[{"id":"98c2662","elType":"section","settings":[],"elements":[{"id":"9c0a391","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":100,"_inline_size":null},"elements":[{"id":"626734a","elType":"widget","settings":{"editor":"<p>We all have heard the word ego and many of us use it in conversation but what is the ego and how can it hurt or even destroy our relationships?<\/p>"},"elements":[],"widgetType":"text-editor"}],"isInner":false}],"isInner":false},{"id":"abab3b9","elType":"section","settings":[],"elements":[{"id":"22313e5","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":100,"_inline_size":null},"elements":[{"id":"30536fb","elType":"widget","settings":{"title":"What is the ego?","header_size":"h3","title_color":"#BA9664"},"elements":[],"widgetType":"heading"}],"isInner":false}],"isInner":false},{"id":"9547a5e","elType":"section","settings":[],"elements":[{"id":"fddee48","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":100,"_inline_size":null},"elements":[{"id":"ab3abf8","elType":"widget","settings":{"editor":"<p>Well simply speaking the ego is a part of the mind that is concerned with \"me\", \"I\" or \"mine\".<\/p>"},"elements":[],"widgetType":"text-editor"}],"isInner":false}],"isInner":false},{"id":"d187409","elType":"section","settings":[],"elements":[{"id":"3349e2c","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":100,"_inline_size":null},"elements":[{"id":"39259bb","elType":"widget","settings":{"title":"What is the role of the ego?","header_size":"h3","title_color":"#BA9664"},"elements":[],"widgetType":"heading"}],"isInner":false}],"isInner":false},{"id":"00e707d","elType":"section","settings":[],"elements":[{"id":"4a506d3","elType":"column","settings":{"_column_size":100,"_inline_size":null},"elements":[{"id":"874f3b5","elType":"widget","settings":{"editor":"<p>The role of the ego is to alert us to any situation where it feels insecure, wobbly, or unsafe. Our egos are constantly trying to alert us of threats or even just perceived threats. Think of the ego as you\u2019re an early warning detector when we are moved out of our comfort zone. Our egos want to keep us safely in boxes, so we \u201cdon\u2019t fail\u201d, \u201cdon\u2019t expose ourselves\u201d, \u201cdon\u2019t be vulnerable\u201d, or \u201cdon\u2019t end the relationship in case you are alone forever\u201d.<\/p><p>When we feel ourselves wobble or even feel unsafe, our ego is looking for a way to bolster itself. We don\u2019t like to feel insecure, and we want a quick fix to feel better again. We do this by creating ego-based stories. For example, if we feel someone has slighted us, we may create a story in our own minds that judges them as somehow inferior to us or that we are superior to them in a particular area. We may even tell ourselves a story that degrades them and calls them a name, such as \u201cstupid\u201d to make ourselves feel better. Sometimes we create angry or anxious stories, where we put others down. In these stories we can also play the victim, we can make stories where someone is frightening and dangerous for us to be around. Our egos can also create stories where we complain, blame, and accuse others when we feel disrespected or hurt. These stories can be directed toward our partner in a couple relationship.<\/p>"},"elements":[],"widgetType":"text-editor"}],"isInner":false}],"isInner":false}]