stay in their relationship or have been left by their partner. Either way, no one wants to go through a separation process. Who would want to uproot their lives, see their children less frequently, have less financial security or sell their family home?</p><p>Separation &amp; divorce truly is one of life’s most stressful experiences. Nearly every part of our life needs to be rifled through to determine if it needs to be negotiated, compromised over, kept, sold, or handed over to our ex-partner.</p><p>There are also many emotional aspects we need to work through, especially fear, sadness, shame and humiliation. Added to this are the things in the diary or dreams of our couple future that will now never eventuate. It can feel as if life as we know it continues for everyone else – except for us, and our life is being painfully pulled apart.</p><p>Separation &amp; divorce tests our emotional maturity at so many levels. It tests our capacity to look after our health and wellbeing and not go off the rails. It tests our ability to still care about the wellbeing of our ex-partner and not seek their destruction through the legal system or poisoning our children against them. It tests our ability to love our children and put them first, even if we are hurt, angry or anxious about the separation process.</p><p>It’s important to understand that just because our relationship did not go in the direction we wanted, it does not give us the right to tear someone down legally, destroy them or pit the children against them. Even if they don’t treat us respectfully, we don’t need to join them in the sandpit of hostility. We will just become part of the problem and end up in a toxic wasteland with them.</p><p>I believe that to healthily move through this process we need to develop what I have named an Anchor of Integrity. It’s an anchor that holds our ship firmly in place in a storm, and in calmer moments it’s our compass and can help guide our decisions and actions.  There will be many times that we want to let loose on our ex-partner yet having an Anchor of Integrity stops us from doing this.</p><p>Using our Anchor of Integrity, we can make decisions about how to divide assets, how to handle ourselves in legal process, how to manage our emotions, how to put the health of the children first, and how to communicate with our ex-partner. Every decision needs to come from a place that is thoughtful and centred. It is crucial as we are making decisions that have long term consequences for everyone.</p><p>One way of orientating ourselves with an Anchor of Integrity is to imagine approximately 20 years into the future, imagining our older and wiser self looking back at us now.</p><p>Ask your older and wiser self - </p>		\n			<link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/plugins/elementor/assets/css/widget-icon-list.min.css\">		<ul>\n							<li>\n										What do you think of this moment or decision I need to make now? Can you guide me?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										How should I behave now so that I can be proud of how I have navigated this journey?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Am I seeking out appropriate support and advice?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Am I looking after myself emotionally and physically well?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Am I asking my lawyer to be too brutish or aggressive on my behalf? How will this impact the legal process going forward?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Am I taking any responsibility for the demise of my relationship, or do I blame it all on my ex-partner? Did I bring emotionally tricky things into the relationship that impacted it? Should I get some therapy to understand this further?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Am I recognising the need for my ex-partner to be ok in the future – even if they do not treat me with similar regard?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Is my ego in control of my separation process, or am I in control?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Do my actions or words cause my children to worry or feel shame regarding their other parent? How does this affect their focus at school, life goals, cause sadness and/or anxiety in the present?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Can I alter my behaviour, words, or attitude now so that my children’s narrative of this time is one where I am supportive, not shaming or embarrassing?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										What am I modelling to my children about facing and navigating stressful life events now and in the future?\n									</li>\n						</ul>\n		<p>We can all improve our ability to operate respectfully, non-reactively, and in a dignified manner. It is hard to believe this when we are in it, but this process will one day end. We all can make our present and future selves proud of the way we handled this difficult time. This is done by developing our Anchor of Integrity.</p>','Why An ‘Anchor Of Integrity’ Is Essential To Guide You During A Separation & Divorce','','inherit','closed','closed','','4931-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:01:37','2022-08-07 12:01:37','',4931,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4936',0,'revision','',0),(4937,1,'2021-08-12 12:08:51','2021-08-12 12:08:51','<p>Grief is an overwhelming experience. It is messy, destabilising, and can be paralysing. It can grip us when we least expect it or haunt us when we do.</p><p>For many of us, the grief surrounding the end of our committed relationship is like the grief following the death of a loved one. It takes time and space to process and recover from a separation.</p><p>Unlike an actual death, no one will really grieve with us. They may feel sad about our separation, yet ours is a lonely grief. There is no funeral or gravesite, no body or ashes, no religious service or wake. It’s just over – the death of our relationship.</p><p>It’s incredibly painful and sometimes we can feel frightened by the enormity of our grief responses. We may withdraw, isolate ourselves, become angry, cry, be numb, or be distressed.</p><p>In 1969, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross published a seminal book called ‘On Death and Dying’ drawing on her working with terminally ill patients. She outlined 5 Stages of Grief, which were - </p>		\n			<link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/plugins/elementor/assets/css/widget-icon-list.min.css\">		<ul>\n							<li>\n										Denial\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Anger\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Bargaining\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Depression\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Acceptance\n									</li>\n						</ul>\n		<p>These stages have been revised and have been updated to 7 stages. They are typically not linear, yet they are shown as discrete stages to highlight the process.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>The 7 Stages of Grief</h3>		\n			<h4>Stage 1 – Shock & Denial\n</h4>		\n		<p>As the news of the separation feels so painful and overwhelming, we often react to the news with numbed shock, disbelief, and even denial. These responses are coping mechanisms as the news is too sad, frightening, anxiety-provoking and confusing. Examples include - \"Jasmine just needs a few days; she will change her mind soon and come home\".</p>		\n			<h4>Stage 2 – Pain & Guilt</h4>		\n		<p>When the shock and denial start to subside, the immense pain floods in. We do not appreciate this and often want to run away from our distress and despair. We may turn to an unhelpful coping strategy or two. These include alcohol, drugs, overeating, controlling food, over-exercising, excessive spending, indiscriminate sex, or gambling. Guilt and remorse may fill our minds. For example, \"How did I not see how sad he was?\"</p>		\n			<h4>Stage 3 – Anger & Bargaining</h4>		\n		<p>As our pain is huge, we may mask it with anger and resentment. We may lash out at others, throw things, send threatening messages to our ex-partner, or get a nasty lawyer. We need to be careful with our anger and become responsible for our actions, keeping in mind that a judge may hear all about it.</p><p>Bargaining is a form of denial as the sadness and distress is too immense. We don’t like our reality and use \"what if…\" and \"if only\" statements to get our relationship back together. For example, \"If only I lose some weight, she will find me attractive again.\"</p>		\n			<h4>Stage 4 – Depression</h4>		\n		<p>This stage occurs when we understand that our separation is final, and there is nothing we can do to alter this. This is a quieter stage. We may feel defeated and exhausted. We forget that this time will pass and may have some or many suicidal thoughts. Examples include, “What’s the point?” or “I can’t do this on my own”. This is our time up our supports. Get help from a therapist and potentially a psychiatrist, especially if we cannot imagine a future without our relationship intact.</p>		\n			<h4>Stage 5 – The Upward Turn</h4>		\n		<p>The upward turn brings some relief from the sadness, fear, and anxiety. We may be able to focus again and want to reconnect with friends. Examples include, “It’s been a turbulent ride, but I feel I’m getting off the rollercoaster!” or “I can be more present again.”</p>		\n			<h4>Stage 6 – Reconstruction & Working Through</h4>		\n		<p>In this stage, we feel we have more self-direction. We are more alive in ourselves, and more capable practically, financially, and mentally. Examples include, “I will make sure I really know someone before I commit again” or “I did not know how much my childhood experiences impacted my marriage.”</p>		\n			<h4>Stage 7 – Acceptance & Hope</h4>		\n		<p>In this stage, we accept the reality of the separation and have made meaning of it. We may still feel some sadness, anxiety or miss our ex-partner, but it is not consuming. Examples include, “Karl needed more intimacy than I was able to provide”. Our future feels more hopeful, and we are ready to plan events and experiences again.</p><p>These stages are emotionally taxing. To heal from the separation, we need to look after our wellbeing.</p><p>We need to prioritise our self-care and make sure we have a healthy support team. This can include - </p>		\n					<ul>\n							<li>\n										Wise friends and family members (not people who love drama)\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Online groups\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										A therapist\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Maybe a psychiatrist\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Religious leader\n									</li>\n						</ul>\n		<p>It is also a great time to learn about ourselves and the separation process from - </p>		\n					<ul>\n							<li>\n										Books\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Online courses\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Podcasts\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Online platforms\n									</li>\n						</ul>','7 Stages of Grief and the Separation Process','','publish','open','open','','7-stages-of-grief-and-the-separation-process','','','2022-08-07 12:23:40','2022-08-07 12:23:40','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4937',0,'post','',0),(4938,1,'2022-08-07 12:10:37','2022-08-07 12:10:37','','7 Stages of Grief and the Separation Process','','inherit','open','closed','','womanhandholdingbrokenpaperredheartonsunset-love','','','2022-08-07 12:10:47','2022-08-07 12:10:47','',4937,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/20210812.jpeg',0,'attachment','image/jpeg',0),(4939,1,'2022-08-07 12:10:53','2022-08-07 12:10:53','I am yet to meet anyone who wants to go through a separation or divorce process. This is not to say I haven’t met many people who can no longer stay in their relationship or have been left by their partner. Either way, no one wants to go through a separation process. Who would want to uproot their lives, see their children less frequently, have less financial security or sell their family home?\r\n\r\nSeparation &amp; divorce truly is one of life’s most stressful experiences. Nearly every part of our life needs to be rifled through to determine if it needs to be negotiated, compromised over, kept, sold, or handed over to our ex-partner.\r\n\r\nThere are also many emotional aspects we need to work through, especially fear, sadness, shame and humiliation. Added to this are the things in the diary or dreams of our couple future that will now never eventuate. It can feel as if life as we know it continues for everyone else – except for us, and our life is being painfully pulled apart.\r\n\r\nSeparation &amp; divorce tests our emotional maturity at so many levels. It tests our capacity to look after our health and wellbeing and not go off the rails. It tests our ability to still care about the wellbeing of our ex-partner and not seek their destruction through the legal system or poisoning our children against them. It tests our ability to love our children and put them first, even if we are hurt, angry or anxious about the separation process.\r\n\r\nIt’s important to understand that just because our relationship did not go in the direction we wanted, it does not give us the right to tear someone down legally, destroy them or pit the children against them. Even if they don’t treat us respectfully, we don’t need to join them in the sandpit of hostility. We will just become part of the problem and end up in a toxic wasteland with them.\r\n\r\nI believe that to healthily move through this process we need to develop what I have named an Anchor of Integrity. It’s an anchor that holds our ship firmly in place in a storm, and in calmer moments it’s our compass and can help guide our decisions and actions.  There will be many times that we want to let loose on our ex-partner yet having an Anchor of Integrity stops us from doing this.\r\n\r\nUsing our Anchor of Integrity, we can make decisions about how to divide assets, how to handle ourselves in legal process, how to manage our emotions, how to put the health of the children first, and how to communicate with our ex-partner. Every decision needs to come from a place that is thoughtful and centred. It is crucial as we are making decisions that have long term consequences for everyone.\r\n\r\nOne way of orientating ourselves with an Anchor of Integrity is to imagine approximately 20 years into the future, imagining our older and wiser self looking back at us now.\r\n\r\nAsk your older and wiser self -\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>What do you think of this moment or decision I need to make now? Can you guide me?</li>\r\n 	<li>How should I behave now so that I can be proud of how I have navigated this journey?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I seeking out appropriate support and advice?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I looking after myself emotionally and physically well?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I asking my lawyer to be too brutish or aggressive on my behalf? How will this impact the legal process going forward?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I taking any responsibility for the demise of my relationship, or do I blame it all on my ex-partner? Did I bring emotionally tricky things into the relationship that impacted it? Should I get some therapy to understand this further?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I recognising the need for my ex-partner to be ok in the future – even if they do not treat me with similar regard?</li>\r\n 	<li>Is my ego in control of my separation process, or am I in control?</li>\r\n 	<li>Do my actions or words cause my children to worry or feel shame regarding their other parent? How does this affect their focus at school, life goals, cause sadness and/or anxiety in the present?</li>\r\n 	<li>Can I alter my behaviour, words, or attitude now so that my children’s narrative of this time is one where I am supportive, not shaming or embarrassing?</li>\r\n 	<li>What am I modelling to my children about facing and navigating stressful life events now and in the future?</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nWe can all improve our ability to operate respectfully, non-reactively, and in a dignified manner. It is hard to believe this when we are in it, but this process will one day end. We all can make our present and future selves proud of the way we handled this difficult time. This is done by developing our Anchor of Integrity.','7 Stages of Grief and the Separation Process','','inherit','closed','closed','','4937-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:10:53','2022-08-07 12:10:53','',4937,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4939',0,'revision','',0),(4940,1,'2022-08-07 12:23:40','2022-08-07 12:23:40','I am yet to meet anyone who wants to go through a separation or divorce process. This is not to say I haven’t met many people who can no longer stay in their relationship or have been left by their partner. Either way, no one wants to go through a separation process. Who would want to uproot their lives, see their children less frequently, have less financial security or sell their family home?\r\n\r\nSeparation &amp; divorce truly is one of life’s most stressful experiences. Nearly every part of our life needs to be rifled through to determine if it needs to be negotiated, compromised over, kept, sold, or handed over to our ex-partner.\r\n\r\nThere are also many emotional aspects we need to work through, especially fear, sadness, shame and humiliation. Added to this are the things in the diary or dreams of our couple future that will now never eventuate. It can feel as if life as we know it continues for everyone else – except for us, and our life is being painfully pulled apart.\r\n\r\nSeparation &amp; divorce tests our emotional maturity at so many levels. It tests our capacity to look after our health and wellbeing and not go off the rails. It tests our ability to still care about the wellbeing of our ex-partner and not seek their destruction through the legal system or poisoning our children against them. It tests our ability to love our children and put them first, even if we are hurt, angry or anxious about the separation process.\r\n\r\nIt’s important to understand that just because our relationship did not go in the direction we wanted, it does not give us the right to tear someone down legally, destroy them or pit the children against them. Even if they don’t treat us respectfully, we don’t need to join them in the sandpit of hostility. We will just become part of the problem and end up in a toxic wasteland with them.\r\n\r\nI believe that to healthily move through this process we need to develop what I have named an Anchor of Integrity. It’s an anchor that holds our ship firmly in place in a storm, and in calmer moments it’s our compass and can help guide our decisions and actions.  There will be many times that we want to let loose on our ex-partner yet having an Anchor of Integrity stops us from doing this.\r\n\r\nUsing our Anchor of Integrity, we can make decisions about how to divide assets, how to handle ourselves in legal process, how to manage our emotions, how to put the health of the children first, and how to communicate with our ex-partner. Every decision needs to come from a place that is thoughtful and centred. It is crucial as we are making decisions that have long term consequences for everyone.\r\n\r\nOne way of orientating ourselves with an Anchor of Integrity is to imagine approximately 20 years into the future, imagining our older and wiser self looking back at us now.\r\n\r\nAsk your older and wiser self -\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>What do you think of this moment or decision I need to make now? Can you guide me?</li>\r\n 	<li>How should I behave now so that I can be proud of how I have navigated this journey?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I seeking out appropriate support and advice?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I looking after myself emotionally and physically well?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I asking my lawyer to be too brutish or aggressive on my behalf? How will this impact the legal process going forward?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I taking any responsibility for the demise of my relationship, or do I blame it all on my ex-partner? Did I bring emotionally tricky things into the relationship that impacted it? Should I get some therapy to understand this further?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I recognising the need for my ex-partner to be ok in the future – even if they do not treat me with similar regard?</li>\r\n 	<li>Is my ego in control of my separation process, or am I in control?</li>\r\n 	<li>Do my actions or words cause my children to worry or feel shame regarding their other parent? How does this affect their focus at school, life goals, cause sadness and/or anxiety in the present?</li>\r\n 	<li>Can I alter my behaviour, words, or attitude now so that my children’s narrative of this time is one where I am supportive, not shaming or embarrassing?</li>\r\n 	<li>What am I modelling to my children about facing and navigating stressful life events now and in the future?</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nWe can all improve our ability to operate respectfully, non-reactively, and in a dignified manner. It is hard to believe this when we are in it, but this process will one day end. We all can make our present and future selves proud of the way we handled this difficult time. This is done by developing our Anchor of Integrity.','7 Stages of Grief and the Separation Process','','inherit','closed','closed','','4937-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:23:40','2022-08-07 12:23:40','',4937,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4940',0,'revision','',0),(4941,1,'2022-08-07 12:23:40','2022-08-07 12:23:40','I am yet to meet anyone who wants to go through a separation or divorce process. This is not to say I haven’t met many people who can no longer stay in their relationship or have been left by their partner. Either way, no one wants to go through a separation process. Who would want to uproot their lives, see their children less frequently, have less financial security or sell their family home?\r\n\r\nSeparation &amp; divorce truly is one of life’s most stressful experiences. Nearly every part of our life needs to be rifled through to determine if it needs to be negotiated, compromised over, kept, sold, or handed over to our ex-partner.\r\n\r\nThere are also many emotional aspects we need to work through, especially fear, sadness, shame and humiliation. Added to this are the things in the diary or dreams of our couple future that will now never eventuate. It can feel as if life as we know it continues for everyone else – except for us, and our life is being painfully pulled apart.\r\n\r\nSeparation &amp; divorce tests our emotional maturity at so many levels. It tests our capacity to look after our health and wellbeing and not go off the rails. It tests our ability to still care about the wellbeing of our ex-partner and not seek their destruction through the legal system or poisoning our children against them. It tests our ability to love our children and put them first, even if we are hurt, angry or anxious about the separation process.\r\n\r\nIt’s important to understand that just because our relationship did not go in the direction we wanted, it does not give us the right to tear someone down legally, destroy them or pit the children against them. Even if they don’t treat us respectfully, we don’t need to join them in the sandpit of hostility. We will just become part of the problem and end up in a toxic wasteland with them.\r\n\r\nI believe that to healthily move through this process we need to develop what I have named an Anchor of Integrity. It’s an anchor that holds our ship firmly in place in a storm, and in calmer moments it’s our compass and can help guide our decisions and actions.  There will be many times that we want to let loose on our ex-partner yet having an Anchor of Integrity stops us from doing this.\r\n\r\nUsing our Anchor of Integrity, we can make decisions about how to divide assets, how to handle ourselves in legal process, how to manage our emotions, how to put the health of the children first, and how to communicate with our ex-partner. Every decision needs to come from a place that is thoughtful and centred. It is crucial as we are making decisions that have long term consequences for everyone.\r\n\r\nOne way of orientating ourselves with an Anchor of Integrity is to imagine approximately 20 years into the future, imagining our older and wiser self looking back at us now.\r\n\r\nAsk your older and wiser self -\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>What do you think of this moment or decision I need to make now? Can you guide me?</li>\r\n 	<li>How should I behave now so that I can be proud of how I have navigated this journey?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I seeking out appropriate support and advice?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I looking after myself emotionally and physically well?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I asking my lawyer to be too brutish or aggressive on my behalf? How will this impact the legal process going forward?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I taking any responsibility for the demise of my relationship, or do I blame it all on my ex-partner? Did I bring emotionally tricky things into the relationship that impacted it? Should I get some therapy to understand this further?</li>\r\n 	<li>Am I recognising the need for my ex-partner to be ok in the future – even if they do not treat me with similar regard?</li>\r\n 	<li>Is my ego in control of my separation process, or am I in control?</li>\r\n 	<li>Do my actions or words cause my children to worry or feel shame regarding their other parent? How does this affect their focus at school, life goals, cause sadness and/or anxiety in the present?</li>\r\n 	<li>Can I alter my behaviour, words, or attitude now so that my children’s narrative of this time is one where I am supportive, not shaming or embarrassing?</li>\r\n 	<li>What am I modelling to my children about facing and navigating stressful life events now and in the future?</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nWe can all improve our ability to operate respectfully, non-reactively, and in a dignified manner. It is hard to believe this when we are in it, but this process will one day end. We all can make our present and future selves proud of the way we handled this difficult time. This is done by developing our Anchor of Integrity.','7 Stages of Grief and the Separation Process','','inherit','closed','closed','','4937-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:23:40','2022-08-07 12:23:40','',4937,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4941',0,'revision','',0),(4942,1,'2022-08-07 12:23:40','2022-08-07 12:23:40','<p>Grief is an overwhelming experience. It is messy, destabilising, and can be paralysing. It can grip us when we least expect it or haunt us when we do.</p><p>For many of us, the grief surrounding the end of our committed relationship is like the grief following the death of a loved one. It takes time and space to process and recover from a separation.</p><p>Unlike an actual death, no one will really grieve with us. They may feel sad about our separation, yet ours is a lonely grief. There is no funeral or gravesite, no body or ashes, no religious service or wake. It’s just over – the death of our relationship.</p><p>It’s incredibly painful and sometimes we can feel frightened by the enormity of our grief responses. We may withdraw, isolate ourselves, become angry, cry, be numb, or be distressed.</p><p>In 1969, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross published a seminal book called ‘On Death and Dying’ drawing on her working with terminally ill patients. She outlined 5 Stages of Grief, which were - </p>		\n			<link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/plugins/elementor/assets/css/widget-icon-list.min.css\">		<ul>\n							<li>\n										Denial\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Anger\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Bargaining\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Depression\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Acceptance\n									</li>\n						</ul>\n		<p>These stages have been revised and have been updated to 7 stages. They are typically not linear, yet they are shown as discrete stages to highlight the process.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>The 7 Stages of Grief</h3>		\n			<h4>Stage 1 – Shock & Denial\n</h4>		\n		<p>As the news of the separation feels so painful and overwhelming, we often react to the news with numbed shock, disbelief, and even denial. These responses are coping mechanisms as the news is too sad, frightening, anxiety-provoking and confusing. Examples include - \"Jasmine just needs a few days; she will change her mind soon and come home\".</p>		\n			<h4>Stage 2 – Pain & Guilt</h4>		\n		<p>When the shock and denial start to subside, the immense pain floods in. We do not appreciate this and often want to run away from our distress and despair. We may turn to an unhelpful coping strategy or two. These include alcohol, drugs, overeating, controlling food, over-exercising, excessive spending, indiscriminate sex, or gambling. Guilt and remorse may fill our minds. For example, \"How did I not see how sad he was?\"</p>		\n			<h4>Stage 3 – Anger & Bargaining</h4>		\n		<p>As our pain is huge, we may mask it with anger and resentment. We may lash out at others, throw things, send threatening messages to our ex-partner, or get a nasty lawyer. We need to be careful with our anger and become responsible for our actions, keeping in mind that a judge may hear all about it.</p><p>Bargaining is a form of denial as the sadness and distress is too immense. We don’t like our reality and use \"what if…\" and \"if only\" statements to get our relationship back together. For example, \"If only I lose some weight, she will find me attractive again.\"</p>		\n			<h4>Stage 4 – Depression</h4>		\n		<p>This stage occurs when we understand that our separation is final, and there is nothing we can do to alter this. This is a quieter stage. We may feel defeated and exhausted. We forget that this time will pass and may have some or many suicidal thoughts. Examples include, “What’s the point?” or “I can’t do this on my own”. This is our time up our supports. Get help from a therapist and potentially a psychiatrist, especially if we cannot imagine a future without our relationship intact.</p>		\n			<h4>Stage 5 – The Upward Turn</h4>		\n		<p>The upward turn brings some relief from the sadness, fear, and anxiety. We may be able to focus again and want to reconnect with friends. Examples include, “It’s been a turbulent ride, but I feel I’m getting off the rollercoaster!” or “I can be more present again.”</p>		\n			<h4>Stage 6 – Reconstruction & Working Through</h4>		\n		<p>In this stage, we feel we have more self-direction. We are more alive in ourselves, and more capable practically, financially, and mentally. Examples include, “I will make sure I really know someone before I commit again” or “I did not know how much my childhood experiences impacted my marriage.”</p>		\n			<h4>Stage 7 – Acceptance & Hope</h4>		\n		<p>In this stage, we accept the reality of the separation and have made meaning of it. We may still feel some sadness, anxiety or miss our ex-partner, but it is not consuming. Examples include, “Karl needed more intimacy than I was able to provide”. Our future feels more hopeful, and we are ready to plan events and experiences again.</p><p>These stages are emotionally taxing. To heal from the separation, we need to look after our wellbeing.</p><p>We need to prioritise our self-care and make sure we have a healthy support team. This can include - </p>		\n					<ul>\n							<li>\n										Wise friends and family members (not people who love drama)\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Online groups\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										A therapist\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Maybe a psychiatrist\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Religious leader\n									</li>\n						</ul>\n		<p>It is also a great time to learn about ourselves and the separation process from - </p>		\n					<ul>\n							<li>\n										Books\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Online courses\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Podcasts\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Online platforms\n									</li>\n						</ul>','7 Stages of Grief and the Separation Process','','inherit','closed','closed','','4937-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:23:40','2022-08-07 12:23:40','',4937,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4942',0,'revision','',0),(4943,1,'2021-08-24 12:24:42','2021-08-24 12:24:42','<p>Last Thursday marked a significant turning point in NSW Premier Gladys Berejiklian’s political rhetoric about Covid-19, as two life-changing phrases were added to her daily briefing. She stated “Zero is no longer an option” and “We all have to learn to live with Delta”.</p><p>This means we won’t return to the golden period we previously enjoyed when we could travel with relative freedom within the country. Delta is here to stay in NSW, and we all need to get on board with this new reality. It’s time to think about how it will shape our lives and movements in a post-lockdown future. However, it’s not just those of us in NSW who need to understand the ramifications of the rapidly changing Delta landscape. This will eventually impact all of us in Australia. It may be in the weeks or months ahead, or even in a year’s time. At some point all of us in this country will hear that “Zero is no longer an option”, ending our final golden period of freedom.</p><p>Melbourne and parts of Victoria have spent more than 200 days in lockdown. In NSW, many people can’t imagine an end to our lockdown before December. We’re already afflicted with exhaustion, uncertainty, every form of insecurity, and mental health deterioration. Many also feel trapped, others feel paranoid, and police patrols can be seen as persecutory. We’re struggling. As an individual and couple psychotherapist, I’m seeing the psychological pressure and suffering. No one is fully immune from the impact of Covid lockdowns.</p><p>It’s too late for those of us in NSW: Delta is here. I’m not asking for pity; this is just our reality. And unfortunately, I believe everyone in Australia will be in the same situation one day. If you’re living in a state that is free of lockdowns, I want to share some advice that I’m giving my interstate clients. Please know that I’m not suggesting you haven’t been impacted by the pandemic at all. I just want you to know that from my vantage point, I can see that you have a wonderful window to make the most of life without Delta and the major restrictions that come with it.</p><p>In NSW, we didn’t know that we had a precious window and that our freedom would be curbed so significantly. Had we known that I think we’d have treated those freedoms as something more special. We all know the Delta strain is virulent. At some point, it’ll only take one undetected case over the border to end your golden period. However, for now, you can use your precious window wisely.</p><p>I have three top tips to help you make the most of this golden period of freedom - </p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Meet up with loved ones. Create experiences with your friends and family. Hug them, for no other reason other than because you can. Go out together. Go to dinner. Go dancing or to the theatre. Invite friends and family to your home. Create celebrations whether birthdays, achievements or any minor event – just because you can. Have freedom gatherings. If you’re in a couple relationship, prioritise date nights and being intimate as anyone in lockdown knows, lockdown is just not that sexy.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Travel far. Make the most of your ability to drive more than five kilometres from home. You’re free – go travel and do it as soon as possible. Don’t wait. Book that much longed-for Australian trip. Enjoy parks or beaches outside of your local area. Relish your freedom of movement.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Grapple with Delta issues now. It is much better for your psychological health to have time to contemplate and prepare for life-changing situations, rather than having them suddenly thrust on you. One day, and for those of us in NSW that one day is getting closer, you’ll be living like those overseas who also live with Delta. Start imagining a Delta Australia with vaccine as the main healthcare strategy. Project into the future and contemplate how you may be impacted. The question is whether daycare centres or schools will allow unvaccinated children to attend. Will restaurants, hotels or workplaces require proof of vaccination? Qantas has already stated that all their flight crew must be vaccinated. And I think this position will only extend to other companies and industries.</p><p>This mental wrestling goes well beyond a debate of whether to vaccinate. All of us in the NSW lockdown know we won’t having freedom reinstated without reaching specific vaccination targets. We all need to grapple with the reality of living with Delta. I’ve even questioned whether it’ll be safe for me to see unvaccinated clients when I return to my clinic. What if they became seriously ill or died? How would I live with the knowledge that my therapeutic and healing space was harmful to someone? We will all need to navigate what living with Delta means to us. Having time to do this allows us to respond thoughtfully to the changes instead of simply reacting at the time with fear or anger.</p><p>Now you know what’s coming, make the most of your Delta-free lives. Here is your chance to truly seize the day.</p><p>Sydney-based Lissy Abrahams is an individual and couple psychotherapist. She’s the founder of the therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and Lissy Abrahams Courses for improving couple relationships.</p>','Seize the Day: Make the Most of a Delta-free Life While You Can','','publish','open','open','','seize-the-day-make-the-most-of-a-delta-free-life-while-you-can','','','2022-08-07 12:30:38','2022-08-07 12:30:38','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4943',0,'post','',0),(4944,1,'2022-08-07 12:26:43','2022-08-07 12:26:43','','Seize the Day: Make the Most of a Delta-free Life While You Can','','inherit','open','closed','','closeupoutdoorprotraitofblackafricanamericancoupleholding','','','2022-08-07 12:26:57','2022-08-07 12:26:57','',4943,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/20210824.jpeg',0,'attachment','image/jpeg',0),(4945,1,'2022-08-07 12:27:02','2022-08-07 12:27:02','Grief is an overwhelming experience. It is messy, destabilising, and can be paralysing. It can grip us when we least expect it or haunt us when we do.\r\n\r\nFor many of us, the grief surrounding the end of our committed relationship is like the grief following the death of a loved one. It takes time and space to process and recover from a separation.\r\n\r\nUnlike an actual death, no one will really grieve with us. They may feel sad about our separation, yet ours is a lonely grief. There is no funeral or gravesite, no body or ashes, no religious service or wake. It’s just over – the death of our relationship.\r\n\r\nIt’s incredibly painful and sometimes we can feel frightened by the enormity of our grief responses. We may withdraw, isolate ourselves, become angry, cry, be numb, or be distressed.\r\n\r\nIn 1969, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross published a seminal book called ‘On Death and Dying’ drawing on her working with terminally ill patients. She outlined 5 Stages of Grief, which were -\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Denial</li>\r\n 	<li>Anger</li>\r\n 	<li>Bargaining</li>\r\n 	<li>Depression</li>\r\n 	<li>Acceptance</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nThese stages have been revised and have been updated to 7 stages. They are typically not linear, yet they are shown as discrete stages to highlight the process.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>The 7 Stages of Grief</h3>\r\n<h4>Stage 1 – Shock &amp; Denial</h4>\r\nAs the news of the separation feels so painful and overwhelming, we often react to the news with numbed shock, disbelief, and even denial. These responses are coping mechanisms as the news is too sad, frightening, anxiety-provoking and confusing. Examples include - \"Jasmine just needs a few days; she will change her mind soon and come home\".\r\n<h4>Stage 2 – Pain &amp; Guilt</h4>\r\nWhen the shock and denial start to subside, the immense pain floods in. We do not appreciate this and often want to run away from our distress and despair. We may turn to an unhelpful coping strategy or two. These include alcohol, drugs, overeating, controlling food, over-exercising, excessive spending, indiscriminate sex, or gambling. Guilt and remorse may fill our minds. For example, \"How did I not see how sad he was?\"\r\n<h4>Stage 3 – Anger &amp; Bargaining</h4>\r\nAs our pain is huge, we may mask it with anger and resentment. We may lash out at others, throw things, send threatening messages to our ex-partner, or get a nasty lawyer. We need to be careful with our anger and become responsible for our actions, keeping in mind that a judge may hear all about it.\r\n\r\nBargaining is a form of denial as the sadness and distress is too immense. We don’t like our reality and use \"what if…\" and \"if only\" statements to get our relationship back together. For example, \"If only I lose some weight, she will find me attractive again.\"\r\n<h4>Stage 4 – Depression</h4>\r\nThis stage occurs when we understand that our separation is final, and there is nothing we can do to alter this. This is a quieter stage. We may feel defeated and exhausted. We forget that this time will pass and may have some or many suicidal thoughts. Examples include, “What’s the point?” or “I can’t do this on my own”. This is our time up our supports. Get help from a therapist and potentially a psychiatrist, especially if we cannot imagine a future without our relationship intact.\r\n<h4>Stage 5 – The Upward Turn</h4>\r\nThe upward turn brings some relief from the sadness, fear, and anxiety. We may be able to focus again and want to reconnect with friends. Examples include, “It’s been a turbulent ride, but I feel I’m getting off the rollercoaster!” or “I can be more present again.”\r\n<h4>Stage 6 – Reconstruction &amp; Working Through</h4>\r\nIn this stage, we feel we have more self-direction. We are more alive in ourselves, and more capable practically, financially, and mentally. Examples include, “I will make sure I really know someone before I commit again” or “I did not know how much my childhood experiences impacted my marriage.”\r\n<h4>Stage 7 – Acceptance &amp; Hope</h4>\r\nIn this stage, we accept the reality of the separation and have made meaning of it. We may still feel some sadness, anxiety or miss our ex-partner, but it is not consuming. Examples include, “Karl needed more intimacy than I was able to provide”. Our future feels more hopeful, and we are ready to plan events and experiences again.\r\n\r\nThese stages are emotionally taxing. To heal from the separation, we need to look after our wellbeing.\r\n\r\nWe need to prioritise our self-care and make sure we have a healthy support team. This can include -\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Wise friends and family members (not people who love drama)</li>\r\n 	<li>Online groups</li>\r\n 	<li>A therapist</li>\r\n 	<li>Maybe a psychiatrist</li>\r\n 	<li>Religious leader</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nIt is also a great time to learn about ourselves and the separation process from -\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Books</li>\r\n 	<li>Online courses</li>\r\n 	<li>Podcasts</li>\r\n 	<li>Online platforms</li>\r\n</ul>','Seize the Day: Make the Most of a Delta-free Life While You Can','','inherit','closed','closed','','4943-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:27:02','2022-08-07 12:27:02','',4943,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4945',0,'revision','',0),(4946,1,'2022-08-07 12:30:38','2022-08-07 12:30:38','Grief is an overwhelming experience. It is messy, destabilising, and can be paralysing. It can grip us when we least expect it or haunt us when we do.\r\n\r\nFor many of us, the grief surrounding the end of our committed relationship is like the grief following the death of a loved one. It takes time and space to process and recover from a separation.\r\n\r\nUnlike an actual death, no one will really grieve with us. They may feel sad about our separation, yet ours is a lonely grief. There is no funeral or gravesite, no body or ashes, no religious service or wake. It’s just over – the death of our relationship.\r\n\r\nIt’s incredibly painful and sometimes we can feel frightened by the enormity of our grief responses. We may withdraw, isolate ourselves, become angry, cry, be numb, or be distressed.\r\n\r\nIn 1969, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross published a seminal book called ‘On Death and Dying’ drawing on her working with terminally ill patients. She outlined 5 Stages of Grief, which were -\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Denial</li>\r\n 	<li>Anger</li>\r\n 	<li>Bargaining</li>\r\n 	<li>Depression</li>\r\n 	<li>Acceptance</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nThese stages have been revised and have been updated to 7 stages. They are typically not linear, yet they are shown as discrete stages to highlight the process.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>The 7 Stages of Grief</h3>\r\n<h4>Stage 1 – Shock &amp; Denial</h4>\r\nAs the news of the separation feels so painful and overwhelming, we often react to the news with numbed shock, disbelief, and even denial. These responses are coping mechanisms as the news is too sad, frightening, anxiety-provoking and confusing. Examples include - \"Jasmine just needs a few days; she will change her mind soon and come home\".\r\n<h4>Stage 2 – Pain &amp; Guilt</h4>\r\nWhen the shock and denial start to subside, the immense pain floods in. We do not appreciate this and often want to run away from our distress and despair. We may turn to an unhelpful coping strategy or two. These include alcohol, drugs, overeating, controlling food, over-exercising, excessive spending, indiscriminate sex, or gambling. Guilt and remorse may fill our minds. For example, \"How did I not see how sad he was?\"\r\n<h4>Stage 3 – Anger &amp; Bargaining</h4>\r\nAs our pain is huge, we may mask it with anger and resentment. We may lash out at others, throw things, send threatening messages to our ex-partner, or get a nasty lawyer. We need to be careful with our anger and become responsible for our actions, keeping in mind that a judge may hear all about it.\r\n\r\nBargaining is a form of denial as the sadness and distress is too immense. We don’t like our reality and use \"what if…\" and \"if only\" statements to get our relationship back together. For example, \"If only I lose some weight, she will find me attractive again.\"\r\n<h4>Stage 4 – Depression</h4>\r\nThis stage occurs when we understand that our separation is final, and there is nothing we can do to alter this. This is a quieter stage. We may feel defeated and exhausted. We forget that this time will pass and may have some or many suicidal thoughts. Examples include, “What’s the point?” or “I can’t do this on my own”. This is our time up our supports. Get help from a therapist and potentially a psychiatrist, especially if we cannot imagine a future without our relationship intact.\r\n<h4>Stage 5 – The Upward Turn</h4>\r\nThe upward turn brings some relief from the sadness, fear, and anxiety. We may be able to focus again and want to reconnect with friends. Examples include, “It’s been a turbulent ride, but I feel I’m getting off the rollercoaster!” or “I can be more present again.”\r\n<h4>Stage 6 – Reconstruction &amp; Working Through</h4>\r\nIn this stage, we feel we have more self-direction. We are more alive in ourselves, and more capable practically, financially, and mentally. Examples include, “I will make sure I really know someone before I commit again” or “I did not know how much my childhood experiences impacted my marriage.”\r\n<h4>Stage 7 – Acceptance &amp; Hope</h4>\r\nIn this stage, we accept the reality of the separation and have made meaning of it. We may still feel some sadness, anxiety or miss our ex-partner, but it is not consuming. Examples include, “Karl needed more intimacy than I was able to provide”. Our future feels more hopeful, and we are ready to plan events and experiences again.\r\n\r\nThese stages are emotionally taxing. To heal from the separation, we need to look after our wellbeing.\r\n\r\nWe need to prioritise our self-care and make sure we have a healthy support team. This can include -\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Wise friends and family members (not people who love drama)</li>\r\n 	<li>Online groups</li>\r\n 	<li>A therapist</li>\r\n 	<li>Maybe a psychiatrist</li>\r\n 	<li>Religious leader</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nIt is also a great time to learn about ourselves and the separation process from -\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Books</li>\r\n 	<li>Online courses</li>\r\n 	<li>Podcasts</li>\r\n 	<li>Online platforms</li>\r\n</ul>','Seize the Day: Make the Most of a Delta-free Life While You Can','','inherit','closed','closed','','4943-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:30:38','2022-08-07 12:30:38','',4943,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4946',0,'revision','',0),(4947,1,'2022-08-07 12:30:38','2022-08-07 12:30:38','Grief is an overwhelming experience. It is messy, destabilising, and can be paralysing. It can grip us when we least expect it or haunt us when we do.\r\n\r\nFor many of us, the grief surrounding the end of our committed relationship is like the grief following the death of a loved one. It takes time and space to process and recover from a separation.\r\n\r\nUnlike an actual death, no one will really grieve with us. They may feel sad about our separation, yet ours is a lonely grief. There is no funeral or gravesite, no body or ashes, no religious service or wake. It’s just over – the death of our relationship.\r\n\r\nIt’s incredibly painful and sometimes we can feel frightened by the enormity of our grief responses. We may withdraw, isolate ourselves, become angry, cry, be numb, or be distressed.\r\n\r\nIn 1969, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross published a seminal book called ‘On Death and Dying’ drawing on her working with terminally ill patients. She outlined 5 Stages of Grief, which were -\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Denial</li>\r\n 	<li>Anger</li>\r\n 	<li>Bargaining</li>\r\n 	<li>Depression</li>\r\n 	<li>Acceptance</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nThese stages have been revised and have been updated to 7 stages. They are typically not linear, yet they are shown as discrete stages to highlight the process.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>The 7 Stages of Grief</h3>\r\n<h4>Stage 1 – Shock &amp; Denial</h4>\r\nAs the news of the separation feels so painful and overwhelming, we often react to the news with numbed shock, disbelief, and even denial. These responses are coping mechanisms as the news is too sad, frightening, anxiety-provoking and confusing. Examples include - \"Jasmine just needs a few days; she will change her mind soon and come home\".\r\n<h4>Stage 2 – Pain &amp; Guilt</h4>\r\nWhen the shock and denial start to subside, the immense pain floods in. We do not appreciate this and often want to run away from our distress and despair. We may turn to an unhelpful coping strategy or two. These include alcohol, drugs, overeating, controlling food, over-exercising, excessive spending, indiscriminate sex, or gambling. Guilt and remorse may fill our minds. For example, \"How did I not see how sad he was?\"\r\n<h4>Stage 3 – Anger &amp; Bargaining</h4>\r\nAs our pain is huge, we may mask it with anger and resentment. We may lash out at others, throw things, send threatening messages to our ex-partner, or get a nasty lawyer. We need to be careful with our anger and become responsible for our actions, keeping in mind that a judge may hear all about it.\r\n\r\nBargaining is a form of denial as the sadness and distress is too immense. We don’t like our reality and use \"what if…\" and \"if only\" statements to get our relationship back together. For example, \"If only I lose some weight, she will find me attractive again.\"\r\n<h4>Stage 4 – Depression</h4>\r\nThis stage occurs when we understand that our separation is final, and there is nothing we can do to alter this. This is a quieter stage. We may feel defeated and exhausted. We forget that this time will pass and may have some or many suicidal thoughts. Examples include, “What’s the point?” or “I can’t do this on my own”. This is our time up our supports. Get help from a therapist and potentially a psychiatrist, especially if we cannot imagine a future without our relationship intact.\r\n<h4>Stage 5 – The Upward Turn</h4>\r\nThe upward turn brings some relief from the sadness, fear, and anxiety. We may be able to focus again and want to reconnect with friends. Examples include, “It’s been a turbulent ride, but I feel I’m getting off the rollercoaster!” or “I can be more present again.”\r\n<h4>Stage 6 – Reconstruction &amp; Working Through</h4>\r\nIn this stage, we feel we have more self-direction. We are more alive in ourselves, and more capable practically, financially, and mentally. Examples include, “I will make sure I really know someone before I commit again” or “I did not know how much my childhood experiences impacted my marriage.”\r\n<h4>Stage 7 – Acceptance &amp; Hope</h4>\r\nIn this stage, we accept the reality of the separation and have made meaning of it. We may still feel some sadness, anxiety or miss our ex-partner, but it is not consuming. Examples include, “Karl needed more intimacy than I was able to provide”. Our future feels more hopeful, and we are ready to plan events and experiences again.\r\n\r\nThese stages are emotionally taxing. To heal from the separation, we need to look after our wellbeing.\r\n\r\nWe need to prioritise our self-care and make sure we have a healthy support team. This can include -\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Wise friends and family members (not people who love drama)</li>\r\n 	<li>Online groups</li>\r\n 	<li>A therapist</li>\r\n 	<li>Maybe a psychiatrist</li>\r\n 	<li>Religious leader</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nIt is also a great time to learn about ourselves and the separation process from -\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Books</li>\r\n 	<li>Online courses</li>\r\n 	<li>Podcasts</li>\r\n 	<li>Online platforms</li>\r\n</ul>','Seize the Day: Make the Most of a Delta-free Life While You Can','','inherit','closed','closed','','4943-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:30:38','2022-08-07 12:30:38','',4943,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4947',0,'revision','',0),(4948,1,'2022-08-07 12:30:38','2022-08-07 12:30:38','<p>Last Thursday marked a significant turning point in NSW Premier Gladys Berejiklian’s political rhetoric about Covid-19, as two life-changing phrases were added to her daily briefing. She stated “Zero is no longer an option” and “We all have to learn to live with Delta”.</p><p>This means we won’t return to the golden period we previously enjoyed when we could travel with relative freedom within the country. Delta is here to stay in NSW, and we all need to get on board with this new reality. It’s time to think about how it will shape our lives and movements in a post-lockdown future. However, it’s not just those of us in NSW who need to understand the ramifications of the rapidly changing Delta landscape. This will eventually impact all of us in Australia. It may be in the weeks or months ahead, or even in a year’s time. At some point all of us in this country will hear that “Zero is no longer an option”, ending our final golden period of freedom.</p><p>Melbourne and parts of Victoria have spent more than 200 days in lockdown. In NSW, many people can’t imagine an end to our lockdown before December. We’re already afflicted with exhaustion, uncertainty, every form of insecurity, and mental health deterioration. Many also feel trapped, others feel paranoid, and police patrols can be seen as persecutory. We’re struggling. As an individual and couple psychotherapist, I’m seeing the psychological pressure and suffering. No one is fully immune from the impact of Covid lockdowns.</p><p>It’s too late for those of us in NSW: Delta is here. I’m not asking for pity; this is just our reality. And unfortunately, I believe everyone in Australia will be in the same situation one day. If you’re living in a state that is free of lockdowns, I want to share some advice that I’m giving my interstate clients. Please know that I’m not suggesting you haven’t been impacted by the pandemic at all. I just want you to know that from my vantage point, I can see that you have a wonderful window to make the most of life without Delta and the major restrictions that come with it.</p><p>In NSW, we didn’t know that we had a precious window and that our freedom would be curbed so significantly. Had we known that I think we’d have treated those freedoms as something more special. We all know the Delta strain is virulent. At some point, it’ll only take one undetected case over the border to end your golden period. However, for now, you can use your precious window wisely.</p><p>I have three top tips to help you make the most of this golden period of freedom - </p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Meet up with loved ones. Create experiences with your friends and family. Hug them, for no other reason other than because you can. Go out together. Go to dinner. Go dancing or to the theatre. Invite friends and family to your home. Create celebrations whether birthdays, achievements or any minor event – just because you can. Have freedom gatherings. If you’re in a couple relationship, prioritise date nights and being intimate as anyone in lockdown knows, lockdown is just not that sexy.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Travel far. Make the most of your ability to drive more than five kilometres from home. You’re free – go travel and do it as soon as possible. Don’t wait. Book that much longed-for Australian trip. Enjoy parks or beaches outside of your local area. Relish your freedom of movement.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Grapple with Delta issues now. It is much better for your psychological health to have time to contemplate and prepare for life-changing situations, rather than having them suddenly thrust on you. One day, and for those of us in NSW that one day is getting closer, you’ll be living like those overseas who also live with Delta. Start imagining a Delta Australia with vaccine as the main healthcare strategy. Project into the future and contemplate how you may be impacted. The question is whether daycare centres or schools will allow unvaccinated children to attend. Will restaurants, hotels or workplaces require proof of vaccination? Qantas has already stated that all their flight crew must be vaccinated. And I think this position will only extend to other companies and industries.</p><p>This mental wrestling goes well beyond a debate of whether to vaccinate. All of us in the NSW lockdown know we won’t having freedom reinstated without reaching specific vaccination targets. We all need to grapple with the reality of living with Delta. I’ve even questioned whether it’ll be safe for me to see unvaccinated clients when I return to my clinic. What if they became seriously ill or died? How would I live with the knowledge that my therapeutic and healing space was harmful to someone? We will all need to navigate what living with Delta means to us. Having time to do this allows us to respond thoughtfully to the changes instead of simply reacting at the time with fear or anger.</p><p>Now you know what’s coming, make the most of your Delta-free lives. Here is your chance to truly seize the day.</p><p>Sydney-based Lissy Abrahams is an individual and couple psychotherapist. She’s the founder of the therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and Lissy Abrahams Courses for improving couple relationships.</p>','Seize the Day: Make the Most of a Delta-free Life While You Can','','inherit','closed','closed','','4943-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:30:38','2022-08-07 12:30:38','',4943,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4948',0,'revision','',0),(4949,1,'2021-09-05 12:31:57','2021-09-05 12:31:57','<p>The ending of our committed couple relationship typically starts the gruelling and exhausting separation experience. Even when we separate well and communicate respectfully without too much acrimony, it still takes a lot out of us as we dismantle nearly every aspect of our former lives together to create two separate units.</p><p>There are many decisions we need to make concerning the day-to-day practicalities and functioning, financial aspects, as well as the complex <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/08/12/7-stages-of-grief-and-the-separation-process/\">emotional aspects</a> resulting from having had our relationship end. Within this mix is also a great deal of uncertainty about how our lives will be in the future. For most of us in this situation, this <strong>uncertainty causes us to feel anxious</strong>.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>What are we anxious about during our separation?</h3>		\n		<p>As a therapist who also works with separating couples, my clients’ have multiple anxieties stemming from their separation. These anxieties often wake them in the early hours of the morning.</p><p>Here are their top 3 - </p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Anxiety about our financial future</p>		\n			<link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/plugins/elementor/assets/css/widget-icon-list.min.css\">		<ul>\n							<li>\n										Will I have enough money to support myself properly?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will there be sufficient funds to live comfortably enough, or will I have to live on a restrictive budget?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will we need to sell the family home?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will I have enough to offer my children the opportunities I wanted them to have prior to separation, such as private schooling or to take them on a holiday?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will I be able to look after the finances without my partner (if not done this in the relationship)?\n									</li>\n						</ul>\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>We are often anxious about our children</p>		\n					<ul>\n							<li>\n										How will this news break their hearts?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will they be ok if their parents are separated? Is this scarring them for life?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will they need to move out of their home?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will they need to go to a new school?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										What about their friends?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will I be a good enough parent by myself?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Am I enough of a parent for them?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will they be ok at their other parent’s home without me?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will their other parent remember their medicine? Night-time routine? Feed them healthy enough food? Get them off their screens? Pack their school bags properly? Use sunscreen?\n									</li>\n						</ul>\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>We are also anxious about life without our partner</p>		\n					<ul>\n							<li>\n										Will I feel safe without them at home?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Who am I without them?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										What kind of lawyer have they chosen? Will they be out to get me?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										What is going to happen to our friends and families? Will I lose some of them too?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										How do I manage the continuous noise inside of my mind about my relationship ending?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										How am I really doing? Am I drinking too much? Have I started controlling food or binge eating? Am I working too hard? Exercising too much? Am I partying too hard or going manic? Or even having sex with people I don’t really know? Am I withdrawing and isolating too much? Are these really helping me? Am I really safe?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										What’s wrong with me? Am I not good enough?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will anyone find me interesting or attractive again?\n									</li>\n						</ul>\n			<h3>Will anyone find me interesting or attractive again?</h3>		\n		<p>In her book, The Mind-Strength Method: Four steps to curb anxiety, conquer worry &amp; build resilience, Dr. Jodie Lowinger notes that we engage in certain ‘safety behaviours’ to eliminate uncertainty and achieve control. Despite being called ‘safety behaviours’, they are not offering any real safety, they offer us <strong>the illusion of safety</strong> in the face of uncertainty.</p><p>I’m sharing the 3 ‘safety behaviours’ that she describes that I often hear in my consulting room when people are separating. These are - </p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Worry</strong> – When we repeatedly focus our attention on the problems, we end up feeling more anxious. Lowinger recognises how problematic this in and states that a “negative outcome is the inevitable part of worry – by the very nature of worry it is not a story with a happy ending… in its extreme form is called catastrophising.” (p.108)</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Mind reading</strong> – This strategy is highly problematic, and we will never achieve certainty this way. When my clients attempt to read my mind, they are mostly so far off the mark. We need to ask people what they are thinking.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Over-checking and reassurance seeking</strong> – Lowinger notes that these 2 strategies do not work as neither will provide the certainty we seek as it does not exist. We may experience momentary relief, however, the anxiety will creep back in.</p><p>One of the biggest gifts we can give ourselves during our separation and divorce process is to learn to accept uncertainty. We need to surrender to uncertainty, otherwise, we will keep using ‘safety behaviours’ that provide no actual safety. There is <strong>no solution to uncertainty besides surrender. </strong>We need to develop <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\">helpful strategies</a> that calms our anxiety down.</p>','Separation and Divorce – Why We Struggle With So Much Anxiety?','','publish','open','open','','separation-and-divorce-why-we-struggle-with-so-much-anxiety','','','2022-08-07 12:51:34','2022-08-07 12:51:34','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4949',0,'post','',0),(4950,1,'2022-08-07 12:33:28','2022-08-07 12:33:28','','Separation and Divorce – Why We Struggle With So Much Anxiety?','','inherit','open','closed','','cropcloseupofunhappyyoungcouplesitseparatehave','','','2022-08-07 12:34:16','2022-08-07 12:34:16','',4949,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/20210905.jpeg',0,'attachment','image/jpeg',0),(4951,1,'2022-08-07 12:34:25','2022-08-07 12:34:25','Last Thursday marked a significant turning point in NSW Premier Gladys Berejiklian’s political rhetoric about Covid-19, as two life-changing phrases were added to her daily briefing. She stated “Zero is no longer an option” and “We all have to learn to live with Delta”.\r\n\r\nThis means we won’t return to the golden period we previously enjoyed when we could travel with relative freedom within the country. Delta is here to stay in NSW, and we all need to get on board with this new reality. It’s time to think about how it will shape our lives and movements in a post-lockdown future. However, it’s not just those of us in NSW who need to understand the ramifications of the rapidly changing Delta landscape. This will eventually impact all of us in Australia. It may be in the weeks or months ahead, or even in a year’s time. At some point all of us in this country will hear that “Zero is no longer an option”, ending our final golden period of freedom.\r\n\r\nMelbourne and parts of Victoria have spent more than 200 days in lockdown. In NSW, many people can’t imagine an end to our lockdown before December. We’re already afflicted with exhaustion, uncertainty, every form of insecurity, and mental health deterioration. Many also feel trapped, others feel paranoid, and police patrols can be seen as persecutory. We’re struggling. As an individual and couple psychotherapist, I’m seeing the psychological pressure and suffering. No one is fully immune from the impact of Covid lockdowns.\r\n\r\nIt’s too late for those of us in NSW: Delta is here. I’m not asking for pity; this is just our reality. And unfortunately, I believe everyone in Australia will be in the same situation one day. If you’re living in a state that is free of lockdowns, I want to share some advice that I’m giving my interstate clients. Please know that I’m not suggesting you haven’t been impacted by the pandemic at all. I just want you to know that from my vantage point, I can see that you have a wonderful window to make the most of life without Delta and the major restrictions that come with it.\r\n\r\nIn NSW, we didn’t know that we had a precious window and that our freedom would be curbed so significantly. Had we known that I think we’d have treated those freedoms as something more special. We all know the Delta strain is virulent. At some point, it’ll only take one undetected case over the border to end your golden period. However, for now, you can use your precious window wisely.\r\n\r\nI have three top tips to help you make the most of this golden period of freedom -\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nMeet up with loved ones. Create experiences with your friends and family. Hug them, for no other reason other than because you can. Go out together. Go to dinner. Go dancing or to the theatre. Invite friends and family to your home. Create celebrations whether birthdays, achievements or any minor event – just because you can. Have freedom gatherings. If you’re in a couple relationship, prioritise date nights and being intimate as anyone in lockdown knows, lockdown is just not that sexy.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nTravel far. Make the most of your ability to drive more than five kilometres from home. You’re free – go travel and do it as soon as possible. Don’t wait. Book that much longed-for Australian trip. Enjoy parks or beaches outside of your local area. Relish your freedom of movement.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nGrapple with Delta issues now. It is much better for your psychological health to have time to contemplate and prepare for life-changing situations, rather than having them suddenly thrust on you. One day, and for those of us in NSW that one day is getting closer, you’ll be living like those overseas who also live with Delta. Start imagining a Delta Australia with vaccine as the main healthcare strategy. Project into the future and contemplate how you may be impacted. The question is whether daycare centres or schools will allow unvaccinated children to attend. Will restaurants, hotels or workplaces require proof of vaccination? Qantas has already stated that all their flight crew must be vaccinated. And I think this position will only extend to other companies and industries.\r\n\r\nThis mental wrestling goes well beyond a debate of whether to vaccinate. All of us in the NSW lockdown know we won’t having freedom reinstated without reaching specific vaccination targets. We all need to grapple with the reality of living with Delta. I’ve even questioned whether it’ll be safe for me to see unvaccinated clients when I return to my clinic. What if they became seriously ill or died? How would I live with the knowledge that my therapeutic and healing space was harmful to someone? We will all need to navigate what living with Delta means to us. Having time to do this allows us to respond thoughtfully to the changes instead of simply reacting at the time with fear or anger.\r\n\r\nNow you know what’s coming, make the most of your Delta-free lives. Here is your chance to truly seize the day.\r\n\r\nSydney-based Lissy Abrahams is an individual and couple psychotherapist. She’s the founder of the therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and Lissy Abrahams Courses for improving couple relationships.','Separation and Divorce – Why We Struggle With So Much Anxiety?','','inherit','closed','closed','','4949-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:34:25','2022-08-07 12:34:25','',4949,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4951',0,'revision','',0),(4952,1,'2022-08-07 12:51:33','2022-08-07 12:51:33','Last Thursday marked a significant turning point in NSW Premier Gladys Berejiklian’s political rhetoric about Covid-19, as two life-changing phrases were added to her daily briefing. She stated “Zero is no longer an option” and “We all have to learn to live with Delta”.\r\n\r\nThis means we won’t return to the golden period we previously enjoyed when we could travel with relative freedom within the country. Delta is here to stay in NSW, and we all need to get on board with this new reality. It’s time to think about how it will shape our lives and movements in a post-lockdown future. However, it’s not just those of us in NSW who need to understand the ramifications of the rapidly changing Delta landscape. This will eventually impact all of us in Australia. It may be in the weeks or months ahead, or even in a year’s time. At some point all of us in this country will hear that “Zero is no longer an option”, ending our final golden period of freedom.\r\n\r\nMelbourne and parts of Victoria have spent more than 200 days in lockdown. In NSW, many people can’t imagine an end to our lockdown before December. We’re already afflicted with exhaustion, uncertainty, every form of insecurity, and mental health deterioration. Many also feel trapped, others feel paranoid, and police patrols can be seen as persecutory. We’re struggling. As an individual and couple psychotherapist, I’m seeing the psychological pressure and suffering. No one is fully immune from the impact of Covid lockdowns.\r\n\r\nIt’s too late for those of us in NSW: Delta is here. I’m not asking for pity; this is just our reality. And unfortunately, I believe everyone in Australia will be in the same situation one day. If you’re living in a state that is free of lockdowns, I want to share some advice that I’m giving my interstate clients. Please know that I’m not suggesting you haven’t been impacted by the pandemic at all. I just want you to know that from my vantage point, I can see that you have a wonderful window to make the most of life without Delta and the major restrictions that come with it.\r\n\r\nIn NSW, we didn’t know that we had a precious window and that our freedom would be curbed so significantly. Had we known that I think we’d have treated those freedoms as something more special. We all know the Delta strain is virulent. At some point, it’ll only take one undetected case over the border to end your golden period. However, for now, you can use your precious window wisely.\r\n\r\nI have three top tips to help you make the most of this golden period of freedom -\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nMeet up with loved ones. Create experiences with your friends and family. Hug them, for no other reason other than because you can. Go out together. Go to dinner. Go dancing or to the theatre. Invite friends and family to your home. Create celebrations whether birthdays, achievements or any minor event – just because you can. Have freedom gatherings. If you’re in a couple relationship, prioritise date nights and being intimate as anyone in lockdown knows, lockdown is just not that sexy.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nTravel far. Make the most of your ability to drive more than five kilometres from home. You’re free – go travel and do it as soon as possible. Don’t wait. Book that much longed-for Australian trip. Enjoy parks or beaches outside of your local area. Relish your freedom of movement.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nGrapple with Delta issues now. It is much better for your psychological health to have time to contemplate and prepare for life-changing situations, rather than having them suddenly thrust on you. One day, and for those of us in NSW that one day is getting closer, you’ll be living like those overseas who also live with Delta. Start imagining a Delta Australia with vaccine as the main healthcare strategy. Project into the future and contemplate how you may be impacted. The question is whether daycare centres or schools will allow unvaccinated children to attend. Will restaurants, hotels or workplaces require proof of vaccination? Qantas has already stated that all their flight crew must be vaccinated. And I think this position will only extend to other companies and industries.\r\n\r\nThis mental wrestling goes well beyond a debate of whether to vaccinate. All of us in the NSW lockdown know we won’t having freedom reinstated without reaching specific vaccination targets. We all need to grapple with the reality of living with Delta. I’ve even questioned whether it’ll be safe for me to see unvaccinated clients when I return to my clinic. What if they became seriously ill or died? How would I live with the knowledge that my therapeutic and healing space was harmful to someone? We will all need to navigate what living with Delta means to us. Having time to do this allows us to respond thoughtfully to the changes instead of simply reacting at the time with fear or anger.\r\n\r\nNow you know what’s coming, make the most of your Delta-free lives. Here is your chance to truly seize the day.\r\n\r\nSydney-based Lissy Abrahams is an individual and couple psychotherapist. She’s the founder of the therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and Lissy Abrahams Courses for improving couple relationships.','Separation and Divorce – Why We Struggle With So Much Anxiety?','','inherit','closed','closed','','4949-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:51:33','2022-08-07 12:51:33','',4949,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4952',0,'revision','',0),(4953,1,'2022-08-07 12:51:34','2022-08-07 12:51:34','Last Thursday marked a significant turning point in NSW Premier Gladys Berejiklian’s political rhetoric about Covid-19, as two life-changing phrases were added to her daily briefing. She stated “Zero is no longer an option” and “We all have to learn to live with Delta”.\r\n\r\nThis means we won’t return to the golden period we previously enjoyed when we could travel with relative freedom within the country. Delta is here to stay in NSW, and we all need to get on board with this new reality. It’s time to think about how it will shape our lives and movements in a post-lockdown future. However, it’s not just those of us in NSW who need to understand the ramifications of the rapidly changing Delta landscape. This will eventually impact all of us in Australia. It may be in the weeks or months ahead, or even in a year’s time. At some point all of us in this country will hear that “Zero is no longer an option”, ending our final golden period of freedom.\r\n\r\nMelbourne and parts of Victoria have spent more than 200 days in lockdown. In NSW, many people can’t imagine an end to our lockdown before December. We’re already afflicted with exhaustion, uncertainty, every form of insecurity, and mental health deterioration. Many also feel trapped, others feel paranoid, and police patrols can be seen as persecutory. We’re struggling. As an individual and couple psychotherapist, I’m seeing the psychological pressure and suffering. No one is fully immune from the impact of Covid lockdowns.\r\n\r\nIt’s too late for those of us in NSW: Delta is here. I’m not asking for pity; this is just our reality. And unfortunately, I believe everyone in Australia will be in the same situation one day. If you’re living in a state that is free of lockdowns, I want to share some advice that I’m giving my interstate clients. Please know that I’m not suggesting you haven’t been impacted by the pandemic at all. I just want you to know that from my vantage point, I can see that you have a wonderful window to make the most of life without Delta and the major restrictions that come with it.\r\n\r\nIn NSW, we didn’t know that we had a precious window and that our freedom would be curbed so significantly. Had we known that I think we’d have treated those freedoms as something more special. We all know the Delta strain is virulent. At some point, it’ll only take one undetected case over the border to end your golden period. However, for now, you can use your precious window wisely.\r\n\r\nI have three top tips to help you make the most of this golden period of freedom -\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nMeet up with loved ones. Create experiences with your friends and family. Hug them, for no other reason other than because you can. Go out together. Go to dinner. Go dancing or to the theatre. Invite friends and family to your home. Create celebrations whether birthdays, achievements or any minor event – just because you can. Have freedom gatherings. If you’re in a couple relationship, prioritise date nights and being intimate as anyone in lockdown knows, lockdown is just not that sexy.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nTravel far. Make the most of your ability to drive more than five kilometres from home. You’re free – go travel and do it as soon as possible. Don’t wait. Book that much longed-for Australian trip. Enjoy parks or beaches outside of your local area. Relish your freedom of movement.\r\n\r\n<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"59\" height=\"59\" />\r\n\r\nGrapple with Delta issues now. It is much better for your psychological health to have time to contemplate and prepare for life-changing situations, rather than having them suddenly thrust on you. One day, and for those of us in NSW that one day is getting closer, you’ll be living like those overseas who also live with Delta. Start imagining a Delta Australia with vaccine as the main healthcare strategy. Project into the future and contemplate how you may be impacted. The question is whether daycare centres or schools will allow unvaccinated children to attend. Will restaurants, hotels or workplaces require proof of vaccination? Qantas has already stated that all their flight crew must be vaccinated. And I think this position will only extend to other companies and industries.\r\n\r\nThis mental wrestling goes well beyond a debate of whether to vaccinate. All of us in the NSW lockdown know we won’t having freedom reinstated without reaching specific vaccination targets. We all need to grapple with the reality of living with Delta. I’ve even questioned whether it’ll be safe for me to see unvaccinated clients when I return to my clinic. What if they became seriously ill or died? How would I live with the knowledge that my therapeutic and healing space was harmful to someone? We will all need to navigate what living with Delta means to us. Having time to do this allows us to respond thoughtfully to the changes instead of simply reacting at the time with fear or anger.\r\n\r\nNow you know what’s coming, make the most of your Delta-free lives. Here is your chance to truly seize the day.\r\n\r\nSydney-based Lissy Abrahams is an individual and couple psychotherapist. She’s the founder of the therapy clinic, Heath Group Practice, and Lissy Abrahams Courses for improving couple relationships.','Separation and Divorce – Why We Struggle With So Much Anxiety?','','inherit','closed','closed','','4949-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:51:34','2022-08-07 12:51:34','',4949,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4953',0,'revision','',0),(4954,1,'2022-08-07 12:51:34','2022-08-07 12:51:34','<p>The ending of our committed couple relationship typically starts the gruelling and exhausting separation experience. Even when we separate well and communicate respectfully without too much acrimony, it still takes a lot out of us as we dismantle nearly every aspect of our former lives together to create two separate units.</p><p>There are many decisions we need to make concerning the day-to-day practicalities and functioning, financial aspects, as well as the complex <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/2021/08/12/7-stages-of-grief-and-the-separation-process/\">emotional aspects</a> resulting from having had our relationship end. Within this mix is also a great deal of uncertainty about how our lives will be in the future. For most of us in this situation, this <strong>uncertainty causes us to feel anxious</strong>.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>What are we anxious about during our separation?</h3>		\n		<p>As a therapist who also works with separating couples, my clients’ have multiple anxieties stemming from their separation. These anxieties often wake them in the early hours of the morning.</p><p>Here are their top 3 - </p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>Anxiety about our financial future</p>		\n			<link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/plugins/elementor/assets/css/widget-icon-list.min.css\">		<ul>\n							<li>\n										Will I have enough money to support myself properly?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will there be sufficient funds to live comfortably enough, or will I have to live on a restrictive budget?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will we need to sell the family home?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will I have enough to offer my children the opportunities I wanted them to have prior to separation, such as private schooling or to take them on a holiday?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will I be able to look after the finances without my partner (if not done this in the relationship)?\n									</li>\n						</ul>\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>We are often anxious about our children</p>		\n					<ul>\n							<li>\n										How will this news break their hearts?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will they be ok if their parents are separated? Is this scarring them for life?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will they need to move out of their home?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will they need to go to a new school?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										What about their friends?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will I be a good enough parent by myself?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Am I enough of a parent for them?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will they be ok at their other parent’s home without me?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will their other parent remember their medicine? Night-time routine? Feed them healthy enough food? Get them off their screens? Pack their school bags properly? Use sunscreen?\n									</li>\n						</ul>\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p>We are also anxious about life without our partner</p>		\n					<ul>\n							<li>\n										Will I feel safe without them at home?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Who am I without them?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										What kind of lawyer have they chosen? Will they be out to get me?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										What is going to happen to our friends and families? Will I lose some of them too?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										How do I manage the continuous noise inside of my mind about my relationship ending?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										How am I really doing? Am I drinking too much? Have I started controlling food or binge eating? Am I working too hard? Exercising too much? Am I partying too hard or going manic? Or even having sex with people I don’t really know? Am I withdrawing and isolating too much? Are these really helping me? Am I really safe?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										What’s wrong with me? Am I not good enough?\n									</li>\n								<li>\n										Will anyone find me interesting or attractive again?\n									</li>\n						</ul>\n			<h3>Will anyone find me interesting or attractive again?</h3>		\n		<p>In her book, The Mind-Strength Method: Four steps to curb anxiety, conquer worry &amp; build resilience, Dr. Jodie Lowinger notes that we engage in certain ‘safety behaviours’ to eliminate uncertainty and achieve control. Despite being called ‘safety behaviours’, they are not offering any real safety, they offer us <strong>the illusion of safety</strong> in the face of uncertainty.</p><p>I’m sharing the 3 ‘safety behaviours’ that she describes that I often hear in my consulting room when people are separating. These are - </p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Worry</strong> – When we repeatedly focus our attention on the problems, we end up feeling more anxious. Lowinger recognises how problematic this in and states that a “negative outcome is the inevitable part of worry – by the very nature of worry it is not a story with a happy ending… in its extreme form is called catastrophising.” (p.108)</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/2.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Mind reading</strong> – This strategy is highly problematic, and we will never achieve certainty this way. When my clients attempt to read my mind, they are mostly so far off the mark. We need to ask people what they are thinking.</p>		\n															<img width=\"59\" height=\"59\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/3.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n		<p><strong>Over-checking and reassurance seeking</strong> – Lowinger notes that these 2 strategies do not work as neither will provide the certainty we seek as it does not exist. We may experience momentary relief, however, the anxiety will creep back in.</p><p>One of the biggest gifts we can give ourselves during our separation and divorce process is to learn to accept uncertainty. We need to surrender to uncertainty, otherwise, we will keep using ‘safety behaviours’ that provide no actual safety. There is <strong>no solution to uncertainty besides surrender. </strong>We need to develop <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\">helpful strategies</a> that calms our anxiety down.</p>','Separation and Divorce – Why We Struggle With So Much Anxiety?','','inherit','closed','closed','','4949-revision-v1','','','2022-08-07 12:51:34','2022-08-07 12:51:34','',4949,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4954',0,'revision','',0),(4956,1,'2022-08-08 21:39:03','2022-08-08 21:39:03','','Radio National','','inherit','open','closed','','radio-national','','','2022-08-08 21:39:03','2022-08-08 21:39:03','',4319,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Radio-National.png',0,'attachment','image/png',0),(4957,1,'2022-08-08 21:53:01','2022-08-08 21:53:01','','Young couple arguing','Young couple arguing in their living room','inherit','open','closed','','young-couple-arguing','','','2022-08-08 21:53:13','2022-08-08 21:53:13','',4319,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844.jpeg',0,'attachment','image/jpeg',0),(4958,1,'2022-08-08 21:55:20','2022-08-08 21:55:20','<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.e-container.e-container--row .elementor-spacer-inner{width:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container.e-container--column .elementor-spacer-inner,.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Podcasts            \n        </h1>\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"100\" height=\"100\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/BodySoul-Healthish-e1658306050495.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            BODY+SOUL HEALTHY-ISH        \n            <h2>\n                The No 1. 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Thing to Improve Couple Communication<br />\n        </h2>\n            2 September 2021        \n		<p><iframe title=\"A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/healthy-ish/a-psychotherapist-on-the-no-1-thing-to-improve-cou/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe></p>		\n            <h2>\n                When Christmas Stress Hits            \n        </h2>\n            16 December 2021        \n		<p><iframe title=\"When Christmas stress hits...\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/healthy-ish/when-christmas-stress-hits/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe></p>		\n															<img width=\"120\" height=\"105\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/BodySoul-Healthy-ish-extra-e1658551477615.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            body+soul Healthy-ish extra        \n            <h2>\n                What Couples Who Communicate Well Do Differently            \n        </h2>\n            2 September 2021        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/extra-healthy-ish/what-couples-who-communicate-well-do-differently/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"What couples who communicate well do differently\"></iframe>		\n            <h2>\n                How to  Deal with Family Crap at Christmas            \n        </h2>\n            16 December 2021        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/extra-healthy-ish/how-to-deal-with-family-crap-at-christmas/embed?in_playlist=extra-healthy-ish&style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"How to deal with family crap at Christmas\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"160\" height=\"80\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/ido-podcast-small-1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            i do podcast        \n            <h2>\n                How to Have a Peaceful Divorce or Separation            \n        </h2>\n		<iframe allow=\"autoplay *; encrypted-media *; fullscreen *; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"175\" style=\"width:100%;max-width:660px;overflow:hidden;background:transparent;\" sandbox=\"allow-forms allow-popups allow-same-origin allow-scripts allow-storage-access-by-user-activation allow-top-navigation-by-user-activation\" src=\"https://embed.podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/how-to-have-a-peaceful-divorce-or-separation/id840534227?i=1000535247963\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"93\" height=\"43\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/291768450_602847517894882_6401580038014845901_n.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            faster than normal by peter shankman        \n            <h2>\n                Creating Connected Relationships            \n        </h2>\n																<a href=\"https://www.fasterthannormal.com/creating-connected-relationships-w-psychotherapist-lissy-abrahams/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n							<img width=\"562\" height=\"102\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1.png 562w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1-300x54.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 562px) 100vw, 562px\" />								</a>\n															<img width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-300x300.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-e1658306061762.jpg 100w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" />															\n            feed play love with Shevonne hunt        \n            <h2>\n                Want to Stop Fighting with Your Partner? <br>- Here\'s How            \n        </h2>\n            26 July 2022        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/feed-play-love1/want-to-stop-fighting-with-your-partner/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"Want to stop fighting with your partner? Here\'s how\"></iframe>		\n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/SCS_podcast_3-e1659852287780-pswfn2ezqkd7wn96h07p7j0vic52zc7h8qjgsb3d34.png\" title=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" alt=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" />															\n            segal conflict solutions        \n            <h2>\n                Why employers should be wooing employees back to the office after COVID            \n        </h2>\n            3 August 2022        \n		<iframe style=\"border-radius: 12px;\" src=\"https://open.spotify.com/embed/episode/5z4i6sWqlra07N86EzhQHs?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"114\" height=\"68\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Radio-National.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            ABC Radio national        \n            <h2>\n                Could your childhood baggage be ruining your relationship?            \n        </h2>\n            4 August 2022        \n																<a href=\"https://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/lifematters/could-your-childhood-baggage-be-ruining-your-relationship/14003764?utm_campaign=abc_radionational&#038;utm_content=link&#038;utm_medium=content_shared&#038;utm_source=abc_radionational\">\n							<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-1024x683.jpeg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-1024x683.jpeg 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-300x200.jpeg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-768x512.jpeg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-1536x1024.jpeg 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-2048x1365.jpeg 2048w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-600x400.jpeg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />								</a>','Podcasts',' Lissy is often invited as a guest expert on podcasts.','inherit','closed','closed','','4319-revision-v1','','','2022-08-10 06:03:25','2022-08-10 06:03:25','',4319,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4963',0,'revision','',0),(4964,1,'2022-08-10 06:03:25','2022-08-10 06:03:25','<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.e-container.e-container--row .elementor-spacer-inner{width:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container.e-container--column .elementor-spacer-inner,.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Podcasts            \n        </h1>\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.8 - 27-07-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"100\" height=\"100\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/BodySoul-Healthish-e1658306050495.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            BODY+SOUL HEALTHY-ISH        \n            <h2>\n                The No 1. Thing to Improve Couple Communication<br />\n        </h2>\n            2 September 2021        \n		<p><iframe title=\"A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/healthy-ish/a-psychotherapist-on-the-no-1-thing-to-improve-cou/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe></p>		\n            <h2>\n                When Christmas Stress Hits            \n        </h2>\n            16 December 2021        \n		<p><iframe title=\"When Christmas stress hits...\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/healthy-ish/when-christmas-stress-hits/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe></p>		\n															<img width=\"120\" height=\"105\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/BodySoul-Healthy-ish-extra-e1658551477615.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            body+soul Healthy-ish extra        \n            <h2>\n                What Couples Who Communicate Well Do Differently            \n        </h2>\n            2 September 2021        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/extra-healthy-ish/what-couples-who-communicate-well-do-differently/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"What couples who communicate well do differently\"></iframe>		\n            <h2>\n                How to  Deal with Family Crap at Christmas            \n        </h2>\n            16 December 2021        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/extra-healthy-ish/how-to-deal-with-family-crap-at-christmas/embed?in_playlist=extra-healthy-ish&style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"How to deal with family crap at Christmas\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"160\" height=\"80\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/ido-podcast-small-1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            i do podcast        \n            <h2>\n                How to Have a Peaceful Divorce or Separation            \n        </h2>\n		<iframe allow=\"autoplay *; encrypted-media *; fullscreen *; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"175\" style=\"width:100%;max-width:660px;overflow:hidden;background:transparent;\" sandbox=\"allow-forms allow-popups allow-same-origin allow-scripts allow-storage-access-by-user-activation allow-top-navigation-by-user-activation\" src=\"https://embed.podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/how-to-have-a-peaceful-divorce-or-separation/id840534227?i=1000535247963\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"93\" height=\"43\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/291768450_602847517894882_6401580038014845901_n.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            faster than normal by peter shankman        \n            <h2>\n                Creating Connected Relationships            \n        </h2>\n																<a href=\"https://www.fasterthannormal.com/creating-connected-relationships-w-psychotherapist-lissy-abrahams/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n							<img width=\"562\" height=\"102\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1.png 562w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1-300x54.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 562px) 100vw, 562px\" />								</a>\n															<img width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-300x300.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-e1658306061762.jpg 100w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" />															\n            feed play love with Shevonne hunt        \n            <h2>\n                Want to Stop Fighting with Your Partner? <br>- Here\'s How            \n        </h2>\n            26 July 2022        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/feed-play-love1/want-to-stop-fighting-with-your-partner/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"Want to stop fighting with your partner? Here\'s how\"></iframe>		\n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/SCS_podcast_3-e1659852287780-pswfn2ezqkd7wn96h07p7j0vic52zc7h8qjgsb3d34.png\" title=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" alt=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" />															\n            segal conflict solutions        \n            <h2>\n                Why employers should be wooing employees back to the office after COVID            \n        </h2>\n            3 August 2022        \n		<iframe style=\"border-radius: 12px;\" src=\"https://open.spotify.com/embed/episode/5z4i6sWqlra07N86EzhQHs?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"114\" height=\"68\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Radio-National.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            ABC Radio national        \n            <h2>\n                Could your childhood baggage be ruining your relationship?            \n        </h2>\n            4 August 2022        \n																<a href=\"https://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/lifematters/could-your-childhood-baggage-be-ruining-your-relationship/14003764?utm_campaign=abc_radionational&#038;utm_content=link&#038;utm_medium=content_shared&#038;utm_source=abc_radionational\">\n							<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-1024x683.jpeg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-1024x683.jpeg 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-300x200.jpeg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-768x512.jpeg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-1536x1024.jpeg 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-2048x1365.jpeg 2048w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-600x400.jpeg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />								</a>','Podcasts',' Lissy is often invited as a guest expert on podcasts.','inherit','closed','closed','','4319-revision-v1','','','2022-08-10 06:03:25','2022-08-10 06:03:25','',4319,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4964',0,'revision','',0),(4965,1,'2022-08-10 06:03:25','2022-08-10 06:03:25','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.0 - 08-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Podcasts            \n        </h1>\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.0 - 08-08-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"100\" height=\"100\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/BodySoul-Healthish-e1658306050495.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            BODY+SOUL HEALTHY-ISH        \n            <h2>\n                The No 1. Thing to Improve Couple Communication<br />\n        </h2>\n            2 September 2021        \n		<p><iframe title=\"A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/healthy-ish/a-psychotherapist-on-the-no-1-thing-to-improve-cou/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe></p>		\n            <h2>\n                When Christmas Stress Hits            \n        </h2>\n            16 December 2021        \n		<p><iframe title=\"When Christmas stress hits...\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/healthy-ish/when-christmas-stress-hits/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe></p>		\n															<img width=\"120\" height=\"105\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/BodySoul-Healthy-ish-extra-e1658551477615.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            body+soul Healthy-ish extra        \n            <h2>\n                What Couples Who Communicate Well Do Differently            \n        </h2>\n            2 September 2021        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/extra-healthy-ish/what-couples-who-communicate-well-do-differently/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"What couples who communicate well do differently\"></iframe>		\n            <h2>\n                How to  Deal with Family Crap at Christmas            \n        </h2>\n            16 December 2021        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/extra-healthy-ish/how-to-deal-with-family-crap-at-christmas/embed?in_playlist=extra-healthy-ish&style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"How to deal with family crap at Christmas\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"160\" height=\"80\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/ido-podcast-small-1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            i do podcast        \n            <h2>\n                How to Have a Peaceful Divorce or Separation            \n        </h2>\n		<iframe allow=\"autoplay *; encrypted-media *; fullscreen *; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"175\" style=\"width:100%;max-width:660px;overflow:hidden;background:transparent;\" sandbox=\"allow-forms allow-popups allow-same-origin allow-scripts allow-storage-access-by-user-activation allow-top-navigation-by-user-activation\" src=\"https://embed.podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/how-to-have-a-peaceful-divorce-or-separation/id840534227?i=1000535247963\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"93\" height=\"43\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/291768450_602847517894882_6401580038014845901_n.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            faster than normal by peter shankman        \n            <h2>\n                Creating Connected Relationships            \n        </h2>\n																<a href=\"https://www.fasterthannormal.com/creating-connected-relationships-w-psychotherapist-lissy-abrahams/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n							<img width=\"562\" height=\"102\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1.png 562w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1-300x54.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 562px) 100vw, 562px\" />								</a>\n															<img width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-300x300.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-e1658306061762.jpg 100w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" />															\n            feed play love with Shevonne hunt        \n            <h2>\n                Want to Stop Fighting with Your Partner? <br>- Here\'s How            \n        </h2>\n            26 July 2022        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/feed-play-love1/want-to-stop-fighting-with-your-partner/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"Want to stop fighting with your partner? Here\'s how\"></iframe>		\n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/SCS_podcast_3-e1659852287780-pswfn2ezqkd7wn96h07p7j0vic52zc7h8qjgsb3d34.png\" title=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" alt=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" />															\n            segal conflict solutions        \n            <h2>\n                Why employers should be wooing employees back to the office after COVID            \n        </h2>\n            3 August 2022        \n		<iframe style=\"border-radius: 12px;\" src=\"https://open.spotify.com/embed/episode/5z4i6sWqlra07N86EzhQHs?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"114\" height=\"68\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Radio-National.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            ABC Radio national        \n            <h2>\n                Could your childhood baggage be ruining your relationship?            \n        </h2>\n            4 August 2022        \n																<a href=\"https://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/lifematters/could-your-childhood-baggage-be-ruining-your-relationship/14003764?utm_campaign=abc_radionational&#038;utm_content=link&#038;utm_medium=content_shared&#038;utm_source=abc_radionational\">\n							<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-1024x683.jpeg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-1024x683.jpeg 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-300x200.jpeg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-768x512.jpeg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-1536x1024.jpeg 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-2048x1365.jpeg 2048w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-600x400.jpeg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />								</a>','Podcasts',' Lissy is often invited as a guest expert on podcasts.','inherit','closed','closed','','4319-revision-v1','','','2022-08-10 06:03:25','2022-08-10 06:03:25','',4319,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4965',0,'revision','',0),(4967,1,'2022-08-10 06:39:16','2022-08-10 06:39:16','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.0 - 08-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Podcasts            \n        </h1>\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.0 - 08-08-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"100\" height=\"100\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/BodySoul-Healthish-e1658306050495.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            BODY+SOUL HEALTHY-ISH        \n            <h2>\n                The No 1. Thing to Improve Couple Communication<br />\n        </h2>\n            2 September 2021        \n		<p><iframe title=\"A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/healthy-ish/a-psychotherapist-on-the-no-1-thing-to-improve-cou/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe></p>		\n            <h2>\n                When Christmas Stress Hits            \n        </h2>\n            16 December 2021        \n		<p><iframe title=\"When Christmas stress hits...\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/healthy-ish/when-christmas-stress-hits/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe></p>		\n															<img width=\"120\" height=\"105\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/BodySoul-Healthy-ish-extra-e1658551477615.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            body+soul Healthy-ish extra        \n            <h2>\n                What Couples Who Communicate Well Do Differently            \n        </h2>\n            2 September 2021        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/extra-healthy-ish/what-couples-who-communicate-well-do-differently/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"What couples who communicate well do differently\"></iframe>		\n            <h2>\n                How to  Deal with Family Crap at Christmas            \n        </h2>\n            16 December 2021        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/extra-healthy-ish/how-to-deal-with-family-crap-at-christmas/embed?in_playlist=extra-healthy-ish&style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"How to deal with family crap at Christmas\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"160\" height=\"80\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/ido-podcast-small-1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            i do podcast        \n            <h2>\n                How to Have a Peaceful Divorce or Separation            \n        </h2>\n		<iframe allow=\"autoplay *; encrypted-media *; fullscreen *; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"175\" style=\"width:100%;max-width:660px;overflow:hidden;background:transparent;\" sandbox=\"allow-forms allow-popups allow-same-origin allow-scripts allow-storage-access-by-user-activation allow-top-navigation-by-user-activation\" src=\"https://embed.podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/how-to-have-a-peaceful-divorce-or-separation/id840534227?i=1000535247963\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"93\" height=\"43\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/291768450_602847517894882_6401580038014845901_n.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            faster than normal by peter shankman        \n            <h2>\n                Creating Connected Relationships            \n        </h2>\n																<a href=\"https://www.fasterthannormal.com/creating-connected-relationships-w-psychotherapist-lissy-abrahams/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n							<img width=\"562\" height=\"102\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1.png 562w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1-300x54.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 562px) 100vw, 562px\" />								</a>\n															<img width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-300x300.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-e1658306061762.jpg 100w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" />															\n            feed play love with Shevonne hunt        \n            <h2>\n                Want to Stop Fighting with Your Partner? <br>- Here\'s How            \n        </h2>\n            26 July 2022        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/feed-play-love1/want-to-stop-fighting-with-your-partner/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"Want to stop fighting with your partner? Here\'s how\"></iframe>		\n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/SCS_podcast_3-e1659852287780-pswfn2ezqkd7wn96h07p7j0vic52zc7h8qjgsb3d34.png\" title=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" alt=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" />															\n            segal conflict solutions        \n            <h2>\n                Why employers should be wooing employees back to the office after COVID            \n        </h2>\n            3 August 2022        \n		<iframe style=\"border-radius: 12px;\" src=\"https://open.spotify.com/embed/episode/5z4i6sWqlra07N86EzhQHs?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"114\" height=\"68\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Radio-National.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            ABC Radio national        \n            <h2>\n                Could your childhood baggage be ruining your relationship?            \n        </h2>\n            4 August 2022        \n																<a href=\"https://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/lifematters/could-your-childhood-baggage-be-ruining-your-relationship/14003764?utm_campaign=abc_radionational&#038;utm_content=link&#038;utm_medium=content_shared&#038;utm_source=abc_radionational\">\n							<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-1024x683.jpeg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-1024x683.jpeg 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-300x200.jpeg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-768x512.jpeg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-1536x1024.jpeg 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-2048x1365.jpeg 2048w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/AdobeStock_37235844-600x400.jpeg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />								</a>','Podcasts',' Lissy is often invited as a guest expert on podcasts.','inherit','closed','closed','','4319-revision-v1','','','2022-08-10 06:39:16','2022-08-10 06:39:16','',4319,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4967',0,'revision','',0),(4968,1,'2022-08-10 06:39:16','2022-08-10 06:39:16','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.0 - 08-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Podcasts            \n        </h1>\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.0 - 08-08-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"100\" height=\"100\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/BodySoul-Healthish-e1658306050495.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            BODY+SOUL HEALTHY-ISH        \n            <h2>\n                The No 1. 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Thing to Improve Couple Communication<br />\n        </h2>\n            2 September 2021        \n		<p><iframe title=\"A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/healthy-ish/a-psychotherapist-on-the-no-1-thing-to-improve-cou/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe></p>		\n            <h2>\n                When Christmas Stress Hits            \n        </h2>\n            16 December 2021        \n		<p><iframe title=\"When Christmas stress hits...\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/healthy-ish/when-christmas-stress-hits/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe></p>		\n															<img width=\"120\" height=\"105\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/BodySoul-Healthy-ish-extra-e1658551477615.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            body+soul Healthy-ish extra        \n            <h2>\n                What Couples Who Communicate Well Do Differently            \n        </h2>\n            2 September 2021        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/extra-healthy-ish/what-couples-who-communicate-well-do-differently/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"What couples who communicate well do differently\"></iframe>		\n            <h2>\n                How to  Deal with Family Crap at Christmas            \n        </h2>\n            16 December 2021        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/extra-healthy-ish/how-to-deal-with-family-crap-at-christmas/embed?in_playlist=extra-healthy-ish&style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"How to deal with family crap at Christmas\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"160\" height=\"80\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/ido-podcast-small-1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            i do podcast        \n            <h2>\n                How to Have a Peaceful Divorce or Separation            \n        </h2>\n		<iframe allow=\"autoplay *; encrypted-media *; fullscreen *; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"175\" style=\"width:100%;max-width:660px;overflow:hidden;background:transparent;\" sandbox=\"allow-forms allow-popups allow-same-origin allow-scripts allow-storage-access-by-user-activation allow-top-navigation-by-user-activation\" src=\"https://embed.podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/how-to-have-a-peaceful-divorce-or-separation/id840534227?i=1000535247963\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"93\" height=\"43\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/291768450_602847517894882_6401580038014845901_n.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            faster than normal by peter shankman        \n            <h2>\n                Creating Connected Relationships            \n        </h2>\n																<a href=\"https://www.fasterthannormal.com/creating-connected-relationships-w-psychotherapist-lissy-abrahams/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n							<img width=\"562\" height=\"102\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1.png 562w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1-300x54.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 562px) 100vw, 562px\" />								</a>\n															<img width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-300x300.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-e1658306061762.jpg 100w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" />															\n            feed play love with Shevonne hunt        \n            <h2>\n                Want to Stop Fighting with Your Partner? <br>- Here\'s How            \n        </h2>\n            26 July 2022        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/feed-play-love1/want-to-stop-fighting-with-your-partner/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"Want to stop fighting with your partner? Here\'s how\"></iframe>		\n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/SCS_podcast_3-e1659852287780-pswfn2ezqkd7wn96h07p7j0vic52zc7h8qjgsb3d34.png\" title=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" alt=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" />															\n            segal conflict solutions        \n            <h2>\n                Why employers should be wooing employees back to the office after COVID            \n        </h2>\n            3 August 2022        \n		<iframe style=\"border-radius: 12px;\" src=\"https://open.spotify.com/embed/episode/5z4i6sWqlra07N86EzhQHs?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"114\" height=\"68\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Radio-National.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            ABC Radio national        \n            <h2>\n                Could your childhood baggage be ruining your relationship?            \n        </h2>\n            4 August 2022 - <b>Interview starts at 32:13</b>        \n		<iframe allow=\"autoplay *; encrypted-media *; fullscreen *; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"175\" style=\"width:100%;max-width:660px;overflow:hidden;background:transparent;\" sandbox=\"allow-forms allow-popups allow-same-origin allow-scripts allow-storage-access-by-user-activation allow-top-navigation-by-user-activation\" src=\"https://embed.podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/retiring-when-inflation-is-high-and-resetting-your/id73330343?i=1000574948325\"></iframe> 		\n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/nova-entertainment-logo-e1661236396796.png\" title=\"nova-entertainment-logo\" alt=\"nova-entertainment-logo\" />															\n            Nova         \n            <h2>\n                It\'s not them...it\'s you<br>            \n        </h2>\n            22 August 2022        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/separate-bathrooms-and-other-handy-marriage-tips/lissy-abrahams/embed\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"It\'s Not Them... It\'s You\"></iframe>','Podcasts',' Lissy is often invited as a guest expert on podcasts.','inherit','closed','closed','','4319-revision-v1','','','2022-08-23 06:38:10','2022-08-23 06:38:10','',4319,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4979',0,'revision','',0),(4981,3,'2022-08-23 06:56:23','2022-08-23 06:56:23','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Podcasts            \n        </h1>\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}</style>												<img width=\"100\" height=\"100\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/BodySoul-Healthish-e1658306050495.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            BODY+SOUL HEALTHY-ISH        \n            <h2>\n                The No 1. Thing to Improve Couple Communication<br />\n        </h2>\n            2 September 2021        \n		<p><iframe title=\"A psychotherapist on the No 1. thing to improve couple communication\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/healthy-ish/a-psychotherapist-on-the-no-1-thing-to-improve-cou/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe></p>		\n            <h2>\n                When Christmas Stress Hits            \n        </h2>\n            16 December 2021        \n		<p><iframe title=\"When Christmas stress hits...\" src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/healthy-ish/when-christmas-stress-hits/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\"></iframe></p>		\n															<img width=\"120\" height=\"105\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/BodySoul-Healthy-ish-extra-e1658551477615.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            body+soul Healthy-ish extra        \n            <h2>\n                What Couples Who Communicate Well Do Differently            \n        </h2>\n            2 September 2021        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/extra-healthy-ish/what-couples-who-communicate-well-do-differently/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"What couples who communicate well do differently\"></iframe>		\n            <h2>\n                How to  Deal with Family Crap at Christmas            \n        </h2>\n            16 December 2021        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/extra-healthy-ish/how-to-deal-with-family-crap-at-christmas/embed?in_playlist=extra-healthy-ish&style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"How to deal with family crap at Christmas\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"160\" height=\"80\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/ido-podcast-small-1.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            i do podcast        \n            <h2>\n                How to Have a Peaceful Divorce or Separation            \n        </h2>\n		<iframe allow=\"autoplay *; encrypted-media *; fullscreen *; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"175\" style=\"width:100%;max-width:660px;overflow:hidden;background:transparent;\" sandbox=\"allow-forms allow-popups allow-same-origin allow-scripts allow-storage-access-by-user-activation allow-top-navigation-by-user-activation\" src=\"https://embed.podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/how-to-have-a-peaceful-divorce-or-separation/id840534227?i=1000535247963\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"93\" height=\"43\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/291768450_602847517894882_6401580038014845901_n.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            faster than normal by peter shankman        \n            <h2>\n                Creating Connected Relationships            \n        </h2>\n																<a href=\"https://www.fasterthannormal.com/creating-connected-relationships-w-psychotherapist-lissy-abrahams/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n							<img width=\"562\" height=\"102\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1.png\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1.png 562w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/faster-than-normal-podcast-1-300x54.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 562px) 100vw, 562px\" />								</a>\n															<img width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-300x300.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Feed-Play-Love-e1658306061762.jpg 100w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" />															\n            feed play love with Shevonne hunt        \n            <h2>\n                Want to Stop Fighting with Your Partner? <br>- Here\'s How            \n        </h2>\n            26 July 2022        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/feed-play-love1/want-to-stop-fighting-with-your-partner/embed?style=Cover\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"Want to stop fighting with your partner? Here\'s how\"></iframe>		\n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/SCS_podcast_3-e1659852287780-pswfn2ezqkd7wn96h07p7j0vic52zc7h8qjgsb3d34.png\" title=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" alt=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" />															\n            segal conflict solutions        \n            <h2>\n                Why employers should be wooing employees back to the office after COVID            \n        </h2>\n            3 August 2022        \n		<iframe style=\"border-radius: 12px;\" src=\"https://open.spotify.com/embed/episode/5z4i6sWqlra07N86EzhQHs?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"114\" height=\"68\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Radio-National.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            ABC Radio national        \n            <h2>\n                Could your childhood baggage be ruining your relationship?            \n        </h2>\n            4 August 2022 - <b>Interview starts at 32:13</b>        \n		<iframe allow=\"autoplay *; encrypted-media *; fullscreen *; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"175\" style=\"width:100%;max-width:660px;overflow:hidden;background:transparent;\" sandbox=\"allow-forms allow-popups allow-same-origin allow-scripts allow-storage-access-by-user-activation allow-top-navigation-by-user-activation\" src=\"https://embed.podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/retiring-when-inflation-is-high-and-resetting-your/id73330343?i=1000574948325\"></iframe> 		\n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/nova-entertainment-logo-e1661236396796.png\" title=\"nova-entertainment-logo\" alt=\"nova-entertainment-logo\" />															\n            Nova         \n            <h2>\n                It\'s not them...it\'s you<br>            \n        </h2>\n            22 August 2022        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/separate-bathrooms-and-other-handy-marriage-tips/lissy-abrahams/embed\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"It\'s Not Them... 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Here\'s how\"></iframe>		\n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/SCS_podcast_3-e1659852287780-pswfn2ezqkd7wn96h07p7j0vic52zc7h8qjgsb3d34.png\" title=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" alt=\"Segal Conflict Solutions\" />															\n            segal conflict solutions        \n            <h2>\n                Why employers should be wooing employees back to the office after COVID            \n        </h2>\n            3 August 2022        \n		<iframe style=\"border-radius: 12px;\" src=\"https://open.spotify.com/embed/episode/5z4i6sWqlra07N86EzhQHs?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"></iframe>		\n															<img width=\"114\" height=\"68\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Radio-National.png\" alt=\"\" />															\n            ABC Radio national        \n            <h2>\n                Could your childhood baggage be ruining your relationship?            \n        </h2>\n            4 August 2022 - <b>Interview starts at 32:13</b>        \n		<iframe allow=\"autoplay *; encrypted-media *; fullscreen *; clipboard-write\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"175\" style=\"width:100%;max-width:660px;overflow:hidden;background:transparent;\" sandbox=\"allow-forms allow-popups allow-same-origin allow-scripts allow-storage-access-by-user-activation allow-top-navigation-by-user-activation\" src=\"https://embed.podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/retiring-when-inflation-is-high-and-resetting-your/id73330343?i=1000574948325\"></iframe> 		\n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/nova-entertainment-logo-e1661236396796.png\" title=\"nova-entertainment-logo\" alt=\"nova-entertainment-logo\" />															\n            Nova         \n            <h2>\n                It\'s not them...it\'s you<br>            \n        </h2>\n            22 August 2022        \n		<iframe src=\"https://omny.fm/shows/separate-bathrooms-and-other-handy-marriage-tips/lissy-abrahams/embed\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write\" width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"0\" title=\"It\'s Not Them... 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We can answer for <a style=\"color: #222;\" href=\"http://demo.7iquid.com/medcaline/help-faqs/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">all your questions.</a>\r\n\r\n+1 310 500 7834  or  Book Appointment\r\n\r\n<img title=\"sign\" src=\"http://demo.7iquid.com/medcaline/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/sign-1-opt094fq8h5rwouu9etgt7spyf6newycngw1xi8orq.png\" alt=\"sign\" />\r\n<h3>Harry Oliver,</h3>\r\nCEO of Medcaline Psychological Counseling\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cERKNRIBjGA\"> </a>\r\n<h3>1\r\n+</h3>\r\n<h4>Customers trust us</h4>\r\nwhy choose us\r\n<h2>We are always ready for every\r\nchallenge. Please trust us</h2>\r\nOur goal is to help our customers be satisfied and solve problems when leaving, we are not seeking profits that we want to share, sympathize, help you solve your worries and troubles. This sleek metallic tower stands out from surrounding buildings, and is set to transform.\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://demo.7iquid.com/medcaline/contact-us\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">\r\nContact Us\r\n</a>\r\n<h3>Cheap Price And Quality</h3>\r\nWe assure our customers that our company has a very reasonable price, keeping customers is our criteria.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h3>Professional Team</h3>\r\nOur consulting team is experienced, they are trained to listen to you, always listen give you the best advice.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h3>Years Of Experience</h3>\r\nWith more than 35 years in psychological counseling, we are confident of our capabilities.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h3>Dedicated Support</h3>\r\nWe always support you anytime you need our help, so remember at any time, please feel free to contact us.\r\n\r\nour professional team\r\n<h2>Meet Psychologists</h2>\r\nWe think it’s really important that clinicians have a mixture of clinical skill and human\r\nqualities that 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Duis aute irure dolor in reprehenderit in voluptate velit esse cillum dolore eu fugiat nulla pariatur. Excepteur sint occaecat cupidatat non proident, sunt in culpa qui officia deserunt. This article is a compiled timeline of psychotherapy. A more general description of the development of the subject of psychology can be found in the History of psychology article.\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Maecs tempus, tellus eget rhoncus, sem condimentum</li>\r\n 	<li>Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit, sed do eiusmod tempor incididunt ut labore</li>\r\n 	<li>Ut enim ad minim veniam, quis nostrud exercitation ullamco</li>\r\n 	<li>Lorem ipsum began as scrambled, nonsensical Latin derived from Cicero\'s 1st-century BC.</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nThis article is a compiled timeline of psychotherapy. A more general description of the development of the subject of psychology can be found in the History of psychology article. For related overviews see the Timeline of psychology and Timeline of ... Ancient Greek therapy for disorders of mood involved adjustment. Duis aute irure dolor in reprehenderit in voluptate velit esse cillum dolore eu fugiat nulla pariatur. Excepteur sint occaecat cupidatat non proident, sunt in culpa qui officia deserunt.\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Ut enim ad minim veniam, quis nostrud exercitation ullamco</li>\r\n 	<li>Lorem ipsum began as scrambled, nonsensical Latin derived from Cicero\'s 1st-century BC.</li>\r\n 	<li>Maecs tempus, tellus eget rhoncus, sem condimentum</li>\r\n 	<li>Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit, sed do eiusmod tempor incididunt ut labore</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nFor related overviews see the Timeline of psychology and Timeline of ... Ancient Greek therapy for disorders of mood involved adjustment. Duis aute irure dolor in reprehenderit in voluptate velit esse cillum dolore eu fugiat nulla pariatur. Excepteur sint occaecat cupidatat non proident, sunt in culpa qui officia deserunt. This article is a compiled timeline of psychotherapy. A more general description of the development of the subject of psychology can be found in the History of psychology article.\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Maecs tempus, tellus eget rhoncus, sem condimentum</li>\r\n 	<li>Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit, sed do eiusmod tempor incididunt ut labore</li>\r\n 	<li>Ut enim ad minim veniam, quis nostrud exercitation ullamco</li>\r\n 	<li>Lorem ipsum began as scrambled, nonsensical Latin derived from Cicero\'s 1st-century BC.</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nThis article is a compiled timeline of psychotherapy. A more general description of the development of the subject of psychology can be found in the History of psychology article. For related overviews see the Timeline of psychology and Timeline of ... Ancient Greek therapy for disorders of mood involved adjustment. Duis aute irure dolor in reprehenderit in voluptate velit esse cillum dolore eu fugiat nulla pariatur. Excepteur sint occaecat cupidatat non proident, sunt in culpa qui officia deserunt.\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Ut enim ad minim veniam, quis nostrud exercitation ullamco</li>\r\n 	<li>Lorem ipsum began as scrambled, nonsensical Latin derived from Cicero\'s 1st-century BC.</li>\r\n 	<li>Maecs tempus, tellus eget rhoncus, sem condimentum</li>\r\n 	<li>Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit, sed do eiusmod tempor incididunt ut labore</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nFor related overviews see the Timeline of psychology and Timeline of ... Ancient Greek therapy for disorders of mood involved adjustment. Duis aute irure dolor in reprehenderit in voluptate velit esse cillum dolore eu fugiat nulla pariatur. Excepteur sint occaecat cupidatat non proident, sunt in culpa qui officia deserunt. This article is a compiled timeline of psychotherapy. A more general description of the development of the subject of psychology can be found in the History of psychology article.\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Maecs tempus, tellus eget rhoncus, sem condimentum</li>\r\n 	<li>Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit, sed do eiusmod tempor incididunt ut labore</li>\r\n 	<li>Ut enim ad minim veniam, quis nostrud exercitation ullamco</li>\r\n 	<li>Lorem ipsum began as scrambled, nonsensical Latin derived from Cicero\'s 1st-century BC.</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nThis article is a compiled timeline of psychotherapy. A more general description of the development of the subject of psychology can be found in the History of psychology article. For related overviews see the Timeline of psychology and Timeline of ... Ancient Greek therapy for disorders of mood involved adjustment. Duis aute irure dolor in reprehenderit in voluptate velit esse cillum dolore eu fugiat nulla pariatur. Excepteur sint occaecat cupidatat non proident, sunt in culpa qui officia deserunt.\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Ut enim ad minim veniam, quis nostrud exercitation ullamco</li>\r\n 	<li>Lorem ipsum began as scrambled, nonsensical Latin derived from Cicero\'s 1st-century BC.</li>\r\n 	<li>Maecs tempus, tellus eget rhoncus, sem condimentum</li>\r\n 	<li>Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit, sed do eiusmod tempor incididunt ut labore</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nFAQs\r\n<h2>Popular Question</h2>\r\nWe have answers to common questions people ask\r\n<a href=\"#\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">\r\nSee also Question\r\n</a>\r\n<a>What Do Psychologists Do?</a>\r\n\r\nFirst, understand that the field of psychology is incredibly broad and diverse. There are many areas of specialization; a forensic psychologist, for instance, performs very different tasks than, say, a clinical psychologist. In general, psychologists seek to <a href=\"#\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">understand the human mind</a> and its manifestations in terms of behavior, emotions, relationships, etc.\r\n\r\n<a>What Are Working Conditions Like for Psychologists?</a>\r\nFirst, understand that the field of psychology is incredibly broad and diverse. There are many areas of specialization; a forensic psychologist, for instance, performs very different tasks than, say, a clinical psychologist. In general, psychologists seek to understand the human mind and its manifestations in terms of behavior, emotions, relationships, etc.\r\n<a>Where Do Psychologists Typically Work?</a>\r\nFirst, understand that the field of psychology is incredibly broad and diverse. There are many areas of specialization; a forensic psychologist, for instance, performs very different tasks than, say, a clinical psychologist. In general, psychologists seek to understand the human mind and its manifestations in terms of behavior, emotions, relationships, etc.\r\n<a>Are There Any Accreditation or Licensing Requirements for Becoming a Psychologist?</a>\r\nFirst, understand that the field of psychology is incredibly broad and diverse. There are many areas of specialization; a forensic psychologist, for instance, performs very different tasks than, say, a clinical psychologist. In general, psychologists seek to understand the human mind and its manifestations in terms of behavior, emotions, relationships, etc.\r\n<a>Are There a Lot of Job Opportunities in Psychology?</a>\r\nFirst, understand that the field of psychology is incredibly broad and diverse. There are many areas of specialization; a forensic psychologist, for instance, performs very different tasks than, say, a clinical psychologist. 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As a skilled therapist David brings not only depth, warmth and wisdom to his practice, he also has a sense of humour and charm, that invites trust and ease to his clients. I highly recommend David to any individual or organization in need of quality service.”\r\n<h5>Junita Mushenko</h5>\r\n<img src=\"http://demo.7iquid.com/medcaline/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/guest-150x150-1.jpg\" sizes=\"(max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" srcset=\"http://demo.7iquid.com/medcaline/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/guest-150x150-1.jpg 150w, http://demo.7iquid.com/medcaline/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/guest-150x150-1-100x100.jpg 100w\" alt=\"guest\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" />\r\n\r\n“David is a well-established psychologist and delivers a very professional service. As a skilled therapist David brings not only depth, warmth and wisdom to his practice, he also has a sense of humour and charm, that invites trust and ease to his clients. 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Are you… happy in it? Don’t give us that look, we’re only asking!</p><p>Cause y’see, when you’ve been with someone for a while, it’s normal that the mere thought of breaking it off makes you feel sick/scared/confused.</p><p>And while that’s a really beautiful thing in itself, it can also be dangerous.</p><p>Because becoming so attached to someone can 100 per cent cloud your judgement, making it tricky to notice parts of your relationship that are honestly really quite s**t.</p><p>Maybe it’s the fact your partner still can’t get along with your friends, but you feel too nervous about confronting the issue (again). Or perhaps it’s their lack of drive that’s making you feel uneasy – but you don’t quite know how to bring it up.</p><p>So then it’s just… left by the wayside.</p><p>The reality is that many couples stick together even though they’re unhappy. They’ve got kids. It’s convenient. You don’t want anyone to get hurt. There’s all kinds of reasons people in long-term relationships hang in there.</p><p>The problem is, though, staying in an unhappy relationship can take its toll on your physical and mental health. It also prevents you and your partner from moving forward into a happier life.</p><p>With that in mind, we asked couples counsellor Lissy Abrahams to share the top signs couples are faking happiness in their relationship. Here’s what she had to say.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>1. Use of denial</h3>		\n		<p>If someone really loves you, they’ll always be there for you - through thick and thin. However, Abrahams reminds us that it\'s important your partner doesn\'t rely on you to fill a gap missing in themselves.</p><p>\"A good partner will never impose their mental health struggles onto you, as they recognise that by looking after themselves and receiving professional help, they are also looking after you and the relationship,\" said Abrahams. </p><p>\"A good partner knows it’s not your responsibility to \'fix\' them.\"</p>		\n			<h3>2. Use of projection</h3>		\n		<p>No matter how good your relationship is, there\'s always going to be arguments - but what matters is how you deal with them. Your partner should always put the needs of the relationship first, and want to talk through issues rather than leaving things to fester in the dark.</p><p>\"A good partner never says \'no\' to you when you want to go to couples therapy. I have seen the damage that this causes when partners say no and block their potential to develop. This causes more conflict between partners and prevents happiness being created in their relationship,\" said Abrahams.</p>		\n			<h3>3. Rationalising or making excuses</h3>		\n		<p>If you\'re in a healthy relationship, you should have room for spending time with family and friends. A partner who loves and respects you won\'t monopolise your time or keep you to themselves. You should never feel restricted for seeing people outside of your relationship.</p><p>\"Your partner should understand that you are a separate individual with your own mind and desires and these need to be respected. Some examples: If you want to see friends, they encourage you to go and don’t try to make you cancel to stay home with them.</p><p>\"They don’t try to make you eat food you don’t want in your body. They don’t try to guilt or manipulate you to get their way, or force their life view on to you.\"   </p>		\n			<h3>4. Use of intellectualisation</h3>		\n		<p>Your partner should also never take jabs at your appearance, lower your self-confidence or make you feel bad about yourself. It\'s a d**k move and a sign of a bad relationship.</p><p>\"A good partner will never suggest you need anti-wrinkle injections, fillers, or plastic surgery,\" said Abrahams. \"They know that your body is great the way it is, and it is yours. They respect that it’s not their body to meddle with for their own sake or pleasure.\"</p>		\n			<h3>5. Use of sublimation</h3>		\n		<p>It may sound simple, but this is one that\'s often overlooked.</p><p>\"A good partner will never use you to make other people jealous or score points with others. If they ask you to wear particularly revealing clothing or ask you to perform in a particular way to bolster their own standing in the eyes of others, then this is a misuse of you. It’s narcissistic.\"</p>		\n			<h3>6. Compartmentalisation</h3>		\n		<p>Your partner should understand how important it is to listen to how you\'re feeling. You should never feel that they avoid important conversations - rather, seek them out and approach them with respect.</p><p>\"They also understand that listening and wanting to know how you feel is important for creating psychological safety in a relationship,\" she adds.</p>		\n			<h3>7. Reaction formation</h3>		\n		<p>One of the best signs of a person\'s confidence is their ability to help support the ambitions of others. </p><p>Abrahams said a good partner will never discourage your psychological, educational, or physical development, nor stand in the way of you accessing it. </p><p>\"They will see that your wellbeing and development is a good thing for you and will offer support to help you facilitate your experience, such as offering financial support or taking the children that day.\"</p>		\n			<h3>8. Dissociation</h3>		\n		<p>Whenever you feel like you need to prove your worth in a relationship, this isn\'t a good sign. \"A good partner will never forget that you are an asset in their lives and worthy of protecting you and the relationship,\" reminds Abrahams.</p><p>\"They understand that being with you is a privilege and not a right – even if you have tricky bits,\" she adds.</p><p>\"This means they don’t forget you and the relationship and step over your agreed upon couple boundaries when they are out for a night drinking with their mates.\"</p>		\n			<h3>9. Creating distance with your partner</h3>		\n		<p>Has the whole flirting and touching thing become a thing of the past?</p><p>When we’re putting on our ‘fake happy’ couple act, Abrahams said you may create distance with your partner at home by:</p><ol><li><strong>Creating physical ailments so they don’t come too close or make a bid for physical intimacy.</strong><br />“It’s the old joke of “Not tonight, I’ve got a headache” – but we can’t have a headache every night, so we then focus on our neck, back, or foot. We struggle to be close to someone we believe is making us unhappy.”</li><li><strong>Investing heavily in the children or family unit to avoid being alone with our partner.</strong><br />“This could be seen by not going away alone together as we “don’t want to leave the children”.”</li><li><strong>Scrapping dates.</strong><br />“Avoiding date nights alone and making sure other friends or family are there.”</li><li><strong>Initiating fights to create distance.</strong><br />“Partners reduce the chance of intimacy by making the atmosphere more disconnecting.”</li><li><strong>Frequently expressing resentment, blame or being critical of our partner.</strong><br />“We all know these are particularly unattractive behaviours, but they work if we want to keep our partner from wanting intimacy or closeness with us. They also show our partner some of our unhappiness but don’t address the real cause or allow development.”</li></ol>		\n			<h3>10. Seeking validation elsewhere</h3>		\n		<p>According to Abrahams, people who are ‘fake happy’ may seek validation from others that they are okay, as they don’t feel okay in themselves.</p><p>“This could be with friends or even strangers, to answer some of our fears of whether we are attractive, intelligent, or interesting enough anymore to others as we may not feel this in ourselves.”</p><p>“The ultimate fantasy of validation is having an emotional or sexual affair.”</p><p>If you’re looking for more relationship advice, Abrahams has a free e-book available <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\">here</a></strong>.</p>','10 Signs You and Your Partner are ‘Fake Happy’ in Your Relationship',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','publish','closed','closed','','10-signs-you-and-your-partner-are-fake-happy','','','2022-10-17 02:18:14','2022-10-17 02:18:14','',0,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?post_type=case-study&#038;p=4991',0,'case-study','',0),(4992,3,'2022-08-25 10:46:42','2022-08-25 10:46:42','','couple on a beach','','inherit','open','closed','','couple-on-a-beach-2','','','2022-08-25 10:46:42','2022-08-25 10:46:42','',4991,'http://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/couple-on-a-beach.jpg',0,'attachment','image/jpeg',0),(4993,3,'2022-08-25 10:47:05','2022-08-25 10:47:05','<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.7 - 03-07-2022 */<br />.e-container.e-container--row .elementor-spacer-inner{width:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container.e-container--column .elementor-spacer-inner,.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}</style>\r\n<h1>15 Things Your Partner Will Never Do If You Are in a Healthy Relationship</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Mamamia\r\n<h2>15 Things Your Partner Will Never Do If You Are in a Healthy Relationship</h2>\r\n9 November 2021\r\n\r\nRelationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red flags that things are not<em> great</em>, experts say there are also some smaller things that can give you an idea of just how healthy your relationship is.\r\n\r\nAnd while these little things are really important for a healthy relationship, it\'s also critical you don\'t ignore small signs of disrespect.\r\n\r\nTo find out what some of these signs are, we hit up psychotherapist and couples counsellor <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/about-me/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Lissy Abrahams</a>, and asked her to tell us 15 things your partner won\'t do if you\'re in a healthy relationship.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.6.7 - 03-07-2022 */<br />.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>1. They never impose their struggles on to you</h3>\r\nIf someone really loves you, they’ll always be there for you - through thick and thin. However, Abrahams reminds us that it\'s important your partner doesn\'t rely on you to fill a gap missing in themselves.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never impose their mental health struggles onto you, as they recognise that by looking after themselves and receiving professional help, they are also looking after you and the relationship,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner knows it’s not your responsibility to \'fix\' them.\"\r\n<h3>2. They never block the potential to improve your relationship</h3>\r\nNo matter how good your relationship is, there\'s always going to be arguments - but what matters is how you deal with them. Your partner should always put the needs of the relationship first, and want to talk through issues rather than leaving things to fester in the dark.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner never says \'no\' to you when you want to go to couples therapy. I have seen the damage that this causes when partners say no and block their potential to develop. This causes more conflict between partners and prevents happiness being created in their relationship,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h3>3. They\'re never controlling</h3>\r\nIf you\'re in a healthy relationship, you should have room for spending time with family and friends. A partner who loves and respects you won\'t monopolise your time or keep you to themselves. You should never feel restricted for seeing people outside of your relationship.\r\n\r\n\"Your partner should understand that you are a separate individual with your own mind and desires and these need to be respected. Some examples: If you want to see friends, they encourage you to go and don’t try to make you cancel to stay home with them.\r\n\r\n\"They don’t try to make you eat food you don’t want in your body. They don’t try to guilt or manipulate you to get their way, or force their life view on to you.\"\r\n<h3>4. They never pick apart your appearance</h3>\r\nYour partner should also never take jabs at your appearance, lower your self-confidence or make you feel bad about yourself. It\'s a d**k move and a sign of a bad relationship.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never suggest you need anti-wrinkle injections, fillers, or plastic surgery,\" said Abrahams. \"They know that your body is great the way it is, and it is yours. They respect that it’s not their body to meddle with for their own sake or pleasure.\"\r\n<h3>5. They never disrespect you</h3>\r\nIt may sound simple, but this is one that\'s often overlooked.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never use you to make other people jealous or score points with others. If they ask you to wear particularly revealing clothing or ask you to perform in a particular way to bolster their own standing in the eyes of others, then this is a misuse of you. It’s narcissistic.\"\r\n<h3>6. They never minimise or dismiss your feelings</h3>\r\nYour partner should understand how important it is to listen to how you\'re feeling. You should never feel that they avoid important conversations - rather, seek them out and approach them with respect.\r\n\r\n\"They also understand that listening and wanting to know how you feel is important for creating psychological safety in a relationship,\" she adds.\r\n<h3>7. They never discourage you</h3>\r\nOne of the best signs of a person\'s confidence is their ability to help support the ambitions of others.\r\n\r\nAbrahams said a good partner will never discourage your psychological, educational, or physical development, nor stand in the way of you accessing it.\r\n\r\n\"They will see that your wellbeing and development is a good thing for you and will offer support to help you facilitate your experience, such as offering financial support or taking the children that day.\"\r\n<h3>8. They respect your feelings</h3>\r\nWhenever you feel like you need to prove your worth in a relationship, this isn\'t a good sign. \"A good partner will never forget that you are an asset in their lives and worthy of protecting you and the relationship,\" reminds Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"They understand that being with you is a privilege and not a right – even if you have tricky bits,\" she adds.\r\n\r\n\"This means they don’t forget you and the relationship and step over your agreed upon couple boundaries when they are out for a night drinking with their mates.\"\r\n<h3>9. They pull their weight at home</h3>\r\nIf your partner really loves you, you\'ll work as a team.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never make you do all the housework. They understand they produce mess and dirt and that they are part of the tidying and cleaning solution with you.\r\n\r\n\"They\'ll also never assume it is your role to solely look after the kids, and understand that they need to participate and share the load, even if you do take on more of this than them.\"\r\n<h3>10. They don\'t try to control your finances</h3>\r\nWe\'re just going to be straight up with this one: Your partner should never control your finances - unless you have a gambling problem or an addiction to spending.\r\n\r\n\"They will understand that we all have a different relationship with money, and we need to discuss and set boundaries together that we both adhere to – for the greater good,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h3>11. They never criticise your body</h3>\r\nWhile there’s nothing wrong with being with someone who encourages you to be the healthiest version of yourself, there\'s a line between wanting the best for someone and criticising their lifestyle choices.\r\n\r\nBecause if this kind of criticism is constant, it\'ll end up making you feel sh*tty about yourself.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never ask you to lose weight for them. They understand that bodies change throughout life and that neither of us are likely to be the size or shape we were when we met,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h3>12. They understand physical boundaries</h3>\r\nAnother important one? Boundaries. Especially physical boundaries.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never touch your body in a way you don’t want once you have told them. They will remember that your body boundary is important and that to push their sexual agenda onto you is disrespectful and will breed a lack of trust in them.\"\r\n<h3>13. They never dismiss your career</h3>\r\nA partner who loves and respects you will be your number one supporter. They\'ll push you to challenge yourself and aim for big goals - not dismiss them as silly or unrealistic.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never disregard your career as unimportant after having children. They will want to participate in discussions and support you to get you back to work when you are ready – even if this does not align with their opinion on this,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h3>14. The would never mentally or physically harm you</h3>\r\nThis is one is crucial. A good partner will always be able to recognise their self worth without attempting to place anyone (you) below them, or break someone else\'s self-confidence.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never raise their hand or harm you or verbally abuse you,\" said Abrahams. \"They know that they\'re upset or angry feelings should not be taken out on you.\"\r\n<h3>15. They don\'t compare you to other people</h3>\r\nA good partner will never compare you to other people or make you alter your behaviour \"when their past experiences have left a mark on them\".\r\n\r\nFor example, if they have been cheated on in a past relationship and they struggle with trust, a good partner will not make you responsible for this and understand they need to work on this inside of themselves.\r\n\r\n\"This means they would not ask you to repeatedly text them when you’re out without them and they don’t put limits on who you can and cannot speak to when you’re at a party.\"\r\n\r\n<em>If you\'re looking for help in improving your relationship with your partner, Abrahams has a free e-book available <a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/5-mistakes-couples-make/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">here</a>. </em>\r\n\r\n<em>If you or a loved one is experiencing family violence, support is available. Call 1800 RESPECT on 1800 737 732 or visit the website to chat online.</em>\r\n\r\n<em>If you are concerned about your behaviour within a relationship, call Relationships Australia on 1300 364 277 to find a service near you.</em>','10 Signs You and Your Partner are ‘Fake Happy’ in Your Relationship',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','4991-revision-v1','','','2022-08-25 10:47:05','2022-08-25 10:47:05','',4991,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4993',0,'revision','',0),(4994,3,'2022-08-25 11:01:24','2022-08-25 11:01:24','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            Article - source: Mamamia        \n            <h2>\n                10 Signs You and Your Partner are ‘Fake Happy’ in Your Relationship            \n        </h2>\n            25 November 2021        \n		<p>Your relationship. Are you… happy in it? Don’t give us that look, we’re only asking!</p><p>Cause y’see, when you’ve been with someone for a while, it’s normal that the mere thought of breaking it off makes you feel sick/scared/confused.</p><p>And while that’s a really beautiful thing in itself, it can also be dangerous.</p><p>Because becoming so attached to someone can 100 per cent cloud your judgement, making it tricky to notice parts of your relationship that are honestly really quite s**t.</p><p>Maybe it’s the fact your partner still can’t get along with your friends, but you feel too nervous about confronting the issue (again). Or perhaps it’s their lack of drive that’s making you feel uneasy – but you don’t quite know how to bring it up.</p><p>So then it’s just… left by the wayside.</p><p>The reality is that many couples stick together even though they’re unhappy. They’ve got kids. It’s convenient. You don’t want anyone to get hurt. There’s all kinds of reasons people in long-term relationships hang in there.</p><p>The problem is, though, staying in an unhappy relationship can take its toll on your physical and mental health. It also prevents you and your partner from moving forward into a happier life.</p><p>With that in mind, we asked couples counsellor Lissy Abrahams to share the top signs couples are faking happiness in their relationship. Here’s what she had to say.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>1. Use of denial</h3>		\n		<p>If someone really loves you, they’ll always be there for you - through thick and thin. However, Abrahams reminds us that it\'s important your partner doesn\'t rely on you to fill a gap missing in themselves.</p><p>\"A good partner will never impose their mental health struggles onto you, as they recognise that by looking after themselves and receiving professional help, they are also looking after you and the relationship,\" said Abrahams. </p><p>\"A good partner knows it’s not your responsibility to \'fix\' them.\"</p>		\n			<h3>2. Use of projection</h3>		\n		<p>No matter how good your relationship is, there\'s always going to be arguments - but what matters is how you deal with them. Your partner should always put the needs of the relationship first, and want to talk through issues rather than leaving things to fester in the dark.</p><p>\"A good partner never says \'no\' to you when you want to go to couples therapy. I have seen the damage that this causes when partners say no and block their potential to develop. This causes more conflict between partners and prevents happiness being created in their relationship,\" said Abrahams.</p>		\n			<h3>3. Rationalising or making excuses</h3>		\n		<p>If you\'re in a healthy relationship, you should have room for spending time with family and friends. A partner who loves and respects you won\'t monopolise your time or keep you to themselves. You should never feel restricted for seeing people outside of your relationship.</p><p>\"Your partner should understand that you are a separate individual with your own mind and desires and these need to be respected. Some examples: If you want to see friends, they encourage you to go and don’t try to make you cancel to stay home with them.</p><p>\"They don’t try to make you eat food you don’t want in your body. They don’t try to guilt or manipulate you to get their way, or force their life view on to you.\"   </p>		\n			<h3>4. Use of intellectualisation</h3>		\n		<p>Your partner should also never take jabs at your appearance, lower your self-confidence or make you feel bad about yourself. It\'s a d**k move and a sign of a bad relationship.</p><p>\"A good partner will never suggest you need anti-wrinkle injections, fillers, or plastic surgery,\" said Abrahams. \"They know that your body is great the way it is, and it is yours. They respect that it’s not their body to meddle with for their own sake or pleasure.\"</p>		\n			<h3>5. Use of sublimation</h3>		\n		<p>It may sound simple, but this is one that\'s often overlooked.</p><p>\"A good partner will never use you to make other people jealous or score points with others. If they ask you to wear particularly revealing clothing or ask you to perform in a particular way to bolster their own standing in the eyes of others, then this is a misuse of you. It’s narcissistic.\"</p>		\n			<h3>6. Compartmentalisation</h3>		\n		<p>Your partner should understand how important it is to listen to how you\'re feeling. You should never feel that they avoid important conversations - rather, seek them out and approach them with respect.</p><p>\"They also understand that listening and wanting to know how you feel is important for creating psychological safety in a relationship,\" she adds.</p>		\n			<h3>7. Reaction formation</h3>		\n		<p>One of the best signs of a person\'s confidence is their ability to help support the ambitions of others. </p><p>Abrahams said a good partner will never discourage your psychological, educational, or physical development, nor stand in the way of you accessing it. </p><p>\"They will see that your wellbeing and development is a good thing for you and will offer support to help you facilitate your experience, such as offering financial support or taking the children that day.\"</p>		\n			<h3>8. Dissociation</h3>		\n		<p>Whenever you feel like you need to prove your worth in a relationship, this isn\'t a good sign. \"A good partner will never forget that you are an asset in their lives and worthy of protecting you and the relationship,\" reminds Abrahams.</p><p>\"They understand that being with you is a privilege and not a right – even if you have tricky bits,\" she adds.</p><p>\"This means they don’t forget you and the relationship and step over your agreed upon couple boundaries when they are out for a night drinking with their mates.\"</p>		\n			<h3>9. Creating distance with your partner</h3>		\n		<p>Has the whole flirting and touching thing become a thing of the past?</p><p>When we’re putting on our ‘fake happy’ couple act, Abrahams said you may create distance with your partner at home by:</p><ol><li><strong>Creating physical ailments so they don’t come too close or make a bid for physical intimacy.</strong><br />“It’s the old joke of “Not tonight, I’ve got a headache” – but we can’t have a headache every night, so we then focus on our neck, back, or foot. We struggle to be close to someone we believe is making us unhappy.”</li><li><strong>Investing heavily in the children or family unit to avoid being alone with our partner.</strong><br />“This could be seen by not going away alone together as we “don’t want to leave the children”.”</li><li><strong>Scrapping dates.</strong><br />“Avoiding date nights alone and making sure other friends or family are there.”</li><li><strong>Initiating fights to create distance.</strong><br />“Partners reduce the chance of intimacy by making the atmosphere more disconnecting.”</li><li><strong>Frequently expressing resentment, blame or being critical of our partner.</strong><br />“We all know these are particularly unattractive behaviours, but they work if we want to keep our partner from wanting intimacy or closeness with us. They also show our partner some of our unhappiness but don’t address the real cause or allow development.”</li></ol>		\n			<h3>10. Seeking validation elsewhere</h3>		\n		<p>According to Abrahams, people who are ‘fake happy’ may seek validation from others that they are okay, as they don’t feel okay in themselves.</p><p>“This could be with friends or even strangers, to answer some of our fears of whether we are attractive, intelligent, or interesting enough anymore to others as we may not feel this in ourselves.”</p><p>“The ultimate fantasy of validation is having an emotional or sexual affair.”</p><p>If you’re looking for more relationship advice, Abrahams has a free e-book available <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\">here</a></strong>.</p>','10 Signs You and Your Partner are ‘Fake Happy’ in Your Relationship',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','4991-revision-v1','','','2022-08-25 11:01:24','2022-08-25 11:01:24','',4991,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4994',0,'revision','',0),(4995,3,'2022-08-25 11:01:24','2022-08-25 11:01:24','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            Article - source: Mamamia        \n            <h2>\n                10 Signs You and Your Partner are ‘Fake Happy’ in Your Relationship            \n        </h2>\n            25 November 2021        \n		<p>Your relationship. Are you… happy in it? Don’t give us that look, we’re only asking!</p><p>Cause y’see, when you’ve been with someone for a while, it’s normal that the mere thought of breaking it off makes you feel sick/scared/confused.</p><p>And while that’s a really beautiful thing in itself, it can also be dangerous.</p><p>Because becoming so attached to someone can 100 per cent cloud your judgement, making it tricky to notice parts of your relationship that are honestly really quite s**t.</p><p>Maybe it’s the fact your partner still can’t get along with your friends, but you feel too nervous about confronting the issue (again). Or perhaps it’s their lack of drive that’s making you feel uneasy – but you don’t quite know how to bring it up.</p><p>So then it’s just… left by the wayside.</p><p>The reality is that many couples stick together even though they’re unhappy. They’ve got kids. It’s convenient. You don’t want anyone to get hurt. There’s all kinds of reasons people in long-term relationships hang in there.</p><p>The problem is, though, staying in an unhappy relationship can take its toll on your physical and mental health. It also prevents you and your partner from moving forward into a happier life.</p><p>With that in mind, we asked couples counsellor Lissy Abrahams to share the top signs couples are faking happiness in their relationship. Here’s what she had to say.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>1. Use of denial</h3>		\n		<p>If someone really loves you, they’ll always be there for you - through thick and thin. However, Abrahams reminds us that it\'s important your partner doesn\'t rely on you to fill a gap missing in themselves.</p><p>\"A good partner will never impose their mental health struggles onto you, as they recognise that by looking after themselves and receiving professional help, they are also looking after you and the relationship,\" said Abrahams. </p><p>\"A good partner knows it’s not your responsibility to \'fix\' them.\"</p>		\n			<h3>2. Use of projection</h3>		\n		<p>No matter how good your relationship is, there\'s always going to be arguments - but what matters is how you deal with them. Your partner should always put the needs of the relationship first, and want to talk through issues rather than leaving things to fester in the dark.</p><p>\"A good partner never says \'no\' to you when you want to go to couples therapy. I have seen the damage that this causes when partners say no and block their potential to develop. This causes more conflict between partners and prevents happiness being created in their relationship,\" said Abrahams.</p>		\n			<h3>3. Rationalising or making excuses</h3>		\n		<p>If you\'re in a healthy relationship, you should have room for spending time with family and friends. A partner who loves and respects you won\'t monopolise your time or keep you to themselves. You should never feel restricted for seeing people outside of your relationship.</p><p>\"Your partner should understand that you are a separate individual with your own mind and desires and these need to be respected. Some examples: If you want to see friends, they encourage you to go and don’t try to make you cancel to stay home with them.</p><p>\"They don’t try to make you eat food you don’t want in your body. They don’t try to guilt or manipulate you to get their way, or force their life view on to you.\"   </p>		\n			<h3>4. Use of intellectualisation</h3>		\n		<p>Your partner should also never take jabs at your appearance, lower your self-confidence or make you feel bad about yourself. It\'s a d**k move and a sign of a bad relationship.</p><p>\"A good partner will never suggest you need anti-wrinkle injections, fillers, or plastic surgery,\" said Abrahams. \"They know that your body is great the way it is, and it is yours. They respect that it’s not their body to meddle with for their own sake or pleasure.\"</p>		\n			<h3>5. Use of sublimation</h3>		\n		<p>It may sound simple, but this is one that\'s often overlooked.</p><p>\"A good partner will never use you to make other people jealous or score points with others. If they ask you to wear particularly revealing clothing or ask you to perform in a particular way to bolster their own standing in the eyes of others, then this is a misuse of you. It’s narcissistic.\"</p>		\n			<h3>6. Compartmentalisation</h3>		\n		<p>Your partner should understand how important it is to listen to how you\'re feeling. You should never feel that they avoid important conversations - rather, seek them out and approach them with respect.</p><p>\"They also understand that listening and wanting to know how you feel is important for creating psychological safety in a relationship,\" she adds.</p>		\n			<h3>7. Reaction formation</h3>		\n		<p>One of the best signs of a person\'s confidence is their ability to help support the ambitions of others. </p><p>Abrahams said a good partner will never discourage your psychological, educational, or physical development, nor stand in the way of you accessing it. </p><p>\"They will see that your wellbeing and development is a good thing for you and will offer support to help you facilitate your experience, such as offering financial support or taking the children that day.\"</p>		\n			<h3>8. Dissociation</h3>		\n		<p>Whenever you feel like you need to prove your worth in a relationship, this isn\'t a good sign. \"A good partner will never forget that you are an asset in their lives and worthy of protecting you and the relationship,\" reminds Abrahams.</p><p>\"They understand that being with you is a privilege and not a right – even if you have tricky bits,\" she adds.</p><p>\"This means they don’t forget you and the relationship and step over your agreed upon couple boundaries when they are out for a night drinking with their mates.\"</p>		\n			<h3>9. Creating distance with your partner</h3>		\n		<p>Has the whole flirting and touching thing become a thing of the past?</p><p>When we’re putting on our ‘fake happy’ couple act, Abrahams said you may create distance with your partner at home by:</p><ol><li><strong>Creating physical ailments so they don’t come too close or make a bid for physical intimacy.</strong><br />“It’s the old joke of “Not tonight, I’ve got a headache” – but we can’t have a headache every night, so we then focus on our neck, back, or foot. We struggle to be close to someone we believe is making us unhappy.”</li><li><strong>Investing heavily in the children or family unit to avoid being alone with our partner.</strong><br />“This could be seen by not going away alone together as we “don’t want to leave the children”.”</li><li><strong>Scrapping dates.</strong><br />“Avoiding date nights alone and making sure other friends or family are there.”</li><li><strong>Initiating fights to create distance.</strong><br />“Partners reduce the chance of intimacy by making the atmosphere more disconnecting.”</li><li><strong>Frequently expressing resentment, blame or being critical of our partner.</strong><br />“We all know these are particularly unattractive behaviours, but they work if we want to keep our partner from wanting intimacy or closeness with us. They also show our partner some of our unhappiness but don’t address the real cause or allow development.”</li></ol>		\n			<h3>10. Seeking validation elsewhere</h3>		\n		<p>According to Abrahams, people who are ‘fake happy’ may seek validation from others that they are okay, as they don’t feel okay in themselves.</p><p>“This could be with friends or even strangers, to answer some of our fears of whether we are attractive, intelligent, or interesting enough anymore to others as we may not feel this in ourselves.”</p><p>“The ultimate fantasy of validation is having an emotional or sexual affair.”</p><p>If you’re looking for more relationship advice, Abrahams has a free e-book available <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\">here</a></strong>.</p>','10 Signs You and Your Partner are ‘Fake Happy’ in Your Relationship',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','4991-revision-v1','','','2022-08-25 11:01:24','2022-08-25 11:01:24','',4991,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4995',0,'revision','',0),(4996,3,'2022-08-25 11:01:24','2022-08-25 11:01:24','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>		\n            <h1>\n                Mamam!a            \n        </h1>\n            Article - source: Mamamia        \n            <h2>\n                10 Signs You and Your Partner are ‘Fake Happy’ in Your Relationship            \n        </h2>\n            25 November 2021        \n		<p>Your relationship. Are you… happy in it? Don’t give us that look, we’re only asking!</p><p>Cause y’see, when you’ve been with someone for a while, it’s normal that the mere thought of breaking it off makes you feel sick/scared/confused.</p><p>And while that’s a really beautiful thing in itself, it can also be dangerous.</p><p>Because becoming so attached to someone can 100 per cent cloud your judgement, making it tricky to notice parts of your relationship that are honestly really quite s**t.</p><p>Maybe it’s the fact your partner still can’t get along with your friends, but you feel too nervous about confronting the issue (again). Or perhaps it’s their lack of drive that’s making you feel uneasy – but you don’t quite know how to bring it up.</p><p>So then it’s just… left by the wayside.</p><p>The reality is that many couples stick together even though they’re unhappy. They’ve got kids. It’s convenient. You don’t want anyone to get hurt. There’s all kinds of reasons people in long-term relationships hang in there.</p><p>The problem is, though, staying in an unhappy relationship can take its toll on your physical and mental health. It also prevents you and your partner from moving forward into a happier life.</p><p>With that in mind, we asked couples counsellor Lissy Abrahams to share the top signs couples are faking happiness in their relationship. Here’s what she had to say.</p>		\n			<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style><h3>1. Use of denial</h3>		\n		<p>If someone really loves you, they’ll always be there for you - through thick and thin. However, Abrahams reminds us that it\'s important your partner doesn\'t rely on you to fill a gap missing in themselves.</p><p>\"A good partner will never impose their mental health struggles onto you, as they recognise that by looking after themselves and receiving professional help, they are also looking after you and the relationship,\" said Abrahams. </p><p>\"A good partner knows it’s not your responsibility to \'fix\' them.\"</p>		\n			<h3>2. Use of projection</h3>		\n		<p>No matter how good your relationship is, there\'s always going to be arguments - but what matters is how you deal with them. Your partner should always put the needs of the relationship first, and want to talk through issues rather than leaving things to fester in the dark.</p><p>\"A good partner never says \'no\' to you when you want to go to couples therapy. I have seen the damage that this causes when partners say no and block their potential to develop. This causes more conflict between partners and prevents happiness being created in their relationship,\" said Abrahams.</p>		\n			<h3>3. Rationalising or making excuses</h3>		\n		<p>If you\'re in a healthy relationship, you should have room for spending time with family and friends. A partner who loves and respects you won\'t monopolise your time or keep you to themselves. You should never feel restricted for seeing people outside of your relationship.</p><p>\"Your partner should understand that you are a separate individual with your own mind and desires and these need to be respected. Some examples: If you want to see friends, they encourage you to go and don’t try to make you cancel to stay home with them.</p><p>\"They don’t try to make you eat food you don’t want in your body. They don’t try to guilt or manipulate you to get their way, or force their life view on to you.\"   </p>		\n			<h3>4. Use of intellectualisation</h3>		\n		<p>Your partner should also never take jabs at your appearance, lower your self-confidence or make you feel bad about yourself. It\'s a d**k move and a sign of a bad relationship.</p><p>\"A good partner will never suggest you need anti-wrinkle injections, fillers, or plastic surgery,\" said Abrahams. \"They know that your body is great the way it is, and it is yours. They respect that it’s not their body to meddle with for their own sake or pleasure.\"</p>		\n			<h3>5. Use of sublimation</h3>		\n		<p>It may sound simple, but this is one that\'s often overlooked.</p><p>\"A good partner will never use you to make other people jealous or score points with others. If they ask you to wear particularly revealing clothing or ask you to perform in a particular way to bolster their own standing in the eyes of others, then this is a misuse of you. It’s narcissistic.\"</p>		\n			<h3>6. Compartmentalisation</h3>		\n		<p>Your partner should understand how important it is to listen to how you\'re feeling. You should never feel that they avoid important conversations - rather, seek them out and approach them with respect.</p><p>\"They also understand that listening and wanting to know how you feel is important for creating psychological safety in a relationship,\" she adds.</p>		\n			<h3>7. Reaction formation</h3>		\n		<p>One of the best signs of a person\'s confidence is their ability to help support the ambitions of others. </p><p>Abrahams said a good partner will never discourage your psychological, educational, or physical development, nor stand in the way of you accessing it. </p><p>\"They will see that your wellbeing and development is a good thing for you and will offer support to help you facilitate your experience, such as offering financial support or taking the children that day.\"</p>		\n			<h3>8. Dissociation</h3>		\n		<p>Whenever you feel like you need to prove your worth in a relationship, this isn\'t a good sign. \"A good partner will never forget that you are an asset in their lives and worthy of protecting you and the relationship,\" reminds Abrahams.</p><p>\"They understand that being with you is a privilege and not a right – even if you have tricky bits,\" she adds.</p><p>\"This means they don’t forget you and the relationship and step over your agreed upon couple boundaries when they are out for a night drinking with their mates.\"</p>		\n			<h3>9. Creating distance with your partner</h3>		\n		<p>Has the whole flirting and touching thing become a thing of the past?</p><p>When we’re putting on our ‘fake happy’ couple act, Abrahams said you may create distance with your partner at home by:</p><ol><li><strong>Creating physical ailments so they don’t come too close or make a bid for physical intimacy.</strong><br />“It’s the old joke of “Not tonight, I’ve got a headache” – but we can’t have a headache every night, so we then focus on our neck, back, or foot. We struggle to be close to someone we believe is making us unhappy.”</li><li><strong>Investing heavily in the children or family unit to avoid being alone with our partner.</strong><br />“This could be seen by not going away alone together as we “don’t want to leave the children”.”</li><li><strong>Scrapping dates.</strong><br />“Avoiding date nights alone and making sure other friends or family are there.”</li><li><strong>Initiating fights to create distance.</strong><br />“Partners reduce the chance of intimacy by making the atmosphere more disconnecting.”</li><li><strong>Frequently expressing resentment, blame or being critical of our partner.</strong><br />“We all know these are particularly unattractive behaviours, but they work if we want to keep our partner from wanting intimacy or closeness with us. They also show our partner some of our unhappiness but don’t address the real cause or allow development.”</li></ol>		\n			<h3>10. Seeking validation elsewhere</h3>		\n		<p>According to Abrahams, people who are ‘fake happy’ may seek validation from others that they are okay, as they don’t feel okay in themselves.</p><p>“This could be with friends or even strangers, to answer some of our fears of whether we are attractive, intelligent, or interesting enough anymore to others as we may not feel this in ourselves.”</p><p>“The ultimate fantasy of validation is having an emotional or sexual affair.”</p><p>If you’re looking for more relationship advice, Abrahams has a free e-book available <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\">here</a></strong>.</p>','10 Signs You and Your Partner are ‘Fake Happy’ in Your Relationship',' Relationships can be TOUGH. And while things like cheating and trust issues are some very obvious red...','inherit','closed','closed','','4991-revision-v1','','','2022-08-25 11:01:24','2022-08-25 11:01:24','',4991,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=4996',0,'revision','',0),(4997,3,'2022-08-25 11:02:04','2022-08-25 11:02:04','<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-container{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));-ms-flex-item-align:stretch;align-self:stretch;-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-container>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}</style>\r\n<h1>Mamam!a</h1>\r\nArticle - source: Mamamia\r\n<h2>10 Signs You and Your Partner are ‘Fake Happy’ in Your Relationship</h2>\r\n25 November 2021\r\n\r\nYour relationship. Are you… happy in it? Don’t give us that look, we’re only asking!\r\n\r\nCause y’see, when you’ve been with someone for a while, it’s normal that the mere thought of breaking it off makes you feel sick/scared/confused.\r\n\r\nAnd while that’s a really beautiful thing in itself, it can also be dangerous.\r\n\r\nBecause becoming so attached to someone can 100 per cent cloud your judgement, making it tricky to notice parts of your relationship that are honestly really quite s**t.\r\n\r\nMaybe it’s the fact your partner still can’t get along with your friends, but you feel too nervous about confronting the issue (again). Or perhaps it’s their lack of drive that’s making you feel uneasy – but you don’t quite know how to bring it up.\r\n\r\nSo then it’s just… left by the wayside.\r\n\r\nThe reality is that many couples stick together even though they’re unhappy. They’ve got kids. It’s convenient. You don’t want anyone to get hurt. There’s all kinds of reasons people in long-term relationships hang in there.\r\n\r\nThe problem is, though, staying in an unhappy relationship can take its toll on your physical and mental health. It also prevents you and your partner from moving forward into a happier life.\r\n\r\nWith that in mind, we asked couples counsellor Lissy Abrahams to share the top signs couples are faking happiness in their relationship. Here’s what she had to say.\r\n\r\n<style>/*! elementor - v3.7.2 - 21-08-2022 */<br />\r\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}</style>\r\n<h3>1. Use of denial</h3>\r\nIf someone really loves you, they’ll always be there for you - through thick and thin. However, Abrahams reminds us that it\'s important your partner doesn\'t rely on you to fill a gap missing in themselves.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never impose their mental health struggles onto you, as they recognise that by looking after themselves and receiving professional help, they are also looking after you and the relationship,\" said Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner knows it’s not your responsibility to \'fix\' them.\"\r\n<h3>2. Use of projection</h3>\r\nNo matter how good your relationship is, there\'s always going to be arguments - but what matters is how you deal with them. Your partner should always put the needs of the relationship first, and want to talk through issues rather than leaving things to fester in the dark.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner never says \'no\' to you when you want to go to couples therapy. I have seen the damage that this causes when partners say no and block their potential to develop. This causes more conflict between partners and prevents happiness being created in their relationship,\" said Abrahams.\r\n<h3>3. Rationalising or making excuses</h3>\r\nIf you\'re in a healthy relationship, you should have room for spending time with family and friends. A partner who loves and respects you won\'t monopolise your time or keep you to themselves. You should never feel restricted for seeing people outside of your relationship.\r\n\r\n\"Your partner should understand that you are a separate individual with your own mind and desires and these need to be respected. Some examples: If you want to see friends, they encourage you to go and don’t try to make you cancel to stay home with them.\r\n\r\n\"They don’t try to make you eat food you don’t want in your body. They don’t try to guilt or manipulate you to get their way, or force their life view on to you.\"\r\n<h3>4. Use of intellectualisation</h3>\r\nYour partner should also never take jabs at your appearance, lower your self-confidence or make you feel bad about yourself. It\'s a d**k move and a sign of a bad relationship.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never suggest you need anti-wrinkle injections, fillers, or plastic surgery,\" said Abrahams. \"They know that your body is great the way it is, and it is yours. They respect that it’s not their body to meddle with for their own sake or pleasure.\"\r\n<h3>5. Use of sublimation</h3>\r\nIt may sound simple, but this is one that\'s often overlooked.\r\n\r\n\"A good partner will never use you to make other people jealous or score points with others. If they ask you to wear particularly revealing clothing or ask you to perform in a particular way to bolster their own standing in the eyes of others, then this is a misuse of you. It’s narcissistic.\"\r\n<h3>6. Compartmentalisation</h3>\r\nYour partner should understand how important it is to listen to how you\'re feeling. You should never feel that they avoid important conversations - rather, seek them out and approach them with respect.\r\n\r\n\"They also understand that listening and wanting to know how you feel is important for creating psychological safety in a relationship,\" she adds.\r\n<h3>7. Reaction formation</h3>\r\nOne of the best signs of a person\'s confidence is their ability to help support the ambitions of others.\r\n\r\nAbrahams said a good partner will never discourage your psychological, educational, or physical development, nor stand in the way of you accessing it.\r\n\r\n\"They will see that your wellbeing and development is a good thing for you and will offer support to help you facilitate your experience, such as offering financial support or taking the children that day.\"\r\n<h3>8. Dissociation</h3>\r\nWhenever you feel like you need to prove your worth in a relationship, this isn\'t a good sign. \"A good partner will never forget that you are an asset in their lives and worthy of protecting you and the relationship,\" reminds Abrahams.\r\n\r\n\"They understand that being with you is a privilege and not a right – even if you have tricky bits,\" she adds.\r\n\r\n\"This means they don’t forget you and the relationship and step over your agreed upon couple boundaries when they are out for a night drinking with their mates.\"\r\n<h3>9. Creating distance with your partner</h3>\r\nHas the whole flirting and touching thing become a thing of the past?\r\n\r\nWhen we’re putting on our ‘fake happy’ couple act, Abrahams said you may create distance with your partner at home by:\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li><strong>Creating physical ailments so they don’t come too close or make a bid for physical intimacy.</strong>\r\n“It’s the old joke of “Not tonight, I’ve got a headache” – but we can’t have a headache every night, so we then focus on our neck, back, or foot. We struggle to be close to someone we believe is making us unhappy.”</li>\r\n 	<li><strong>Investing heavily in the children or family unit to avoid being alone with our partner.</strong>\r\n“This could be seen by not going away alone together as we “don’t want to leave the children”.”</li>\r\n 	<li><strong>Scrapping dates.</strong>\r\n“Avoiding date nights alone and making sure other friends or family are there.”</li>\r\n 	<li><strong>Initiating fights to create distance.</strong>\r\n“Partners reduce the chance of intimacy by making the atmosphere more disconnecting.”</li>\r\n 	<li><strong>Frequently expressing resentment, blame or being critical of our partner.</strong>\r\n“We all know these are particularly unattractive behaviours, but they work if we want to keep our partner from wanting intimacy or closeness with us. They also show our partner some of our unhappiness but don’t address the real cause or allow development.”</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n<h3>10. Seeking validation elsewhere</h3>\r\nAccording to Abrahams, people who are ‘fake happy’ may seek validation from others that they are okay, as they don’t feel okay in themselves.\r\n\r\n“This could be with friends or even strangers, to answer some of our fears of whether we are attractive, intelligent, or interesting enough anymore to others as we may not feel this in ourselves.”\r\n\r\n“The ultimate fantasy of validation is having an emotional or sexual affair.”\r\n\r\nIf you’re looking for more relationship advice, Abrahams has a free e-book available <strong><a href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/service/top-tips-for-improving-couple-communication/\">here</a></strong>.','10 Signs You and Your Partner are ‘Fake Happy’ in Your Relationship',' Relationships can be TOUGH. 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/>															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            &quot;No, we can&#039;t be friends&quot;: 12 things your therapist wants you to know        \n            2 June 2022        \n															<img src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/plugins/elementor/assets/images/placeholder.png\" title=\"\" alt=\"\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            5 questions everyone should be able to answer about their partner        \n            30 May 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_369886034-768x512-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_369886034-768x512-1.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_369886034-768x512-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_369886034-768x512-1-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            there are only 2 types of friends everyone needs in their life        \n            5 May 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"458\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_2139813481-768x549-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_2139813481-768x549-1.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_2139813481-768x549-1-300x214.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_2139813481-768x549-1-600x429.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            7 signs you&#039;re an empath and what it means        \n            22 March 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1185179290-768x512-1-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            A Psychotherapist Told Us There Are 4 Different Types Of Shame - Here’s What They Mean        \n            3 March 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1523322002.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1523322002.jpg 1000w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1523322002-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1523322002-768x512.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1523322002-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            There are 5 Types of Narcissists - Here&#039;s how to spot them        \n            28 February 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745084162.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745084162.jpg 1000w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745084162-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745084162-768x512.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745084162-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            4 things to do when you and your partner have very difference love languages        \n            4 February 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"426\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1385860784-768x511-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1385860784-768x511-1.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1385860784-768x511-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1385860784-768x511-1-600x399.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            12 Rules that will help deepen your relationship        \n            19 December 2021        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"428\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_479612449-768x513-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_479612449-768x513-1.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_479612449-768x513-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_479612449-768x513-1-600x401.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            what is a &#039;highly sensitive&#039; person?        \n            16 December 2021        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_706770283-1024x683-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_706770283-1024x683-1.jpg 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_706770283-1024x683-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_706770283-1024x683-1-768x512.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_706770283-1024x683-1-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            Why your relationship feels like a struggle right now        \n            15 December 2021        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745850722-768x512-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745850722-768x512-1.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745850722-768x512-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1745850722-768x512-1-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            The one after the one        \n            26 November 2022        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1108778102.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1108778102.jpg 1000w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1108778102-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1108778102-768x512.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/shutterstock_1108778102-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            10 signs you and your partner are &#039;fake happy&#039; in your relationship        \n            25 November 2021        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"328\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/couple-on-a-beach-scaled-e1661425844544-1170x600.jpg\" alt=\"\" />															\n            <a href=\"\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>\n            15 Things your partner will never do if you are in a healthy relationship        \n            24 November 2021        \n															<img width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-768x512.jpg 768w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-2048x1365.jpg 2048w, https://www.lissyabrahams.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/reed-naliboff-tP0ZiwR-LQ-unsplash-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" 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href=\"https://www.lissyabrahams.com/case-study/8-signs-in-right-relationship/\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">\n            Read More\n        </a>','Mamamia','Mamamia (stylised as MamaM!a) is an Australian news, opinion and lifestyle website targeted at women.','inherit','closed','closed','','4757-revision-v1','','','2022-08-26 03:29:34','2022-08-26 03:29:34','',4757,'https://www.lissyabrahams.com/?p=5011',0,'revision','',0),