<p>In a recent podcast interview that had a Q&amp;A, I was asked how to navigate fear of the future in relationships. This is a question that I believe has two main areas to address.</p>		
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			<h3>Fear of uncertainty in life</h3>		
		<p>I believe this question about a fear of the future in relationships speaks to the reality that we all live with uncertainty about life in general.</p><p>We live with a lack of certainty about the future which will potentially undermine all aspects of the life we want. We try to manage many areas of life to increase our experience of stability, such as health, finances, where and how we live, and our relationships. But there is still so much we can’t be sure of as our lives still have an instability and fragility that can quickly undermine the illusion of a stable future.</p><p>This fear of the future in relationships is heightened by the fact that we also can’t control other human beings. We certainly can’t control our partner, even though many try.</p><p>As a couple, we may point our compass in a similar direction, however we can never be sure that both partners remain on that journey into the future. We simply can’t foresee the future for our relationships, and this can create fear for the future embedding an element of risk in relationships. For example, a partner may:</p>		
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										Decide they want to move overseas
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										Join the army reserves
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										Have an emotional and/or sexual affair 
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										Want an open relationship
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										Decide they really want children after all or don’t want children after all
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										Have a sudden medical condition
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										Develop beyond their partner and feel unsatisfied in the relationship
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										Leave the relationship
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										Die – suicide, accident, or physical illness
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										Lose a job or walk away from one
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										Develop chronic depression
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										Struggle to recover from a bereavement
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		<p>And if any of these factors occur, then partners need to deal with it. We can’t focus on warding off every possibility in life. Two of my best suggestions are:</p>		
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										Look into mindfulness as it promotes working with reality (not self-created stories) and keeps you in the present.
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										See if the areas you worry about can be avoided, for example if it’s health issues then work on making some lifestyle changes. If there are mental health struggles, then get some help from a registered therapist. 
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